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May 21, 2011 at 8:53 AM #698784May 21, 2011 at 9:40 AM #697600
scaredyclassic
ParticipantI’m pretty confident that’s what she thought you meant when you said you’d live honor and cherish her.
May 21, 2011 at 9:40 AM #697691ParticipantI’m pretty confident that’s what she thought you meant when you said you’d live honor and cherish her.
May 21, 2011 at 9:40 AM #698287ParticipantI’m pretty confident that’s what she thought you meant when you said you’d live honor and cherish her.
May 21, 2011 at 9:40 AM #698433ParticipantI’m pretty confident that’s what she thought you meant when you said you’d live honor and cherish her.
May 21, 2011 at 9:40 AM #698789ParticipantI’m pretty confident that’s what she thought you meant when you said you’d live honor and cherish her.
May 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM #697610briansd1
GuestBack to Arnold.
Is there a duty of sex in marriage. What if the marriage is sexless? Can Arnold seek sex outside of marriage if Maria is never in the mood?
I’d be interested in what the Bible says about that, if anyone knows.
This is an interesting article here. I think the author has it right.
The Wifely Duty
Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacySex therapists concur that sexless marriages are not inherently problematic; if both partners are satisfied with a passionless union, the marriage is said to be in fine shape. But I’m not so sure. Marriage remains the most efficient engine of disenchantment yet invented. There is nothing like uninterrupted cohabitation and grinding responsibility to cast a clear, unforgiving light on the object of desire. Once children come along, it’s easy for parents to regard each other as co-presidents of an industrious little corporation. Certainly, all sound marriages benefit from sudden and unexpected infusions of good will—What luck! Here we are, so many years later and still as happy as ever! But the element that regularly restores a marriage to something with an aspect of romance rather than of collegiality is sex.
Caitlin Flanagan is a contributing editor of The Atlantic.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/
May 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM #697701GuestBack to Arnold.
Is there a duty of sex in marriage. What if the marriage is sexless? Can Arnold seek sex outside of marriage if Maria is never in the mood?
I’d be interested in what the Bible says about that, if anyone knows.
This is an interesting article here. I think the author has it right.
The Wifely Duty
Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacySex therapists concur that sexless marriages are not inherently problematic; if both partners are satisfied with a passionless union, the marriage is said to be in fine shape. But I’m not so sure. Marriage remains the most efficient engine of disenchantment yet invented. There is nothing like uninterrupted cohabitation and grinding responsibility to cast a clear, unforgiving light on the object of desire. Once children come along, it’s easy for parents to regard each other as co-presidents of an industrious little corporation. Certainly, all sound marriages benefit from sudden and unexpected infusions of good will—What luck! Here we are, so many years later and still as happy as ever! But the element that regularly restores a marriage to something with an aspect of romance rather than of collegiality is sex.
Caitlin Flanagan is a contributing editor of The Atlantic.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/
May 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM #698297GuestBack to Arnold.
Is there a duty of sex in marriage. What if the marriage is sexless? Can Arnold seek sex outside of marriage if Maria is never in the mood?
I’d be interested in what the Bible says about that, if anyone knows.
This is an interesting article here. I think the author has it right.
The Wifely Duty
Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacySex therapists concur that sexless marriages are not inherently problematic; if both partners are satisfied with a passionless union, the marriage is said to be in fine shape. But I’m not so sure. Marriage remains the most efficient engine of disenchantment yet invented. There is nothing like uninterrupted cohabitation and grinding responsibility to cast a clear, unforgiving light on the object of desire. Once children come along, it’s easy for parents to regard each other as co-presidents of an industrious little corporation. Certainly, all sound marriages benefit from sudden and unexpected infusions of good will—What luck! Here we are, so many years later and still as happy as ever! But the element that regularly restores a marriage to something with an aspect of romance rather than of collegiality is sex.
Caitlin Flanagan is a contributing editor of The Atlantic.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/
May 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM #698443GuestBack to Arnold.
Is there a duty of sex in marriage. What if the marriage is sexless? Can Arnold seek sex outside of marriage if Maria is never in the mood?
I’d be interested in what the Bible says about that, if anyone knows.
This is an interesting article here. I think the author has it right.
The Wifely Duty
Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacySex therapists concur that sexless marriages are not inherently problematic; if both partners are satisfied with a passionless union, the marriage is said to be in fine shape. But I’m not so sure. Marriage remains the most efficient engine of disenchantment yet invented. There is nothing like uninterrupted cohabitation and grinding responsibility to cast a clear, unforgiving light on the object of desire. Once children come along, it’s easy for parents to regard each other as co-presidents of an industrious little corporation. Certainly, all sound marriages benefit from sudden and unexpected infusions of good will—What luck! Here we are, so many years later and still as happy as ever! But the element that regularly restores a marriage to something with an aspect of romance rather than of collegiality is sex.
Caitlin Flanagan is a contributing editor of The Atlantic.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/
May 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM #698799GuestBack to Arnold.
Is there a duty of sex in marriage. What if the marriage is sexless? Can Arnold seek sex outside of marriage if Maria is never in the mood?
I’d be interested in what the Bible says about that, if anyone knows.
This is an interesting article here. I think the author has it right.
The Wifely Duty
Marriage used to provide access to sex. Now it provides access to celibacySex therapists concur that sexless marriages are not inherently problematic; if both partners are satisfied with a passionless union, the marriage is said to be in fine shape. But I’m not so sure. Marriage remains the most efficient engine of disenchantment yet invented. There is nothing like uninterrupted cohabitation and grinding responsibility to cast a clear, unforgiving light on the object of desire. Once children come along, it’s easy for parents to regard each other as co-presidents of an industrious little corporation. Certainly, all sound marriages benefit from sudden and unexpected infusions of good will—What luck! Here we are, so many years later and still as happy as ever! But the element that regularly restores a marriage to something with an aspect of romance rather than of collegiality is sex.
Caitlin Flanagan is a contributing editor of The Atlantic.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2003/01/the-wifely-duty/2659/
May 21, 2011 at 6:53 PM #697675njtosd
Participant[quote=briansd1]
The marriage vows say nothing about sex outside of marriage.
One can have sex outside of marriage, still honor one’s word, and still love and cherish one’s spouse, all at the same time.[/quote]
Umm . . . . . usually people discuss their plans for marriage with their potential spouse prior to taking their marriage vows. I guess it is sort of a recipe for disaster if all you discuss prior to the big day is sports, politics and the antics of your coworkers. I distinctly remember looking at my husband-to-be and asking him if he wanted to have kids, and if so, how many. I would think that most people would work out those basic issues (including monogamy vs. lack thereof) before on embarking on something like marriage. But maybe not . . . .
May 21, 2011 at 6:53 PM #697766Participant[quote=briansd1]
The marriage vows say nothing about sex outside of marriage.
One can have sex outside of marriage, still honor one’s word, and still love and cherish one’s spouse, all at the same time.[/quote]
Umm . . . . . usually people discuss their plans for marriage with their potential spouse prior to taking their marriage vows. I guess it is sort of a recipe for disaster if all you discuss prior to the big day is sports, politics and the antics of your coworkers. I distinctly remember looking at my husband-to-be and asking him if he wanted to have kids, and if so, how many. I would think that most people would work out those basic issues (including monogamy vs. lack thereof) before on embarking on something like marriage. But maybe not . . . .
May 21, 2011 at 6:53 PM #698362Participant[quote=briansd1]
The marriage vows say nothing about sex outside of marriage.
One can have sex outside of marriage, still honor one’s word, and still love and cherish one’s spouse, all at the same time.[/quote]
Umm . . . . . usually people discuss their plans for marriage with their potential spouse prior to taking their marriage vows. I guess it is sort of a recipe for disaster if all you discuss prior to the big day is sports, politics and the antics of your coworkers. I distinctly remember looking at my husband-to-be and asking him if he wanted to have kids, and if so, how many. I would think that most people would work out those basic issues (including monogamy vs. lack thereof) before on embarking on something like marriage. But maybe not . . . .
May 21, 2011 at 6:53 PM #698508Participant[quote=briansd1]
The marriage vows say nothing about sex outside of marriage.
One can have sex outside of marriage, still honor one’s word, and still love and cherish one’s spouse, all at the same time.[/quote]
Umm . . . . . usually people discuss their plans for marriage with their potential spouse prior to taking their marriage vows. I guess it is sort of a recipe for disaster if all you discuss prior to the big day is sports, politics and the antics of your coworkers. I distinctly remember looking at my husband-to-be and asking him if he wanted to have kids, and if so, how many. I would think that most people would work out those basic issues (including monogamy vs. lack thereof) before on embarking on something like marriage. But maybe not . . . .
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