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May 20, 2011 at 8:49 AM #698514May 20, 2011 at 8:58 AM #697341njtosdParticipant
[quote=briansd1]
I don’t think that it’s misleading as much as that marriage is a hypocritical institution.
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If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.
May 20, 2011 at 8:58 AM #697430njtosdParticipant[quote=briansd1]
I don’t think that it’s misleading as much as that marriage is a hypocritical institution.
[/quote]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.
May 20, 2011 at 8:58 AM #698027njtosdParticipant[quote=briansd1]
I don’t think that it’s misleading as much as that marriage is a hypocritical institution.
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If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.
May 20, 2011 at 8:58 AM #698173njtosdParticipant[quote=briansd1]
I don’t think that it’s misleading as much as that marriage is a hypocritical institution.
[/quote]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.
May 20, 2011 at 8:58 AM #698529njtosdParticipant[quote=briansd1]
I don’t think that it’s misleading as much as that marriage is a hypocritical institution.
[/quote]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.
May 20, 2011 at 9:19 AM #697346jpinpbParticipant[quote=njtosd]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.[/quote]
X2 – well said, nj
May 20, 2011 at 9:19 AM #697435jpinpbParticipant[quote=njtosd]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.[/quote]
X2 – well said, nj
May 20, 2011 at 9:19 AM #698032jpinpbParticipant[quote=njtosd]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.[/quote]
X2 – well said, nj
May 20, 2011 at 9:19 AM #698178jpinpbParticipant[quote=njtosd]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.[/quote]
X2 – well said, nj
May 20, 2011 at 9:19 AM #698534jpinpbParticipant[quote=njtosd]
If you don’t want to get married under the conditions that the other person desires, don’t get married. If you agree, you should honor your word. No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.I don’t believe that everyone needs to be married, any more than I believe that everyone should buy a house, take part in a religion or any other activity. All I’m saying is that people who promise something that they don’t intend to carry through on are, by definition, misleading others.
Guys who don’t want to get married should hang out with women who don’t want to get married. And if there is a married couple where both parties agree that sex outside the marriage is acceptable – great. But when you promise fidelity with your fingers crossed behind your back, it makes you a liar.[/quote]
X2 – well said, nj
May 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM #697351briansd1Guest[quote=jpinpb] Society in general pushes for it.
[/quote]That’s the key here. That’s why I say that marriage is coercive.
For social advancement you need to get married.
Arnold needed to get married to become governor. Maria wanted a trophy husband as much as Arnold wanted a trophy wife in a well-connected political family.
Charles and Diana needed to get married. Charles needed it to become king and assure continuity for the monarchy. Diana did it for social advancement.
I think that Diana was very childish and irresponsible. She should have swallowed her pride and played along to gain the advantage of becoming queen. But she behaved like a low-class guest on Oprah.
Of course, regular folks are not as compelled to get married. But still, to more easily advance in society, you need to get married
Married people get more days off. They are allowed to leave early to deal with family problems, etc..
Unmarried employees will be believed to be gay. And we all know that married folks discriminate against single folks. It’s true in the private workplace, true in government, and true in the military.
Because society pushes for marriage, people do to it to gain the advantages of marriage. Love and fidelity are the idealistic aspects of marriage, not the practical, business-like part.
People may not admit it to themselves, but social benefits is what marriage is all about. That’s what the institution of marriage was designed for.
[quote=njtosd]
No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
[/quote]It’s not a free choice.
Pressures from peers, family and society are very powerful. The pressures easily overcome the individual, especially if the individual is not psychologically strong.
May 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM #697440briansd1Guest[quote=jpinpb] Society in general pushes for it.
[/quote]That’s the key here. That’s why I say that marriage is coercive.
For social advancement you need to get married.
Arnold needed to get married to become governor. Maria wanted a trophy husband as much as Arnold wanted a trophy wife in a well-connected political family.
Charles and Diana needed to get married. Charles needed it to become king and assure continuity for the monarchy. Diana did it for social advancement.
I think that Diana was very childish and irresponsible. She should have swallowed her pride and played along to gain the advantage of becoming queen. But she behaved like a low-class guest on Oprah.
Of course, regular folks are not as compelled to get married. But still, to more easily advance in society, you need to get married
Married people get more days off. They are allowed to leave early to deal with family problems, etc..
Unmarried employees will be believed to be gay. And we all know that married folks discriminate against single folks. It’s true in the private workplace, true in government, and true in the military.
Because society pushes for marriage, people do to it to gain the advantages of marriage. Love and fidelity are the idealistic aspects of marriage, not the practical, business-like part.
People may not admit it to themselves, but social benefits is what marriage is all about. That’s what the institution of marriage was designed for.
[quote=njtosd]
No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
[/quote]It’s not a free choice.
Pressures from peers, family and society are very powerful. The pressures easily overcome the individual, especially if the individual is not psychologically strong.
May 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM #698037briansd1Guest[quote=jpinpb] Society in general pushes for it.
[/quote]That’s the key here. That’s why I say that marriage is coercive.
For social advancement you need to get married.
Arnold needed to get married to become governor. Maria wanted a trophy husband as much as Arnold wanted a trophy wife in a well-connected political family.
Charles and Diana needed to get married. Charles needed it to become king and assure continuity for the monarchy. Diana did it for social advancement.
I think that Diana was very childish and irresponsible. She should have swallowed her pride and played along to gain the advantage of becoming queen. But she behaved like a low-class guest on Oprah.
Of course, regular folks are not as compelled to get married. But still, to more easily advance in society, you need to get married
Married people get more days off. They are allowed to leave early to deal with family problems, etc..
Unmarried employees will be believed to be gay. And we all know that married folks discriminate against single folks. It’s true in the private workplace, true in government, and true in the military.
Because society pushes for marriage, people do to it to gain the advantages of marriage. Love and fidelity are the idealistic aspects of marriage, not the practical, business-like part.
People may not admit it to themselves, but social benefits is what marriage is all about. That’s what the institution of marriage was designed for.
[quote=njtosd]
No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
[/quote]It’s not a free choice.
Pressures from peers, family and society are very powerful. The pressures easily overcome the individual, especially if the individual is not psychologically strong.
May 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM #698183briansd1Guest[quote=jpinpb] Society in general pushes for it.
[/quote]That’s the key here. That’s why I say that marriage is coercive.
For social advancement you need to get married.
Arnold needed to get married to become governor. Maria wanted a trophy husband as much as Arnold wanted a trophy wife in a well-connected political family.
Charles and Diana needed to get married. Charles needed it to become king and assure continuity for the monarchy. Diana did it for social advancement.
I think that Diana was very childish and irresponsible. She should have swallowed her pride and played along to gain the advantage of becoming queen. But she behaved like a low-class guest on Oprah.
Of course, regular folks are not as compelled to get married. But still, to more easily advance in society, you need to get married
Married people get more days off. They are allowed to leave early to deal with family problems, etc..
Unmarried employees will be believed to be gay. And we all know that married folks discriminate against single folks. It’s true in the private workplace, true in government, and true in the military.
Because society pushes for marriage, people do to it to gain the advantages of marriage. Love and fidelity are the idealistic aspects of marriage, not the practical, business-like part.
People may not admit it to themselves, but social benefits is what marriage is all about. That’s what the institution of marriage was designed for.
[quote=njtosd]
No one holds a gun to your head and tells you to get married (unless you’re very unlucky). It’s a free choice.
[/quote]It’s not a free choice.
Pressures from peers, family and society are very powerful. The pressures easily overcome the individual, especially if the individual is not psychologically strong.
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