OT/ ” I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules”

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Did you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?

Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.

That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.

In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.

In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.

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Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.

[DWCAP]

Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.

[DWCAP]

Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.

[DWCAP]

Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.

[DWCAP]

Just got back from Minnesota for a family trip. Spent some times with my cousins, one inparticular stands out in the regard of this thread.

I am related to the wife. Every Sat she writes a “hunny-do” list, and it is to be done in the order that she wrote it. He is expected to get everything done on the list.

I gagged, as if this grown man (whom I only met once at the wedding) cant plan his own Sat. I said that list would be ripped right infront of her face if my GF tried to do that to me. The response back was “well then he wont be let back in the house”. My response was ‘great, then I wont be paying the morgage either’. The end of that line of thought is obvious. Needless to say non of the women (all of whom I am related to) were happy with me.

I then added “or Id just start writing my own ‘Hunny-do’ lists, to be completed in order.” All my cousins agreed ‘that is fair’, but then added ‘dont tell him that!’ with a smile.

I bring this up cause it speaks to the two problems that cause threads like this to be discussed on a housing blog (huh???)

1) Be careful who you choose. I could never have a relationship with someone like my cousin, no matter how hot she is. It is little different than the repeated complaint that ‘my wife wants a house, NOW!’. (gotta tie this into housing somehow) If you dont like to bend over, dont be with someone who likes to push.

2) Fair is fair. Men often resort to the wrong tactic, physical, when dealing with women. Play the game. If she writes lists, write your own, If she naggs, nag back. If she makes a request/suggestion/demand, make your own. And hold her feet to the fire, If she ‘punishes’ you for failing in your tasks, repeat it back. People admit what is fair, they just ask for more if they think they can get it.

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[quote=Aecetia]It is not the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. It is the hand that holds the check book. If you want power, do not turn your money over to your wife. Keep your own money, so you do not have to demean yourself by asking for your own hard-earned money.
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I completely agree. Manage your own finances and give your wife an allowance if she does not work.

[quote=Aecetia]
Brian, not so sure about German women. They are not demure.
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Again I agree.

[quote=Aecetia] As for the people who approve of liberal teaching, the result is young males are being feminized and medicated for being boys in the public schools.[/quote]

I agree that liberal teachings can be bad.

They should teach science and evolution in schools. But a good Catholic style firm education (without Bible study) would do great good.

[briansd1]

[quote=Aecetia]It is not the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. It is the hand that holds the check book. If you want power, do not turn your money over to your wife. Keep your own money, so you do not have to demean yourself by asking for your own hard-earned money.
[/quote]
I completely agree. Manage your own finances and give your wife an allowance if she does not work.

[quote=Aecetia]
Brian, not so sure about German women. They are not demure.
[/quote]
Again I agree.

[quote=Aecetia] As for the people who approve of liberal teaching, the result is young males are being feminized and medicated for being boys in the public schools.[/quote]

I agree that liberal teachings can be bad.

They should teach science and evolution in schools. But a good Catholic style firm education (without Bible study) would do great good.

[briansd1]

[quote=Aecetia]It is not the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. It is the hand that holds the check book. If you want power, do not turn your money over to your wife. Keep your own money, so you do not have to demean yourself by asking for your own hard-earned money.
[/quote]
I completely agree. Manage your own finances and give your wife an allowance if she does not work.

[quote=Aecetia]
Brian, not so sure about German women. They are not demure.
[/quote]
Again I agree.

[quote=Aecetia] As for the people who approve of liberal teaching, the result is young males are being feminized and medicated for being boys in the public schools.[/quote]

I agree that liberal teachings can be bad.

They should teach science and evolution in schools. But a good Catholic style firm education (without Bible study) would do great good.

[briansd1]

[quote=Aecetia]It is not the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. It is the hand that holds the check book. If you want power, do not turn your money over to your wife. Keep your own money, so you do not have to demean yourself by asking for your own hard-earned money.
[/quote]
I completely agree. Manage your own finances and give your wife an allowance if she does not work.

[quote=Aecetia]
Brian, not so sure about German women. They are not demure.
[/quote]
Again I agree.

[quote=Aecetia] As for the people who approve of liberal teaching, the result is young males are being feminized and medicated for being boys in the public schools.[/quote]

I agree that liberal teachings can be bad.

They should teach science and evolution in schools. But a good Catholic style firm education (without Bible study) would do great good.

[briansd1]

[quote=Aecetia]It is not the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. It is the hand that holds the check book. If you want power, do not turn your money over to your wife. Keep your own money, so you do not have to demean yourself by asking for your own hard-earned money.
[/quote]
I completely agree. Manage your own finances and give your wife an allowance if she does not work.

[quote=Aecetia]
Brian, not so sure about German women. They are not demure.
[/quote]
Again I agree.

[quote=Aecetia] As for the people who approve of liberal teaching, the result is young males are being feminized and medicated for being boys in the public schools.[/quote]

I agree that liberal teachings can be bad.

They should teach science and evolution in schools. But a good Catholic style firm education (without Bible study) would do great good.

[briansd1]

[quote=Huckleberry]
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.

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There is a cultural element to that.

Women as socialized to marry well. And they are socialized to manipulate to get their ways — for example cry and wine rather than clearly express their needs.

Few men think of marriage as a way out of poverty or out of the house.

No matter how well-educated, women always want the prince charming to provide everything for them.

Unfortunately, that’s now how equality works. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

[briansd1]

[quote=Huckleberry]
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.

[/quote]

There is a cultural element to that.

Women as socialized to marry well. And they are socialized to manipulate to get their ways — for example cry and wine rather than clearly express their needs.

Few men think of marriage as a way out of poverty or out of the house.

No matter how well-educated, women always want the prince charming to provide everything for them.

Unfortunately, that’s now how equality works. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

[briansd1]

[quote=Huckleberry]
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.

[/quote]

There is a cultural element to that.

Women as socialized to marry well. And they are socialized to manipulate to get their ways — for example cry and wine rather than clearly express their needs.

Few men think of marriage as a way out of poverty or out of the house.

No matter how well-educated, women always want the prince charming to provide everything for them.

Unfortunately, that’s now how equality works. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

[briansd1]

[quote=Huckleberry]
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.

[/quote]

There is a cultural element to that.

Women as socialized to marry well. And they are socialized to manipulate to get their ways — for example cry and wine rather than clearly express their needs.

Few men think of marriage as a way out of poverty or out of the house.

No matter how well-educated, women always want the prince charming to provide everything for them.

Unfortunately, that’s now how equality works. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

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