OT/ ” I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules”

[Ricechex]

[quote=SD Realtor]Thanks ricechex….

Reading some of the posts does in fact bring me back to like… oh maybe jr high school and when I would get rejected I would act in such a manner.

Your analysis was spot on. The funny thing is that one reads some of the posts, and these posts try to point out that it is a “them” problem. The man will say women do this, or women do that, or they turn men into this or that. In reality it is not a “them” problem, it is a “you” problem.

Rice I wish I was one of those guys who got the pick of the women, but I was just another scrapper guy like the rest of them. However one thing I have noticed is that I know alot of “those guys”. These are the guys that have “it”. Whether it is physical looks, or money or whatever, women are just naturally attracted to these guys. For the most part, you NEVER here any of these guys spewing the bitterness that I have read here.

Again it is one thing to say, no thanks I would rather be single and enjoy that life. In fact those that live that life also rarely talk that harsh about women as well. They have the single life, they enjoy it, they enjoy women and that is okay.

So in summary I would classify those that speak in the bitter manner as those that feel women have something they cannot have or have a hard time getting. Thus they lash out and try to “put women in thier place”. They don’t need this or that, they won’t tolerate a woman changing them or doing this or that to them. Once again, it is not them, it is the “women” right?[/quote]

SD Realtor–no matter what you think about yourself, your wife snagged YOU. Remember the old saying “the good guys are already taken”? That was you. These are women/people that know qualities that will hold a longer time than looks and money. And, as your post demonstrates, it is about taking responsibility rather than blaming. Now, that is attractive.

[Ricechex]

[quote=scaredycat]perhaps if there weren’t a marriage tax penalty, but instead a marriage incentive, maybe a marriage tax credit, people could at least say, well, honey, we do get a deduction for this even when things are bleak. I suggest $8,000 the first year, with $500 extra credit per year of marriage. Suspend the homebuyer tax credit.[/quote]

They already do this in the Navy. It is called BAH.

[Ricechex]

[quote=scaredycat]perhaps if there weren’t a marriage tax penalty, but instead a marriage incentive, maybe a marriage tax credit, people could at least say, well, honey, we do get a deduction for this even when things are bleak. I suggest $8,000 the first year, with $500 extra credit per year of marriage. Suspend the homebuyer tax credit.[/quote]

They already do this in the Navy. It is called BAH.

[Ricechex]

[quote=scaredycat]perhaps if there weren’t a marriage tax penalty, but instead a marriage incentive, maybe a marriage tax credit, people could at least say, well, honey, we do get a deduction for this even when things are bleak. I suggest $8,000 the first year, with $500 extra credit per year of marriage. Suspend the homebuyer tax credit.[/quote]

They already do this in the Navy. It is called BAH.

[Ricechex]

[quote=scaredycat]perhaps if there weren’t a marriage tax penalty, but instead a marriage incentive, maybe a marriage tax credit, people could at least say, well, honey, we do get a deduction for this even when things are bleak. I suggest $8,000 the first year, with $500 extra credit per year of marriage. Suspend the homebuyer tax credit.[/quote]

They already do this in the Navy. It is called BAH.

[Ricechex]

[quote=scaredycat]perhaps if there weren’t a marriage tax penalty, but instead a marriage incentive, maybe a marriage tax credit, people could at least say, well, honey, we do get a deduction for this even when things are bleak. I suggest $8,000 the first year, with $500 extra credit per year of marriage. Suspend the homebuyer tax credit.[/quote]

They already do this in the Navy. It is called BAH.

[scaredyclassic]

it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.

[scaredyclassic]

it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.

[scaredyclassic]

it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.

[scaredyclassic]

it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.

[scaredyclassic]

it is true that guys seem to land back in the same sort of crap they try to escape. that’s why I believe it is better to stay and work with what you have. i don’t think it’s a binary thing, unhappy relationship out, happy relationship in”. i think it’s all going to be some shifting balance of the two, misery and happiness combined. we were born to suffer and die, so resistance is futile. you’re already where you were meant to be. barring enlightenment, things aren’t really going to be materially better, so just deal and try to improve.

[CA renter]

[quote=sdrealtor]CAR
The problem with your argument is that the vast majority of divorces involve the wife bailing not vice versa.[/quote]

‘Tis true. However, most women bail because of one of the “three As” (adultery, abuse, addictions). In the vast majority of cases I know where the woman bailed, they left only after spending many, many hard years trying to deal with these problems and attempting to turn the marriage around.

BTW, let me also say that while I’m adamantly opposed to divorce, I definitely acknowledge that there are circumstances in many marriages that make it absolutely unbearable, and sometimes the only solution is divorce.

Still, like Richchex, SDR, and scaredycat note; oftentimes, things do NOT improve after divorce because the people seeking the divorce refuse to acknowledge their part in what made the marriage fail, and they jump from the frying pan into the fire over and over and over, again. Case in point: my FIL who just went through his fifth or sixth divorce. No doubt he’ll be following up with “the one” in a few months — you know, his **real** soulmate…this time, it’s different! 😉 Some people will never get it.

[CA renter]

[quote=sdrealtor]CAR
The problem with your argument is that the vast majority of divorces involve the wife bailing not vice versa.[/quote]

‘Tis true. However, most women bail because of one of the “three As” (adultery, abuse, addictions). In the vast majority of cases I know where the woman bailed, they left only after spending many, many hard years trying to deal with these problems and attempting to turn the marriage around.

BTW, let me also say that while I’m adamantly opposed to divorce, I definitely acknowledge that there are circumstances in many marriages that make it absolutely unbearable, and sometimes the only solution is divorce.

Still, like Richchex, SDR, and scaredycat note; oftentimes, things do NOT improve after divorce because the people seeking the divorce refuse to acknowledge their part in what made the marriage fail, and they jump from the frying pan into the fire over and over and over, again. Case in point: my FIL who just went through his fifth or sixth divorce. No doubt he’ll be following up with “the one” in a few months — you know, his **real** soulmate…this time, it’s different! 😉 Some people will never get it.

[CA renter]

[quote=sdrealtor]CAR
The problem with your argument is that the vast majority of divorces involve the wife bailing not vice versa.[/quote]

‘Tis true. However, most women bail because of one of the “three As” (adultery, abuse, addictions). In the vast majority of cases I know where the woman bailed, they left only after spending many, many hard years trying to deal with these problems and attempting to turn the marriage around.

BTW, let me also say that while I’m adamantly opposed to divorce, I definitely acknowledge that there are circumstances in many marriages that make it absolutely unbearable, and sometimes the only solution is divorce.

Still, like Richchex, SDR, and scaredycat note; oftentimes, things do NOT improve after divorce because the people seeking the divorce refuse to acknowledge their part in what made the marriage fail, and they jump from the frying pan into the fire over and over and over, again. Case in point: my FIL who just went through his fifth or sixth divorce. No doubt he’ll be following up with “the one” in a few months — you know, his **real** soulmate…this time, it’s different! 😉 Some people will never get it.

[CA renter]

[quote=sdrealtor]CAR
The problem with your argument is that the vast majority of divorces involve the wife bailing not vice versa.[/quote]

‘Tis true. However, most women bail because of one of the “three As” (adultery, abuse, addictions). In the vast majority of cases I know where the woman bailed, they left only after spending many, many hard years trying to deal with these problems and attempting to turn the marriage around.

BTW, let me also say that while I’m adamantly opposed to divorce, I definitely acknowledge that there are circumstances in many marriages that make it absolutely unbearable, and sometimes the only solution is divorce.

Still, like Richchex, SDR, and scaredycat note; oftentimes, things do NOT improve after divorce because the people seeking the divorce refuse to acknowledge their part in what made the marriage fail, and they jump from the frying pan into the fire over and over and over, again. Case in point: my FIL who just went through his fifth or sixth divorce. No doubt he’ll be following up with “the one” in a few months — you know, his **real** soulmate…this time, it’s different! 😉 Some people will never get it.

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