OT/ ” I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules”

[CA renter]

[quote=sdrealtor]CAR
The problem with your argument is that the vast majority of divorces involve the wife bailing not vice versa.[/quote]

‘Tis true. However, most women bail because of one of the “three As” (adultery, abuse, addictions). In the vast majority of cases I know where the woman bailed, they left only after spending many, many hard years trying to deal with these problems and attempting to turn the marriage around.

BTW, let me also say that while I’m adamantly opposed to divorce, I definitely acknowledge that there are circumstances in many marriages that make it absolutely unbearable, and sometimes the only solution is divorce.

Still, like Richchex, SDR, and scaredycat note; oftentimes, things do NOT improve after divorce because the people seeking the divorce refuse to acknowledge their part in what made the marriage fail, and they jump from the frying pan into the fire over and over and over, again. Case in point: my FIL who just went through his fifth or sixth divorce. No doubt he’ll be following up with “the one” in a few months — you know, his **real** soulmate…this time, it’s different! 😉 Some people will never get it.

[SD Realtor]

Divorce is a part of life. Life is pretty much all about change and adapting to it. Being static sucks. Change is not always better… I have been through it. My first wife and I threw in the towel after 2 years. We had lived together 6 years before that. It was pretty amicable and she didn’t take me to the cleaners or anything like that. It was a relationship that didn’t work out for alot of reasons. The divorce certainly did not leave me hating women.

[SD Realtor]

Divorce is a part of life. Life is pretty much all about change and adapting to it. Being static sucks. Change is not always better… I have been through it. My first wife and I threw in the towel after 2 years. We had lived together 6 years before that. It was pretty amicable and she didn’t take me to the cleaners or anything like that. It was a relationship that didn’t work out for alot of reasons. The divorce certainly did not leave me hating women.

[SD Realtor]

Divorce is a part of life. Life is pretty much all about change and adapting to it. Being static sucks. Change is not always better… I have been through it. My first wife and I threw in the towel after 2 years. We had lived together 6 years before that. It was pretty amicable and she didn’t take me to the cleaners or anything like that. It was a relationship that didn’t work out for alot of reasons. The divorce certainly did not leave me hating women.

[SD Realtor]

Divorce is a part of life. Life is pretty much all about change and adapting to it. Being static sucks. Change is not always better… I have been through it. My first wife and I threw in the towel after 2 years. We had lived together 6 years before that. It was pretty amicable and she didn’t take me to the cleaners or anything like that. It was a relationship that didn’t work out for alot of reasons. The divorce certainly did not leave me hating women.

[SD Realtor]

Divorce is a part of life. Life is pretty much all about change and adapting to it. Being static sucks. Change is not always better… I have been through it. My first wife and I threw in the towel after 2 years. We had lived together 6 years before that. It was pretty amicable and she didn’t take me to the cleaners or anything like that. It was a relationship that didn’t work out for alot of reasons. The divorce certainly did not leave me hating women.

[Coronita]

[quote=Ricechex][quote=briansd1]I agree. Never marry an American-born woman.

Choose someone from Europe, Asia, Latin American or whatever. But generally, don’t marry an American-born woman.

The imported products are generally better.[/quote]

Belief statements such as this usually suggest a bitter man, someone that does not really “like” women (I do not mean gay). Women are referred to as “products” and thus objectified. Blanket statements such as “never marry an American born women,” and rigid rules about male and female behaviors, suggest a rigid and limited perspective about others and ideas (this same world view is exemplified in your one perspective posts regarding Obama and politics). My guess is that women aren’t too fond of you, and there has been repeated rejection of you by those of the female gender.

Guys like Russell and SD Realtor probably always had it really easy with women, because they really LIKE women. They had their pick because of this, and they could choose wisely, thus not ending up with these women you speak of. If they have daughters, those girls will find good men like their fathers, not narcissistic, entitled and self-righteous women hating men. If they have sons, those boys will find caring, nurturing women that love them for WHO they are, rather than controlling manipulating beast women as characterized in this thread.

Ucodegen’s posts were spot on.[/quote]

Regarding, the comment about not marrying an american woman….I don’t think most people who say this have any idea how difficult it can be to deal with cultural difference once the initial euphoria of relationship.
Americans (in general) tend to one of the most open minded people imho. We tend not judge people as harshly imho with disabilities, limitations, etc. Discrimination is not nearly as bad as overseas….And let’s face it, the subset of women that are gold diggers are rampant every, including asia…(though with the weakened U.S. dollar these days, your purchasing power is gradually dwindling).

I think the key though is individuals need to figure out what type of spouse they want. Some women will tend to trade off career for the family while other women will tend to trade off family for career. Where things fall apart usually are when
1) expecting spouse to be type X when she is type Y
2) constantly expecting spouse to toggle between X and Y all the time.
or
3) having a lazy spouse that neither wants to be be type X or type Y, but just does the bare minimum of both.

#1 is a relationship not meant to be: it’s an impedance mismatch.
#2 is being you being a shithead, because your expecting someone constantly switch back and forth.
#3 is having a crappy spouse, because they are using their gender as an excuse for not playing either main roles and being an adult.

But sorry, Ricechex, I have to disagree with some of what you said. There is no correlation between how “nice” you are our how much you “like women” to how much women like you.

I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing why oh why did I have to go through so many attempts at a relationship, with more than often not even getting beyond first base…AKA getting beyond the “let’s be friends bullshit”….And my “data” has lend be to believe the following…It’s not about how nice your are.. Attracting the other gender is a lot like being a great salesman. One needs market oneself of one’s qualities and perhaps even needs to oversell them in particular cases. Especially so for men, because it is very very unusual that women go out their way to ever ask men out…again, the traditional relationship roles of men bending over backwards to impress/chase after women. We have not evolved such that women would try to talk to a very quite guy sitting at a table, for instance. So this ERA really isn’t “equal” (well anyway)….And there is still that amount of girl talk among woman for which woman talk about “when is he going to call you.” Out of all the people that I have dated, very few ever were the first to call me back even after both of us liked each other….So “salesmanship” is the key. And that brings me to the next point.

There are plenty of enginerds who are single for that very reason…The inability to market oneself. To some extent, that’s why we’re enginerds, and because we lack the salesmanship to, well, ummmm sell. (Hey, I’m one of them.. But I’ll be honest about that.) And that leads to the next problem…..If you can’t market what you think are the actual good qualities about you for which you want that woman to like you for, women that are looking for those qualities won’t know and will pass you up, and then what you’re left with are only the women that would remotely look at the most conspicuous superficial qualities you “have” IE do you drive a nice car, do you have money, do you have a greencard, etc….And, as an enginerd, I can say, that in itself is a problem…if in doubt, just look at your W-2 :)… And that is why you need to learn how to market yourself. Not only will it help your career by helping you move up…more than likely it will solve your personal life issues too. Same game, different playing field.

Of course there are some general stigmas that you will never be able to overcome too. For example,

If your an asian male, you are triply screwed because

1) Asian american women probably will pass you up because more than likely you’ll be considered too “boring” and/or because asian women’s fetish for having a blond kid with blue eyes, or someone really tall (I guess thinking there’s a correlation with height to something else).

2) Blond/bruenettes: um, yeah good luck with that one. Especially if they are taller than you.

3) Asian women from overseas: um good luck with that one too. Because either they are the type that think you aren’t really asian but rather just a dumb american or their they type that have a wonderbread boy fetish, and think your a twinkie.

And yes, this is what I had to look deal with for a very very very very very long time…And also hearing first hand from my older sister on why oh why she wouldn’t date someone chinese.

[Coronita]

[quote=Ricechex][quote=briansd1]I agree. Never marry an American-born woman.

Choose someone from Europe, Asia, Latin American or whatever. But generally, don’t marry an American-born woman.

The imported products are generally better.[/quote]

Belief statements such as this usually suggest a bitter man, someone that does not really “like” women (I do not mean gay). Women are referred to as “products” and thus objectified. Blanket statements such as “never marry an American born women,” and rigid rules about male and female behaviors, suggest a rigid and limited perspective about others and ideas (this same world view is exemplified in your one perspective posts regarding Obama and politics). My guess is that women aren’t too fond of you, and there has been repeated rejection of you by those of the female gender.

Guys like Russell and SD Realtor probably always had it really easy with women, because they really LIKE women. They had their pick because of this, and they could choose wisely, thus not ending up with these women you speak of. If they have daughters, those girls will find good men like their fathers, not narcissistic, entitled and self-righteous women hating men. If they have sons, those boys will find caring, nurturing women that love them for WHO they are, rather than controlling manipulating beast women as characterized in this thread.

Ucodegen’s posts were spot on.[/quote]

Regarding, the comment about not marrying an american woman….I don’t think most people who say this have any idea how difficult it can be to deal with cultural difference once the initial euphoria of relationship.
Americans (in general) tend to one of the most open minded people imho. We tend not judge people as harshly imho with disabilities, limitations, etc. Discrimination is not nearly as bad as overseas….And let’s face it, the subset of women that are gold diggers are rampant every, including asia…(though with the weakened U.S. dollar these days, your purchasing power is gradually dwindling).

I think the key though is individuals need to figure out what type of spouse they want. Some women will tend to trade off career for the family while other women will tend to trade off family for career. Where things fall apart usually are when
1) expecting spouse to be type X when she is type Y
2) constantly expecting spouse to toggle between X and Y all the time.
or
3) having a lazy spouse that neither wants to be be type X or type Y, but just does the bare minimum of both.

#1 is a relationship not meant to be: it’s an impedance mismatch.
#2 is being you being a shithead, because your expecting someone constantly switch back and forth.
#3 is having a crappy spouse, because they are using their gender as an excuse for not playing either main roles and being an adult.

But sorry, Ricechex, I have to disagree with some of what you said. There is no correlation between how “nice” you are our how much you “like women” to how much women like you.

I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing why oh why did I have to go through so many attempts at a relationship, with more than often not even getting beyond first base…AKA getting beyond the “let’s be friends bullshit”….And my “data” has lend be to believe the following…It’s not about how nice your are.. Attracting the other gender is a lot like being a great salesman. One needs market oneself of one’s qualities and perhaps even needs to oversell them in particular cases. Especially so for men, because it is very very unusual that women go out their way to ever ask men out…again, the traditional relationship roles of men bending over backwards to impress/chase after women. We have not evolved such that women would try to talk to a very quite guy sitting at a table, for instance. So this ERA really isn’t “equal” (well anyway)….And there is still that amount of girl talk among woman for which woman talk about “when is he going to call you.” Out of all the people that I have dated, very few ever were the first to call me back even after both of us liked each other….So “salesmanship” is the key. And that brings me to the next point.

There are plenty of enginerds who are single for that very reason…The inability to market oneself. To some extent, that’s why we’re enginerds, and because we lack the salesmanship to, well, ummmm sell. (Hey, I’m one of them.. But I’ll be honest about that.) And that leads to the next problem…..If you can’t market what you think are the actual good qualities about you for which you want that woman to like you for, women that are looking for those qualities won’t know and will pass you up, and then what you’re left with are only the women that would remotely look at the most conspicuous superficial qualities you “have” IE do you drive a nice car, do you have money, do you have a greencard, etc….And, as an enginerd, I can say, that in itself is a problem…if in doubt, just look at your W-2 :)… And that is why you need to learn how to market yourself. Not only will it help your career by helping you move up…more than likely it will solve your personal life issues too. Same game, different playing field.

Of course there are some general stigmas that you will never be able to overcome too. For example,

If your an asian male, you are triply screwed because

1) Asian american women probably will pass you up because more than likely you’ll be considered too “boring” and/or because asian women’s fetish for having a blond kid with blue eyes, or someone really tall (I guess thinking there’s a correlation with height to something else).

2) Blond/bruenettes: um, yeah good luck with that one. Especially if they are taller than you.

3) Asian women from overseas: um good luck with that one too. Because either they are the type that think you aren’t really asian but rather just a dumb american or their they type that have a wonderbread boy fetish, and think your a twinkie.

And yes, this is what I had to look deal with for a very very very very very long time…And also hearing first hand from my older sister on why oh why she wouldn’t date someone chinese.

[Coronita]

[quote=Ricechex][quote=briansd1]I agree. Never marry an American-born woman.

Choose someone from Europe, Asia, Latin American or whatever. But generally, don’t marry an American-born woman.

The imported products are generally better.[/quote]

Belief statements such as this usually suggest a bitter man, someone that does not really “like” women (I do not mean gay). Women are referred to as “products” and thus objectified. Blanket statements such as “never marry an American born women,” and rigid rules about male and female behaviors, suggest a rigid and limited perspective about others and ideas (this same world view is exemplified in your one perspective posts regarding Obama and politics). My guess is that women aren’t too fond of you, and there has been repeated rejection of you by those of the female gender.

Guys like Russell and SD Realtor probably always had it really easy with women, because they really LIKE women. They had their pick because of this, and they could choose wisely, thus not ending up with these women you speak of. If they have daughters, those girls will find good men like their fathers, not narcissistic, entitled and self-righteous women hating men. If they have sons, those boys will find caring, nurturing women that love them for WHO they are, rather than controlling manipulating beast women as characterized in this thread.

Ucodegen’s posts were spot on.[/quote]

Regarding, the comment about not marrying an american woman….I don’t think most people who say this have any idea how difficult it can be to deal with cultural difference once the initial euphoria of relationship.
Americans (in general) tend to one of the most open minded people imho. We tend not judge people as harshly imho with disabilities, limitations, etc. Discrimination is not nearly as bad as overseas….And let’s face it, the subset of women that are gold diggers are rampant every, including asia…(though with the weakened U.S. dollar these days, your purchasing power is gradually dwindling).

I think the key though is individuals need to figure out what type of spouse they want. Some women will tend to trade off career for the family while other women will tend to trade off family for career. Where things fall apart usually are when
1) expecting spouse to be type X when she is type Y
2) constantly expecting spouse to toggle between X and Y all the time.
or
3) having a lazy spouse that neither wants to be be type X or type Y, but just does the bare minimum of both.

#1 is a relationship not meant to be: it’s an impedance mismatch.
#2 is being you being a shithead, because your expecting someone constantly switch back and forth.
#3 is having a crappy spouse, because they are using their gender as an excuse for not playing either main roles and being an adult.

But sorry, Ricechex, I have to disagree with some of what you said. There is no correlation between how “nice” you are our how much you “like women” to how much women like you.

I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing why oh why did I have to go through so many attempts at a relationship, with more than often not even getting beyond first base…AKA getting beyond the “let’s be friends bullshit”….And my “data” has lend be to believe the following…It’s not about how nice your are.. Attracting the other gender is a lot like being a great salesman. One needs market oneself of one’s qualities and perhaps even needs to oversell them in particular cases. Especially so for men, because it is very very unusual that women go out their way to ever ask men out…again, the traditional relationship roles of men bending over backwards to impress/chase after women. We have not evolved such that women would try to talk to a very quite guy sitting at a table, for instance. So this ERA really isn’t “equal” (well anyway)….And there is still that amount of girl talk among woman for which woman talk about “when is he going to call you.” Out of all the people that I have dated, very few ever were the first to call me back even after both of us liked each other….So “salesmanship” is the key. And that brings me to the next point.

There are plenty of enginerds who are single for that very reason…The inability to market oneself. To some extent, that’s why we’re enginerds, and because we lack the salesmanship to, well, ummmm sell. (Hey, I’m one of them.. But I’ll be honest about that.) And that leads to the next problem…..If you can’t market what you think are the actual good qualities about you for which you want that woman to like you for, women that are looking for those qualities won’t know and will pass you up, and then what you’re left with are only the women that would remotely look at the most conspicuous superficial qualities you “have” IE do you drive a nice car, do you have money, do you have a greencard, etc….And, as an enginerd, I can say, that in itself is a problem…if in doubt, just look at your W-2 :)… And that is why you need to learn how to market yourself. Not only will it help your career by helping you move up…more than likely it will solve your personal life issues too. Same game, different playing field.

Of course there are some general stigmas that you will never be able to overcome too. For example,

If your an asian male, you are triply screwed because

1) Asian american women probably will pass you up because more than likely you’ll be considered too “boring” and/or because asian women’s fetish for having a blond kid with blue eyes, or someone really tall (I guess thinking there’s a correlation with height to something else).

2) Blond/bruenettes: um, yeah good luck with that one. Especially if they are taller than you.

3) Asian women from overseas: um good luck with that one too. Because either they are the type that think you aren’t really asian but rather just a dumb american or their they type that have a wonderbread boy fetish, and think your a twinkie.

And yes, this is what I had to look deal with for a very very very very very long time…And also hearing first hand from my older sister on why oh why she wouldn’t date someone chinese.

[Coronita]

[quote=Ricechex][quote=briansd1]I agree. Never marry an American-born woman.

Choose someone from Europe, Asia, Latin American or whatever. But generally, don’t marry an American-born woman.

The imported products are generally better.[/quote]

Belief statements such as this usually suggest a bitter man, someone that does not really “like” women (I do not mean gay). Women are referred to as “products” and thus objectified. Blanket statements such as “never marry an American born women,” and rigid rules about male and female behaviors, suggest a rigid and limited perspective about others and ideas (this same world view is exemplified in your one perspective posts regarding Obama and politics). My guess is that women aren’t too fond of you, and there has been repeated rejection of you by those of the female gender.

Guys like Russell and SD Realtor probably always had it really easy with women, because they really LIKE women. They had their pick because of this, and they could choose wisely, thus not ending up with these women you speak of. If they have daughters, those girls will find good men like their fathers, not narcissistic, entitled and self-righteous women hating men. If they have sons, those boys will find caring, nurturing women that love them for WHO they are, rather than controlling manipulating beast women as characterized in this thread.

Ucodegen’s posts were spot on.[/quote]

Regarding, the comment about not marrying an american woman….I don’t think most people who say this have any idea how difficult it can be to deal with cultural difference once the initial euphoria of relationship.
Americans (in general) tend to one of the most open minded people imho. We tend not judge people as harshly imho with disabilities, limitations, etc. Discrimination is not nearly as bad as overseas….And let’s face it, the subset of women that are gold diggers are rampant every, including asia…(though with the weakened U.S. dollar these days, your purchasing power is gradually dwindling).

I think the key though is individuals need to figure out what type of spouse they want. Some women will tend to trade off career for the family while other women will tend to trade off family for career. Where things fall apart usually are when
1) expecting spouse to be type X when she is type Y
2) constantly expecting spouse to toggle between X and Y all the time.
or
3) having a lazy spouse that neither wants to be be type X or type Y, but just does the bare minimum of both.

#1 is a relationship not meant to be: it’s an impedance mismatch.
#2 is being you being a shithead, because your expecting someone constantly switch back and forth.
#3 is having a crappy spouse, because they are using their gender as an excuse for not playing either main roles and being an adult.

But sorry, Ricechex, I have to disagree with some of what you said. There is no correlation between how “nice” you are our how much you “like women” to how much women like you.

I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing why oh why did I have to go through so many attempts at a relationship, with more than often not even getting beyond first base…AKA getting beyond the “let’s be friends bullshit”….And my “data” has lend be to believe the following…It’s not about how nice your are.. Attracting the other gender is a lot like being a great salesman. One needs market oneself of one’s qualities and perhaps even needs to oversell them in particular cases. Especially so for men, because it is very very unusual that women go out their way to ever ask men out…again, the traditional relationship roles of men bending over backwards to impress/chase after women. We have not evolved such that women would try to talk to a very quite guy sitting at a table, for instance. So this ERA really isn’t “equal” (well anyway)….And there is still that amount of girl talk among woman for which woman talk about “when is he going to call you.” Out of all the people that I have dated, very few ever were the first to call me back even after both of us liked each other….So “salesmanship” is the key. And that brings me to the next point.

There are plenty of enginerds who are single for that very reason…The inability to market oneself. To some extent, that’s why we’re enginerds, and because we lack the salesmanship to, well, ummmm sell. (Hey, I’m one of them.. But I’ll be honest about that.) And that leads to the next problem…..If you can’t market what you think are the actual good qualities about you for which you want that woman to like you for, women that are looking for those qualities won’t know and will pass you up, and then what you’re left with are only the women that would remotely look at the most conspicuous superficial qualities you “have” IE do you drive a nice car, do you have money, do you have a greencard, etc….And, as an enginerd, I can say, that in itself is a problem…if in doubt, just look at your W-2 :)… And that is why you need to learn how to market yourself. Not only will it help your career by helping you move up…more than likely it will solve your personal life issues too. Same game, different playing field.

Of course there are some general stigmas that you will never be able to overcome too. For example,

If your an asian male, you are triply screwed because

1) Asian american women probably will pass you up because more than likely you’ll be considered too “boring” and/or because asian women’s fetish for having a blond kid with blue eyes, or someone really tall (I guess thinking there’s a correlation with height to something else).

2) Blond/bruenettes: um, yeah good luck with that one. Especially if they are taller than you.

3) Asian women from overseas: um good luck with that one too. Because either they are the type that think you aren’t really asian but rather just a dumb american or their they type that have a wonderbread boy fetish, and think your a twinkie.

And yes, this is what I had to look deal with for a very very very very very long time…And also hearing first hand from my older sister on why oh why she wouldn’t date someone chinese.

[Coronita]

[quote=Ricechex][quote=briansd1]I agree. Never marry an American-born woman.

Choose someone from Europe, Asia, Latin American or whatever. But generally, don’t marry an American-born woman.

The imported products are generally better.[/quote]

Belief statements such as this usually suggest a bitter man, someone that does not really “like” women (I do not mean gay). Women are referred to as “products” and thus objectified. Blanket statements such as “never marry an American born women,” and rigid rules about male and female behaviors, suggest a rigid and limited perspective about others and ideas (this same world view is exemplified in your one perspective posts regarding Obama and politics). My guess is that women aren’t too fond of you, and there has been repeated rejection of you by those of the female gender.

Guys like Russell and SD Realtor probably always had it really easy with women, because they really LIKE women. They had their pick because of this, and they could choose wisely, thus not ending up with these women you speak of. If they have daughters, those girls will find good men like their fathers, not narcissistic, entitled and self-righteous women hating men. If they have sons, those boys will find caring, nurturing women that love them for WHO they are, rather than controlling manipulating beast women as characterized in this thread.

Ucodegen’s posts were spot on.[/quote]

Regarding, the comment about not marrying an american woman….I don’t think most people who say this have any idea how difficult it can be to deal with cultural difference once the initial euphoria of relationship.
Americans (in general) tend to one of the most open minded people imho. We tend not judge people as harshly imho with disabilities, limitations, etc. Discrimination is not nearly as bad as overseas….And let’s face it, the subset of women that are gold diggers are rampant every, including asia…(though with the weakened U.S. dollar these days, your purchasing power is gradually dwindling).

I think the key though is individuals need to figure out what type of spouse they want. Some women will tend to trade off career for the family while other women will tend to trade off family for career. Where things fall apart usually are when
1) expecting spouse to be type X when she is type Y
2) constantly expecting spouse to toggle between X and Y all the time.
or
3) having a lazy spouse that neither wants to be be type X or type Y, but just does the bare minimum of both.

#1 is a relationship not meant to be: it’s an impedance mismatch.
#2 is being you being a shithead, because your expecting someone constantly switch back and forth.
#3 is having a crappy spouse, because they are using their gender as an excuse for not playing either main roles and being an adult.

But sorry, Ricechex, I have to disagree with some of what you said. There is no correlation between how “nice” you are our how much you “like women” to how much women like you.

I have spent a considerable amount of time analyzing why oh why did I have to go through so many attempts at a relationship, with more than often not even getting beyond first base…AKA getting beyond the “let’s be friends bullshit”….And my “data” has lend be to believe the following…It’s not about how nice your are.. Attracting the other gender is a lot like being a great salesman. One needs market oneself of one’s qualities and perhaps even needs to oversell them in particular cases. Especially so for men, because it is very very unusual that women go out their way to ever ask men out…again, the traditional relationship roles of men bending over backwards to impress/chase after women. We have not evolved such that women would try to talk to a very quite guy sitting at a table, for instance. So this ERA really isn’t “equal” (well anyway)….And there is still that amount of girl talk among woman for which woman talk about “when is he going to call you.” Out of all the people that I have dated, very few ever were the first to call me back even after both of us liked each other….So “salesmanship” is the key. And that brings me to the next point.

There are plenty of enginerds who are single for that very reason…The inability to market oneself. To some extent, that’s why we’re enginerds, and because we lack the salesmanship to, well, ummmm sell. (Hey, I’m one of them.. But I’ll be honest about that.) And that leads to the next problem…..If you can’t market what you think are the actual good qualities about you for which you want that woman to like you for, women that are looking for those qualities won’t know and will pass you up, and then what you’re left with are only the women that would remotely look at the most conspicuous superficial qualities you “have” IE do you drive a nice car, do you have money, do you have a greencard, etc….And, as an enginerd, I can say, that in itself is a problem…if in doubt, just look at your W-2 :)… And that is why you need to learn how to market yourself. Not only will it help your career by helping you move up…more than likely it will solve your personal life issues too. Same game, different playing field.

Of course there are some general stigmas that you will never be able to overcome too. For example,

If your an asian male, you are triply screwed because

1) Asian american women probably will pass you up because more than likely you’ll be considered too “boring” and/or because asian women’s fetish for having a blond kid with blue eyes, or someone really tall (I guess thinking there’s a correlation with height to something else).

2) Blond/bruenettes: um, yeah good luck with that one. Especially if they are taller than you.

3) Asian women from overseas: um good luck with that one too. Because either they are the type that think you aren’t really asian but rather just a dumb american or their they type that have a wonderbread boy fetish, and think your a twinkie.

And yes, this is what I had to look deal with for a very very very very very long time…And also hearing first hand from my older sister on why oh why she wouldn’t date someone chinese.

[CA renter]

LOL! I literally spit my tea out when reading that a green card is something women find attractive in a mate. 🙂

Other than that, you have some good points about salesmanship and shyness, in general. That goes for both sexes, BTW.

[CA renter]

LOL! I literally spit my tea out when reading that a green card is something women find attractive in a mate. 🙂

Other than that, you have some good points about salesmanship and shyness, in general. That goes for both sexes, BTW.

[CA renter]

LOL! I literally spit my tea out when reading that a green card is something women find attractive in a mate. 🙂

Other than that, you have some good points about salesmanship and shyness, in general. That goes for both sexes, BTW.

[CA renter]

LOL! I literally spit my tea out when reading that a green card is something women find attractive in a mate. 🙂

Other than that, you have some good points about salesmanship and shyness, in general. That goes for both sexes, BTW.

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