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October 28, 2009 at 9:58 AM #475547October 28, 2009 at 10:08 AM #474709HuckleberryParticipant
This is a very well put post.
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.
I have multiples of buddies (actually nine when I count) from both CO. and CA. that got absolutely SHAFTED by the state laws of divorce. Women know the laws are in their favor. It left such a bad taste in their mouths they always told me, “NEVER get married dude, just find a cool, independent chick that will hang with you without the “documents”.
I took their advice and I am now 43 and never been married, never been taken to the cleaners (in any way whatsoever) and have a kick butt girlfriend whom also doesn’t care about marriage (she’s already been there).
Additionally, every married buddy of mine has said, sex pretty much becomes non-existent unless you’re willing to try for another kid. This has not been my experience AT ALL having a girlfriend.
Agreed though, to each his own…
October 28, 2009 at 10:08 AM #474886HuckleberryParticipantThis is a very well put post.
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.
I have multiples of buddies (actually nine when I count) from both CO. and CA. that got absolutely SHAFTED by the state laws of divorce. Women know the laws are in their favor. It left such a bad taste in their mouths they always told me, “NEVER get married dude, just find a cool, independent chick that will hang with you without the “documents”.
I took their advice and I am now 43 and never been married, never been taken to the cleaners (in any way whatsoever) and have a kick butt girlfriend whom also doesn’t care about marriage (she’s already been there).
Additionally, every married buddy of mine has said, sex pretty much becomes non-existent unless you’re willing to try for another kid. This has not been my experience AT ALL having a girlfriend.
Agreed though, to each his own…
October 28, 2009 at 10:08 AM #475249HuckleberryParticipantThis is a very well put post.
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.
I have multiples of buddies (actually nine when I count) from both CO. and CA. that got absolutely SHAFTED by the state laws of divorce. Women know the laws are in their favor. It left such a bad taste in their mouths they always told me, “NEVER get married dude, just find a cool, independent chick that will hang with you without the “documents”.
I took their advice and I am now 43 and never been married, never been taken to the cleaners (in any way whatsoever) and have a kick butt girlfriend whom also doesn’t care about marriage (she’s already been there).
Additionally, every married buddy of mine has said, sex pretty much becomes non-existent unless you’re willing to try for another kid. This has not been my experience AT ALL having a girlfriend.
Agreed though, to each his own…
October 28, 2009 at 10:08 AM #475325HuckleberryParticipantThis is a very well put post.
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.
I have multiples of buddies (actually nine when I count) from both CO. and CA. that got absolutely SHAFTED by the state laws of divorce. Women know the laws are in their favor. It left such a bad taste in their mouths they always told me, “NEVER get married dude, just find a cool, independent chick that will hang with you without the “documents”.
I took their advice and I am now 43 and never been married, never been taken to the cleaners (in any way whatsoever) and have a kick butt girlfriend whom also doesn’t care about marriage (she’s already been there).
Additionally, every married buddy of mine has said, sex pretty much becomes non-existent unless you’re willing to try for another kid. This has not been my experience AT ALL having a girlfriend.
Agreed though, to each his own…
October 28, 2009 at 10:08 AM #475552HuckleberryParticipantThis is a very well put post.
Chicks know that once they have the marriage papers signed they have ultimate power in the relationship, and a high percentage of them use it, whether anyone likes to admit it or not.
I have multiples of buddies (actually nine when I count) from both CO. and CA. that got absolutely SHAFTED by the state laws of divorce. Women know the laws are in their favor. It left such a bad taste in their mouths they always told me, “NEVER get married dude, just find a cool, independent chick that will hang with you without the “documents”.
I took their advice and I am now 43 and never been married, never been taken to the cleaners (in any way whatsoever) and have a kick butt girlfriend whom also doesn’t care about marriage (she’s already been there).
Additionally, every married buddy of mine has said, sex pretty much becomes non-existent unless you’re willing to try for another kid. This has not been my experience AT ALL having a girlfriend.
Agreed though, to each his own…
October 28, 2009 at 10:13 AM #474714outtamojoParticipant“I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules.”
Yep, as I’ve learned so well, beggars can’t be choosy : )
October 28, 2009 at 10:13 AM #474891outtamojoParticipant“I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules.”
Yep, as I’ve learned so well, beggars can’t be choosy : )
October 28, 2009 at 10:13 AM #475254outtamojoParticipant“I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules.”
Yep, as I’ve learned so well, beggars can’t be choosy : )
October 28, 2009 at 10:13 AM #475330outtamojoParticipant“I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules.”
Yep, as I’ve learned so well, beggars can’t be choosy : )
October 28, 2009 at 10:13 AM #475557outtamojoParticipant“I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules.”
Yep, as I’ve learned so well, beggars can’t be choosy : )
October 28, 2009 at 10:24 AM #474719ucodegenParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
October 28, 2009 at 10:24 AM #474896ucodegenParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
October 28, 2009 at 10:24 AM #475259ucodegenParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
October 28, 2009 at 10:24 AM #475335ucodegenParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
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