OT/ ” I Have The Pu–y, I Make The Rules”

[Coronita]

[quote=CA renter]Once again, you pretty much nailed it.[/quote]

You keep cutting me off 🙂

Marriage isn’t for everyone. It’s about willingness to change, be selfishless, and be willing to make sacrifices/commitments for the other person. And it takes both people to do it. If you aren’t willing to do those things for that specific person, don’t get married. And if you are willing to do those things, you better make damn sure the other person is too, because if that person isn’t willing to do that for you, don’t get married. Nothing worse going into a marriage thinking you don’t have to make changes, except possibly going into a marriage for which you’re the only one willing to make the changes. That rule applies to americans and foreign born.

The reason why more marriages are probably failing in modern times is people over the years have gotten considerably more self centered and selfish throughout the years. Just look at how things are. It’s the epitome of the baby boomers, much more a problem in Generation X’s, and culminates in the Millinium generation. Everything is about me me me. My house value is falling, my fancy car, my golden parachute. The days of social conscientiousness are over. I have not ever met a single person that isn’t realative who sincerely is a selfishless person. Maybe just my damn unluck…But I just haven’t.

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredycat]I am unappreciated and unappreciative, worst of all possible worlds.[/quote]

I’m sure your kids appreciate you. Just ask them. Ok, sometimes cheat and dangle a gift in front of them. Yeah, I know it’s kinda fake, but it makes you feel a little better sometimes when you need it.

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredycat]I am unappreciated and unappreciative, worst of all possible worlds.[/quote]

I’m sure your kids appreciate you. Just ask them. Ok, sometimes cheat and dangle a gift in front of them. Yeah, I know it’s kinda fake, but it makes you feel a little better sometimes when you need it.

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredycat]I am unappreciated and unappreciative, worst of all possible worlds.[/quote]

I’m sure your kids appreciate you. Just ask them. Ok, sometimes cheat and dangle a gift in front of them. Yeah, I know it’s kinda fake, but it makes you feel a little better sometimes when you need it.

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredycat]I am unappreciated and unappreciative, worst of all possible worlds.[/quote]

I’m sure your kids appreciate you. Just ask them. Ok, sometimes cheat and dangle a gift in front of them. Yeah, I know it’s kinda fake, but it makes you feel a little better sometimes when you need it.

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredycat]I am unappreciated and unappreciative, worst of all possible worlds.[/quote]

I’m sure your kids appreciate you. Just ask them. Ok, sometimes cheat and dangle a gift in front of them. Yeah, I know it’s kinda fake, but it makes you feel a little better sometimes when you need it.

[scaredyclassic]

i meant my spouse. i couldn’t care less if my kids appreciate me.

[scaredyclassic]

i meant my spouse. i couldn’t care less if my kids appreciate me.

[scaredyclassic]

i meant my spouse. i couldn’t care less if my kids appreciate me.

[scaredyclassic]

i meant my spouse. i couldn’t care less if my kids appreciate me.

[scaredyclassic]

i meant my spouse. i couldn’t care less if my kids appreciate me.

[CA renter]

FLU,

Hope I’m not cutting you off again… 😉

Couldn’t agree more with everything you said. IMHO, selfishness is the #1 cause of divorce. Too many people go into marriage thinking nothing in their lives should/will change. Big mistake.

Yes, people who are unwilling to make personal sacrifices for the health of the union should not get married. It’s almost 100% guaranteed to fail if they do.

And you’re right about marrying more selfish people. Resentment will build (in the more selfless and least appreciated spouse) and things will spiral out of control at some point. I think this is where you see the divorces after 20 years of marriage and after all the kids have grown. Some people (both men and women) have so much resentment built up (from sacrificing everything while not being appreciated for it), that when they finally finish up with what they perceive to be their committment to their children, they blast out of their marriages as fast as they can. This is why open and honest communication **and empathy** throughout the marriage is so important.

[CA renter]

FLU,

Hope I’m not cutting you off again… 😉

Couldn’t agree more with everything you said. IMHO, selfishness is the #1 cause of divorce. Too many people go into marriage thinking nothing in their lives should/will change. Big mistake.

Yes, people who are unwilling to make personal sacrifices for the health of the union should not get married. It’s almost 100% guaranteed to fail if they do.

And you’re right about marrying more selfish people. Resentment will build (in the more selfless and least appreciated spouse) and things will spiral out of control at some point. I think this is where you see the divorces after 20 years of marriage and after all the kids have grown. Some people (both men and women) have so much resentment built up (from sacrificing everything while not being appreciated for it), that when they finally finish up with what they perceive to be their committment to their children, they blast out of their marriages as fast as they can. This is why open and honest communication **and empathy** throughout the marriage is so important.

[CA renter]

FLU,

Hope I’m not cutting you off again… 😉

Couldn’t agree more with everything you said. IMHO, selfishness is the #1 cause of divorce. Too many people go into marriage thinking nothing in their lives should/will change. Big mistake.

Yes, people who are unwilling to make personal sacrifices for the health of the union should not get married. It’s almost 100% guaranteed to fail if they do.

And you’re right about marrying more selfish people. Resentment will build (in the more selfless and least appreciated spouse) and things will spiral out of control at some point. I think this is where you see the divorces after 20 years of marriage and after all the kids have grown. Some people (both men and women) have so much resentment built up (from sacrificing everything while not being appreciated for it), that when they finally finish up with what they perceive to be their committment to their children, they blast out of their marriages as fast as they can. This is why open and honest communication **and empathy** throughout the marriage is so important.

[CA renter]

FLU,

Hope I’m not cutting you off again… 😉

Couldn’t agree more with everything you said. IMHO, selfishness is the #1 cause of divorce. Too many people go into marriage thinking nothing in their lives should/will change. Big mistake.

Yes, people who are unwilling to make personal sacrifices for the health of the union should not get married. It’s almost 100% guaranteed to fail if they do.

And you’re right about marrying more selfish people. Resentment will build (in the more selfless and least appreciated spouse) and things will spiral out of control at some point. I think this is where you see the divorces after 20 years of marriage and after all the kids have grown. Some people (both men and women) have so much resentment built up (from sacrificing everything while not being appreciated for it), that when they finally finish up with what they perceive to be their committment to their children, they blast out of their marriages as fast as they can. This is why open and honest communication **and empathy** throughout the marriage is so important.

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