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ParticipantI was thinking Thai when its time for Bride 2.0, any horror stories there? For now I am happy with Bride 1.0 but the nagging and domineering took years to control. If there were a relapse, I could snap.
Yes, there are horror stories with Thai women. Remember that they survive/prospered under a male dominated society. To do this, the learned to manipulate and marry for money. Its almost ingrained now. When I was in Thailand, there was a news story of a women who shot her husband when she thought he was cheating. Thai women tend to be a bit more volatile. In addition, the Thai women who are looking for foreign mates may be ex-prostitutes. Ex-prostitutes are not marriage material in their own country, so they look outside. There are exceptions though, as there are in all cases.
Best thing to do is look for a ‘partner’. Having a wife that is 100% submissive is like having another child around that you really can’t depend upon. It gets very tiring after a while. Look for someone you can talk with, sometimes loosing all sense of time. You also need to realize there are differences between people so don’t look for a mirror image of yourself. Narcissism is not healthy.
And a clue to the men. It helps to have a good memory when there is an argument.. often women bring in the ‘kitchen sink’ and all past transgressions or perceived transgressions. If you keep a good memory of the past, this doesn’t work. In addition, if a ‘kitchen sink’ is thrown in on the argument.. make sure the argument keeps relevant.
ucodegen
ParticipantI was thinking Thai when its time for Bride 2.0, any horror stories there? For now I am happy with Bride 1.0 but the nagging and domineering took years to control. If there were a relapse, I could snap.
Yes, there are horror stories with Thai women. Remember that they survive/prospered under a male dominated society. To do this, the learned to manipulate and marry for money. Its almost ingrained now. When I was in Thailand, there was a news story of a women who shot her husband when she thought he was cheating. Thai women tend to be a bit more volatile. In addition, the Thai women who are looking for foreign mates may be ex-prostitutes. Ex-prostitutes are not marriage material in their own country, so they look outside. There are exceptions though, as there are in all cases.
Best thing to do is look for a ‘partner’. Having a wife that is 100% submissive is like having another child around that you really can’t depend upon. It gets very tiring after a while. Look for someone you can talk with, sometimes loosing all sense of time. You also need to realize there are differences between people so don’t look for a mirror image of yourself. Narcissism is not healthy.
And a clue to the men. It helps to have a good memory when there is an argument.. often women bring in the ‘kitchen sink’ and all past transgressions or perceived transgressions. If you keep a good memory of the past, this doesn’t work. In addition, if a ‘kitchen sink’ is thrown in on the argument.. make sure the argument keeps relevant.
ucodegen
ParticipantI have to disagree with the comment that the divorce laws favor women. The laws favor the lower/non-earning spouse. I know more than one woman who has to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Unfortunately it is true, though you could say it is not ‘written law’ but ‘administered law’. Compare the amount of alimony paid by female spouse compared to amount of alimony paid by male spouse under the same wage situations (be careful of cross-correlation in statistics). Also look at child support enforcement separated by gender of the parent with custody. There is still a stigma on a male who depends upon a breadwinner wife and this makes its way into the courtroom. Whether this is fair or not is a separate issue.
ucodegen
ParticipantI have to disagree with the comment that the divorce laws favor women. The laws favor the lower/non-earning spouse. I know more than one woman who has to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Unfortunately it is true, though you could say it is not ‘written law’ but ‘administered law’. Compare the amount of alimony paid by female spouse compared to amount of alimony paid by male spouse under the same wage situations (be careful of cross-correlation in statistics). Also look at child support enforcement separated by gender of the parent with custody. There is still a stigma on a male who depends upon a breadwinner wife and this makes its way into the courtroom. Whether this is fair or not is a separate issue.
ucodegen
ParticipantI have to disagree with the comment that the divorce laws favor women. The laws favor the lower/non-earning spouse. I know more than one woman who has to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Unfortunately it is true, though you could say it is not ‘written law’ but ‘administered law’. Compare the amount of alimony paid by female spouse compared to amount of alimony paid by male spouse under the same wage situations (be careful of cross-correlation in statistics). Also look at child support enforcement separated by gender of the parent with custody. There is still a stigma on a male who depends upon a breadwinner wife and this makes its way into the courtroom. Whether this is fair or not is a separate issue.
ucodegen
ParticipantI have to disagree with the comment that the divorce laws favor women. The laws favor the lower/non-earning spouse. I know more than one woman who has to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Unfortunately it is true, though you could say it is not ‘written law’ but ‘administered law’. Compare the amount of alimony paid by female spouse compared to amount of alimony paid by male spouse under the same wage situations (be careful of cross-correlation in statistics). Also look at child support enforcement separated by gender of the parent with custody. There is still a stigma on a male who depends upon a breadwinner wife and this makes its way into the courtroom. Whether this is fair or not is a separate issue.
ucodegen
ParticipantI have to disagree with the comment that the divorce laws favor women. The laws favor the lower/non-earning spouse. I know more than one woman who has to pay alimony to her ex-husband.
Unfortunately it is true, though you could say it is not ‘written law’ but ‘administered law’. Compare the amount of alimony paid by female spouse compared to amount of alimony paid by male spouse under the same wage situations (be careful of cross-correlation in statistics). Also look at child support enforcement separated by gender of the parent with custody. There is still a stigma on a male who depends upon a breadwinner wife and this makes its way into the courtroom. Whether this is fair or not is a separate issue.
ucodegen
ParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
ucodegen
ParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
ucodegen
ParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
ucodegen
ParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
ucodegen
ParticipantDid you see the Colorado balloon incident last week? Who do you suppose wrangled the family into that unfortunate endeavor?
Considering what we have seen about his personality and behavior on the other shows we saw (ie. Wife Swap), I would have to say him.
That said, I have seen both sides.. The male approach to dominating the relationship is by physical force. The female’s approach is more subtle and varied. It tends to involve manipulation, subverting anything other than what she wants and by nagging the guy till he gives in just to get some peace. For all we know in the ‘balloon boy’s family, there is an ongoing power struggle with both sides applying their own coercive tactics, though I would have to say that he is a bit psycho.
In terms of the court system, there is definitely a bias that favors the women. Particularly with the use of alimony. The intent of alimony is to keep the now ex-wife in the style that she has become accustomed to. This is a throwback to the times when women weren’t expected to work and weren’t allowed any decent paying jobs. I have also heard of child support being twisted to augment alimony. $30,000/month per child? From the opposite side, if the man has custody, it is nearly impossible to enforce child support on the women. The state doesn’t move, though the state will willing garnish a man’s salary if the women has child support.
In all, it is hard to say which sex abuses the relationship more. I think the states should take a sex neutral position with respect to custody, and alimony should now be eliminated. Either sex basically has equal right to employment and lifestyle is a choice often enabled by ones own earning power and should not be ‘guaranteed’.
ucodegen
Participantwhat about the emergency brake? I would think that the e-brake in combination with even a semi-failing pedal brake would be enough to slow down to a non-fatal speed.
That is the last brake you want to touch in that situation. It does not have the braking power that the normal brake has (less than 1/2 the braking power) and it makes the car unstable at speed, making it more likely to spin out or swap ends.
I won’t go into detail about how to do boot-leg turns, but it does involve using the emergency brake. Boot-leg turns are the turns you see on the movies where a car is going full speed forward then suddenly spins around while sliding sideways and then faces the opposite direction and heads off in the opposite direction.
ucodegen
Participantwhat about the emergency brake? I would think that the e-brake in combination with even a semi-failing pedal brake would be enough to slow down to a non-fatal speed.
That is the last brake you want to touch in that situation. It does not have the braking power that the normal brake has (less than 1/2 the braking power) and it makes the car unstable at speed, making it more likely to spin out or swap ends.
I won’t go into detail about how to do boot-leg turns, but it does involve using the emergency brake. Boot-leg turns are the turns you see on the movies where a car is going full speed forward then suddenly spins around while sliding sideways and then faces the opposite direction and heads off in the opposite direction.
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