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IMO, whether it’s “mental illness,” the bursting of the “entitle mentality” illusion, “narcissism,” “bad parenting,” or any other “cause,” what I find sad and disgusting in all of these cases is, that many of these people choose to share their misery with other innocent people by destroying or trying to them.

If they can’t get help, don’t respond to it, or simply don’t want it, it’s unfortunate that the “miserable” can’t seem to keep their misery to themselves and leave everyone else alone.

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IMO, even for those young people who do not have verifiable mental illness, the “entitlement mentality” encouraged by parents, and applauded by our society as well as marketing professionals around the globe, is a recipe for disaster.

We’ve seen this with some of our kids friends who are in their 20’s, and when life doesn’t work out for them as planned and promised, they fall apart. A few have become suicidal, others just give up, and the stories go on and on.

The misconception that EVERYONE is entitled–for no particular reason or reasons–to everything they want in life–is leading many down a path that will not end well.

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X-Box. I know there are various takes on this issue, but I do understand your concerns. We have friends who are facing the same issue in a single family residential neighborhood.

Although the decision has already been made to rent to multiple individuals this time around, you might want to talk to the owner and share your concerns, and ask if he/she might consider other options in the future.

If you have an HOA (which our friends do) they might be able to help you, or guide you through your options.

Ultimately, you may have to contact the city/county regarding zoning laws concerning your rights or lack therof, which, in turn, might lead to legal action.

Please know this information is only offered as opinion, and should not be construed as advice.

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We’re out of town, but have family staying at our home in RSF. So far, they’ve reported all is well.

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Thanks for posting FIH–fantastic property. Jazzman definitely found a gem at a great price. Have friends we visit every year who have a home in the region, and we really enjoy it there, along with Provence and the coastal areas.

We like spending extended periods of time with friends in various locations, and this one is definitely near the top of the list.

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Have some extended family members who moved from San Diego to TX for some great jobs. For them, it’s been great financially, but they’d much rather be here, and are already making plans to come back. They leased out their homes here when they left, so that helps. Guess it’s different for everyone.

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Don’t forget that for some, moving for a job isn’t a choice. I’m sure there are lots of people who have had to leave San Diego or other locations in CA that would like to have stayed, and others who are glad they left.

We’ve known many young people in our kids age group who, after college, have not been able to stay here because they couldn’t find great jobs that matched their qualifications. None of them wanted to leave, but it was either move, or waste that very expensive degree.

There are lots of places I wouldn’t personally care to live, but–as EP said–to each his or her own.

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Either way, it’s great.

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+1 on the amazing wife. Sounds like we were all very lucky to have met “the one” who was right for us.

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Whatever works for each person/couple/family is all that matters. Enjoy!

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My wife has a friend who married the “love of her life,” an MD who seemed to fit the bill in every way. After they were married, lots of things happened that she never expected, and–long story short–they divorced. None of the issues that led to the divorce were evident prior to marriage.

Even now that she has remarried, and loves the guy she’s married to, she has confided in my wife that she will always love her first husband in a way that she could never love anyone else. Even after several years apart, that feeling has never gone away.

It’s definitely a difficult situation when you love someone, but other circumstances prevent you from being together.

It appears you made a decision about your relationship based upon what your head was telling you, not your heart, and that was your choice.

Going forward, you may find the same depth of love you had in the prior relationship, along with the “suitability factor”, in someone else, or you may not. There are just no guarantees when it comes to these things.

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Agree the “hair or bald thing” is important, but, IMO, looking younger than your age by staying fit, happy and healthy can also be a big + for everyone.

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[quote=svelte][quote=FlyerInHi]
Ok, I do take propecia for my thinning hair. It works! It would suck to go bald. I believe vanity is a sin that could send me straight to hell… but oh, well…[/quote]

I did many things to slow/cover/ignore my receding hair line.

Then one day it could be ignored no longer and I said f*&* it I’m shaving my head. My wife was shocked. And it felt so out there, so exposed. Like I was walking around naked, only in a legal manner.

And it really was shocking the reaction. I feel people treat me differently. Some are a little intimidated I think because it is such an extreme look…they think I’m capable of just about anything – in the positive and negative direction. Until they get to know me then they realize I’m just laid back. 🙂

And contrary to what Hair Club For Men and other financially motivated endeavors would have you believe, there appear to be more women who think a shaved scalp looks virile and brave than who think it is a negative. I’ve had many compliments and hands rubbing my head. They never ran their hands through my hair when I had it!

The maintenance…I think I’ve gained a half-hour a day…no shampooing, drying, combing, barbers, all that other nonsense. Run a razor over my head in the shower and out the door I go…

Finally, those men my age with a full head of hair…it’s all gray now. They look sooo much older than I do (I hadn’t noticed until my wife pointed it out!).[/quote]

I’ve noticed this trend with guys I know in my age group (50’s) too. Makes a lot of sense. My locks are still intact, with a touch of gray. Since the wife prefers the hair thing, we’ve talked about color. If we ever go that way, I hope it’s waaay down the road.

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[quote=scaredyclassic]I used to go to church with my wife every week when we first got married. Hated to be apart. She laughs when she thinks about the pained expression I’d make when she’d occasionally put a 20 in the basket. I still remember the discomfort. I wanted that 20 back. Why not a fiver baby? Please? Here’s 2 bucks. I learned the more I resisted and complained the more she gave. She was teaching me to obey…. Sometimes she’d let the basket just go by! Ahhh! A freebee! Thank you Jesus!. I was so crazy crazy crazy about that girl.

It was so fun taking my little wife to church!

Today I’d be OK w a 20. But 100 is pushing it. It might be worth it to assuage guilt during fund drives for public radio though..[/quote]

Great story, scaredy. Young love IS great.

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[quote=zk][quote=flyer]just normal life to me.[/quote]

I can see it now. flyer’s in line at the grocery store. “would you like to donate a dollar to the march of dimes?”

Sure! How about a thousand dollars? I’ve got millions, you see. And I’ve given hundreds of thousands to help the needy. Because that’s what I’m all about. And have you seen any good movies lately? Because my wife is a film exec, and we might have made that movie. Do you have kids? I do, and they’re exceptional people. But they don’t have to work if they don’t want to. We’ve taken care of that. And we’re going to help our grandkids, too. Where do you live? I live in Rancho Santa Fe. I can see you’re a lowly checker. You must be delusional. I’m an airline pilot. Air traffic controllers think I’m stupid, but everybody else is impressed by that.

Yup, that’s not bragging, just normal life for flyer.[/quote]

Hardly, zk, but that was entertaining.

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