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  • May 19, 2011 at 3:05 PM #698169
    njtosd
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    We’ve seen this topic on threads before, but the thing that everyone seems to focus on is mens’ desire to stray. I don’t think anyone would argue that that desire is there. The issue is straying after (a) a guy promises someone that he won’t and (b) that other person has taken significant action based on that promise (i.e. marrying the guying, having kids with him, foregoing work opportunities, etc.).

    If you don’t want to be faithful, don’t promise someone that you will be. If you promise someone that you will be faithful and that person relies on the promise, you need to live up to it. Really a pretty simple analysis.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:35 PM #697016
    jpinpb
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    njtosd – good point. While divorce is never easy, it would probably be a preferred choice, than hurting someone you claim to love by cheating on them. Unless, of course, it is one of those open relationships.

    Also, not discussed here, but men aren’t the only ones who corner the market on cheating. I imagine the maid could’ve been afraid of retaliation, losing her job, etc, but she could’ve said no. It would seem she had no problem being w/a married man. Vows sometimes mean nothing to women, either.

    Some men and women have more of a tendency to be faithful than others. If monogamy is not in one’s nature, then marriage should be avoided. Why put the other person through emotional pain, especially if you care in the least? Spare them and stay single. Win-win.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:35 PM #697105
    jpinpb
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    njtosd – good point. While divorce is never easy, it would probably be a preferred choice, than hurting someone you claim to love by cheating on them. Unless, of course, it is one of those open relationships.

    Also, not discussed here, but men aren’t the only ones who corner the market on cheating. I imagine the maid could’ve been afraid of retaliation, losing her job, etc, but she could’ve said no. It would seem she had no problem being w/a married man. Vows sometimes mean nothing to women, either.

    Some men and women have more of a tendency to be faithful than others. If monogamy is not in one’s nature, then marriage should be avoided. Why put the other person through emotional pain, especially if you care in the least? Spare them and stay single. Win-win.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:35 PM #697702
    jpinpb
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    njtosd – good point. While divorce is never easy, it would probably be a preferred choice, than hurting someone you claim to love by cheating on them. Unless, of course, it is one of those open relationships.

    Also, not discussed here, but men aren’t the only ones who corner the market on cheating. I imagine the maid could’ve been afraid of retaliation, losing her job, etc, but she could’ve said no. It would seem she had no problem being w/a married man. Vows sometimes mean nothing to women, either.

    Some men and women have more of a tendency to be faithful than others. If monogamy is not in one’s nature, then marriage should be avoided. Why put the other person through emotional pain, especially if you care in the least? Spare them and stay single. Win-win.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:35 PM #697849
    jpinpb
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    njtosd – good point. While divorce is never easy, it would probably be a preferred choice, than hurting someone you claim to love by cheating on them. Unless, of course, it is one of those open relationships.

    Also, not discussed here, but men aren’t the only ones who corner the market on cheating. I imagine the maid could’ve been afraid of retaliation, losing her job, etc, but she could’ve said no. It would seem she had no problem being w/a married man. Vows sometimes mean nothing to women, either.

    Some men and women have more of a tendency to be faithful than others. If monogamy is not in one’s nature, then marriage should be avoided. Why put the other person through emotional pain, especially if you care in the least? Spare them and stay single. Win-win.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:35 PM #698204
    jpinpb
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    njtosd – good point. While divorce is never easy, it would probably be a preferred choice, than hurting someone you claim to love by cheating on them. Unless, of course, it is one of those open relationships.

    Also, not discussed here, but men aren’t the only ones who corner the market on cheating. I imagine the maid could’ve been afraid of retaliation, losing her job, etc, but she could’ve said no. It would seem she had no problem being w/a married man. Vows sometimes mean nothing to women, either.

    Some men and women have more of a tendency to be faithful than others. If monogamy is not in one’s nature, then marriage should be avoided. Why put the other person through emotional pain, especially if you care in the least? Spare them and stay single. Win-win.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:57 PM #697031
    scaredyclassic
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    I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:57 PM #697120
    scaredyclassic
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    I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:57 PM #697717
    scaredyclassic
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    I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:57 PM #697864
    scaredyclassic
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    I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    May 19, 2011 at 3:57 PM #698219
    scaredyclassic
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    I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

    May 19, 2011 at 4:15 PM #697051
    davelj
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    [quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

    And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.

    May 19, 2011 at 4:15 PM #697140
    davelj
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    [quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

    And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.

    May 19, 2011 at 4:15 PM #697737
    davelj
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    [quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

    And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.

    May 19, 2011 at 4:15 PM #697884
    davelj
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    [quote=walterwhite]I like cake but it’s also good to have a spare Twinkie. Why not at least try to have your cake and eat it too. You might get away with it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.[/quote]

    And therein lies one big problem. Many men (and women – but I’m going to focus on men here) want to have their cake and eat it too. They enter into marriage because they want kids and the stability of a wife-partner. But they have no intention of being faithful. They view the whole arrangement as just being part of life – you have your wife and kids, and then you have your affairs on the side. A large proportion of men enter into marriage with the belief that this is just how men are supposed to lead their lives. I’m not saying it’s right – I’m just saying it’s prevalent. I have many married male friends that, if we were in a bar somewhere and they started trying to pick up a woman and I reminded them of their marriage… they would break up in laughter at the comment, assuming it was a joke.

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