OT: how disruptive is for kids to change school districts?

[Scarlett]

Wow, thanks, it’s very useful, especially to know how other people dealt with it. Our daughter so far changed 3 daycares/preschools and 2 houses with no issue at all. We include her when we visit the most interesting potential houses for rent/buy and see/ask what she likes (or not) about a house. We personally care what she thinks about a place, but we don’t let her think she has a real say in the matter. She’s pretty easygoing and liked a good number of places we saw. So far she didn’t have any problems with those changes, but she was young. She is pretty outgoing and makes friends easily – so far. I realize though that this change is of a different nature that would come on top of a change of housing.

Good idea to time the school change with the transition from elementary to middle school. She would be told years before that she will have to make this transition, but she can still meet/keep in touch with her current friends.

thanks!

[Scarlett]

In our case the mobility is due to being a renter and also possibly in the future due to job change.
It seems like we will have to move out of our current rental (various reasons) and we can opt to stay in the same attendance area (University City), or also nearby, in La Jolla. We are not likely to buy in those areas by the time she reaches middle school. PQ would be more likely to buy in (60-70% probability) with preference to the newer area south of 56. All elementary schools in all those area are very good, that is why in my OP I mentioned all schools are the same excellent level, because I don’t think any differences perceived from outside among those should influence a relocation decision.

[quote=Rustico]I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.[/quote]

[Scarlett]

In our case the mobility is due to being a renter and also possibly in the future due to job change.
It seems like we will have to move out of our current rental (various reasons) and we can opt to stay in the same attendance area (University City), or also nearby, in La Jolla. We are not likely to buy in those areas by the time she reaches middle school. PQ would be more likely to buy in (60-70% probability) with preference to the newer area south of 56. All elementary schools in all those area are very good, that is why in my OP I mentioned all schools are the same excellent level, because I don’t think any differences perceived from outside among those should influence a relocation decision.

[quote=Rustico]I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.[/quote]

[Scarlett]

In our case the mobility is due to being a renter and also possibly in the future due to job change.
It seems like we will have to move out of our current rental (various reasons) and we can opt to stay in the same attendance area (University City), or also nearby, in La Jolla. We are not likely to buy in those areas by the time she reaches middle school. PQ would be more likely to buy in (60-70% probability) with preference to the newer area south of 56. All elementary schools in all those area are very good, that is why in my OP I mentioned all schools are the same excellent level, because I don’t think any differences perceived from outside among those should influence a relocation decision.

[quote=Rustico]I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.[/quote]

[Scarlett]

In our case the mobility is due to being a renter and also possibly in the future due to job change.
It seems like we will have to move out of our current rental (various reasons) and we can opt to stay in the same attendance area (University City), or also nearby, in La Jolla. We are not likely to buy in those areas by the time she reaches middle school. PQ would be more likely to buy in (60-70% probability) with preference to the newer area south of 56. All elementary schools in all those area are very good, that is why in my OP I mentioned all schools are the same excellent level, because I don’t think any differences perceived from outside among those should influence a relocation decision.

[quote=Rustico]I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.[/quote]

[Scarlett]

In our case the mobility is due to being a renter and also possibly in the future due to job change.
It seems like we will have to move out of our current rental (various reasons) and we can opt to stay in the same attendance area (University City), or also nearby, in La Jolla. We are not likely to buy in those areas by the time she reaches middle school. PQ would be more likely to buy in (60-70% probability) with preference to the newer area south of 56. All elementary schools in all those area are very good, that is why in my OP I mentioned all schools are the same excellent level, because I don’t think any differences perceived from outside among those should influence a relocation decision.

[quote=Rustico]I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.[/quote]

[NotCranky]

Scarlett, I was addressing the collection of posts with some opinions. I think if use a few of the good suggestions people have given you into play,plus your own good ideas and knowledge of your child, things will be fine whatever you do.

We have three kids with different personalities and propensities for social intelligence. It would be quite complicated. We talked to one son about moving up a grade in the same school and it was obvious that just that was going to be complicated. He is reading and showing in depth comprehension at least 5 grades ahead and I could easily have him two or three grades ahead in math and science between now and the end of summer.It is not off the table yet either.

I almost started a thread on the topic of moving the child up, so this thread is interesting to me.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett, I was addressing the collection of posts with some opinions. I think if use a few of the good suggestions people have given you into play,plus your own good ideas and knowledge of your child, things will be fine whatever you do.

We have three kids with different personalities and propensities for social intelligence. It would be quite complicated. We talked to one son about moving up a grade in the same school and it was obvious that just that was going to be complicated. He is reading and showing in depth comprehension at least 5 grades ahead and I could easily have him two or three grades ahead in math and science between now and the end of summer.It is not off the table yet either.

I almost started a thread on the topic of moving the child up, so this thread is interesting to me.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett, I was addressing the collection of posts with some opinions. I think if use a few of the good suggestions people have given you into play,plus your own good ideas and knowledge of your child, things will be fine whatever you do.

We have three kids with different personalities and propensities for social intelligence. It would be quite complicated. We talked to one son about moving up a grade in the same school and it was obvious that just that was going to be complicated. He is reading and showing in depth comprehension at least 5 grades ahead and I could easily have him two or three grades ahead in math and science between now and the end of summer.It is not off the table yet either.

I almost started a thread on the topic of moving the child up, so this thread is interesting to me.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett, I was addressing the collection of posts with some opinions. I think if use a few of the good suggestions people have given you into play,plus your own good ideas and knowledge of your child, things will be fine whatever you do.

We have three kids with different personalities and propensities for social intelligence. It would be quite complicated. We talked to one son about moving up a grade in the same school and it was obvious that just that was going to be complicated. He is reading and showing in depth comprehension at least 5 grades ahead and I could easily have him two or three grades ahead in math and science between now and the end of summer.It is not off the table yet either.

I almost started a thread on the topic of moving the child up, so this thread is interesting to me.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett, I was addressing the collection of posts with some opinions. I think if use a few of the good suggestions people have given you into play,plus your own good ideas and knowledge of your child, things will be fine whatever you do.

We have three kids with different personalities and propensities for social intelligence. It would be quite complicated. We talked to one son about moving up a grade in the same school and it was obvious that just that was going to be complicated. He is reading and showing in depth comprehension at least 5 grades ahead and I could easily have him two or three grades ahead in math and science between now and the end of summer.It is not off the table yet either.

I almost started a thread on the topic of moving the child up, so this thread is interesting to me.

[LAAFTERHOURS]

I think it depends on the child’s ability to adapt. Also depends on the surrounding support system.

My parents moved by older bro and I from Huntington beach to philly suburbs when I was 9 and my brother was 13. Prior to our move, I was loving school, life etc. My brother was not loving it, as he was in special Gate programs (excelling scholastically but maybe not socially). When we moved, I hated it there and it took me about 5 years to like it. My brother on the other hand was in his element there, loved it and he has never left.

I told my wife that i wouldnt do that to our kids so I said if we are going to make a move its going to have to be before the eldest starts gradeschool.

[LAAFTERHOURS]

I think it depends on the child’s ability to adapt. Also depends on the surrounding support system.

My parents moved by older bro and I from Huntington beach to philly suburbs when I was 9 and my brother was 13. Prior to our move, I was loving school, life etc. My brother was not loving it, as he was in special Gate programs (excelling scholastically but maybe not socially). When we moved, I hated it there and it took me about 5 years to like it. My brother on the other hand was in his element there, loved it and he has never left.

I told my wife that i wouldnt do that to our kids so I said if we are going to make a move its going to have to be before the eldest starts gradeschool.

[LAAFTERHOURS]

I think it depends on the child’s ability to adapt. Also depends on the surrounding support system.

My parents moved by older bro and I from Huntington beach to philly suburbs when I was 9 and my brother was 13. Prior to our move, I was loving school, life etc. My brother was not loving it, as he was in special Gate programs (excelling scholastically but maybe not socially). When we moved, I hated it there and it took me about 5 years to like it. My brother on the other hand was in his element there, loved it and he has never left.

I told my wife that i wouldnt do that to our kids so I said if we are going to make a move its going to have to be before the eldest starts gradeschool.

[LAAFTERHOURS]

I think it depends on the child’s ability to adapt. Also depends on the surrounding support system.

My parents moved by older bro and I from Huntington beach to philly suburbs when I was 9 and my brother was 13. Prior to our move, I was loving school, life etc. My brother was not loving it, as he was in special Gate programs (excelling scholastically but maybe not socially). When we moved, I hated it there and it took me about 5 years to like it. My brother on the other hand was in his element there, loved it and he has never left.

I told my wife that i wouldnt do that to our kids so I said if we are going to make a move its going to have to be before the eldest starts gradeschool.

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