OT: how disruptive is for kids to change school districts?

[SK in CV]

As long as they like the new school better than the old school, it won’t be a problem. That might sound like a stupid obvious response, but I think preparation might be the most important part of a change like this.

My kids, both beyond college age now, both changed schools twice, once during elementary school (same district, different school) and once later, my daughter was in middle school, son entering his sophomore year in high school. All of the changes were made specifically for them, no move was involved in the first, and in the second we moved from the Poway school district to Carmel Valley specifically because of the schools.

We prepared them. They were unhappy where they were. We made sure their were groups for them to participate in before the move happened. And despite my skepticism, all the moves proved to be almost seamless and beneficial. Particularly the 2nd move. Of course there was some stress, but they adapted amazingly fast.

[sdduuuude]

It is something I would try to avoid. , but if you have to, then you have to. Just don’t spring it on them all of the sudden. As the previous poster said – prepare them for it in advance – I say months or years in advance if possible. Try to meet kids in the school through the neighborhood as early as you can. Finding clubs and activities is also a great idea.

[sdduuuude]

It is something I would try to avoid. , but if you have to, then you have to. Just don’t spring it on them all of the sudden. As the previous poster said – prepare them for it in advance – I say months or years in advance if possible. Try to meet kids in the school through the neighborhood as early as you can. Finding clubs and activities is also a great idea.

[sdduuuude]

It is something I would try to avoid. , but if you have to, then you have to. Just don’t spring it on them all of the sudden. As the previous poster said – prepare them for it in advance – I say months or years in advance if possible. Try to meet kids in the school through the neighborhood as early as you can. Finding clubs and activities is also a great idea.

[sdduuuude]

It is something I would try to avoid. , but if you have to, then you have to. Just don’t spring it on them all of the sudden. As the previous poster said – prepare them for it in advance – I say months or years in advance if possible. Try to meet kids in the school through the neighborhood as early as you can. Finding clubs and activities is also a great idea.

[sdduuuude]

It is something I would try to avoid. , but if you have to, then you have to. Just don’t spring it on them all of the sudden. As the previous poster said – prepare them for it in advance – I say months or years in advance if possible. Try to meet kids in the school through the neighborhood as early as you can. Finding clubs and activities is also a great idea.

[NotCranky]

I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.

[NotCranky]

I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.

[NotCranky]

I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.

[NotCranky]

I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.

[NotCranky]

I agree with sddddude, Kids are preserving and developing their social intelligence. Disrupting this process poses its own risks. Our kids are in a low scoring primary school in a decent district. The social environment is fine, great actually. We chose to compensate for the academics directly, with the help of teachers and staff, as opposed to choosing “flight”. The mobility born of competitiveness in our society can be dangerous to people’s health. Our kids are happy and scoring in the high 90th percentile and national tests even though they are in a bilingual program that is supposed to slow them down initially, with the rewards kicking in around the 5th grade.

I am also concerned that “flight” has negative modeling elements for the kids. It tells them that they are going to get what they get out of life,more because of their herd, than because of themselves.I like the fact that my kids are involved with a variety of kids from families with varied financial and academic accomplishment levels.My kids are in the first and second grade in groups that have kids who can’t read in any language and kids that are grade level or multiple grade levels ahead in every area they are tested for. I don’t see any serious disadvantage for the higher achievers.

[Scarlett]

Wow, thanks, it’s very useful, especially to know how other people dealt with it. Our daughter so far changed 3 daycares/preschools and 2 houses with no issue at all. We include her when we visit the most interesting potential houses for rent/buy and see/ask what she likes (or not) about a house. We personally care what she thinks about a place, but we don’t let her think she has a real say in the matter. She’s pretty easygoing and liked a good number of places we saw. So far she didn’t have any problems with those changes, but she was young. She is pretty outgoing and makes friends easily – so far. I realize though that this change is of a different nature that would come on top of a change of housing.

Good idea to time the school change with the transition from elementary to middle school. She would be told years before that she will have to make this transition, but she can still meet/keep in touch with her current friends.

thanks!

[Scarlett]

Wow, thanks, it’s very useful, especially to know how other people dealt with it. Our daughter so far changed 3 daycares/preschools and 2 houses with no issue at all. We include her when we visit the most interesting potential houses for rent/buy and see/ask what she likes (or not) about a house. We personally care what she thinks about a place, but we don’t let her think she has a real say in the matter. She’s pretty easygoing and liked a good number of places we saw. So far she didn’t have any problems with those changes, but she was young. She is pretty outgoing and makes friends easily – so far. I realize though that this change is of a different nature that would come on top of a change of housing.

Good idea to time the school change with the transition from elementary to middle school. She would be told years before that she will have to make this transition, but she can still meet/keep in touch with her current friends.

thanks!

[Scarlett]

Wow, thanks, it’s very useful, especially to know how other people dealt with it. Our daughter so far changed 3 daycares/preschools and 2 houses with no issue at all. We include her when we visit the most interesting potential houses for rent/buy and see/ask what she likes (or not) about a house. We personally care what she thinks about a place, but we don’t let her think she has a real say in the matter. She’s pretty easygoing and liked a good number of places we saw. So far she didn’t have any problems with those changes, but she was young. She is pretty outgoing and makes friends easily – so far. I realize though that this change is of a different nature that would come on top of a change of housing.

Good idea to time the school change with the transition from elementary to middle school. She would be told years before that she will have to make this transition, but she can still meet/keep in touch with her current friends.

thanks!

[Scarlett]

Wow, thanks, it’s very useful, especially to know how other people dealt with it. Our daughter so far changed 3 daycares/preschools and 2 houses with no issue at all. We include her when we visit the most interesting potential houses for rent/buy and see/ask what she likes (or not) about a house. We personally care what she thinks about a place, but we don’t let her think she has a real say in the matter. She’s pretty easygoing and liked a good number of places we saw. So far she didn’t have any problems with those changes, but she was young. She is pretty outgoing and makes friends easily – so far. I realize though that this change is of a different nature that would come on top of a change of housing.

Good idea to time the school change with the transition from elementary to middle school. She would be told years before that she will have to make this transition, but she can still meet/keep in touch with her current friends.

thanks!

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