OT: how disruptive is for kids to change school districts?

[LAAFTERHOURS]

I think it depends on the child’s ability to adapt. Also depends on the surrounding support system.

My parents moved by older bro and I from Huntington beach to philly suburbs when I was 9 and my brother was 13. Prior to our move, I was loving school, life etc. My brother was not loving it, as he was in special Gate programs (excelling scholastically but maybe not socially). When we moved, I hated it there and it took me about 5 years to like it. My brother on the other hand was in his element there, loved it and he has never left.

I told my wife that i wouldnt do that to our kids so I said if we are going to make a move its going to have to be before the eldest starts gradeschool.

[Scarlett]

Thank you Rustico, I know you were talking with your experience in mind. In principal I agree with your opinions you have expressed in the previous post. It seems that your son’s school has great teachers/staff quite willing to help kids achieve their potential, and stimulating kids that are more advanced too, rather than make them bored and disinterested. For us, since we have to move around it’s more difficult to choose – too many choices!!! and you don’t really know how good a school is for your kid until after the fact. If we’d already own a place somewhere we’d make do, too, unless major problems/unhappiness. But since we have to choose a place…

With children of different personalities…it must be really tough choice.

About moving a child up…as you realize, it depends… If the child is quite hungry to excel, quite competitive – I think in the long run he would be better off skipping one grade, especially if he will end up doing graduate studies. But keeping him in the same school while doing that might accentuate the inherent social problems. It might be better off at a new school at the begining of Middle school (i.e. skip the last elementary year – don’t know if he’s still in elementary or not)…so his “skipping” is not sticking out much. It can be very problematic still seeing his classmates he left behind, and the new ones maybe being mean to him.

[Scarlett]

Thank you Rustico, I know you were talking with your experience in mind. In principal I agree with your opinions you have expressed in the previous post. It seems that your son’s school has great teachers/staff quite willing to help kids achieve their potential, and stimulating kids that are more advanced too, rather than make them bored and disinterested. For us, since we have to move around it’s more difficult to choose – too many choices!!! and you don’t really know how good a school is for your kid until after the fact. If we’d already own a place somewhere we’d make do, too, unless major problems/unhappiness. But since we have to choose a place…

With children of different personalities…it must be really tough choice.

About moving a child up…as you realize, it depends… If the child is quite hungry to excel, quite competitive – I think in the long run he would be better off skipping one grade, especially if he will end up doing graduate studies. But keeping him in the same school while doing that might accentuate the inherent social problems. It might be better off at a new school at the begining of Middle school (i.e. skip the last elementary year – don’t know if he’s still in elementary or not)…so his “skipping” is not sticking out much. It can be very problematic still seeing his classmates he left behind, and the new ones maybe being mean to him.

[Scarlett]

Thank you Rustico, I know you were talking with your experience in mind. In principal I agree with your opinions you have expressed in the previous post. It seems that your son’s school has great teachers/staff quite willing to help kids achieve their potential, and stimulating kids that are more advanced too, rather than make them bored and disinterested. For us, since we have to move around it’s more difficult to choose – too many choices!!! and you don’t really know how good a school is for your kid until after the fact. If we’d already own a place somewhere we’d make do, too, unless major problems/unhappiness. But since we have to choose a place…

With children of different personalities…it must be really tough choice.

About moving a child up…as you realize, it depends… If the child is quite hungry to excel, quite competitive – I think in the long run he would be better off skipping one grade, especially if he will end up doing graduate studies. But keeping him in the same school while doing that might accentuate the inherent social problems. It might be better off at a new school at the begining of Middle school (i.e. skip the last elementary year – don’t know if he’s still in elementary or not)…so his “skipping” is not sticking out much. It can be very problematic still seeing his classmates he left behind, and the new ones maybe being mean to him.

[Scarlett]

Thank you Rustico, I know you were talking with your experience in mind. In principal I agree with your opinions you have expressed in the previous post. It seems that your son’s school has great teachers/staff quite willing to help kids achieve their potential, and stimulating kids that are more advanced too, rather than make them bored and disinterested. For us, since we have to move around it’s more difficult to choose – too many choices!!! and you don’t really know how good a school is for your kid until after the fact. If we’d already own a place somewhere we’d make do, too, unless major problems/unhappiness. But since we have to choose a place…

With children of different personalities…it must be really tough choice.

About moving a child up…as you realize, it depends… If the child is quite hungry to excel, quite competitive – I think in the long run he would be better off skipping one grade, especially if he will end up doing graduate studies. But keeping him in the same school while doing that might accentuate the inherent social problems. It might be better off at a new school at the begining of Middle school (i.e. skip the last elementary year – don’t know if he’s still in elementary or not)…so his “skipping” is not sticking out much. It can be very problematic still seeing his classmates he left behind, and the new ones maybe being mean to him.

[Scarlett]

Thank you Rustico, I know you were talking with your experience in mind. In principal I agree with your opinions you have expressed in the previous post. It seems that your son’s school has great teachers/staff quite willing to help kids achieve their potential, and stimulating kids that are more advanced too, rather than make them bored and disinterested. For us, since we have to move around it’s more difficult to choose – too many choices!!! and you don’t really know how good a school is for your kid until after the fact. If we’d already own a place somewhere we’d make do, too, unless major problems/unhappiness. But since we have to choose a place…

With children of different personalities…it must be really tough choice.

About moving a child up…as you realize, it depends… If the child is quite hungry to excel, quite competitive – I think in the long run he would be better off skipping one grade, especially if he will end up doing graduate studies. But keeping him in the same school while doing that might accentuate the inherent social problems. It might be better off at a new school at the begining of Middle school (i.e. skip the last elementary year – don’t know if he’s still in elementary or not)…so his “skipping” is not sticking out much. It can be very problematic still seeing his classmates he left behind, and the new ones maybe being mean to him.

[CBad]

I don’t want to threadjack but Rus, my 3 kids are all up one grade. But I homeschool them so I guess it’s not as complicated of a situation (depending on how you look at it) as in public school.

As for changing schools, my family moved when I was 11 and 17. I’m not going to sugarcoat; it sucked both times in different ways. There are 5 kids in my family and I saw how it affected us all differently (the 2nd move I was the only one affected). Like someone else said, it really depends on the child and the situation. I think changing schools can be a good thing if the child is having problems at the current school. For example, my brother struggled in school and when we moved, my parents decided to have him repeat the 8th grade. Since it was a new school in a totally different state, no one knew and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to him both academically and socially. Personally I wouldn’t do it if my child was doing really well at a particular school and it could be avoided.

[CBad]

I don’t want to threadjack but Rus, my 3 kids are all up one grade. But I homeschool them so I guess it’s not as complicated of a situation (depending on how you look at it) as in public school.

As for changing schools, my family moved when I was 11 and 17. I’m not going to sugarcoat; it sucked both times in different ways. There are 5 kids in my family and I saw how it affected us all differently (the 2nd move I was the only one affected). Like someone else said, it really depends on the child and the situation. I think changing schools can be a good thing if the child is having problems at the current school. For example, my brother struggled in school and when we moved, my parents decided to have him repeat the 8th grade. Since it was a new school in a totally different state, no one knew and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to him both academically and socially. Personally I wouldn’t do it if my child was doing really well at a particular school and it could be avoided.

[CBad]

I don’t want to threadjack but Rus, my 3 kids are all up one grade. But I homeschool them so I guess it’s not as complicated of a situation (depending on how you look at it) as in public school.

As for changing schools, my family moved when I was 11 and 17. I’m not going to sugarcoat; it sucked both times in different ways. There are 5 kids in my family and I saw how it affected us all differently (the 2nd move I was the only one affected). Like someone else said, it really depends on the child and the situation. I think changing schools can be a good thing if the child is having problems at the current school. For example, my brother struggled in school and when we moved, my parents decided to have him repeat the 8th grade. Since it was a new school in a totally different state, no one knew and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to him both academically and socially. Personally I wouldn’t do it if my child was doing really well at a particular school and it could be avoided.

[CBad]

I don’t want to threadjack but Rus, my 3 kids are all up one grade. But I homeschool them so I guess it’s not as complicated of a situation (depending on how you look at it) as in public school.

As for changing schools, my family moved when I was 11 and 17. I’m not going to sugarcoat; it sucked both times in different ways. There are 5 kids in my family and I saw how it affected us all differently (the 2nd move I was the only one affected). Like someone else said, it really depends on the child and the situation. I think changing schools can be a good thing if the child is having problems at the current school. For example, my brother struggled in school and when we moved, my parents decided to have him repeat the 8th grade. Since it was a new school in a totally different state, no one knew and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to him both academically and socially. Personally I wouldn’t do it if my child was doing really well at a particular school and it could be avoided.

[CBad]

I don’t want to threadjack but Rus, my 3 kids are all up one grade. But I homeschool them so I guess it’s not as complicated of a situation (depending on how you look at it) as in public school.

As for changing schools, my family moved when I was 11 and 17. I’m not going to sugarcoat; it sucked both times in different ways. There are 5 kids in my family and I saw how it affected us all differently (the 2nd move I was the only one affected). Like someone else said, it really depends on the child and the situation. I think changing schools can be a good thing if the child is having problems at the current school. For example, my brother struggled in school and when we moved, my parents decided to have him repeat the 8th grade. Since it was a new school in a totally different state, no one knew and it turned out to be the best thing that happened to him both academically and socially. Personally I wouldn’t do it if my child was doing really well at a particular school and it could be avoided.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett,Thanks for the tips. We are very grateful that the teachers help prevent the boredom problems so many talk about.We have stepped up a couple of times to help them guide his challenges.

The son we thought about moving up is in the second grade.The idea of moving him up causes separation anxiety (from his peers).The school is only first second and third, so he would go to a new campus ahead of the rest.He has been on sports teams with some of his classmates too. We live in the country side so his friends are not easily accessible outside of the of school. We are thinking about letting him hang in there and self pacing him until he hits GATE classes and hoping that a few of his friends will go with him. Then again, as mentioned on other threads, Gate is no sure thing…we really haven’t studied/discussed the pro’s and con’s of that.

Cbad, I can see how your kids are all a grade ahead. Our second boy, who is in first grade, is going on the same progression as his brother. So are the children of the other most involved parents… Trying to find the balance.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett,Thanks for the tips. We are very grateful that the teachers help prevent the boredom problems so many talk about.We have stepped up a couple of times to help them guide his challenges.

The son we thought about moving up is in the second grade.The idea of moving him up causes separation anxiety (from his peers).The school is only first second and third, so he would go to a new campus ahead of the rest.He has been on sports teams with some of his classmates too. We live in the country side so his friends are not easily accessible outside of the of school. We are thinking about letting him hang in there and self pacing him until he hits GATE classes and hoping that a few of his friends will go with him. Then again, as mentioned on other threads, Gate is no sure thing…we really haven’t studied/discussed the pro’s and con’s of that.

Cbad, I can see how your kids are all a grade ahead. Our second boy, who is in first grade, is going on the same progression as his brother. So are the children of the other most involved parents… Trying to find the balance.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett,Thanks for the tips. We are very grateful that the teachers help prevent the boredom problems so many talk about.We have stepped up a couple of times to help them guide his challenges.

The son we thought about moving up is in the second grade.The idea of moving him up causes separation anxiety (from his peers).The school is only first second and third, so he would go to a new campus ahead of the rest.He has been on sports teams with some of his classmates too. We live in the country side so his friends are not easily accessible outside of the of school. We are thinking about letting him hang in there and self pacing him until he hits GATE classes and hoping that a few of his friends will go with him. Then again, as mentioned on other threads, Gate is no sure thing…we really haven’t studied/discussed the pro’s and con’s of that.

Cbad, I can see how your kids are all a grade ahead. Our second boy, who is in first grade, is going on the same progression as his brother. So are the children of the other most involved parents… Trying to find the balance.

[NotCranky]

Scarlett,Thanks for the tips. We are very grateful that the teachers help prevent the boredom problems so many talk about.We have stepped up a couple of times to help them guide his challenges.

The son we thought about moving up is in the second grade.The idea of moving him up causes separation anxiety (from his peers).The school is only first second and third, so he would go to a new campus ahead of the rest.He has been on sports teams with some of his classmates too. We live in the country side so his friends are not easily accessible outside of the of school. We are thinking about letting him hang in there and self pacing him until he hits GATE classes and hoping that a few of his friends will go with him. Then again, as mentioned on other threads, Gate is no sure thing…we really haven’t studied/discussed the pro’s and con’s of that.

Cbad, I can see how your kids are all a grade ahead. Our second boy, who is in first grade, is going on the same progression as his brother. So are the children of the other most involved parents… Trying to find the balance.

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