OT: how disruptive is for kids to change school districts?

[Ren]

[quote=Scarlett]Yeah, 10 minutes extra commute would be worth it, I agree. MY real problem is, how do I know I will end up buying in PQ? It’s likely, but we liked other areas as well. Shall we restrict ourselves to buying only in PQ area of attendance for my kid’s high school and doing so only at the end of elementary school at the earliest?

What if we end up not buying in PQ – maybe we discover by renting that we don’t really like it enough to buy in it – for whatever reasons? (and we end up moving one more time!)[/quote]

Like realtors here have said, sometimes even neighborhoods that are only a few streets apart have a completely different feel to them. Personally, I’m going to attempt to make sure there are many areas in the same district that appeal to me, and I’m starting the research now, 2 years ahead of time. If I buy a house and the neighborhood turns out to be a complete freak show, I want a way out that won’t involve changing schools.

[quote]Is the kid’s emotional/social stability that important so that to seriously limit or force to buy in a certain area (assuming we should buy in the end)? Isn’t that too much importance attributed to it?[/quote]

This is why I’m giving the neighborhood selection very nearly as much consideration as the school district. If I can’t find several suitable neighborhoods in my first choice of district, then I’ll look at neighborhoods in my second choice of disctrict.

Of course you have to draw the line somewhere, but we also want to be in a position where finances won’t be a big part of the equation. If someone offers me a job 50 miles away with a 20% raise, it shouldn’t even be tempting, because we won’t need it.

There are some extreme opinions on how much consideration shoud be given to a child’s feelings. My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.

[briansd1]

[quote=Ren] My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.[/quote]

Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.

[briansd1]

[quote=Ren] My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.[/quote]

Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.

[briansd1]

[quote=Ren] My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.[/quote]

Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.

[briansd1]

[quote=Ren] My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.[/quote]

Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.

[briansd1]

[quote=Ren] My wife thinks that as soon as we had them, our lives became ALL about them. Some will treat their kids as they were treated, like just so much baggage, which is sad. I’m somewhere between the two – kids are people, too, but that doesn’t mean we cease to be important as adults.[/quote]

Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.

[Ren]

[quote=briansd1]Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

It’s not over parenting, it’s stability. They get to stay in the same place and keep their friends, and if we prepare well, it doesn’t inconvenience us in the slightest. We’re picking the neighborhood that WE want to live in, one that’s good for kids as well.

But, for example, if they want a car, they get to pay for it themselves. We want them to feel grounded, but we won’t coddle or spoil them.

[Ren]

[quote=briansd1]Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

It’s not over parenting, it’s stability. They get to stay in the same place and keep their friends, and if we prepare well, it doesn’t inconvenience us in the slightest. We’re picking the neighborhood that WE want to live in, one that’s good for kids as well.

But, for example, if they want a car, they get to pay for it themselves. We want them to feel grounded, but we won’t coddle or spoil them.

[Ren]

[quote=briansd1]Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

It’s not over parenting, it’s stability. They get to stay in the same place and keep their friends, and if we prepare well, it doesn’t inconvenience us in the slightest. We’re picking the neighborhood that WE want to live in, one that’s good for kids as well.

But, for example, if they want a car, they get to pay for it themselves. We want them to feel grounded, but we won’t coddle or spoil them.

[Ren]

[quote=briansd1]Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

It’s not over parenting, it’s stability. They get to stay in the same place and keep their friends, and if we prepare well, it doesn’t inconvenience us in the slightest. We’re picking the neighborhood that WE want to live in, one that’s good for kids as well.

But, for example, if they want a car, they get to pay for it themselves. We want them to feel grounded, but we won’t coddle or spoil them.

[Ren]

[quote=briansd1]Over parenting can create kids who are emotionally needy and unable to cope.

IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

It’s not over parenting, it’s stability. They get to stay in the same place and keep their friends, and if we prepare well, it doesn’t inconvenience us in the slightest. We’re picking the neighborhood that WE want to live in, one that’s good for kids as well.

But, for example, if they want a car, they get to pay for it themselves. We want them to feel grounded, but we won’t coddle or spoil them.

[UCGal]

[quote=briansd1]
IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

IMO if you take parenting or marriage advice from a single guy, you deserve what you get.

And if you’re talking about whiny spouses who expect to be indulged, you married the wrong person.

No offense, Brian… but you lack a certain credibility.

[UCGal]

[quote=briansd1]
IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

IMO if you take parenting or marriage advice from a single guy, you deserve what you get.

And if you’re talking about whiny spouses who expect to be indulged, you married the wrong person.

No offense, Brian… but you lack a certain credibility.

[UCGal]

[quote=briansd1]
IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

IMO if you take parenting or marriage advice from a single guy, you deserve what you get.

And if you’re talking about whiny spouses who expect to be indulged, you married the wrong person.

No offense, Brian… but you lack a certain credibility.

[UCGal]

[quote=briansd1]
IMHO, if you indulge your wife or your kids, they will become whiny and always ask things of you instead of doing themselves.[/quote]

IMO if you take parenting or marriage advice from a single guy, you deserve what you get.

And if you’re talking about whiny spouses who expect to be indulged, you married the wrong person.

No offense, Brian… but you lack a certain credibility.

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