[beanmaestro]

Baaack over here on topic, a couple of thoughts from my own experience:

Your husband’s opinion is waaay more important that your family’s. We were in a similar situation a year ago (I was the spouse on the fence, she loved it) and bought the house. The naysayers have long forgotten about their dislike, and my wife thanks me weekly. With kisses.

Regarding the baby and the moving, try to see the timing as a mixed blessing. Fixing it up and moving in will take a month, but then you may never have to move again (moving with a 3-month old won’t be any easier, and could be a lot harder). Pay an extra month of rent at your current place to lower the stress. Enlist friends and family (who are usually looking for ways to help the new mother) to lift and paint. Get your husband to agree that moving into his dream house right now will require him to use his paternity leave. Your job can be to sit in the middle of the scene and direct the volunteers, and no one will begrudge it.

[beanmaestro]

Baaack over here on topic, a couple of thoughts from my own experience:

Your husband’s opinion is waaay more important that your family’s. We were in a similar situation a year ago (I was the spouse on the fence, she loved it) and bought the house. The naysayers have long forgotten about their dislike, and my wife thanks me weekly. With kisses.

Regarding the baby and the moving, try to see the timing as a mixed blessing. Fixing it up and moving in will take a month, but then you may never have to move again (moving with a 3-month old won’t be any easier, and could be a lot harder). Pay an extra month of rent at your current place to lower the stress. Enlist friends and family (who are usually looking for ways to help the new mother) to lift and paint. Get your husband to agree that moving into his dream house right now will require him to use his paternity leave. Your job can be to sit in the middle of the scene and direct the volunteers, and no one will begrudge it.

[beanmaestro]

I’ll let the lawyers & landlords give opinions on how to break a lease, but you might decide that paying an extra month’s rent isn’t so bad. Especially if your closing slips past Dec 15ish.

I think you’d be doing really well if you manage to close around the 15th and be completely moved in by Dec 31. It took us 3 weeks and a bunch of help from our friends to do some small upgrades (new furnace, new bathroom fans, hot tub wiring, some drywall work), paint the house, move everything in, and clean out the old place. We made good time, but we really needed another week. So, while your specifics may be different, think through exactly what you want done before you move your shit in, and allow one more week than you think you need.

[beanmaestro]

I’ll let the lawyers & landlords give opinions on how to break a lease, but you might decide that paying an extra month’s rent isn’t so bad. Especially if your closing slips past Dec 15ish.

I think you’d be doing really well if you manage to close around the 15th and be completely moved in by Dec 31. It took us 3 weeks and a bunch of help from our friends to do some small upgrades (new furnace, new bathroom fans, hot tub wiring, some drywall work), paint the house, move everything in, and clean out the old place. We made good time, but we really needed another week. So, while your specifics may be different, think through exactly what you want done before you move your shit in, and allow one more week than you think you need.

[beanmaestro]

I’ll let the lawyers & landlords give opinions on how to break a lease, but you might decide that paying an extra month’s rent isn’t so bad. Especially if your closing slips past Dec 15ish.

I think you’d be doing really well if you manage to close around the 15th and be completely moved in by Dec 31. It took us 3 weeks and a bunch of help from our friends to do some small upgrades (new furnace, new bathroom fans, hot tub wiring, some drywall work), paint the house, move everything in, and clean out the old place. We made good time, but we really needed another week. So, while your specifics may be different, think through exactly what you want done before you move your shit in, and allow one more week than you think you need.

[beanmaestro]

I’ll let the lawyers & landlords give opinions on how to break a lease, but you might decide that paying an extra month’s rent isn’t so bad. Especially if your closing slips past Dec 15ish.

I think you’d be doing really well if you manage to close around the 15th and be completely moved in by Dec 31. It took us 3 weeks and a bunch of help from our friends to do some small upgrades (new furnace, new bathroom fans, hot tub wiring, some drywall work), paint the house, move everything in, and clean out the old place. We made good time, but we really needed another week. So, while your specifics may be different, think through exactly what you want done before you move your shit in, and allow one more week than you think you need.

[beanmaestro]

I’ll let the lawyers & landlords give opinions on how to break a lease, but you might decide that paying an extra month’s rent isn’t so bad. Especially if your closing slips past Dec 15ish.

I think you’d be doing really well if you manage to close around the 15th and be completely moved in by Dec 31. It took us 3 weeks and a bunch of help from our friends to do some small upgrades (new furnace, new bathroom fans, hot tub wiring, some drywall work), paint the house, move everything in, and clean out the old place. We made good time, but we really needed another week. So, while your specifics may be different, think through exactly what you want done before you move your shit in, and allow one more week than you think you need.

[beanmaestro]

I didn’t have a cell phone until this time last year. Same as you, I really don’t think there’s that much that can’t wait until I get home or back to my desk. Work wants me to carry a cell or a pager, but thankfully only calls me on it a couple times a week.

But my wife pestered me about it (for about five years), so I ended up putting a pay as you go SIM card into her old flip phone. 11 months into the phone, I think I’ve used $75 worth of minutes (about an hour of talking a month). It probably helps that I leave it home or don’t notice that it’s out of charge about a quarter of the time. However, our first son is due in a couple weeks, so I actually am keeping it charged this month 🙂

[beanmaestro]

I didn’t have a cell phone until this time last year. Same as you, I really don’t think there’s that much that can’t wait until I get home or back to my desk. Work wants me to carry a cell or a pager, but thankfully only calls me on it a couple times a week.

But my wife pestered me about it (for about five years), so I ended up putting a pay as you go SIM card into her old flip phone. 11 months into the phone, I think I’ve used $75 worth of minutes (about an hour of talking a month). It probably helps that I leave it home or don’t notice that it’s out of charge about a quarter of the time. However, our first son is due in a couple weeks, so I actually am keeping it charged this month 🙂

[beanmaestro]

I didn’t have a cell phone until this time last year. Same as you, I really don’t think there’s that much that can’t wait until I get home or back to my desk. Work wants me to carry a cell or a pager, but thankfully only calls me on it a couple times a week.

But my wife pestered me about it (for about five years), so I ended up putting a pay as you go SIM card into her old flip phone. 11 months into the phone, I think I’ve used $75 worth of minutes (about an hour of talking a month). It probably helps that I leave it home or don’t notice that it’s out of charge about a quarter of the time. However, our first son is due in a couple weeks, so I actually am keeping it charged this month 🙂

[beanmaestro]

I didn’t have a cell phone until this time last year. Same as you, I really don’t think there’s that much that can’t wait until I get home or back to my desk. Work wants me to carry a cell or a pager, but thankfully only calls me on it a couple times a week.

But my wife pestered me about it (for about five years), so I ended up putting a pay as you go SIM card into her old flip phone. 11 months into the phone, I think I’ve used $75 worth of minutes (about an hour of talking a month). It probably helps that I leave it home or don’t notice that it’s out of charge about a quarter of the time. However, our first son is due in a couple weeks, so I actually am keeping it charged this month 🙂

[beanmaestro]

I didn’t have a cell phone until this time last year. Same as you, I really don’t think there’s that much that can’t wait until I get home or back to my desk. Work wants me to carry a cell or a pager, but thankfully only calls me on it a couple times a week.

But my wife pestered me about it (for about five years), so I ended up putting a pay as you go SIM card into her old flip phone. 11 months into the phone, I think I’ve used $75 worth of minutes (about an hour of talking a month). It probably helps that I leave it home or don’t notice that it’s out of charge about a quarter of the time. However, our first son is due in a couple weeks, so I actually am keeping it charged this month 🙂

[beanmaestro]

[quote=briansd1]However, each bedroom should have its own bath, in today’s modern world (even if a small European style bath with shower only).
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Can you explain that, Brian? I’d say you need bathrooms equal to half the bedrooms, rounded up.

I’ve been in 3/4’s and 4/4’s before, and can’t begin to figure out what the point of the extra bathrooms is. Is that just in case you have bunch of daughters who wear a half-hour of make-up every day?

[beanmaestro]

[quote=briansd1]However, each bedroom should have its own bath, in today’s modern world (even if a small European style bath with shower only).
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Can you explain that, Brian? I’d say you need bathrooms equal to half the bedrooms, rounded up.

I’ve been in 3/4’s and 4/4’s before, and can’t begin to figure out what the point of the extra bathrooms is. Is that just in case you have bunch of daughters who wear a half-hour of make-up every day?

[beanmaestro]

[quote=briansd1]However, each bedroom should have its own bath, in today’s modern world (even if a small European style bath with shower only).
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Can you explain that, Brian? I’d say you need bathrooms equal to half the bedrooms, rounded up.

I’ve been in 3/4’s and 4/4’s before, and can’t begin to figure out what the point of the extra bathrooms is. Is that just in case you have bunch of daughters who wear a half-hour of make-up every day?

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