Should we stay or should we go?

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=sdrealtor][quote=flyer][quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

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So what would your advice be to your tenants with an empty space in their souls?[/quote]

Any home no matter how small can have a little space for meditation with an altar.

[scaredyclassic]

Replace soul with ego, and expression with display, and it isnt esoteric at all !

The dream home is a display of the ego. At least it is for me. Theres no additional utility.

My ego is sometimes filled with pride when i look around my home and i feel slightly superior when i display it to other people, because my home is nicer than pretty much anyone in the worlds.

My soul, however, assuming what i identify as my soul or spirit actually exists, and isnt just some particular chemical activity, is usually not interested in my house. Generally…however—

We do bodily get accustomed to specific spots though. Query: there are 3 toilets in the house. Why would i only ever consider pooping in one of them. Or even peeing?

I pee outside way before id pee on those other 2 toilets. I believe my soul needs the quiet of this one bathroom to properly poop. It has no window for starters. And its very small in there. Just roomy enougg 4 a soul. Pooping in those lrge lighted toilets feels wrong to my heart.

In buying your dream home, masayako, i would be sure to quietly sit upon each toilet for 5 minutes in this home. Make the agent go outside. Think: can i poop freely here? If no toilet provides peace….then pass…it may be the case that you no longer even wish to poop in california.

[Hobie]

[quote=masayako]but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill[/quote]

This is your limiting factor. IMHO, with this mind set you can never be satisfied. It’s not about taxes.

Once you figure out why you have this need for mega home, you might have a change in attitude.

IMHO, buy yourself a couple of modest homes in places you like. As mentioned, enjoy your family as life ends too quickly.

Enrich your life by mentoring young people as you have the gift of making money. Watching them grow and succeed will give you more satisfaction that sitting on a yacht or in a mega home. Become an Angel investor.

Serious post. Good Luck.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=flyer][quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

We also live in other places, but still keep our dream home here. Granted, if you waited to purchase your dream home or other properties until now, they, and taxes, are going to be a lot more expensive than they were in the past. Meeting the requirements to keep a tax base in another state or country is something you might want to investigate. There are (legal) ways to have the best of all worlds.

We also have lots of family here, kids, friends etc., and take care of several family members who need care, vs. placing them in facilities. We have them taken care of in the way we would want to be treated, and are glad to do it. A few hugs a day means more to them than any amount of money every could.

Even with the best diet, exercise and mental health aspects of life covered, when you see how life can change on a dime wrt one’s health, it’s clear that making the most of what you have each day is the best way to go, and I wish you the best in your quest.[/quote]

Thank you so much for the advice. My in-laws will go with us if we decide to move out of CA. They are being very flexible. I completely agree with you that it boils down to where you want to be and what we are willing to scarifice (friends in CA etc). It’s so hard.[/quote]

Glad to know my thoughts were helpful, but please, don’t construe them as advice, because it’s best that you make your own decisions. That said, here are a few more thoughts:

I think the reason you are having such a hard time with this, is that you really do feel a strong attachment to CA and all that only it has to offer, yet, you also feel pragmatically compelled to evaluate the financial realities of staying in CA.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

If you find the home and location you can’t live without in CA, vs. elsewhere, run the numbers long term, and even if the home is more than the equivalent elsewhere, including taxes, property taxes, etc. if you feel you can afford it, it would seem you have your answer. Other than what you wish to leave to your family and/or friends, leaving multiple millions on the table would not seem necessary. Again, just my thoughts.[/quote]

We had a few odd moments when living in our downtown condo, looking down at homeless folk, being woken up by their occasional tirade.

I watched a homeless lady meticulously cleaning her feet by the gutter from the balcony for 30 minutes.

Time for me to tuck into bed! Take one last look at those dudes flat on the cold concrete! Night nite! Sleep tite! Seriousy dont let the bedbugs bite!

Me, I need finer sheets. I think my soul needs a better thread count!

I felt sort of bad, but frankly, my soul felt sort of good for feeling bad. Also of course, theres the relief im not them. A cautionary tale of not getting with The Program.

I watched an ancient dude enjoying the hell out of a can of coke. Youd think he never had a drink of soda in his life. Was he just acting? But if so, for who? He hadnt seen me watching. SO much gusto.

Dude had soul.

Perhaps my true dream home needs to be surrounded by the destitute, ot least lesser blessed, for comparison purpose. Perhaps a mansion surrounded by a trailer park, or a castle ringed with beggars.

What about that house in Parasite. I liked that one! The way we express our souls in the usa is consumption, so dont be cheap…

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=flyer][quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

We also live in other places, but still keep our dream home here. Granted, if you waited to purchase your dream home or other properties until now, they, and taxes, are going to be a lot more expensive than they were in the past. Meeting the requirements to keep a tax base in another state or country is something you might want to investigate. There are (legal) ways to have the best of all worlds.

We also have lots of family here, kids, friends etc., and take care of several family members who need care, vs. placing them in facilities. We have them taken care of in the way we would want to be treated, and are glad to do it. A few hugs a day means more to them than any amount of money every could.

Even with the best diet, exercise and mental health aspects of life covered, when you see how life can change on a dime wrt one’s health, it’s clear that making the most of what you have each day is the best way to go, and I wish you the best in your quest.[/quote]

Thank you so much for the advice. My in-laws will go with us if we decide to move out of CA. They are being very flexible. I completely agree with you that it boils down to where you want to be and what we are willing to scarifice (friends in CA etc). It’s so hard.[/quote]

Glad to know my thoughts were helpful, but please, don’t construe them as advice, because it’s best that you make your own decisions. That said, here are a few more thoughts:

I think the reason you are having such a hard time with this, is that you really do feel a strong attachment to CA and all that only it has to offer, yet, you also feel pragmatically compelled to evaluate the financial realities of staying in CA.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

If you find the home and location you can’t live without in CA, vs. elsewhere, run the numbers long term, and even if the home is more than the equivalent elsewhere, including taxes, property taxes, etc. if you feel you can afford it, it would seem you have your answer. Other than what you wish to leave to your family and/or friends, leaving multiple millions on the table would not seem necessary. Again, just my thoughts.[/quote]

We had a few odd moments when living in our downtown condo, looking down at homeless folk, being woken up by their occasional tirade.

I watched a homeless lady meticulously cleaning her feet by the gutter from the balcony for 30 minutes.

Time for me to tuck into bed! Take one last look at those dudes flat on the cold concrete! Night nite! Sleep tite! Seriousy dont let the bedbugs bite!

Me, I need finer sheets. I think my soul needs a better thread count!

I felt sort of bad, but frankly, my soul felt sort of good for feeling bad. Also of course, theres the relief im not them. A cautionary tale of not getting with The Program.

I watched an ancient dude enjoying the hell out of a can of coke. Youd think he never had a drink of soda in his life. Was he just acting? But if so, for who? He hadnt seen me watching. SO much gusto.

Dude had soul.

Perhaps my true dream home needs to be surrounded by the destitute, ot least lesser blessed, for comparison purpose. Perhaps a mansion surrounded by a trailer park, or a castle ringed with beggars.

What about that house in Parasite. I liked that one! The way we express our souls in the usa is consumption, so dont be cheap…[/quote]

I see more miserable rich people trying to one up each other versus happier poorer people, who don’t give a shit. lol. Some people haven’t figured that out yet. Pity.

[flyer]

So many great thoughts from everyone. Hopefully the OP will find the answers he is looking for.

[scaredyclassic]

feng shui for toilets.

mattress issues as related to dream life.

tax considerations.

life is tricky.

[svelte]

[quote=scaredyclassic]feng shui for toilets.

mattress issues as related to dream life.

tax considerations.

life is tricky.[/quote]

Your mattress talk started me thinking about a new mattress. Ours is about a decade old now.

So I started poking around online. Holy cow has the mattress world changed in the last decade. I guess I should have noticed when we bought the grandkids memory foam mattresses. At the time I thought that was a sliver of the market.

But no – memory foam has taken over! They don’t even make our Beautyrest Elite any more. Now Beautyrests have names like “Black”, “Harmony Lux Diamond”, “Harmony Lux Carbon”. All of them at least partially memory foam.

I won’t be able to walk in, plunk down my money and buy the usual. I’m actually going to have to do research.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=svelte][quote=scaredyclassic]feng shui for toilets.

mattress issues as related to dream life.

tax considerations.

life is tricky.[/quote]

Your mattress talk started me thinking about a new mattress. Ours is about a decade old now.

So I started poking around online. Holy cow has the mattress world changed in the last decade. I guess I should have noticed when we bought the grandkids memory foam mattresses. At the time I thought that was a sliver of the market.

But no – memory foam has taken over! They don’t even make our Beautyrest Elite any more. Now Beautyrests have names like “Black”, “Harmony Lux Diamond”, “Harmony Lux Carbon”. All of them at least partially memory foam.

I won’t be able to walk in, plunk down my money and buy the usual. I’m actually going to have to do research.[/quote]

Avocadogreen mattresses

[svelte]

[quote=scaredyclassic]
Avocadogreen mattresses[/quote]

I don’t think those will work for me. I need a very firm mattress and the firmest listed on the Avocado site is Medium-Firm (7.5 on a scale 1-10).

As an example of how firm I need, before the Elite our favorite mattress brand was called the Sealy Granite.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=svelte][quote=scaredyclassic]
Avocadogreen mattresses[/quote]

I don’t think those will work for me. I need a very firm mattress and the firmest listed on the Avocado site is Medium-Firm (7.5 on a scale 1-10).

As an example of how firm I need, before the Elite our favorite mattress brand was called the Sealy Granite.[/quote]

Homes should be rated for firmness.

[Coronita]

[quote=svelte][quote=scaredyclassic]
Avocadogreen mattresses[/quote]

I don’t think those will work for me. I need a very firm mattress and the firmest listed on the Avocado site is Medium-Firm (7.5 on a scale 1-10).

As an example of how firm I need, before the Elite our favorite mattress brand was called the Sealy Granite.[/quote]

Sterns and Fosters still make coil mattresses and they have a ultra firm line. Not that much more than top of the line Sealy.

Usually, i like to go cheap on things..hence my strong loliking of Harbor Freight. Shit, half my tool collection is probably Harbor Freight.

But when it comes to sleep, and considering you spend 8+hours each day on it, I personally dont like to go cheap on a mattress.

[sdrealtor]

After all these years and now we are finally “going to the mattresses”

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=sdrealtor]After all these years and now we are finally “going to the mattresses”[/quote]

i wonder if there’s a market for a bulletproof mattress. kind of a home safety item, with gun vault. press a button, presto, barricade against home intruders. maybe a little gun turret.

[scaredyclassic]

strangely, my best sleeping is done flat on the floor, on a rug, but only in midday. At night, sadly, I need a mattress. i rarely nap in bed, but I (almost) never spend the night on the floor. for naps, I prefer to dramatically collapse when sleep overcomes me. too tired to go on…must.. sleep…body falls to floor.

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