Should we stay or should we go?

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=gzz]my life partner is a Vegan Van Life instagramm-thinkfluencer. Google it.

I’m glad my driveway has “RV Parking” like all the home listings say.[/quote]

It would be very satisfying IMO to be an ultra wealthy semihomeless guy.

Maybe all dream homes are our past homes.

What happens inside a dream home? Nothing different than a non dream home.

A cat peed on our mattress. Ugh. Thinking of going all out on a new one for the actual dream part of my home. Avocado green mattresses are top rated in consumer reports. Pricey, but it would be my literal dream home.

Anyone have experience with super high end mattresses? Id like to spend as much as possible. I am hopeful that a 2k plus mattress will improve my life more than a 10 mill. House. All that wonderful deep restorative sleep. Organic wool. Hand tufted, whatever that means. Organic and so forth.

Although i am dreaming of better dreams, likely my best sleep has already happened in my youth.

🙁

[gzz]

The $300 foam mattresses on Amazon seem to be as comfortable as the $2500 temperpedic ones they used to have on display at the mall.

After 15 years of sleeping on cheap foam mattresses, I am a permanent convert and have them in all bedrooms.

I am about to buy a new one, the old $300 amazon mattress is getting a little worn down and sweat stained. The nice thing about the $300 one is that you don’t have to feel so bad about tossing it when there’s a pet accident on it.

[scaredyclassic]

right, consumer reports bears out what you are saying for foam, tempurpedic rated lower than cheap foam.

however, in the organic wool, alpaca topped virgin latex ethereal dreamworld realm of mattress, consumer reports gives them a higher rating on all categories than mere plebeian foam.

look, I’d be fine with a foam mattress. we’ve been sleeping on a $100 foam guy I bought off amazon that smelled like an oil refinery and made my wife angry. Id go foam all day long. all night long too.

but I’m looking for something special for the aching wife. something dreamy. a mattress handmade for kings. our dream mattress….money is no object. up toa point. let’s say, 5k for the mattress.. after that, i’m going to need a really good sales pitch.

[Coronita]

Isn’t foam mattresses though suppose to be stain resistant? I mean, that’s why I thought was one of the selling points of a foam mattress for those unexpected accidents…. Of course I mean pet accidents….

I tried the purple thing. Did not like…Stayed with coils…

[Hobie]

I bought an off shelf hand made queen from Escondido Mattress a dozen or more years ago. Wasn’t remarkable, but still in use today. I don’t know if the old guy ( kinda crodgity dude )still runs the place but it might be somewhere close to have a custom one made.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Coronita]Isn’t foam mattresses though suppose to be stain resistant? I mean, that’s why I thought was one of the selling points of a foam mattress for those unexpected accidents…. Of course I mean pet accidents….

I tried the purple thing. Did not like…Stayed with coils…[/quote]

no, it’s just a hunk of absorbent foam. you could buy a cover though. mines pretty thin and cheap, but it really is comfy compared to, say, the floor.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say that on a per dollar ratioed basis, the satisfaction from a good mattress far exceeds the satsifaction from a 10 million home.

teh reviews on the avocadogreen mattress website were howlingly over the top. My wife was hysterically laughing. each reveiw was more wildly enthusiastic than the next.

to the OP, I’d say the real issue, is what mattress will you buy, not which state will you live in. i wonder what the limit is on custom mattresses. A guy like you really needs a 100k mattress… also, linen pajamas. those have really improved my life. and good slippers! dont forget high quality slippers! check out the slippers at softstar.com that’s about everything you’ll need.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Hobie]I bought an off shelf hand made queen from Escondido Mattress a dozen or more years ago. Wasn’t remarkable, but still in use today. I don’t know if the old guy ( kinda crodgity dude )still runs the place but it might be somewhere close to have a custom one made.[/quote]

Chuang Tzu dreamed that he was a butterfly.
All day long, he floated on the breeze
Without a thought of who he was or where he was going.

When he awoke, Chuang Tzu became confused.

“Am I a Man”, he thought,
“who dreamed that I was a butterfly?
Or am I butterfly, dreaming that I am a man?
Perhaps my whole waking life is
but a moment in a butterfly’s dream!
This is a story of transformation”

it isn’t necessary to be a taoist to be a mattress salesman, but neither does it hurt.

[Coronita]

What about foam pillows. I couldnt get use to a foam pillow. I had one that was heavh like a brick, but it just seemed too firm. When uses a foam pillow, ir felt like i was wearing snell 2010 helmet. Ok maybe not a snell helmet. It just felt kinda hard.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Coronita]What about foam pillows. I couldnt get use to a foam pillow. I had one that was heavh like a brick, but it just seemed too firm. When uses a foam pillow, ir felt like i was wearing snell 2010 helmet. Ok maybe not a snell helmet. It just felt kinda hard.[/quote]

might i recommend a pillow stuffed with $100 bills. i tried $10s, but they’re not as supportive.

[masayako]

[quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

We also live in other places, but still keep our dream home here. Granted, if you waited to purchase your dream home or other properties until now, they, and taxes, are going to be a lot more expensive than they were in the past. Meeting the requirements to keep a tax base in another state or country is something you might want to investigate. There are (legal) ways to have the best of all worlds.

We also have lots of family here, kids, friends etc., and take care of several family members who need care, vs. placing them in facilities. We have them taken care of in the way we would want to be treated, and are glad to do it. A few hugs a day means more to them than any amount of money every could.

Even with the best diet, exercise and mental health aspects of life covered, when you see how life can change on a dime wrt one’s health, it’s clear that making the most of what you have each day is the best way to go, and I wish you the best in your quest.[/quote]

Thank you so much for the advice. My in-laws will go with us if we decide to move out of CA. They are being very flexible. I completely agree with you that it boils down to where you want to be and what we are willing to scarifice (friends in CA etc). It’s so hard.

[flyer]

[quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

We also live in other places, but still keep our dream home here. Granted, if you waited to purchase your dream home or other properties until now, they, and taxes, are going to be a lot more expensive than they were in the past. Meeting the requirements to keep a tax base in another state or country is something you might want to investigate. There are (legal) ways to have the best of all worlds.

We also have lots of family here, kids, friends etc., and take care of several family members who need care, vs. placing them in facilities. We have them taken care of in the way we would want to be treated, and are glad to do it. A few hugs a day means more to them than any amount of money every could.

Even with the best diet, exercise and mental health aspects of life covered, when you see how life can change on a dime wrt one’s health, it’s clear that making the most of what you have each day is the best way to go, and I wish you the best in your quest.[/quote]

Thank you so much for the advice. My in-laws will go with us if we decide to move out of CA. They are being very flexible. I completely agree with you that it boils down to where you want to be and what we are willing to scarifice (friends in CA etc). It’s so hard.[/quote]

Glad to know my thoughts were helpful, but please, don’t construe them as advice, because it’s best that you make your own decisions. That said, here are a few more thoughts:

I think the reason you are having such a hard time with this, is that you really do feel a strong attachment to CA and all that only it has to offer, yet, you also feel pragmatically compelled to evaluate the financial realities of staying in CA.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

If you find the home and location you can’t live without in CA, vs. elsewhere, run the numbers long term, and even if the home is more than the equivalent elsewhere, including taxes, property taxes, etc. if you feel you can afford it, it would seem you have your answer. Other than what you wish to leave to your family and/or friends, leaving multiple millions on the table would not seem necessary. Again, just my thoughts.

[o2addict]

So, hello. Would you like to have a family of 5?

[Coronita]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Coronita]What about foam pillows. I couldnt get use to a foam pillow. I had one that was heavh like a brick, but it just seemed too firm. When uses a foam pillow, ir felt like i was wearing snell 2010 helmet. Ok maybe not a snell helmet. It just felt kinda hard.[/quote]

might i recommend a pillow stuffed with $100 bills. i tried $10s, but they’re not as supportive.[/quote]

The issue I have with $100 bills is they probably have traces of cocaine. Not something I want to breathe in and out every single night. Now one possibility might be to use the €100 Euro bill. First of all, it’s considerably more expensive, and the quality of the euro bill fiber is far softer than what they use for the $100USD. Plus Europeans do not nearly have as big a cocaine problem as americans. So perhaps, a pile of €100 euro bills would be softer.

[sdrealtor]

[quote=flyer][quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

[/quote]

So what would your advice be to your tenants with an empty space in their souls?

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=sdrealtor][quote=flyer][quote=masayako][quote=flyer]All good points, so it boils down to where you want to be, and only you can answer that question.

One thing you might want to consider in order to find your answer, would be to look for your dream home both in CA and elsewhere, and then, let that choice guide your decision to stay in CA or move. This may sound esoteric, because it is, but I feel the home is an expression of the soul that fills a space that nothing else can fill, so making that your guiding factor would seem to make sense.

[/quote]

So what would your advice be to your tenants with an empty space in their souls?[/quote]

Some folk so poor they have to rent their soul.
Teeth on loan from the five and dime.
Lungs on lay away from the department store.
Borrowed all the air and most of their time.

Lyrics to a song i just wrote!

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