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Slightly west of your parameters – but I can recommend Roosevelt Middle…. Right by the zoo.

My son is attending there. My younger son will start next year.

It’s an International Baccalaureate school. With your family’s spanish language abilities – they should be able to be in the native speakers classes.

It’s ethnically and economically diverse… that is good and bad. There are definitely some less than savory students there… but most of the kids are good.

It has a very strong GATE and Seminar program. I’m very pleased with the science and Gateways to Technology classes that my son is in.

I liked the program well enough that I’m dealing with the hassle of driving him to/from – despite the hellish I-805 traffic.

Feel free to PM me and I can give you more details.

As you probably know – the choice deadlines are coming up – so you’ll need to apply before the deadline. (Feb 15th?) It’s a magnet school – so that helps with the choice program… (SDUSD is cutting funding to choice in the interests of keeping kids at their neighborhood schools. Stated ideal is that every neighborhood school becomes excellent. But that’s not always possible.)

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This is probably a silly question….

Have you tried talking to the neighbors?

Is the tree closer to your house than theirs? They may be having similar issues.

It’s nice that your boro will come out and clean out the lines. I’ve never seen that done unless it was an issue at the street. If the clog was on the property, the boro put it on the homeowner to clean out.

(Happened to neighbors in suburban Philly.)

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The son of one of my dad’s friends did 3 years at UCSD in an old VW bus. This was in the 80’s. Used the showers at the swimming pool. This was before ubiquitous cell phones – so he’d use his parents phone number as a message service – call in daily to pick up his messages.

A former coworker lived in her Roadtrek converted van with a VERY large dog for several months. She had her favorite parking spots near the beach to overnight… and rotated them to avoid pissing off neighbors.

What’s impressive about the guy in the story is not the van dwelling… It’s the intensity of paying down his student debt. Very admirable.

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Age 7 or 8… You can start doing FIRST Lego League at that age and that’s how my boys got started. A friend started a team for her boys and I got involved, coaching for the past few years.

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If you want to get your kids into coding (or learn yourself) both Khan Academy and codeacademy.com have free tutorials.

I’m lusting for the EV3… I coach a FLL robotics team and this year about 1/3 of the teams had the EV3. We’re still using a mindstorm.

The arduino boards mentioned in the link Russ posted are also very cool. My kids class had some purchased for them by the non-profit foundation that supplements what the school district can’t afford.

There are lots of opportunities to get kids into programming.

Russ – I hear you on the minecraft and legos. I’ve been telling my kids to learn programming in order to make new mods to minecraft… That’s the cool think about minecraft – it’s user modifiable. So you have pokemon mod-packs, hunger wars mod-packs, etc… All coded by fans of the game.

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I would totally use it to keep tabs. Like flu said – you’re a parent.

I’ve been telling my kids for years that when they get facebook they MUST friend me… or lose access to their computers. But they’re still minors.

Fortunately, they haven’t started on Facebook yet… so I’ve been able to avoid creating an account myself. I’m hoping Facebook goes out of favor soon – so I can die without every having had a facebook account.

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I guess in some ways I’m more horrified by the mom’s situation. 27 years in a house – and facing foreclosure. In theory – the mortgage would be pretty low if they never pulled out cash. And prices 27 years ago were pretty low.

I don’t have a problem with refi’ing to get a better interest rate… I’ve done it a few times. But increasing debt when you’re close to retirement… that makes me scared. (I’m close enough to retirement to be focused on cash flow scenarios when I no-longer have income from wages.)

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Congratulations.

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It’s not just Temecula… I’ve seen it all over San Diego….

Lesson for all of us – home equity can come and go with the market, don’t pull cash out to buy toys and expand your lifestyle.

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[quote=CDMA ENG]UC…

From the humanistic point I think I would say that they would want to spend most weekends together as young couples typically do.

So you have roughly 8 days a month for “sleep overs”…

Which, btw, I am sure he is spending by sleeping on the couch! Kidding of course.

Plus the one or two odd weekdays…

So what is reasonable? Maybe 10 or 12 days?

Problem is that if you are actually counting the days there is an extra car outside… You seem invasive…

Good luck with the problem and keep us posted this is the reason I come to Piggingtons is to hear case scenarios like this.

Regards as always,

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We noticed the car because neighbors noticed the car – and complained. Yes, legally they can park anywhere on the public street – but they were parking in front of the neighbors house, not ours. and parking in such a way that they prevented the neighbors from parking in front of their house. (If they’d parked closer to our curb cut it would have been a non-issue… but they parked 2 cars wide in what would easily park 3 cars parked closer.)

It’s not a matter of me counting/tracking the car – it was just there EVERY morning when I left for work… Hard to miss. I wasn’t looking for his car or obsessing about it. I was more concerned with the way they were parking (taking more space, parking in front of the neighbor) – and planned to talk to her about that – when the neighbor complained. I’m happy she’s found someone she likes. Love is good. But they can move it around – some time at his house, some time here… If he moves in – it justifies an increase in rent and a credit check. I think that’s reasonable.

FWIW – since I mentioned our concerns – he’s been spending less time here – so problem solved from the legal point of view (defacto tenant concerns.)

I posted this for clarification on what the LEGAL definition of transient was – and how other landlords handle it.

I really don’t care who she dates or sleeps with. I care about protecting my legal right to choose tenants.

I have an email out to our attorney, but haven’t heard back yet.

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I hope they gave you 60 day notice of the rent increase – it’s more than 10%
If they didn’t – you can tell them the law, and get at least one more month at the lower rent.

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[quote=moneymaker]EconProf from this link http://www.wimer.net/landlord/a/landlords_rights.pdf it states
“Also, you cannot evict you
while the lease is in effect, except for reasons
such as your damaging the property or failing to
pay rent. A lease gives you and the tenant the security of a
long-term agreement at a known rent.
The disadvantage of a lease is that if the tenant
ends up being undersirable, but complies with
the terms of the lease you must ride out the term.”
I believe marriage is a protected category as far as discrimination goes, so if you want to risk a lawsuit evict away.
My personal take would be if he spends less than half the nights there he is not a tenant.[/quote]
It doesn’t matter if marital status is a protected status (which I don’t think it is)… If the lease states a specific occupancy, and the new spouse exceeds that occupancy – you’re in violation of the lease and need to ask to have the lease amended.

I’ve got an email out to an attorney.

As I said – I’m not trying to be a jerk and say she can’t have him spend the night…. but every night for an extended period raises red flags that he’s moving in, and I want to work with her, while still protecting my rights to choose who is renting.

California appears to be pretty flakey on the whole de-facto tenant and sub-tenant rulings… I don’t want to get screwed.

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One more comment. We really like her as a tenant. Just trying to protect our legal backsides.

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[quote=moneymaker]When I got married my wife moved in with me, I had a lease. The management pressed for her to “be put on the lease”. We ignored them. They eventually stopped asking, maybe they realized they had no legal ground to stand on. So just to let you know if she marries said boyfriend there is nothing you can do about him living there, just another point of view. I believe this law would also apply to caretakers.[/quote]
From my internet googling – it appears that the legality varies from state to state. In CA – I’ve seen two legal sites that state that if the person stays for 30 days they are now a de-facto tenant or subtenant. I saw that in NJ or NY (forgot which) it’s strictly a number of people thing – folks can rotate through and the landlord may have no clue who the current tenants are.

The problem in California is that if a houseguest becomes a sub-tenant or de-facto tenant -they have all the rights of a tenant – in that it gets hard to evict them. So someone I don’t know, someone I didn’t screen, someone who could be cooking meth or worse… could be living there and I’d have to go through eviction to get them out. And I wouldn’t have a legal agreement with them (rental agreement/lease) so the rules aren’t laid out. Eviction gets expensive…

You say there’s nothing I can do if he moves in at the permission of my tenant – that’s not true. She’d be in violation of her lease and I could give a) 3 day notice to remedy or quit. (she could kick him out – remedy, or vacate- quit).

I’m not a total jerk… I’m trying to figure out the balance here… how to not have someone with “tenant” rights who I didn’t rent to, didn’t screen, etc. But I’m not trying to tell her who to date, etc… If he lives elsewhere they can spend some nights there – spread the love around…. rather than put me in a legally iffy place of having tenant rights given to someone I have no legal contract with.

If it matters – we cut her a break in rent in part because it was ONE person. The lease is clear that it is for her use, and her use alone. Houseguests and/or family members are only transient visitors.

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[quote=paramount]I’m sorry if I misunderstand or missed something, if I may are you renting her a room at your house?[/quote]
No – a detached 1 br. granny flat on our property.

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