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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]Too much like a shack.
And too far out of everything.You can live near a major metro and still live cheap if you want. Sometimes you might want to get to town or work.
You should consider a Hawaiian island. Better weather and gardening, food self sufficiency potential.
This house here is better.
agreed much nicer. But the shacks in the desert are practically free per Sq ft compared to that 704 Sq ft gem.
I once went to a guys shack up on top of the Ortega men’s by lake elsinore. Place was completely fun ked up in a perfectly fun ked up wally wish I took pics it was awesomely wadi sari thrashed but I loved it… not fancy. Just worn and beat beautifully…
Joshua trees pretty close to Coachella valley/ palm springs which is kind of a metro stea. Plenty of gay bars at leeast
Participant[quote=UCGal]I have a friend who lives in that area. The cheap/paid for home on acreage lets them live a very alternative lifestyle. Kind of like your bar/clinic/law-firm/psychic idea. (My friend’s a bit of a hippy.)
She’s happy in the desert and low expenses mean she doesn’t have to slave for wages as much.[/quote]
I’m kind Of locked in to the system but it’s fun to have a plan b. A friend of mine actually just quit it all and moved to Cambodia to hang out indefin8tely.
ParticipantI have a funny story. We recently tried to get our marriage certificate and found it was not there. The priest didn’t file the paperwork. Basically bottom line, we were not married–19 years of shacking up.
T here is I now know a legal process you can go through in probate court for a delayed certificate of marriage…basically you try to prove through affidavits; tax filings; church records; wedding photos …that you were married on that day and you get a retroactive certificate.
Cost me a few hundred bucks to file it…we discussed our options before filing..cheap divorce opportunity!
It was a very romantic court date.
My wife said I argued the case very passionately, but the judge was pretty easy to persuade
ParticipantThis will vary obviously with personality. My wife’s too proud and fierce to take a dime from me I think. Also she can go earn money anytime. More important though, because I am absolutely amazing, it just strikes me as highly unlikely she would ever seriously contemplate leaving. Anyone else would just be so dull and awful compared to me.
Participanti have never been called dad. only known as “pa”. or occasionally ironically as “father figure.” pronounced “paw”. father figure, regular pronnuniciation. i called my dad dad and im pretty sure it would have been impermissible to call him father figure.
no “mom”, instead “mama”. also mamasita, and mother. meemaw, sometimes.
this was intentional, i wanted to be different on this. also i dont like the sound of dad or daddy. i like pa, kind of like from the andy griffith show.
in the future, i would like to be called “grandpappy. ” grandpapaw also acceptable. “old man”, fine as well…. i can also accept sir, esquire, and gramps in a pinch
Participantnot much of a bounce off the bottom out there, if at all…maybe you can rent camping space to travelling climbers…
Participantit was easy to say “son”, it wass difficult for me to say wife. now though i say wife easily….but not “the little woman”. or “better half”. nope. just plain wife. or “wifelet”.
Participantthe only tricky part about getting married inthe berginning is saying the word “wife” without feeling like a goober. This is my “wife”…i don’t know…took me a good 5 to 10 years to get used to that, to say it like i wasn’t just messing around…my little fishwife…
ParticipantMy level of housekeeping would be much much lower without my wife. Vacuum daily? What is the rush the dust isn’t going anywhere. Doesn’t it make more SenSe to allow some real dirt to accumulate? It provides a much better yield for the effort… I can see for sure where the bathroom absolutely has to be cleaned twice or at the very least once a month. I also like to empty the sink and clear the deck in the kitchen every day. But scrub the stove every day? I’m gonna Ness it up when I cook tomorrow. Consolidation…
ParticipantLow? I disagree. There is definitely not just a financial benefit in having a sahp. I appreciate the sacrifices. I just feel like there’s got to to be a limit on it, that the financial partnership cannot continue forever after marriage with certain exception for long lasting marriages w much older spouses.
ParticipantJust don’t get an f
ParticipantTo me, respect and-or money at a job om good at is extremely important and overlaps with being a good dad. I realize that means I’m old fashioned and not an absolute truth but I’d be lying to myself if I said otherwise.
My kids describe me as a “typhoon” when cleaning a super messy kitchen a blaze of powerful energy. My wife thinks I do a bad job. I’d say I do an 87 percent. But the true grade could be in the mid to low 70s. She is in the high 90s but takes way way way longer and is wiped out after whereas I’m just warmed up…
Am I better? I think doing a good enough job at housework, childcare stuff will lead to higher satisfaction and less fatigue for SAHPsforget an A shoot for a B or C!
ParticipantWait a minute… In ca r’s defense, women put higher levels of energy into the c task. My wife spends a weekend alone at home with the kids and she us wiped out. Me, not even fatigued. Why? I’m kind of lame. It’s more like a frat house. I don’t know. I expend less mental and phys. Energies. By our nature’s the role is going to such more out of SAM than SAHD.
I suspect it has to do with the ache to be with them…
ParticipantMany young working women I see are literally aching to quit and stay home w their kid.
Men…never seen an ache.
Not sure if this should affect deferred comp rate.
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