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November 23, 2014 at 11:20 PM in reply to: ot. the life changing magic of tidying up: the Japanese art of decluttering #780284
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ParticipantMy point was simply that someone who hires an unlicensed contractor runs the risk of being held liable by employees or subs for injuries on the job. That can get incredibly expensive. But, to each his own.
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ParticipantYou might want to read this:
http://www.berding-weil.net/articles/dangers-of-hiring-unlicensed-contractor.php
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Participant[quote=moneymaker]When profitable companies layoff people is it basically corporate greed at work? [/quote]
Those who administer publicly traded companies (other than those organized under new provisions such as California’s Benefit Corporations) have a duty to maximize shareholder value. Whether they do it correctly, incorrectly or whether it is ethical to do so are separate issues. When you go to work at a standard, publicly traded company, you get a lot of benefits (all sorts of stock disclosures, etc.) but there are also the downsides, such as the risk that you will be downsized to keep the stock price afloat. If people refused to work for companies that operate to maximize profits, money would flow to companies organized under different principles.
For this reason, I like privately held companies (like In N Out Burger and Johnson Wax “a family company”). They can operate as they like and have more flexibility, and they don’t waste time and money pleasing the shareholders. For this reason, they provide a better value, in my opinion, but the likelihood of rising to the top in a family company is low, unless you’re related.
The best would be to start your own company, treat your employees the way you think they should be treated, and enjoy life. Hard to do, though.njtosd
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]I want to be me but more real.[/quote]
Wait – didn’t you say you wanted to color your hair? Would the color be the color it was when you were 18 – or is it not real for any time in your life?
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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]
Why not chat with a doc (in India or wherever) and have the online pharmacy automatically ship me the renewal prescription?
I don’t need to waste 1/2 day for and in-office appointment. F— the human interaction.[/quote]
Well, because anything that’s being applied topically is carrying whatever impurities it contains through your skin and potentially into your bloodstream. And because the rate of counterfeit (unregulated) medicines is high everywhere but especially outside the U.S. God knows what you’re absorbing –
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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]I prefer drama. I still remember reading Edith Wharton in high school. It’s like romance to me but the heroin dies.[/quote]
Does the heroine die of heroin? In any event – FlyerInHi – I keep getting a different impression of your age. Have you ever disclosed it here? Please don’t say it’s 67 or something – then all of this about not having found the right woman would be creepy.
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Participant[quote=zk][quote=CA renter]Most men would probably do well by reading a romance novel or two, just to get a better understanding of how many women think about romance (or hope for it).[/quote]
Most women would probably do well by watching “The Man Show” just to get a get a better understanding of how many men think about life.[/quote]
Is that still on? I used to like it. I liked Jimmy Kimmel best when he was on “Win Ben Stein’s Money” though.
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Participant[quote=flyer]The specific “effect” Romance novels have on each person who buys them is definitely an individual experience, but, IMO, and my wife’s opinion, they aren’t selling billions of copies around the world just because of any sexual content.
It’s true that, in the past few years, the “erotic” Romance sub-genre like “50 Shades,” etc., is outselling other Romance genres, but those, like my wife, who prefer not to write in that genre, are still selling books by the millions.
My wife gets thousands of responses from women who share why her “love stories” connect with them in their lives, and, without going into it in great depth, suffice it to say, their reasons are far deeper and more complex than the obvious.
This is pretty much all I have to say on this topic, so I’ll leave it at that. The only reason I brought it up in the first place, was because the OP concerned relationships, and I thought the phenomenal success of Romance novels might provide an interesting perspective.[/quote]
I hope you understand that I was limiting myself to a certain type of book – Jane Austen apparently qualifies as a writer of romance novels, and I certainly wasn’t including her. As I mentioned, there are books with very little plot or character development that have a salacious quality that appears designed to be titillating (pun intended). I have no problem with it – just remarking.
Flyer – it sounds as though your wife has energy to spare. I am jealous.
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Participant[quote=CA renter]
Because of this, we are judging this man’s actions only from our emotional perspective. Maybe, if we could create a world where people would never have to interact with or rely on other humans, things would work out better for Elliot than for the rest of us. We’re looking at this case from a very biased perspective.Just speaking theoretically…[/quote]
In my opinion, emotions are the equivalent of a computer routine or a macro that go into action under certain circumstances (there is an example in an earlier thread where a cat ends up mothering ducklings). Thinking things out takes too long (like when a lion is about to tear you apart). Thinking is a good set of brakes for some emotions, but alone, like brakes with no car, it’s sort of useless.
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Participant[quote=Rich Toscano]Just to be clear specifically on the Myers-Briggs thing, the “T vs. F” spectrum isn’t about whether you have emotions, it’s about how you make decisions (whether it’s more driven by analysis or gut feel). It’s been a while since I read up on this stuff but that’s what I recall…[/quote]
FWIW – my comment was primarily responding to FlyerInHi’s (Brian’s) pursuit of “objectivity” and dispassionate analysis.
T vs. F also would seem to indicate whether people can shake off mild (or not so mild) OCD tendencies, which can result in the paralysis by analysis situation. My in laws spent 25 years trying to decide on a design for their patio . . .
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Participant[quote=flyer]Concerning Romance novels–the numbers speak for themselves. Women, primarily, are buying them by the billions. That definitely tells us something about the state of relationships in our society, and, it’s also a great business opportunity.
Realize everyone defines love, lust, and relationships differently–and drama is definitely a natural part of the whole package–wouldn’t have it any other way. As long as the relationship works for the people involved–that’s all that matters.[/quote]
Much of the “romance” genre (the bodice ripper types) is the female equivalent of pornography. Women read it surreptitiously, don’t care about the plot, characters are ridiculously 2 dimensional. Not talking about all of it – but if Fabio (or his current equivalent) is on the cover, women aren’t reading it for the nuanced character development. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. And the numbers do speak for themselves, but what are they saying?? The secretaries at work used to have piles of them that they passed around . . .
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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi][quote=Blogstar]
What results represent an unimpassioned piece of wood? That kind is uncomfortable for me. Want to hit them with some electricity or something. Not crazy about really difficult people but the complete stiff is the worst.[/quote]Hey, I practiced becoming zen and unperturbed. It makes life so much easier. You can invest and make decisions rationally.
It also helps you not desire things that are not good for you. It makes you more observant of things around you and helps you objectively look at the foibles of humans.[/quote]
Emotion is crucial to good decision making. Patient named Elliott had brain surgery which resulted in an inability to feel emotion. Here was the result:
“. . . At the time, neuroscience assumed that human emotions were irrational. A person without emotions should therefore make better decisions. His cognition should be uncorrupted. The charioteer should have complete control. To Damasio, Elliot’s pathology suggested emotions are a crucial part of decision-making. Cut off from our feelings, the most banal decisions become impossible. A brain that can’t feel can’t make up its mind.”
Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/national/feeling-our-way-to-decision-20090227-8k8v.html#ixzz3HPZJJYPY
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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]CAr, the reasons you mentioned are why my target market is not the ordinary woman but heiress.
An heiress, needs a personal trainer, nutrition consultant, personal assistant, chauffeur, pilot, jockey, architect… imagine outsourcing all of those things.
My neighbors thought that I was an architect because I did such a good job on my apartment. What’s the cost of having a great architect on retainer?
If I may so myself, I’m worth a pretty good salary. I won’t settle for any less.
Even the household work that I do now, if someone else profit from my labor, I need to get paid!A feng-shui Asian friend says that I should not “look up” all the time… The levels above are too hard to attain.
I should “look around me” as in water seeks its own level, or “look slightly below” because the people below appreciate things more.
I have 3 options I think:
1. Marry an heiress to get paid my full husband potential. Not a problem because she can afford me.
1.5. Marry a woman my age and income level. We can pay each other our spouse’s worth and adopt kids, if we wish. That might not work, because I’m worth more since I’m talented in so many areas. My wife might not be able to afford me, or there might be resentment because all the networth will accrue to me.
2. Marry a younger woman, have children and a beautiful family. zk said that I’d be getting a hooker, but I don’t think so.
3. Not marry at all and become a philosopher.[/quote]
I really hope this is tongue in cheek and there aren’t any people out there that think this way.
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Participant[quote=scaredyclassic]the mere thought of having a daughter fills me with fear.[/quote]
That’s interesting. Fear of what? My husband discovered that many of the things that he thought were learned behaviors in girls actually are there from the outset, so he has become more understanding of us. Same for me in terms of my son. It’s a great education. -
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