Well, I did it.

[bearishgurl]

[quote=briansd1][quote=walterwhite] Living together is the worst of all worlds, unless you just both agree that it would be handy to have someone around to have sex with for as long as it all kinda makes sense. [/quote]

They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

brian, I don’t know who “they” are but most men can easily get sex w/o marriage and many women are “secure” w/o marriage … and vice-versa … lol!

If one marries for “sex” or “security” alone, this is a recipe for disaster, IMO.

[jpinpb]

[quote=briansd1]They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

There are many women who are financially secure who are not getting married and they’re adopting and/or IVF having children. I know a few. I think that thinking of women getting married for security is outdated. I agree w/BG. I can’t imagine men getting married for sex. Monogamy is not a strong point for most men and when it comes to sex, I would think men prefer to be single.

[jpinpb]

[quote=briansd1]They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

There are many women who are financially secure who are not getting married and they’re adopting and/or IVF having children. I know a few. I think that thinking of women getting married for security is outdated. I agree w/BG. I can’t imagine men getting married for sex. Monogamy is not a strong point for most men and when it comes to sex, I would think men prefer to be single.

[jpinpb]

[quote=briansd1]They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

There are many women who are financially secure who are not getting married and they’re adopting and/or IVF having children. I know a few. I think that thinking of women getting married for security is outdated. I agree w/BG. I can’t imagine men getting married for sex. Monogamy is not a strong point for most men and when it comes to sex, I would think men prefer to be single.

[jpinpb]

[quote=briansd1]They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

There are many women who are financially secure who are not getting married and they’re adopting and/or IVF having children. I know a few. I think that thinking of women getting married for security is outdated. I agree w/BG. I can’t imagine men getting married for sex. Monogamy is not a strong point for most men and when it comes to sex, I would think men prefer to be single.

[jpinpb]

[quote=briansd1]They do that say that men marry for sex and women marry for security. Sounds pretty accurate.[/quote]

There are many women who are financially secure who are not getting married and they’re adopting and/or IVF having children. I know a few. I think that thinking of women getting married for security is outdated. I agree w/BG. I can’t imagine men getting married for sex. Monogamy is not a strong point for most men and when it comes to sex, I would think men prefer to be single.

[UCGal]

Congrats Mike, HappyRenter, protorio, sdceller (and anyone else who chimed in on this thread saying they were in escrow.)

sdrealtor… We have all heard how wonderful and idylic your childhood was. We are all appropriately envious. But I think you might want to consider that others had equally idyllic childhoods that might have varied in various factors. And more had less than perfect childhoods and ended up happy and well adjusted adults. My parents did some stuff right, some stuff not-so-right. I learned from both aspects. I have friends who’s childhoods were much more “perfect” than mine – who are complete messes – probably because their parents shielded them… they ended up with unrealistic ideas of the true give and take and compromise that a relationship or marriage involves. They ended up with the idea that money problems somehow work out – magically.

Walter/CA Renter/BG – I have to agree with you guys on the living together thing. And I’m a liberal. I just look at it as a matter of defining whether you’re committed enough. If you’re committed enough to move in together but not committed enough to get married – what is the thing holding you back? It’s usually pretty significant. And when you think about that thing – whatever it is – do you really want to move in together? Or keep dating with separate households. I don’t think there should be a law against living together… But it was never for me and if friends asked – I gave them this same advice. Even the hubster had to wait till 1 month before our wedding before I let him officially move in. (And that’s just because he’d found a tenant for his house that wanted it sooner.)

[UCGal]

Congrats Mike, HappyRenter, protorio, sdceller (and anyone else who chimed in on this thread saying they were in escrow.)

sdrealtor… We have all heard how wonderful and idylic your childhood was. We are all appropriately envious. But I think you might want to consider that others had equally idyllic childhoods that might have varied in various factors. And more had less than perfect childhoods and ended up happy and well adjusted adults. My parents did some stuff right, some stuff not-so-right. I learned from both aspects. I have friends who’s childhoods were much more “perfect” than mine – who are complete messes – probably because their parents shielded them… they ended up with unrealistic ideas of the true give and take and compromise that a relationship or marriage involves. They ended up with the idea that money problems somehow work out – magically.

Walter/CA Renter/BG – I have to agree with you guys on the living together thing. And I’m a liberal. I just look at it as a matter of defining whether you’re committed enough. If you’re committed enough to move in together but not committed enough to get married – what is the thing holding you back? It’s usually pretty significant. And when you think about that thing – whatever it is – do you really want to move in together? Or keep dating with separate households. I don’t think there should be a law against living together… But it was never for me and if friends asked – I gave them this same advice. Even the hubster had to wait till 1 month before our wedding before I let him officially move in. (And that’s just because he’d found a tenant for his house that wanted it sooner.)

[UCGal]

Congrats Mike, HappyRenter, protorio, sdceller (and anyone else who chimed in on this thread saying they were in escrow.)

sdrealtor… We have all heard how wonderful and idylic your childhood was. We are all appropriately envious. But I think you might want to consider that others had equally idyllic childhoods that might have varied in various factors. And more had less than perfect childhoods and ended up happy and well adjusted adults. My parents did some stuff right, some stuff not-so-right. I learned from both aspects. I have friends who’s childhoods were much more “perfect” than mine – who are complete messes – probably because their parents shielded them… they ended up with unrealistic ideas of the true give and take and compromise that a relationship or marriage involves. They ended up with the idea that money problems somehow work out – magically.

Walter/CA Renter/BG – I have to agree with you guys on the living together thing. And I’m a liberal. I just look at it as a matter of defining whether you’re committed enough. If you’re committed enough to move in together but not committed enough to get married – what is the thing holding you back? It’s usually pretty significant. And when you think about that thing – whatever it is – do you really want to move in together? Or keep dating with separate households. I don’t think there should be a law against living together… But it was never for me and if friends asked – I gave them this same advice. Even the hubster had to wait till 1 month before our wedding before I let him officially move in. (And that’s just because he’d found a tenant for his house that wanted it sooner.)

[UCGal]

Congrats Mike, HappyRenter, protorio, sdceller (and anyone else who chimed in on this thread saying they were in escrow.)

sdrealtor… We have all heard how wonderful and idylic your childhood was. We are all appropriately envious. But I think you might want to consider that others had equally idyllic childhoods that might have varied in various factors. And more had less than perfect childhoods and ended up happy and well adjusted adults. My parents did some stuff right, some stuff not-so-right. I learned from both aspects. I have friends who’s childhoods were much more “perfect” than mine – who are complete messes – probably because their parents shielded them… they ended up with unrealistic ideas of the true give and take and compromise that a relationship or marriage involves. They ended up with the idea that money problems somehow work out – magically.

Walter/CA Renter/BG – I have to agree with you guys on the living together thing. And I’m a liberal. I just look at it as a matter of defining whether you’re committed enough. If you’re committed enough to move in together but not committed enough to get married – what is the thing holding you back? It’s usually pretty significant. And when you think about that thing – whatever it is – do you really want to move in together? Or keep dating with separate households. I don’t think there should be a law against living together… But it was never for me and if friends asked – I gave them this same advice. Even the hubster had to wait till 1 month before our wedding before I let him officially move in. (And that’s just because he’d found a tenant for his house that wanted it sooner.)

[UCGal]

Congrats Mike, HappyRenter, protorio, sdceller (and anyone else who chimed in on this thread saying they were in escrow.)

sdrealtor… We have all heard how wonderful and idylic your childhood was. We are all appropriately envious. But I think you might want to consider that others had equally idyllic childhoods that might have varied in various factors. And more had less than perfect childhoods and ended up happy and well adjusted adults. My parents did some stuff right, some stuff not-so-right. I learned from both aspects. I have friends who’s childhoods were much more “perfect” than mine – who are complete messes – probably because their parents shielded them… they ended up with unrealistic ideas of the true give and take and compromise that a relationship or marriage involves. They ended up with the idea that money problems somehow work out – magically.

Walter/CA Renter/BG – I have to agree with you guys on the living together thing. And I’m a liberal. I just look at it as a matter of defining whether you’re committed enough. If you’re committed enough to move in together but not committed enough to get married – what is the thing holding you back? It’s usually pretty significant. And when you think about that thing – whatever it is – do you really want to move in together? Or keep dating with separate households. I don’t think there should be a law against living together… But it was never for me and if friends asked – I gave them this same advice. Even the hubster had to wait till 1 month before our wedding before I let him officially move in. (And that’s just because he’d found a tenant for his house that wanted it sooner.)

[NotCranky]

“Men give love for sex and women give sex for love”, is another one I have heard.I don’t think any of these things apply universally or in rigid gender constricts, even if there may be something significant to them.

People mostly get married to have children without causing heart attacks in the prospective grandmothers.

[NotCranky]

“Men give love for sex and women give sex for love”, is another one I have heard.I don’t think any of these things apply universally or in rigid gender constricts, even if there may be something significant to them.

People mostly get married to have children without causing heart attacks in the prospective grandmothers.

[NotCranky]

“Men give love for sex and women give sex for love”, is another one I have heard.I don’t think any of these things apply universally or in rigid gender constricts, even if there may be something significant to them.

People mostly get married to have children without causing heart attacks in the prospective grandmothers.

[NotCranky]

“Men give love for sex and women give sex for love”, is another one I have heard.I don’t think any of these things apply universally or in rigid gender constricts, even if there may be something significant to them.

People mostly get married to have children without causing heart attacks in the prospective grandmothers.

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