Parents kicking their children out of the home

[bearishgurl]

[quote=AN]I’m of the mind that family who stick together and help each other will be better off than those who thinks everyone for themselves. My parents did everything they could for me (pay for my tuition, let me live at home for as long as I want, etc), and in return, now that I’m independent, I will be there to support them anytime they need/want me to. They would never have kick me out of the house and I will never put them in a home when it’s time for me to take care of my parents in return. I’m doing the same thing to my kids as my parents did to me. Just because my parents paid everything for me doesn’t make me lazy and a deadbeat. I help out around the house when I was little and start working when I was 15 and never stopped working since. But because they helped me out financially, it sure made my life a lot easier. I don’t have to worry about student loans. I can save a lot more than I would have if I have a pile of student loans to worry about. I will take that advantage my parents gave me to take it to the next level and pass on that advantage to my kids.[/quote]

AN, you have a very good memory. You are the exception in your generation, and/or a product of your culture, or both. As I remember your situation, you purchased your first home in the exact same or adjacent neighborhood that you grew up in :=]

[NotCranky]

[quote=walterwhite]Close

the movie is beautiful funny moving and profound, has zero dialogue.

Rural African mud hut naked baby is far and away the happiest and most humanly connected in the film.

Footage could be distorted for political purposes, but you’ll probably conclude the baby In Africa has it best. Even though they literally Have nothing but one knife some goats some wood. A pot. That’s about it.

Also the mother seems way happy.

I just saw it last night but I think I’m gonna watch it again.[/quote]
It sounds like something I would like.

[NotCranky]

[quote=walterwhite]Close

the movie is beautiful funny moving and profound, has zero dialogue.

Rural African mud hut naked baby is far and away the happiest and most humanly connected in the film.

Footage could be distorted for political purposes, but you’ll probably conclude the baby In Africa has it best. Even though they literally Have nothing but one knife some goats some wood. A pot. That’s about it.

Also the mother seems way happy.

I just saw it last night but I think I’m gonna watch it again.[/quote]
It sounds like something I would like.

[NotCranky]

[quote=walterwhite]Close

the movie is beautiful funny moving and profound, has zero dialogue.

Rural African mud hut naked baby is far and away the happiest and most humanly connected in the film.

Footage could be distorted for political purposes, but you’ll probably conclude the baby In Africa has it best. Even though they literally Have nothing but one knife some goats some wood. A pot. That’s about it.

Also the mother seems way happy.

I just saw it last night but I think I’m gonna watch it again.[/quote]
It sounds like something I would like.

[NotCranky]

[quote=walterwhite]Close

the movie is beautiful funny moving and profound, has zero dialogue.

Rural African mud hut naked baby is far and away the happiest and most humanly connected in the film.

Footage could be distorted for political purposes, but you’ll probably conclude the baby In Africa has it best. Even though they literally Have nothing but one knife some goats some wood. A pot. That’s about it.

Also the mother seems way happy.

I just saw it last night but I think I’m gonna watch it again.[/quote]
It sounds like something I would like.

[NotCranky]

[quote=walterwhite]Close

the movie is beautiful funny moving and profound, has zero dialogue.

Rural African mud hut naked baby is far and away the happiest and most humanly connected in the film.

Footage could be distorted for political purposes, but you’ll probably conclude the baby In Africa has it best. Even though they literally Have nothing but one knife some goats some wood. A pot. That’s about it.

Also the mother seems way happy.

I just saw it last night but I think I’m gonna watch it again.[/quote]
It sounds like something I would like.

[Reality]

Wouldn’t a 20 something getting a free ride realize it? Surely they know other 20 somethings that aren’t getting such a “sweet deal”. They can’t be so sheltered to believe everyone has everything handed to them.

These arguments that they “weren’t prepared for the world” are hollow to me. I never cleaned a bathroom or did laundry until I moved out, but I figured out how. It wasn’t that hard. And it beat being financially dependent on my parents. But that’s just me.

I blame the enabling parents, but I blame many of the kids too. I have a niece and a nephew. Both were given everything they could ever need to succeed. The niece took advantage of it, graduated from college in 4 years, got a good job, and bought her own place. The nephew spent 5 years in junior college before transferring to a 4 year university, then dropped out after one semester after somehow just then learning that most jobs in his field were indoor desk jobs, which was not good. He’s been living at home for the 2 years since. I think he’s working now (my sister or brother in law have gotten him most of the jobs he’s had).

Some kids will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will just take advantage of their parents.

[Reality]

Wouldn’t a 20 something getting a free ride realize it? Surely they know other 20 somethings that aren’t getting such a “sweet deal”. They can’t be so sheltered to believe everyone has everything handed to them.

These arguments that they “weren’t prepared for the world” are hollow to me. I never cleaned a bathroom or did laundry until I moved out, but I figured out how. It wasn’t that hard. And it beat being financially dependent on my parents. But that’s just me.

I blame the enabling parents, but I blame many of the kids too. I have a niece and a nephew. Both were given everything they could ever need to succeed. The niece took advantage of it, graduated from college in 4 years, got a good job, and bought her own place. The nephew spent 5 years in junior college before transferring to a 4 year university, then dropped out after one semester after somehow just then learning that most jobs in his field were indoor desk jobs, which was not good. He’s been living at home for the 2 years since. I think he’s working now (my sister or brother in law have gotten him most of the jobs he’s had).

Some kids will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will just take advantage of their parents.

[Reality]

Wouldn’t a 20 something getting a free ride realize it? Surely they know other 20 somethings that aren’t getting such a “sweet deal”. They can’t be so sheltered to believe everyone has everything handed to them.

These arguments that they “weren’t prepared for the world” are hollow to me. I never cleaned a bathroom or did laundry until I moved out, but I figured out how. It wasn’t that hard. And it beat being financially dependent on my parents. But that’s just me.

I blame the enabling parents, but I blame many of the kids too. I have a niece and a nephew. Both were given everything they could ever need to succeed. The niece took advantage of it, graduated from college in 4 years, got a good job, and bought her own place. The nephew spent 5 years in junior college before transferring to a 4 year university, then dropped out after one semester after somehow just then learning that most jobs in his field were indoor desk jobs, which was not good. He’s been living at home for the 2 years since. I think he’s working now (my sister or brother in law have gotten him most of the jobs he’s had).

Some kids will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will just take advantage of their parents.

[Reality]

Wouldn’t a 20 something getting a free ride realize it? Surely they know other 20 somethings that aren’t getting such a “sweet deal”. They can’t be so sheltered to believe everyone has everything handed to them.

These arguments that they “weren’t prepared for the world” are hollow to me. I never cleaned a bathroom or did laundry until I moved out, but I figured out how. It wasn’t that hard. And it beat being financially dependent on my parents. But that’s just me.

I blame the enabling parents, but I blame many of the kids too. I have a niece and a nephew. Both were given everything they could ever need to succeed. The niece took advantage of it, graduated from college in 4 years, got a good job, and bought her own place. The nephew spent 5 years in junior college before transferring to a 4 year university, then dropped out after one semester after somehow just then learning that most jobs in his field were indoor desk jobs, which was not good. He’s been living at home for the 2 years since. I think he’s working now (my sister or brother in law have gotten him most of the jobs he’s had).

Some kids will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will just take advantage of their parents.

[Reality]

Wouldn’t a 20 something getting a free ride realize it? Surely they know other 20 somethings that aren’t getting such a “sweet deal”. They can’t be so sheltered to believe everyone has everything handed to them.

These arguments that they “weren’t prepared for the world” are hollow to me. I never cleaned a bathroom or did laundry until I moved out, but I figured out how. It wasn’t that hard. And it beat being financially dependent on my parents. But that’s just me.

I blame the enabling parents, but I blame many of the kids too. I have a niece and a nephew. Both were given everything they could ever need to succeed. The niece took advantage of it, graduated from college in 4 years, got a good job, and bought her own place. The nephew spent 5 years in junior college before transferring to a 4 year university, then dropped out after one semester after somehow just then learning that most jobs in his field were indoor desk jobs, which was not good. He’s been living at home for the 2 years since. I think he’s working now (my sister or brother in law have gotten him most of the jobs he’s had).

Some kids will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will just take advantage of their parents.

[masayako]

Let me guess… You are Asian?

[quote=ninaprincess]I have been in the US half of my life but one thing I still don’t understand it that many American parents kick their children out of the house. Initially I heard people talking about it and I thought they were joking. I brought this up because I just read an article in yahoo about a 23 yr old homeless girl who was kicked out of the parents’ house.

My parents hated that we moved out of the house. They won’t take my money when I stayed with them. My mom would do wash my clothes and clean my room eventhough I told her not too. This is the same case for all of my cousins.[/quote]

[masayako]

Let me guess… You are Asian?

[quote=ninaprincess]I have been in the US half of my life but one thing I still don’t understand it that many American parents kick their children out of the house. Initially I heard people talking about it and I thought they were joking. I brought this up because I just read an article in yahoo about a 23 yr old homeless girl who was kicked out of the parents’ house.

My parents hated that we moved out of the house. They won’t take my money when I stayed with them. My mom would do wash my clothes and clean my room eventhough I told her not too. This is the same case for all of my cousins.[/quote]

[masayako]

Let me guess… You are Asian?

[quote=ninaprincess]I have been in the US half of my life but one thing I still don’t understand it that many American parents kick their children out of the house. Initially I heard people talking about it and I thought they were joking. I brought this up because I just read an article in yahoo about a 23 yr old homeless girl who was kicked out of the parents’ house.

My parents hated that we moved out of the house. They won’t take my money when I stayed with them. My mom would do wash my clothes and clean my room eventhough I told her not too. This is the same case for all of my cousins.[/quote]

[masayako]

Let me guess… You are Asian?

[quote=ninaprincess]I have been in the US half of my life but one thing I still don’t understand it that many American parents kick their children out of the house. Initially I heard people talking about it and I thought they were joking. I brought this up because I just read an article in yahoo about a 23 yr old homeless girl who was kicked out of the parents’ house.

My parents hated that we moved out of the house. They won’t take my money when I stayed with them. My mom would do wash my clothes and clean my room eventhough I told her not too. This is the same case for all of my cousins.[/quote]

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