OT: parents…any recommendations for a cartoon/video for teaching manners.

[CavalierLion]

I suggest Terrance and Phillip cartoons.

As for manners, TV programs are worthless. Teach by example, and then have her do Cotillion when she’s old enough. We’re from the south, and most the kids my kids went to school with did Cotillion. Positive peer pressure works wonders. They all have exceptional manners now (Far better than mine)

[cashflow]

My one daughter is now 3. I get complimented on her always using, please and thank you. I won’t take all the credit for that as I think some kids are easier to get to do certain things, but I always try and remind her if she forgets to be curtious, I also don’t respond when she’s whining at me. I tell her that she’s whining and she needs to ask nicely ‘please or thankyou’…so reinforcement of the behavior.

As for table manners, that’s out the window at this age…we’re happy if we can just get her to eat (she’s always been a terrible eater.) When visiting family they were appalled at me running after her with bites of food and that’s when I realized I catered to this bad table manners (or should I say, total lack of them), so we have implemented a new routine. I think it’s just asking them to do what you want and then following through with any consequences.

I have found that when it comes to behavior that you want to reinforce…books are the Best! You can find all sorts of books on manners. We have a book on an angel that visits when the little girl is naughty all day long, and I can’t tell you how much impact that had on our 3 year old. When she’s naughty we talk about the characters in the book and how it makes each feel…you can really see her thinking and trying to understand. I think it just gives some validation to what you are asking them to do.

Just my 2 cents…..

[cashflow]

My one daughter is now 3. I get complimented on her always using, please and thank you. I won’t take all the credit for that as I think some kids are easier to get to do certain things, but I always try and remind her if she forgets to be curtious, I also don’t respond when she’s whining at me. I tell her that she’s whining and she needs to ask nicely ‘please or thankyou’…so reinforcement of the behavior.

As for table manners, that’s out the window at this age…we’re happy if we can just get her to eat (she’s always been a terrible eater.) When visiting family they were appalled at me running after her with bites of food and that’s when I realized I catered to this bad table manners (or should I say, total lack of them), so we have implemented a new routine. I think it’s just asking them to do what you want and then following through with any consequences.

I have found that when it comes to behavior that you want to reinforce…books are the Best! You can find all sorts of books on manners. We have a book on an angel that visits when the little girl is naughty all day long, and I can’t tell you how much impact that had on our 3 year old. When she’s naughty we talk about the characters in the book and how it makes each feel…you can really see her thinking and trying to understand. I think it just gives some validation to what you are asking them to do.

Just my 2 cents…..

[cashflow]

My one daughter is now 3. I get complimented on her always using, please and thank you. I won’t take all the credit for that as I think some kids are easier to get to do certain things, but I always try and remind her if she forgets to be curtious, I also don’t respond when she’s whining at me. I tell her that she’s whining and she needs to ask nicely ‘please or thankyou’…so reinforcement of the behavior.

As for table manners, that’s out the window at this age…we’re happy if we can just get her to eat (she’s always been a terrible eater.) When visiting family they were appalled at me running after her with bites of food and that’s when I realized I catered to this bad table manners (or should I say, total lack of them), so we have implemented a new routine. I think it’s just asking them to do what you want and then following through with any consequences.

I have found that when it comes to behavior that you want to reinforce…books are the Best! You can find all sorts of books on manners. We have a book on an angel that visits when the little girl is naughty all day long, and I can’t tell you how much impact that had on our 3 year old. When she’s naughty we talk about the characters in the book and how it makes each feel…you can really see her thinking and trying to understand. I think it just gives some validation to what you are asking them to do.

Just my 2 cents…..

[cashflow]

My one daughter is now 3. I get complimented on her always using, please and thank you. I won’t take all the credit for that as I think some kids are easier to get to do certain things, but I always try and remind her if she forgets to be curtious, I also don’t respond when she’s whining at me. I tell her that she’s whining and she needs to ask nicely ‘please or thankyou’…so reinforcement of the behavior.

As for table manners, that’s out the window at this age…we’re happy if we can just get her to eat (she’s always been a terrible eater.) When visiting family they were appalled at me running after her with bites of food and that’s when I realized I catered to this bad table manners (or should I say, total lack of them), so we have implemented a new routine. I think it’s just asking them to do what you want and then following through with any consequences.

I have found that when it comes to behavior that you want to reinforce…books are the Best! You can find all sorts of books on manners. We have a book on an angel that visits when the little girl is naughty all day long, and I can’t tell you how much impact that had on our 3 year old. When she’s naughty we talk about the characters in the book and how it makes each feel…you can really see her thinking and trying to understand. I think it just gives some validation to what you are asking them to do.

Just my 2 cents…..

[cashflow]

My one daughter is now 3. I get complimented on her always using, please and thank you. I won’t take all the credit for that as I think some kids are easier to get to do certain things, but I always try and remind her if she forgets to be curtious, I also don’t respond when she’s whining at me. I tell her that she’s whining and she needs to ask nicely ‘please or thankyou’…so reinforcement of the behavior.

As for table manners, that’s out the window at this age…we’re happy if we can just get her to eat (she’s always been a terrible eater.) When visiting family they were appalled at me running after her with bites of food and that’s when I realized I catered to this bad table manners (or should I say, total lack of them), so we have implemented a new routine. I think it’s just asking them to do what you want and then following through with any consequences.

I have found that when it comes to behavior that you want to reinforce…books are the Best! You can find all sorts of books on manners. We have a book on an angel that visits when the little girl is naughty all day long, and I can’t tell you how much impact that had on our 3 year old. When she’s naughty we talk about the characters in the book and how it makes each feel…you can really see her thinking and trying to understand. I think it just gives some validation to what you are asking them to do.

Just my 2 cents…..

[not-so-average-joe]

Since today’s a bear day…

I always find it really helpful to read Berenstein Bears to my daughter, especially the one in which they forget their manners. Not sure they have a DVD release though.

They are fun and educational and I like most of them, except for the religious ones.

[not-so-average-joe]

Since today’s a bear day…

I always find it really helpful to read Berenstein Bears to my daughter, especially the one in which they forget their manners. Not sure they have a DVD release though.

They are fun and educational and I like most of them, except for the religious ones.

[not-so-average-joe]

Since today’s a bear day…

I always find it really helpful to read Berenstein Bears to my daughter, especially the one in which they forget their manners. Not sure they have a DVD release though.

They are fun and educational and I like most of them, except for the religious ones.

[not-so-average-joe]

Since today’s a bear day…

I always find it really helpful to read Berenstein Bears to my daughter, especially the one in which they forget their manners. Not sure they have a DVD release though.

They are fun and educational and I like most of them, except for the religious ones.

[not-so-average-joe]

Since today’s a bear day…

I always find it really helpful to read Berenstein Bears to my daughter, especially the one in which they forget their manners. Not sure they have a DVD release though.

They are fun and educational and I like most of them, except for the religious ones.

[amy]

I have a 2 yr old, an almost 4 yr old and an almost 6 yr old – all boys. They all have pretty good manners, but I am always encouraging consistency. There are a couple of books that we all (kids & adults) love that have also reinforced they what & why of manners for kids…”Time To Say Please” by Mo Willems (the guy who wrote “Knuffle Bunny” and many other great books) and “Do Unto Otters” by Laurie Keller (who wrote “Scrambled States of America” – another favorite). Also, my two oldest boys are taking karate now which also reinforces respect & manners. Karate might be too young for your child – Jake was 3.5 when he started and he’s just now getting the hang of it. The right preschool can really help too – for some reason kids seem to listen better when it’s not their parents teaching them! 🙂 Good luck & kudos for making the effort!

[amy]

I have a 2 yr old, an almost 4 yr old and an almost 6 yr old – all boys. They all have pretty good manners, but I am always encouraging consistency. There are a couple of books that we all (kids & adults) love that have also reinforced they what & why of manners for kids…”Time To Say Please” by Mo Willems (the guy who wrote “Knuffle Bunny” and many other great books) and “Do Unto Otters” by Laurie Keller (who wrote “Scrambled States of America” – another favorite). Also, my two oldest boys are taking karate now which also reinforces respect & manners. Karate might be too young for your child – Jake was 3.5 when he started and he’s just now getting the hang of it. The right preschool can really help too – for some reason kids seem to listen better when it’s not their parents teaching them! 🙂 Good luck & kudos for making the effort!

[amy]

I have a 2 yr old, an almost 4 yr old and an almost 6 yr old – all boys. They all have pretty good manners, but I am always encouraging consistency. There are a couple of books that we all (kids & adults) love that have also reinforced they what & why of manners for kids…”Time To Say Please” by Mo Willems (the guy who wrote “Knuffle Bunny” and many other great books) and “Do Unto Otters” by Laurie Keller (who wrote “Scrambled States of America” – another favorite). Also, my two oldest boys are taking karate now which also reinforces respect & manners. Karate might be too young for your child – Jake was 3.5 when he started and he’s just now getting the hang of it. The right preschool can really help too – for some reason kids seem to listen better when it’s not their parents teaching them! 🙂 Good luck & kudos for making the effort!

[amy]

I have a 2 yr old, an almost 4 yr old and an almost 6 yr old – all boys. They all have pretty good manners, but I am always encouraging consistency. There are a couple of books that we all (kids & adults) love that have also reinforced they what & why of manners for kids…”Time To Say Please” by Mo Willems (the guy who wrote “Knuffle Bunny” and many other great books) and “Do Unto Otters” by Laurie Keller (who wrote “Scrambled States of America” – another favorite). Also, my two oldest boys are taking karate now which also reinforces respect & manners. Karate might be too young for your child – Jake was 3.5 when he started and he’s just now getting the hang of it. The right preschool can really help too – for some reason kids seem to listen better when it’s not their parents teaching them! 🙂 Good luck & kudos for making the effort!

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