OT: parents…any recommendations for a cartoon/video for teaching manners.

[Coronita]

Sorry for the off topic (again). BUT, are there any parents out there that can recommend a kid’s cartoon video that teaches/demonstrates proper table etiquette? I’d like to start teaching/showing my 2 year old daughter proper table etiquettes. And while the traditional show, tell, “yes”, “no” type of instructions somewhat works, she tends to love watching cartoons and mimics what she sees.

Perhaps I’m too paranoid as a parent, but I just don’t want my kid growing up to be like what you see in shows like “Roseanne”. Perhaps it’s how I was raised, but I recall my parents always saying, “you can have a lot of money, and still have no class…proper etiquette in America is extremely important, particularly being you’re asian.”

[Diego Mamani]

FLU:

The best advice I can give is that you teach your kids to stay away from TVs and videos as much as possible! But you have to teach by example, they have to see you reading, or taking up tennis, or bicycling, restoring furniture, taking music lessons. As for manners, the best way to teach is by example too: insist on saying please, thank you, holding doors for others. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts.

[Diego Mamani]

FLU:

The best advice I can give is that you teach your kids to stay away from TVs and videos as much as possible! But you have to teach by example, they have to see you reading, or taking up tennis, or bicycling, restoring furniture, taking music lessons. As for manners, the best way to teach is by example too: insist on saying please, thank you, holding doors for others. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts.

[Diego Mamani]

FLU:

The best advice I can give is that you teach your kids to stay away from TVs and videos as much as possible! But you have to teach by example, they have to see you reading, or taking up tennis, or bicycling, restoring furniture, taking music lessons. As for manners, the best way to teach is by example too: insist on saying please, thank you, holding doors for others. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts.

[Diego Mamani]

FLU:

The best advice I can give is that you teach your kids to stay away from TVs and videos as much as possible! But you have to teach by example, they have to see you reading, or taking up tennis, or bicycling, restoring furniture, taking music lessons. As for manners, the best way to teach is by example too: insist on saying please, thank you, holding doors for others. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts.

[Diego Mamani]

FLU:

The best advice I can give is that you teach your kids to stay away from TVs and videos as much as possible! But you have to teach by example, they have to see you reading, or taking up tennis, or bicycling, restoring furniture, taking music lessons. As for manners, the best way to teach is by example too: insist on saying please, thank you, holding doors for others. I know it’s easier said than done, but there are no shortcuts.

[sdduuuude]

I must agree – cartoons are not the way to teach manners.

But lets back up a step. Teaching a two-year old manners is a bit like trying to teach a pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. But, just because it is difficult (i.e. impossible) doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start young.

Just realize that with a 2-year old, getting them to not throw fits when they want something that is physically or practically impossible is a remarkable achievement in manners. And if you can do that, when they are older, they will adopt manners with ease.

Of course, leading by example is important, but teaching by natural consequences is also key – i.e. if they don’t use their manners, they don’t get what they want. They don’t say “Thank you” when a gift is received, they have to give it back. This is not “yes”, “no” instructions, but real consequences for real actions. Daily and hourly reinforcement and interactive practice with real people, not TVs is best.

With a 2-year old you have a difficult choice to make. Either 1) she runs the house and you do whatever she wants to avoid her throwing a fit, falling deeper and deeper in to a downward spiral of reactionary “fit prevention” behavior or 2) You live with the fits, make sure she doesn’t get what she wants when she is throwing a fit and realize that when she throws a fit and doesn’t get what she wants, she is learning manners.

[sdduuuude]

I must agree – cartoons are not the way to teach manners.

But lets back up a step. Teaching a two-year old manners is a bit like trying to teach a pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. But, just because it is difficult (i.e. impossible) doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start young.

Just realize that with a 2-year old, getting them to not throw fits when they want something that is physically or practically impossible is a remarkable achievement in manners. And if you can do that, when they are older, they will adopt manners with ease.

Of course, leading by example is important, but teaching by natural consequences is also key – i.e. if they don’t use their manners, they don’t get what they want. They don’t say “Thank you” when a gift is received, they have to give it back. This is not “yes”, “no” instructions, but real consequences for real actions. Daily and hourly reinforcement and interactive practice with real people, not TVs is best.

With a 2-year old you have a difficult choice to make. Either 1) she runs the house and you do whatever she wants to avoid her throwing a fit, falling deeper and deeper in to a downward spiral of reactionary “fit prevention” behavior or 2) You live with the fits, make sure she doesn’t get what she wants when she is throwing a fit and realize that when she throws a fit and doesn’t get what she wants, she is learning manners.

[sdduuuude]

I must agree – cartoons are not the way to teach manners.

But lets back up a step. Teaching a two-year old manners is a bit like trying to teach a pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. But, just because it is difficult (i.e. impossible) doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start young.

Just realize that with a 2-year old, getting them to not throw fits when they want something that is physically or practically impossible is a remarkable achievement in manners. And if you can do that, when they are older, they will adopt manners with ease.

Of course, leading by example is important, but teaching by natural consequences is also key – i.e. if they don’t use their manners, they don’t get what they want. They don’t say “Thank you” when a gift is received, they have to give it back. This is not “yes”, “no” instructions, but real consequences for real actions. Daily and hourly reinforcement and interactive practice with real people, not TVs is best.

With a 2-year old you have a difficult choice to make. Either 1) she runs the house and you do whatever she wants to avoid her throwing a fit, falling deeper and deeper in to a downward spiral of reactionary “fit prevention” behavior or 2) You live with the fits, make sure she doesn’t get what she wants when she is throwing a fit and realize that when she throws a fit and doesn’t get what she wants, she is learning manners.

[sdduuuude]

I must agree – cartoons are not the way to teach manners.

But lets back up a step. Teaching a two-year old manners is a bit like trying to teach a pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. But, just because it is difficult (i.e. impossible) doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start young.

Just realize that with a 2-year old, getting them to not throw fits when they want something that is physically or practically impossible is a remarkable achievement in manners. And if you can do that, when they are older, they will adopt manners with ease.

Of course, leading by example is important, but teaching by natural consequences is also key – i.e. if they don’t use their manners, they don’t get what they want. They don’t say “Thank you” when a gift is received, they have to give it back. This is not “yes”, “no” instructions, but real consequences for real actions. Daily and hourly reinforcement and interactive practice with real people, not TVs is best.

With a 2-year old you have a difficult choice to make. Either 1) she runs the house and you do whatever she wants to avoid her throwing a fit, falling deeper and deeper in to a downward spiral of reactionary “fit prevention” behavior or 2) You live with the fits, make sure she doesn’t get what she wants when she is throwing a fit and realize that when she throws a fit and doesn’t get what she wants, she is learning manners.

[sdduuuude]

I must agree – cartoons are not the way to teach manners.

But lets back up a step. Teaching a two-year old manners is a bit like trying to teach a pig to sing – it doesn’t work and it annoys the pig. But, just because it is difficult (i.e. impossible) doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start young.

Just realize that with a 2-year old, getting them to not throw fits when they want something that is physically or practically impossible is a remarkable achievement in manners. And if you can do that, when they are older, they will adopt manners with ease.

Of course, leading by example is important, but teaching by natural consequences is also key – i.e. if they don’t use their manners, they don’t get what they want. They don’t say “Thank you” when a gift is received, they have to give it back. This is not “yes”, “no” instructions, but real consequences for real actions. Daily and hourly reinforcement and interactive practice with real people, not TVs is best.

With a 2-year old you have a difficult choice to make. Either 1) she runs the house and you do whatever she wants to avoid her throwing a fit, falling deeper and deeper in to a downward spiral of reactionary “fit prevention” behavior or 2) You live with the fits, make sure she doesn’t get what she wants when she is throwing a fit and realize that when she throws a fit and doesn’t get what she wants, she is learning manners.

[Coronita]

Thanks for the advice. Yes, I'm trying not to let her watch any tv. But at  the same time, I don't want her to be completely sheltered either. She apparently likes your typical SS characters (elmo etc)… Just thought it might help enforce things I'm already trying to teach…At 2, yes I'm currently with the "teach but dealing with the fit" approach.

The problem i have isn't that when I say no, she throws a fit (ok sometimes). The problem is most often or not, when I say no, she asks "why?"

 

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—– Sour grapes for everyone!

[Coronita]

Thanks for the advice. Yes, I'm trying not to let her watch any tv. But at  the same time, I don't want her to be completely sheltered either. She apparently likes your typical SS characters (elmo etc)… Just thought it might help enforce things I'm already trying to teach…At 2, yes I'm currently with the "teach but dealing with the fit" approach.

The problem i have isn't that when I say no, she throws a fit (ok sometimes). The problem is most often or not, when I say no, she asks "why?"

 

[img_assist|nid=5962|title=selfportrait|desc=|link=node|align=left|width=100|height=80]

—– Sour grapes for everyone!

[Coronita]

Thanks for the advice. Yes, I'm trying not to let her watch any tv. But at  the same time, I don't want her to be completely sheltered either. She apparently likes your typical SS characters (elmo etc)… Just thought it might help enforce things I'm already trying to teach…At 2, yes I'm currently with the "teach but dealing with the fit" approach.

The problem i have isn't that when I say no, she throws a fit (ok sometimes). The problem is most often or not, when I say no, she asks "why?"

 

[img_assist|nid=5962|title=selfportrait|desc=|link=node|align=left|width=100|height=80]

—– Sour grapes for everyone!

[Coronita]

Thanks for the advice. Yes, I'm trying not to let her watch any tv. But at  the same time, I don't want her to be completely sheltered either. She apparently likes your typical SS characters (elmo etc)… Just thought it might help enforce things I'm already trying to teach…At 2, yes I'm currently with the "teach but dealing with the fit" approach.

The problem i have isn't that when I say no, she throws a fit (ok sometimes). The problem is most often or not, when I say no, she asks "why?"

 

[img_assist|nid=5962|title=selfportrait|desc=|link=node|align=left|width=100|height=80]

—– Sour grapes for everyone!

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