is it different to live in a house you buy?

[briansd1]

CBad, seems to me that the closed-minded ones are those who insist that ownership is better. Can there not be a second or third way?

Sounds like a religion to me where you can’t find peace unless you believe in God. You can’t find happiness until you get married, buy a house and build a nest. OK, for some folks it’s like that.

Navydoc, I like to look at the contradictions and irony in life. And I have to say that I like European real-life dramas more than happy-ending, fantasy, and special effects movies coming out of Hollywood.

About sex, I was responding to Russell’s comment about ownership and sex. His comment would be like saying owners generally have more furniture and dishes and socks. 😉 Wow, bid deal!

Talking about open-mindedness and sex, if you haven’t tried post-marital, extra-marital sex, then how do you know which one is better? We are not talking about morality or decency here. We are talking about the pure act. But I guess how you think about it affects the pleasure you derive from it.

Some people won’t try some types of food because they are afraid. Doesn’t that mean that they are closed-minded? I’ve been to Thailand many times and I’ve had street-food as well as Durian and other stuff. I love it. Some of my friends won’t even try.

What I’m trying to say is that living an American-style life in a suburban house is not nirvana. Many folks could well afford to live such life but choose not to. It might be hard for those who live in Carmel Valley, 4S, Carlsbad, Poway, Scripps Ranch, etc. to believe otherwise, but many folks don’t ever want to live that like.

In many parts of the East Coast, and in much of the rest of the world, living in the city is much better than in the suburbs or exurbs.

I believe that it’s very open-minded to think that rental and ownership both have benefits for certain folks depending on their lifestyles.

Ownership is not better then renting and vice versa. They both have benefits and costs. You choose what fits you. But don’t preach your own lifestyle as superior.

[sdduuuude]

This probably isn’t a good place to discuss the cost of owning vs. renting … 🙂

Assuming similar costs, I think the difference comes down to control.

You have much more control over a house that you own than over one you rent.

When you rent, however, you have more control over where you live, as it is easier to move to a new place you like better. So, there is some sense of control and flexibility in renting as well – though on a macro scale, not a micro scale.

You lose some control with renting, also, as you don’t have any guarantee that you can stay in a place you like for a long time.

The question is – do you want alot of control over the walls, color, landscaping, design, etc. of 1 property or the freedom to change properties ? Simple as that. I prefer the former.

For many, Carmel Valley is Nirvana. I don’t get it either, but I have come to accept that others love it.

[sdduuuude]

This probably isn’t a good place to discuss the cost of owning vs. renting … 🙂

Assuming similar costs, I think the difference comes down to control.

You have much more control over a house that you own than over one you rent.

When you rent, however, you have more control over where you live, as it is easier to move to a new place you like better. So, there is some sense of control and flexibility in renting as well – though on a macro scale, not a micro scale.

You lose some control with renting, also, as you don’t have any guarantee that you can stay in a place you like for a long time.

The question is – do you want alot of control over the walls, color, landscaping, design, etc. of 1 property or the freedom to change properties ? Simple as that. I prefer the former.

For many, Carmel Valley is Nirvana. I don’t get it either, but I have come to accept that others love it.

[sdduuuude]

This probably isn’t a good place to discuss the cost of owning vs. renting … 🙂

Assuming similar costs, I think the difference comes down to control.

You have much more control over a house that you own than over one you rent.

When you rent, however, you have more control over where you live, as it is easier to move to a new place you like better. So, there is some sense of control and flexibility in renting as well – though on a macro scale, not a micro scale.

You lose some control with renting, also, as you don’t have any guarantee that you can stay in a place you like for a long time.

The question is – do you want alot of control over the walls, color, landscaping, design, etc. of 1 property or the freedom to change properties ? Simple as that. I prefer the former.

For many, Carmel Valley is Nirvana. I don’t get it either, but I have come to accept that others love it.

[sdduuuude]

This probably isn’t a good place to discuss the cost of owning vs. renting … 🙂

Assuming similar costs, I think the difference comes down to control.

You have much more control over a house that you own than over one you rent.

When you rent, however, you have more control over where you live, as it is easier to move to a new place you like better. So, there is some sense of control and flexibility in renting as well – though on a macro scale, not a micro scale.

You lose some control with renting, also, as you don’t have any guarantee that you can stay in a place you like for a long time.

The question is – do you want alot of control over the walls, color, landscaping, design, etc. of 1 property or the freedom to change properties ? Simple as that. I prefer the former.

For many, Carmel Valley is Nirvana. I don’t get it either, but I have come to accept that others love it.

[sdduuuude]

This probably isn’t a good place to discuss the cost of owning vs. renting … 🙂

Assuming similar costs, I think the difference comes down to control.

You have much more control over a house that you own than over one you rent.

When you rent, however, you have more control over where you live, as it is easier to move to a new place you like better. So, there is some sense of control and flexibility in renting as well – though on a macro scale, not a micro scale.

You lose some control with renting, also, as you don’t have any guarantee that you can stay in a place you like for a long time.

The question is – do you want alot of control over the walls, color, landscaping, design, etc. of 1 property or the freedom to change properties ? Simple as that. I prefer the former.

For many, Carmel Valley is Nirvana. I don’t get it either, but I have come to accept that others love it.

[CBad]

[quote=briansd1]That’s because there’s nothing else to do in the suburbs. You look at each other, and even if you hate one another, you just do it.

The quality of the sex is bad.[/quote]

Does that sound like an open-minded person to you? You’re not married so WTF? How do you know? More anecdotal evidence from unhappily married family/friends? Do married people have better quality sex in cities? Do single people have worse quality sex in suburbs? What kind of sex quality grading system do you use by the way? I just want to know if I get an A so I can hang it on the fridge.

[CBad]

[quote=briansd1]That’s because there’s nothing else to do in the suburbs. You look at each other, and even if you hate one another, you just do it.

The quality of the sex is bad.[/quote]

Does that sound like an open-minded person to you? You’re not married so WTF? How do you know? More anecdotal evidence from unhappily married family/friends? Do married people have better quality sex in cities? Do single people have worse quality sex in suburbs? What kind of sex quality grading system do you use by the way? I just want to know if I get an A so I can hang it on the fridge.

[CBad]

[quote=briansd1]That’s because there’s nothing else to do in the suburbs. You look at each other, and even if you hate one another, you just do it.

The quality of the sex is bad.[/quote]

Does that sound like an open-minded person to you? You’re not married so WTF? How do you know? More anecdotal evidence from unhappily married family/friends? Do married people have better quality sex in cities? Do single people have worse quality sex in suburbs? What kind of sex quality grading system do you use by the way? I just want to know if I get an A so I can hang it on the fridge.

[CBad]

[quote=briansd1]That’s because there’s nothing else to do in the suburbs. You look at each other, and even if you hate one another, you just do it.

The quality of the sex is bad.[/quote]

Does that sound like an open-minded person to you? You’re not married so WTF? How do you know? More anecdotal evidence from unhappily married family/friends? Do married people have better quality sex in cities? Do single people have worse quality sex in suburbs? What kind of sex quality grading system do you use by the way? I just want to know if I get an A so I can hang it on the fridge.

[CBad]

[quote=briansd1]That’s because there’s nothing else to do in the suburbs. You look at each other, and even if you hate one another, you just do it.

The quality of the sex is bad.[/quote]

Does that sound like an open-minded person to you? You’re not married so WTF? How do you know? More anecdotal evidence from unhappily married family/friends? Do married people have better quality sex in cities? Do single people have worse quality sex in suburbs? What kind of sex quality grading system do you use by the way? I just want to know if I get an A so I can hang it on the fridge.

[briansd1]

CBad, don’t take it so seriously. I was just responding in jest to Russell over his comment that homeowners have more sex. I assume he said that as an incentive for buying. 😉

My comment is no different than a homeowner claiming to have more pleasure in a house he owns. To such homeowner, the quality of the decorating is better. To him, in a rental, you made do with what’s there staring at you.

[briansd1]

CBad, don’t take it so seriously. I was just responding in jest to Russell over his comment that homeowners have more sex. I assume he said that as an incentive for buying. 😉

My comment is no different than a homeowner claiming to have more pleasure in a house he owns. To such homeowner, the quality of the decorating is better. To him, in a rental, you made do with what’s there staring at you.

[briansd1]

CBad, don’t take it so seriously. I was just responding in jest to Russell over his comment that homeowners have more sex. I assume he said that as an incentive for buying. 😉

My comment is no different than a homeowner claiming to have more pleasure in a house he owns. To such homeowner, the quality of the decorating is better. To him, in a rental, you made do with what’s there staring at you.

[briansd1]

CBad, don’t take it so seriously. I was just responding in jest to Russell over his comment that homeowners have more sex. I assume he said that as an incentive for buying. 😉

My comment is no different than a homeowner claiming to have more pleasure in a house he owns. To such homeowner, the quality of the decorating is better. To him, in a rental, you made do with what’s there staring at you.

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