[quote=FlyerInHi]Wo Blogstar. Super dad.
I think I need to negotiate for a nanny.[/quote]
It’s my feminine side what can I say. (hate labels!)
I imagine you can do a lot of it better.
the only tricky part about getting married inthe berginning is saying the word “wife” without feeling like a goober. This is my “wife”…i don’t know…took me a good 5 to 10 years to get used to that, to say it like i wasn’t just messing around…my little fishwife…
The impasse is what you and your future wife are doing, flyer, ask yourselves.
Really when you come to an impasse you say “just don’t fuck me alright” ..if you chose well they won’t and things will get better. Certainly no guarantees.
it was easy to say “son”, it wass difficult for me to say wife. now though i say wife easily….but not “the little woman”. or “better half”. nope. just plain wife. or “wifelet”.
Better half is wrong…I say it because it is common in Spanish…media naranja…half of the orange…I try not to say mom without the “your” to the boys but it happens. WWFS…what would freud say.
[quote=Blogstar]Better half is wrong…I say it because it is common in Spanish…media naranja…half of the orange…I try not to say mom without the “your” to the boys but it happens. WWFS…what would freud say.[/quote]
Very difficult not to call your spouse “mom” or “dad” after you have kids. I do it all the time. He says he doesn’t mind.
i have never been called dad. only known as “pa”. or occasionally ironically as “father figure.” pronounced “paw”. father figure, regular pronnuniciation. i called my dad dad and im pretty sure it would have been impermissible to call him father figure.
no “mom”, instead “mama”. also mamasita, and mother. meemaw, sometimes.
this was intentional, i wanted to be different on this. also i dont like the sound of dad or daddy. i like pa, kind of like from the andy griffith show.
in the future, i would like to be called “grandpappy. ” grandpapaw also acceptable. “old man”, fine as well…. i can also accept sir, esquire, and gramps in a pinch
[quote=FlyerInHi]What happens when there’s an impasse when both sides are protecting themselves?
Maybe marriage is easier when you’re young and have nothing.[/quote]
That’s how most marriages start. The problems mostly arise after very long-term marriages where assets and benefits have been accumulated over time. Both spouses tend to feel that they have contributed a lot over the course of many years (likely true). Both spouses tend to feel that they have made many sacrifices for the sake of the other spouse and the family (also, most likely true). But when it comes time to divide up the things that both people feel that they own 100% (because most people don’t mentally separate things when they’re married since both contribute complementary things that are seen as benefiting the family as a whole), that’s when the trouble starts.
