Divorce corp

[CA renter]

Thanks for your response, SK. I agree with you 100% that these things are not what should be valued most in a woman, but all too often, that’s how it works.

BTW, it’s not that these are a woman’s greatest contributions to a marriage, but how women are valued by society and the men who choose them (though there are some exceptional men who aren’t like this, thankfully). I have to run right now, but will post some more on this later.

[scaredyclassic]

The trend among young people definitely seems to be have a baby first get married later when you find the right guy.

Perhaps it’s a rational reaction to onerous alimony judgments?

[scaredyclassic]

Stay at home dad’s give up their most study handsome years?

[scaredyclassic]

Is it really giving up anything? Perhaps child raising is a benefit, a gain?

[scaredyclassic]

No one really needs to be a multi decade SAHM.

[scaredyclassic]

Monetize everything including your supple youthfulness?

[scaredyclassic]

People are willing to lay down their lives for their children but they’ll be dawned if they are required to get along with a somewhat unreasonable spouse…

[NotCranky]

Anyone who is reasonably down to earth , capable or love, and wants to be married will not have to big of a problem with a spouse who is merely “somewhat unreasonable” or somewhat (insert character flaw here). You have to be pretty lame marriage material to think people don’t come with “somewhat” of a flaw of some kind. May as well not get married and instead carry on like a relationship/ opposite sex know-it-all on the Internet.

[scaredyclassic]

If I didn’t have kids I don’t think I’d have any incentive to get to work everyday. Seems unfair to make such a demo tufted guy keep toiling.

[CA renter]

[quote=Blogstar]Anyone who is reasonably down to earth , capable or love, and wants to be married will not have to big of a problem with a spouse who is merely “somewhat unreasonable” or somewhat (insert character flaw here). You have to be pretty lame marriage material to think people don’t come with “somewhat” of a flaw of some kind. May as well not get married and instead carry on like a relationship/ opposite sex know-it-all on the Internet.[/quote]

Could not agree more.

[CA renter]

[quote=6packscaredy]Is it really giving up anything? Perhaps child raising is a benefit, a gain?[/quote]

You’re not giving up anything if everything goes as planned (lifelong marriage). IMHO, it’s a total benefit to the entire family to have a SAHP who is committed to the family (for families who choose this option…everyone has different priorities and opinions).

If you end up getting divorced, OTOH, you are most certainly sacrificing a lot if you’re a SAHP.

[CA renter]

[quote=6packscaredy]Stay at home dad’s give up their most study handsome years?[/quote]

No, but they do give up major income earning potential when they are SAHDs.

[CA renter]

[quote=6packscaredy]No one really needs to be a multi decade SAHM.[/quote]

Many SAHMs end up caring not only for their own children, but for their grandchildren and parents/in-laws.

Just because people are willing to do it for “free” (with the expectation that they will not be left destitute and abandoned in later years), doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have both social and economic value. Try hiring a full-time nanny (responsible for everything from transportation to school/classes/activities, to doctors’ appts., to caring when children are ill, to homework assistance/teaching, etc.), housekeeper, accountant (many SAHPs manage the finances and investments), personal shopper, and on and on…see how much you’ll spend.

Just for a frame of reference, in our neighborhood, a teenaged kid with no experience and who doesn’t even clean after the kids (or do anything else listed above) will make $15/hr. for three kids. That’s the going rate around here for everyone we’ve talked to.

[scaredyclassic]

True. But that’d other people’s kidd, only when desperate. One decade off on child duty I can see. But more than that seems extravsgant. Staying at it and then demanding alimony feels like the incentives may be wrong.

Why would the guy or working girl want to pay more alimony for the spouse to watch his own folks or the grsbdkids?

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=CA renter][quote=6packscaredy]Is it really giving up anything? Perhaps child raising is a benefit, a gain?[/quote]

You’re not giving up anything if everything goes as planned (lifelong marriage). IMHO, it’s a total benefit to the entire family to have a SAHP who is committed to the family (for families who choose this option…everyone has different priorities and opinions).

If you end up getting divorced, OTOH, you are most certainly sacrificing a lot if you’re a SAHP.[/quote]

Is the worker sacrificing too?

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