Affairs of the heart…

[Anonymous]

Voz, don’t forget to hide your wallet tonight while she sleeps…

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[cooperthedog]

Marion, some of your statements are contradictions.

You are simultaneously old-fashioned, wanting the man to lead/pay for dates, yet you’re independent and NEED to be financially self-reliant, but require joint-accounts when married (though you wouldn’t want to buy a house with someone again), even though you infer that your net worth is higher than your mate. You don’t like stinginess, yet you don’t pay for the dates, and don’t appear to be receiptive to the (great) idea other posters had about you taking control of the next date…

???

[cooperthedog]

Marion, some of your statements are contradictions.

You are simultaneously old-fashioned, wanting the man to lead/pay for dates, yet you’re independent and NEED to be financially self-reliant, but require joint-accounts when married (though you wouldn’t want to buy a house with someone again), even though you infer that your net worth is higher than your mate. You don’t like stinginess, yet you don’t pay for the dates, and don’t appear to be receiptive to the (great) idea other posters had about you taking control of the next date…

???

[cooperthedog]

Marion, some of your statements are contradictions.

You are simultaneously old-fashioned, wanting the man to lead/pay for dates, yet you’re independent and NEED to be financially self-reliant, but require joint-accounts when married (though you wouldn’t want to buy a house with someone again), even though you infer that your net worth is higher than your mate. You don’t like stinginess, yet you don’t pay for the dates, and don’t appear to be receiptive to the (great) idea other posters had about you taking control of the next date…

???

[cooperthedog]

Marion, some of your statements are contradictions.

You are simultaneously old-fashioned, wanting the man to lead/pay for dates, yet you’re independent and NEED to be financially self-reliant, but require joint-accounts when married (though you wouldn’t want to buy a house with someone again), even though you infer that your net worth is higher than your mate. You don’t like stinginess, yet you don’t pay for the dates, and don’t appear to be receiptive to the (great) idea other posters had about you taking control of the next date…

???

[cooperthedog]

Marion, some of your statements are contradictions.

You are simultaneously old-fashioned, wanting the man to lead/pay for dates, yet you’re independent and NEED to be financially self-reliant, but require joint-accounts when married (though you wouldn’t want to buy a house with someone again), even though you infer that your net worth is higher than your mate. You don’t like stinginess, yet you don’t pay for the dates, and don’t appear to be receiptive to the (great) idea other posters had about you taking control of the next date…

???

[CardiffBaseball]

I’d have to say if I were on the market again I’d probably be the sucker trying to impress. You should be picking up one of us piggs Marion. I make a lot of money but I am basically dead broke, and married but I have one of those just loveable faces that you just want to kiss. I do spend way too much time on the internet, sometimes I wear a pair of underwear a second day, and my mind is always in the gutter. Also I am sad to report it’s sports 24/7, I don’t like Hillary, and I hate going to anything classy (operas/shows/kpbs speaker events). However I will attend a show once or twice a year to keep you happy but only if you dress up for me. I will most definitely eat a lot of red meat and not care if it pisses off your vegan friend and her bespectacled wimpy metrosexual boyfriend. Please don’t ask me to just “eat bean sprouts tonight” or at least when we have dinner with them make it place where I can get plastered on heavy beer to supplement the noodles we are eating (Thai super hot, forcing me to down more beer). I think it’s important you know the bad things up front.

Now I am not all bad….On the plus side I don’t spend too much time hanging out in transsexual bars, I do the dishes every night, and no meth, smack or HGH and at this point ED is not an issue.

Seriously I have to say this cat screams loser to me(sorry this is the internet, it’s looser). I am being harsh he is at the very least very awkward, and not comfortable with playing the game. I can’t imagine bringing up the word pre-nup so soon when you guys haven’t come close to the “Hey I test drive a car before I buy it” phase of the relationship. Clearly he sees something in you he likes, but his lack of understanding the correct sequence in the dating protocol could mean he’ll do other awkward things. I also take his meeting place selections to mean he’s kind of boring and you’ll need to carry all of the creative weight like my wife is forced to do.

I think my wife is suddenly Leykis’ warning to all men in reverse, (they all all cut off their hair and gain weight right after getting married). After 16 years she has actually grown her hair back out longer than even before I met her, and wants to start really lifting and working out to take off a little weight. 40 is just around the corner, so I figure:
A) She’s getting ready to ditch me for a guy who can afford a house right now (I am a couple years of savings/debt reduction minimum)
B) maybe she’s prepping me for a future “cuckold” arrangement. I think it was dave that used that word.. cracked me up. (better check for Craigslist CAS history in the Browser)
C) she might just want to impress me

Honestly she’s a woman I’ll never know why, I’ll just enjoy it until the hot flashes come even if it’s not meant for me, why should I care?

Marion you have my empathy as I haven’t considered the side effects of being on the market until I went through this post. I was married so young by today’s standards (22) that I just can’t imagine being on the dating scene again. Ahh wrong words I imagine it all the time with some of the amazing looking 40ish women (Go Coogs) at work and in my social circle. Smart, stunning and 6 figure women have amazing power over a dolt like me. What I don’t relish is the idea of getting to know someone again. To meet and try and gain favor and interest in their network of friends and family —uuggg. I am sure I am to the point of being able to pass gas around my in-law’s and they got over the occasional filthy joke after a few spirits a long time ago. How do I break in new ones?

Bugs you might have the right idea about doing something nice for the wife even if I secretly long to be TemeculaGuy.

[CardiffBaseball]

I’d have to say if I were on the market again I’d probably be the sucker trying to impress. You should be picking up one of us piggs Marion. I make a lot of money but I am basically dead broke, and married but I have one of those just loveable faces that you just want to kiss. I do spend way too much time on the internet, sometimes I wear a pair of underwear a second day, and my mind is always in the gutter. Also I am sad to report it’s sports 24/7, I don’t like Hillary, and I hate going to anything classy (operas/shows/kpbs speaker events). However I will attend a show once or twice a year to keep you happy but only if you dress up for me. I will most definitely eat a lot of red meat and not care if it pisses off your vegan friend and her bespectacled wimpy metrosexual boyfriend. Please don’t ask me to just “eat bean sprouts tonight” or at least when we have dinner with them make it place where I can get plastered on heavy beer to supplement the noodles we are eating (Thai super hot, forcing me to down more beer). I think it’s important you know the bad things up front.

Now I am not all bad….On the plus side I don’t spend too much time hanging out in transsexual bars, I do the dishes every night, and no meth, smack or HGH and at this point ED is not an issue.

Seriously I have to say this cat screams loser to me(sorry this is the internet, it’s looser). I am being harsh he is at the very least very awkward, and not comfortable with playing the game. I can’t imagine bringing up the word pre-nup so soon when you guys haven’t come close to the “Hey I test drive a car before I buy it” phase of the relationship. Clearly he sees something in you he likes, but his lack of understanding the correct sequence in the dating protocol could mean he’ll do other awkward things. I also take his meeting place selections to mean he’s kind of boring and you’ll need to carry all of the creative weight like my wife is forced to do.

I think my wife is suddenly Leykis’ warning to all men in reverse, (they all all cut off their hair and gain weight right after getting married). After 16 years she has actually grown her hair back out longer than even before I met her, and wants to start really lifting and working out to take off a little weight. 40 is just around the corner, so I figure:
A) She’s getting ready to ditch me for a guy who can afford a house right now (I am a couple years of savings/debt reduction minimum)
B) maybe she’s prepping me for a future “cuckold” arrangement. I think it was dave that used that word.. cracked me up. (better check for Craigslist CAS history in the Browser)
C) she might just want to impress me

Honestly she’s a woman I’ll never know why, I’ll just enjoy it until the hot flashes come even if it’s not meant for me, why should I care?

Marion you have my empathy as I haven’t considered the side effects of being on the market until I went through this post. I was married so young by today’s standards (22) that I just can’t imagine being on the dating scene again. Ahh wrong words I imagine it all the time with some of the amazing looking 40ish women (Go Coogs) at work and in my social circle. Smart, stunning and 6 figure women have amazing power over a dolt like me. What I don’t relish is the idea of getting to know someone again. To meet and try and gain favor and interest in their network of friends and family —uuggg. I am sure I am to the point of being able to pass gas around my in-law’s and they got over the occasional filthy joke after a few spirits a long time ago. How do I break in new ones?

Bugs you might have the right idea about doing something nice for the wife even if I secretly long to be TemeculaGuy.

[CardiffBaseball]

I’d have to say if I were on the market again I’d probably be the sucker trying to impress. You should be picking up one of us piggs Marion. I make a lot of money but I am basically dead broke, and married but I have one of those just loveable faces that you just want to kiss. I do spend way too much time on the internet, sometimes I wear a pair of underwear a second day, and my mind is always in the gutter. Also I am sad to report it’s sports 24/7, I don’t like Hillary, and I hate going to anything classy (operas/shows/kpbs speaker events). However I will attend a show once or twice a year to keep you happy but only if you dress up for me. I will most definitely eat a lot of red meat and not care if it pisses off your vegan friend and her bespectacled wimpy metrosexual boyfriend. Please don’t ask me to just “eat bean sprouts tonight” or at least when we have dinner with them make it place where I can get plastered on heavy beer to supplement the noodles we are eating (Thai super hot, forcing me to down more beer). I think it’s important you know the bad things up front.

Now I am not all bad….On the plus side I don’t spend too much time hanging out in transsexual bars, I do the dishes every night, and no meth, smack or HGH and at this point ED is not an issue.

Seriously I have to say this cat screams loser to me(sorry this is the internet, it’s looser). I am being harsh he is at the very least very awkward, and not comfortable with playing the game. I can’t imagine bringing up the word pre-nup so soon when you guys haven’t come close to the “Hey I test drive a car before I buy it” phase of the relationship. Clearly he sees something in you he likes, but his lack of understanding the correct sequence in the dating protocol could mean he’ll do other awkward things. I also take his meeting place selections to mean he’s kind of boring and you’ll need to carry all of the creative weight like my wife is forced to do.

I think my wife is suddenly Leykis’ warning to all men in reverse, (they all all cut off their hair and gain weight right after getting married). After 16 years she has actually grown her hair back out longer than even before I met her, and wants to start really lifting and working out to take off a little weight. 40 is just around the corner, so I figure:
A) She’s getting ready to ditch me for a guy who can afford a house right now (I am a couple years of savings/debt reduction minimum)
B) maybe she’s prepping me for a future “cuckold” arrangement. I think it was dave that used that word.. cracked me up. (better check for Craigslist CAS history in the Browser)
C) she might just want to impress me

Honestly she’s a woman I’ll never know why, I’ll just enjoy it until the hot flashes come even if it’s not meant for me, why should I care?

Marion you have my empathy as I haven’t considered the side effects of being on the market until I went through this post. I was married so young by today’s standards (22) that I just can’t imagine being on the dating scene again. Ahh wrong words I imagine it all the time with some of the amazing looking 40ish women (Go Coogs) at work and in my social circle. Smart, stunning and 6 figure women have amazing power over a dolt like me. What I don’t relish is the idea of getting to know someone again. To meet and try and gain favor and interest in their network of friends and family —uuggg. I am sure I am to the point of being able to pass gas around my in-law’s and they got over the occasional filthy joke after a few spirits a long time ago. How do I break in new ones?

Bugs you might have the right idea about doing something nice for the wife even if I secretly long to be TemeculaGuy.

[CardiffBaseball]

I’d have to say if I were on the market again I’d probably be the sucker trying to impress. You should be picking up one of us piggs Marion. I make a lot of money but I am basically dead broke, and married but I have one of those just loveable faces that you just want to kiss. I do spend way too much time on the internet, sometimes I wear a pair of underwear a second day, and my mind is always in the gutter. Also I am sad to report it’s sports 24/7, I don’t like Hillary, and I hate going to anything classy (operas/shows/kpbs speaker events). However I will attend a show once or twice a year to keep you happy but only if you dress up for me. I will most definitely eat a lot of red meat and not care if it pisses off your vegan friend and her bespectacled wimpy metrosexual boyfriend. Please don’t ask me to just “eat bean sprouts tonight” or at least when we have dinner with them make it place where I can get plastered on heavy beer to supplement the noodles we are eating (Thai super hot, forcing me to down more beer). I think it’s important you know the bad things up front.

Now I am not all bad….On the plus side I don’t spend too much time hanging out in transsexual bars, I do the dishes every night, and no meth, smack or HGH and at this point ED is not an issue.

Seriously I have to say this cat screams loser to me(sorry this is the internet, it’s looser). I am being harsh he is at the very least very awkward, and not comfortable with playing the game. I can’t imagine bringing up the word pre-nup so soon when you guys haven’t come close to the “Hey I test drive a car before I buy it” phase of the relationship. Clearly he sees something in you he likes, but his lack of understanding the correct sequence in the dating protocol could mean he’ll do other awkward things. I also take his meeting place selections to mean he’s kind of boring and you’ll need to carry all of the creative weight like my wife is forced to do.

I think my wife is suddenly Leykis’ warning to all men in reverse, (they all all cut off their hair and gain weight right after getting married). After 16 years she has actually grown her hair back out longer than even before I met her, and wants to start really lifting and working out to take off a little weight. 40 is just around the corner, so I figure:
A) She’s getting ready to ditch me for a guy who can afford a house right now (I am a couple years of savings/debt reduction minimum)
B) maybe she’s prepping me for a future “cuckold” arrangement. I think it was dave that used that word.. cracked me up. (better check for Craigslist CAS history in the Browser)
C) she might just want to impress me

Honestly she’s a woman I’ll never know why, I’ll just enjoy it until the hot flashes come even if it’s not meant for me, why should I care?

Marion you have my empathy as I haven’t considered the side effects of being on the market until I went through this post. I was married so young by today’s standards (22) that I just can’t imagine being on the dating scene again. Ahh wrong words I imagine it all the time with some of the amazing looking 40ish women (Go Coogs) at work and in my social circle. Smart, stunning and 6 figure women have amazing power over a dolt like me. What I don’t relish is the idea of getting to know someone again. To meet and try and gain favor and interest in their network of friends and family —uuggg. I am sure I am to the point of being able to pass gas around my in-law’s and they got over the occasional filthy joke after a few spirits a long time ago. How do I break in new ones?

Bugs you might have the right idea about doing something nice for the wife even if I secretly long to be TemeculaGuy.

[CardiffBaseball]

I’d have to say if I were on the market again I’d probably be the sucker trying to impress. You should be picking up one of us piggs Marion. I make a lot of money but I am basically dead broke, and married but I have one of those just loveable faces that you just want to kiss. I do spend way too much time on the internet, sometimes I wear a pair of underwear a second day, and my mind is always in the gutter. Also I am sad to report it’s sports 24/7, I don’t like Hillary, and I hate going to anything classy (operas/shows/kpbs speaker events). However I will attend a show once or twice a year to keep you happy but only if you dress up for me. I will most definitely eat a lot of red meat and not care if it pisses off your vegan friend and her bespectacled wimpy metrosexual boyfriend. Please don’t ask me to just “eat bean sprouts tonight” or at least when we have dinner with them make it place where I can get plastered on heavy beer to supplement the noodles we are eating (Thai super hot, forcing me to down more beer). I think it’s important you know the bad things up front.

Now I am not all bad….On the plus side I don’t spend too much time hanging out in transsexual bars, I do the dishes every night, and no meth, smack or HGH and at this point ED is not an issue.

Seriously I have to say this cat screams loser to me(sorry this is the internet, it’s looser). I am being harsh he is at the very least very awkward, and not comfortable with playing the game. I can’t imagine bringing up the word pre-nup so soon when you guys haven’t come close to the “Hey I test drive a car before I buy it” phase of the relationship. Clearly he sees something in you he likes, but his lack of understanding the correct sequence in the dating protocol could mean he’ll do other awkward things. I also take his meeting place selections to mean he’s kind of boring and you’ll need to carry all of the creative weight like my wife is forced to do.

I think my wife is suddenly Leykis’ warning to all men in reverse, (they all all cut off their hair and gain weight right after getting married). After 16 years she has actually grown her hair back out longer than even before I met her, and wants to start really lifting and working out to take off a little weight. 40 is just around the corner, so I figure:
A) She’s getting ready to ditch me for a guy who can afford a house right now (I am a couple years of savings/debt reduction minimum)
B) maybe she’s prepping me for a future “cuckold” arrangement. I think it was dave that used that word.. cracked me up. (better check for Craigslist CAS history in the Browser)
C) she might just want to impress me

Honestly she’s a woman I’ll never know why, I’ll just enjoy it until the hot flashes come even if it’s not meant for me, why should I care?

Marion you have my empathy as I haven’t considered the side effects of being on the market until I went through this post. I was married so young by today’s standards (22) that I just can’t imagine being on the dating scene again. Ahh wrong words I imagine it all the time with some of the amazing looking 40ish women (Go Coogs) at work and in my social circle. Smart, stunning and 6 figure women have amazing power over a dolt like me. What I don’t relish is the idea of getting to know someone again. To meet and try and gain favor and interest in their network of friends and family —uuggg. I am sure I am to the point of being able to pass gas around my in-law’s and they got over the occasional filthy joke after a few spirits a long time ago. How do I break in new ones?

Bugs you might have the right idea about doing something nice for the wife even if I secretly long to be TemeculaGuy.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask yourself: Is this the way I picked my first husband? Was it a good system? Not to say your marriage was bad because of that initial choice but it is a consideration. I think there is ample evidence that we make the same choices over and over again, not because they are successful, but because they are habits. Perhaps you should use some of your training (psychology, is it not?) to help you figure out what you are looking for. I think I’m an old fashion romantic, but I could be wrong; couching your question in terms of finance and economics, what do you think the outcome is going to be? You (of all people) should be able to see a little more deeply into the character of someone by how he treats others and not just you. For many couples attitudes about money are going to be critical and the key question is not whether it’s right or wrong but are your two concepts compatible?
For the record, I am amused to think that many people might consider me stingy, but I try to be generous with my time and support. I think trying to impress a woman with money is a silly thing to do, since I wouldn’t want a woman to marry me for what she imagines my net worth is; but for others it might work. When I decided to get married, it was to someone with whom I wanted to live with, not someone to fill a pre-defined role. I got lucky. On the other hand, I was content to stay single if that person never showed up.
Back to the questions 1) I considered a pre-nup but didn’t go beyond that, and 2) I think you two were talking at cross purposes. If you can’t have a conversation and clear up these expectations then how are you two going to communicate? Good luck, I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask yourself: Is this the way I picked my first husband? Was it a good system? Not to say your marriage was bad because of that initial choice but it is a consideration. I think there is ample evidence that we make the same choices over and over again, not because they are successful, but because they are habits. Perhaps you should use some of your training (psychology, is it not?) to help you figure out what you are looking for. I think I’m an old fashion romantic, but I could be wrong; couching your question in terms of finance and economics, what do you think the outcome is going to be? You (of all people) should be able to see a little more deeply into the character of someone by how he treats others and not just you. For many couples attitudes about money are going to be critical and the key question is not whether it’s right or wrong but are your two concepts compatible?
For the record, I am amused to think that many people might consider me stingy, but I try to be generous with my time and support. I think trying to impress a woman with money is a silly thing to do, since I wouldn’t want a woman to marry me for what she imagines my net worth is; but for others it might work. When I decided to get married, it was to someone with whom I wanted to live with, not someone to fill a pre-defined role. I got lucky. On the other hand, I was content to stay single if that person never showed up.
Back to the questions 1) I considered a pre-nup but didn’t go beyond that, and 2) I think you two were talking at cross purposes. If you can’t have a conversation and clear up these expectations then how are you two going to communicate? Good luck, I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask yourself: Is this the way I picked my first husband? Was it a good system? Not to say your marriage was bad because of that initial choice but it is a consideration. I think there is ample evidence that we make the same choices over and over again, not because they are successful, but because they are habits. Perhaps you should use some of your training (psychology, is it not?) to help you figure out what you are looking for. I think I’m an old fashion romantic, but I could be wrong; couching your question in terms of finance and economics, what do you think the outcome is going to be? You (of all people) should be able to see a little more deeply into the character of someone by how he treats others and not just you. For many couples attitudes about money are going to be critical and the key question is not whether it’s right or wrong but are your two concepts compatible?
For the record, I am amused to think that many people might consider me stingy, but I try to be generous with my time and support. I think trying to impress a woman with money is a silly thing to do, since I wouldn’t want a woman to marry me for what she imagines my net worth is; but for others it might work. When I decided to get married, it was to someone with whom I wanted to live with, not someone to fill a pre-defined role. I got lucky. On the other hand, I was content to stay single if that person never showed up.
Back to the questions 1) I considered a pre-nup but didn’t go beyond that, and 2) I think you two were talking at cross purposes. If you can’t have a conversation and clear up these expectations then how are you two going to communicate? Good luck, I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask yourself: Is this the way I picked my first husband? Was it a good system? Not to say your marriage was bad because of that initial choice but it is a consideration. I think there is ample evidence that we make the same choices over and over again, not because they are successful, but because they are habits. Perhaps you should use some of your training (psychology, is it not?) to help you figure out what you are looking for. I think I’m an old fashion romantic, but I could be wrong; couching your question in terms of finance and economics, what do you think the outcome is going to be? You (of all people) should be able to see a little more deeply into the character of someone by how he treats others and not just you. For many couples attitudes about money are going to be critical and the key question is not whether it’s right or wrong but are your two concepts compatible?
For the record, I am amused to think that many people might consider me stingy, but I try to be generous with my time and support. I think trying to impress a woman with money is a silly thing to do, since I wouldn’t want a woman to marry me for what she imagines my net worth is; but for others it might work. When I decided to get married, it was to someone with whom I wanted to live with, not someone to fill a pre-defined role. I got lucky. On the other hand, I was content to stay single if that person never showed up.
Back to the questions 1) I considered a pre-nup but didn’t go beyond that, and 2) I think you two were talking at cross purposes. If you can’t have a conversation and clear up these expectations then how are you two going to communicate? Good luck, I wish you the best.

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