Affairs of the heart…

[Anonymous]

Kemp: “Btw, trying to buy a womans affection is considered a bad move these days. It lowers your market value and displays that one is open to manipulation.”

I would agree with that, but one nice date at a restaurant that charges less than $50 bucks for a plate and a nice excursion to the zoo or museum. “ONE” nice date. Is that too much to ask? Does that make me a gold-digger? If he could’t afford it, I wouldn’t even be concerned, but he obviously can.

[Allan from Fallbrook]

Marion: This guy has had the hammer dropped on him before. His request for a pre-nup, combined with his strong reaction to your suggestion regarding a “nice” dinner would certainly suggest he has been put through the wringer by some woman in his past and is absolutely certain he won’t let it happen again.

While, as a man, I certainly hear what you are saying as regards a “nice” dinner, I also (as a man) agree with what Kewp said regarding manipulation and moral suasion. You have to be careful with someone like this (your date, not Kewp), given what has undoubtedly happened in his past.

I would certainly recommend some specificity with him as to what constitutes a nice date, and with the caveat that you are looking for something more in terms of the event, not the cost.

[Allan from Fallbrook]

Marion: This guy has had the hammer dropped on him before. His request for a pre-nup, combined with his strong reaction to your suggestion regarding a “nice” dinner would certainly suggest he has been put through the wringer by some woman in his past and is absolutely certain he won’t let it happen again.

While, as a man, I certainly hear what you are saying as regards a “nice” dinner, I also (as a man) agree with what Kewp said regarding manipulation and moral suasion. You have to be careful with someone like this (your date, not Kewp), given what has undoubtedly happened in his past.

I would certainly recommend some specificity with him as to what constitutes a nice date, and with the caveat that you are looking for something more in terms of the event, not the cost.

[Allan from Fallbrook]

Marion: This guy has had the hammer dropped on him before. His request for a pre-nup, combined with his strong reaction to your suggestion regarding a “nice” dinner would certainly suggest he has been put through the wringer by some woman in his past and is absolutely certain he won’t let it happen again.

While, as a man, I certainly hear what you are saying as regards a “nice” dinner, I also (as a man) agree with what Kewp said regarding manipulation and moral suasion. You have to be careful with someone like this (your date, not Kewp), given what has undoubtedly happened in his past.

I would certainly recommend some specificity with him as to what constitutes a nice date, and with the caveat that you are looking for something more in terms of the event, not the cost.

[Allan from Fallbrook]

Marion: This guy has had the hammer dropped on him before. His request for a pre-nup, combined with his strong reaction to your suggestion regarding a “nice” dinner would certainly suggest he has been put through the wringer by some woman in his past and is absolutely certain he won’t let it happen again.

While, as a man, I certainly hear what you are saying as regards a “nice” dinner, I also (as a man) agree with what Kewp said regarding manipulation and moral suasion. You have to be careful with someone like this (your date, not Kewp), given what has undoubtedly happened in his past.

I would certainly recommend some specificity with him as to what constitutes a nice date, and with the caveat that you are looking for something more in terms of the event, not the cost.

[Allan from Fallbrook]

Marion: This guy has had the hammer dropped on him before. His request for a pre-nup, combined with his strong reaction to your suggestion regarding a “nice” dinner would certainly suggest he has been put through the wringer by some woman in his past and is absolutely certain he won’t let it happen again.

While, as a man, I certainly hear what you are saying as regards a “nice” dinner, I also (as a man) agree with what Kewp said regarding manipulation and moral suasion. You have to be careful with someone like this (your date, not Kewp), given what has undoubtedly happened in his past.

I would certainly recommend some specificity with him as to what constitutes a nice date, and with the caveat that you are looking for something more in terms of the event, not the cost.

[Anonymous]

I’m not even gunna lie. He knows my education level, he knows my credentials. I’m not some 25 year old working at Costco that has dreams of babies and elaborate weddings with 12 bridesmaids and needs to be taken care of. So, yes, I was offended as hell.

[Anonymous]

I’m not even gunna lie. He knows my education level, he knows my credentials. I’m not some 25 year old working at Costco that has dreams of babies and elaborate weddings with 12 bridesmaids and needs to be taken care of. So, yes, I was offended as hell.

[Anonymous]

I’m not even gunna lie. He knows my education level, he knows my credentials. I’m not some 25 year old working at Costco that has dreams of babies and elaborate weddings with 12 bridesmaids and needs to be taken care of. So, yes, I was offended as hell.

[Anonymous]

I’m not even gunna lie. He knows my education level, he knows my credentials. I’m not some 25 year old working at Costco that has dreams of babies and elaborate weddings with 12 bridesmaids and needs to be taken care of. So, yes, I was offended as hell.

[Anonymous]

I’m not even gunna lie. He knows my education level, he knows my credentials. I’m not some 25 year old working at Costco that has dreams of babies and elaborate weddings with 12 bridesmaids and needs to be taken care of. So, yes, I was offended as hell.

[CBad]

Just because he wants a pre-nup, doesn’t mean he’s loaded. He just wants to keep whatever he has. Sounds like he’s pretty stingy all around is my initial take. Also sounds like he’s has some history with women using him.

I haven’t dated in 12 years so I’m hardly an expert with being ‘out there’. When I was younger, I was more impressed with a ‘nice’ date or even what car I was picked up in. Now, I wouldn’t care because it’s all superficial. As long as I was enjoying myself on the date and connecting with the man, I wouldn’t care how much $$ was being thrown around.

I think you should have been more specific with your request since it doesn’t seem like you wanted anything unreasonable. He might have been put off by you saying ‘really nice date’ which could have meant to him that so far your dates have been ‘really NOT nice’. Why not just say, ‘I’d love it if we could go to XYZ’?

I guess I’m old-fashioned because I never paid $$ on a date. Well that’s not true, I did one time. I went to the movies with this guy and he wanted to go dutch. So I paid for my ticket and saw the movie I wanted to see without him, LOL!!

[CBad]

Just because he wants a pre-nup, doesn’t mean he’s loaded. He just wants to keep whatever he has. Sounds like he’s pretty stingy all around is my initial take. Also sounds like he’s has some history with women using him.

I haven’t dated in 12 years so I’m hardly an expert with being ‘out there’. When I was younger, I was more impressed with a ‘nice’ date or even what car I was picked up in. Now, I wouldn’t care because it’s all superficial. As long as I was enjoying myself on the date and connecting with the man, I wouldn’t care how much $$ was being thrown around.

I think you should have been more specific with your request since it doesn’t seem like you wanted anything unreasonable. He might have been put off by you saying ‘really nice date’ which could have meant to him that so far your dates have been ‘really NOT nice’. Why not just say, ‘I’d love it if we could go to XYZ’?

I guess I’m old-fashioned because I never paid $$ on a date. Well that’s not true, I did one time. I went to the movies with this guy and he wanted to go dutch. So I paid for my ticket and saw the movie I wanted to see without him, LOL!!

[CBad]

Just because he wants a pre-nup, doesn’t mean he’s loaded. He just wants to keep whatever he has. Sounds like he’s pretty stingy all around is my initial take. Also sounds like he’s has some history with women using him.

I haven’t dated in 12 years so I’m hardly an expert with being ‘out there’. When I was younger, I was more impressed with a ‘nice’ date or even what car I was picked up in. Now, I wouldn’t care because it’s all superficial. As long as I was enjoying myself on the date and connecting with the man, I wouldn’t care how much $$ was being thrown around.

I think you should have been more specific with your request since it doesn’t seem like you wanted anything unreasonable. He might have been put off by you saying ‘really nice date’ which could have meant to him that so far your dates have been ‘really NOT nice’. Why not just say, ‘I’d love it if we could go to XYZ’?

I guess I’m old-fashioned because I never paid $$ on a date. Well that’s not true, I did one time. I went to the movies with this guy and he wanted to go dutch. So I paid for my ticket and saw the movie I wanted to see without him, LOL!!

[CBad]

Just because he wants a pre-nup, doesn’t mean he’s loaded. He just wants to keep whatever he has. Sounds like he’s pretty stingy all around is my initial take. Also sounds like he’s has some history with women using him.

I haven’t dated in 12 years so I’m hardly an expert with being ‘out there’. When I was younger, I was more impressed with a ‘nice’ date or even what car I was picked up in. Now, I wouldn’t care because it’s all superficial. As long as I was enjoying myself on the date and connecting with the man, I wouldn’t care how much $$ was being thrown around.

I think you should have been more specific with your request since it doesn’t seem like you wanted anything unreasonable. He might have been put off by you saying ‘really nice date’ which could have meant to him that so far your dates have been ‘really NOT nice’. Why not just say, ‘I’d love it if we could go to XYZ’?

I guess I’m old-fashioned because I never paid $$ on a date. Well that’s not true, I did one time. I went to the movies with this guy and he wanted to go dutch. So I paid for my ticket and saw the movie I wanted to see without him, LOL!!

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