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Participant[quote=Blogstar]One day when the world is as evolved holding someone’s family against a person will be called what it is, bigotry of a kind. If something is being held against a person because the family is poor that’s called greed. Different question than personal debt, of course.
People who pair up in large part due to pedigrees often times get burned the worst.
Odd couples are happier.[/quote]
Poor is a warning sign. Interpret it carefully.
Marriage is a rowboat. Do not marry someone who does not have an oar in the water and who can pull hard.
Participant[quote=flyer]My wife has a friend who married the “love of her life,” an MD who seemed to fit the bill in every way. After they were married, lots of things happened that she never expected, and–long story short–they divorced. None of the issues that led to the divorce were evident prior to marriage.
Even now that she has remarried, and loves the guy she’s married to, she has confided in my wife that she will always love her first husband in a way that she could never love anyone else. Even after several years apart, that feeling has never gone away.
It’s definitely a difficult situation when you love someone, but other circumstances prevent you from being together.
It appears you made a decision about your relationship based upon what your head was telling you, not your heart, and that was your choice.
Going forward, you may find the same depth of love you had in the prior relationship, along with the “suitability factor”, in someone else, or you may not. There are just no guarantees when it comes to these things.[/quote]
Love is dumb.
ParticipantWould she write a check for you to clear up a 90k debt you have assuming she had 90k in the bank.
I bet the answer is no.
So screw that.
ParticipantAt the very least she must disclose all reports and be subject to one hour cross exam by atty of yr choice to satisfy your questions.
Participant[quote=kev374][quote=CA renter]
My husband’s father is an absolute piece of dirt, but my DH won’t associate with him. IMO, that makes it okay, maybe even better than okay, because my DH recognizes bad character and chooses to disassociate with those people. [/quote]This is the key. I was not convinced that my ex GF was not close to her mom, infact I am convinced of the opposite. Even if she showed that she was mad at her mom for entangling her in the scam she did not mention that she was going to cut off contact.
I mean, her mom made her sign some papers that faked a release of a property by a bank and that document was filed with the county). That in itself is a felony. Someone bought said property cash relying on the county records and the bank is now foreclosing as the amount owed was never paid. The buyer is now suing for fraud, damages and amount owed. Both my ex and her mom are claiming that they are now victims of a foreclosure scam. Yes, people claim they are victims when they are caught.
While I DO believe my ex did it to help her mom out I also think both knew it was something shady.
They way I look at it, when you don’t pay your bills and believe that somehow you can get rid of what you owe then you bloody well know that what you are doing is a FRAUD, no matter how you slice it.
And her mom is so sleazy that she made her own daughter sign the doc and throw her under the bus. Should someone stay in contact with such a person?
And all I told my ex is that I want to hold off on marriage and kids until this thing blows over…that is all I asked. This was unreasonable for her, she wanted me to marry and have kids regardless of the outcome of the suit and in her own words “if I have to pay this much money off then it’s a sacrifice that you will have to make to be with me”.
Of course, I chose the EXIT route. I live my life very cautiously and carefully. There is no 100% guarantee of anything but from my side I try my best to be financially cautious, save, live well below my means and not get into any issues. I am very financially stable but my condition reflects my choices in life. This also means I don’t have too much stress and I want to keep it that way.[/quote]
I don’t believe one word of her story.
Participant[quote=kev374]Say you were in a 2-3 year relationship and loved the other person, had good chemistry etc. but are suddenly told one day that they have a potentially huge financial liability (say $80-90k!), they claim they did not know about this as well, in addition you knew that the in-laws were of poor character. Would you still marry this person and accept their baggage?
I guess the general question is… how much pre-existing monetary and emotional baggage are you willing to accept for you to be comfortable with marriage?
Is is ANY amount because you love the other person? Or does love NOT conquer all?[/quote]
love is for suckers. Marriage is l I keep buying a house. You should really be into the house but only if it’s a good deal and you must always be ready to walk away.
Participant[quote=Blogstar]I am just throwing stuff out there, not going to take this thread too seriously, or try too hard, Kev can sift through whatever is said.[/quote]
It does seem harsh to judge someone based on parents but my opinion is truly the acorn often lands close to the tree.
I’m becoming more like my dad every day. I said something to my kid the other day that was a virtual recording of what he said to me. Scary. But in t hat case it was ok.
ParticipantA marriage is a financial partnership and debt matters. A lot.
ParticipantHer parents’ character matters. A lot.
Participant[quote=svelte][quote=FlyerInHi][quote=Blogstar]
Even though warnings are not actually side effects( maybe it takes time) , injesting anything that comes with those kinds or warnings isn’t going to happen for the sake of my hair, it’s pretty darn serious in my mind.[/quote]What can I say? it’s all about vanity.
But seriously, propecia (brand name) for hair is the same medication for BPH (enlarge prostage), but 1mg generic finasteride for hair vs. 5mg for BPH.
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Finasteride 1mg grows back hair and keeps the prostage from enlarging which is good for the long term. The light dose has no side effects on me.
.[/quote]I think the prior poster was worried about the decreased sex drive.
And that reminded me: that’s why I decided against Propecia when I did my research. As soon as we read that, my wife said that well the decision is made – no Propecia for you. (I agreed – that is a pretty important part of our life!)
Not worth the risk.
Not sure you guys have ever thought of it this way, but what human is a woman’s favorite? They all gather around them like flies.
A baby! And babies uare bald!
Would most women rather have a man with a full head of hair? Probably in most cases. But I have to come to realize it is not the major factor for most women. I usually compare it to the way guys view big breasts. Given everything was equal between two women (that never happens btw), most guys would probably pick the one with larger breasts. But it is not the major factor in who they are with – I know it’s not for me.[/quote]
It seems like smaller breasted women with narrower hips would be worse feeders and breeders. But it’s just not the case. We need more milk production and childbirth facts rather than unsupported quasi religious beliefs.
Participant[quote=SK in CV][quote=flyer] Nothing will change my mind concerning my beliefs[/quote]
Everyone should read those words. Over and over again. And then ask themselves if they really want to be associated with “beliefs”. Evidence be damned. Hold on to those beliefs, keep them safe, and ignore everything that renders those beliefs false. That is the difference between beliefs and science.[/quote
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it would be kind of bold to believe any doctrine which could be verifiably false at a later date. But it would definitely be cooler … vague beliefs are too hedged. Give me a decent prophecy. An end date for the world. A date for the beginning of creation. Something other than a bland fortune teller reading of the tea leaves. Pussy footing from having gotten burnt in the past?
ParticipantI have all my hair. I think it’s only the high testosterone guys who go bald.
Participant[quote=Blogstar]Since my conversion is so recent I am wondering , ” what does a Pantheist Rastafarian do on a Sunday morning?”[/quote]
dress up and sit obediently in a large structure while an intermediary drones on.
Single G-d. He never married. Chose a career path instead.
from this month’s The Sun msgazine.
ParticipantHe understands that you will immediately come over and kill him and everyone he loves if any harm comes to your people?
That can be communicated nonverbally.
just joshing.
everybody thinks they drive safely and it’s the other guy who is nuts.
maybe the way to win is to outgun nut the gun nut.
automatic weapon fire holding down your perimeter.
joke. justa joke…
more conservatively, it might have some effect to have an attorney right a letter saying, hey, normally if someone got hurt from your gunfire in aresidential area, you probably would not be charged criminally, cause you’d get to claim it was an accident.
But since youre on notice by virtue of this letter that your shooting is dangerous, we will be aggressively pursuing murder charges if anyone is harmed. Go throught he potential penalties for various intentional weappons crimes, and fines associated with them. serve him and family personally wiht notice. this way he has a much less persuasive “it was just an accident ” defense.
on the downside, might be contrary to the negligence agrument you’d need to make to collect on the insurance policy…
kind of obnoxious, but less obnoxious than automatic weapon patrol by your border.
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