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Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]47.
My English teachers were tough. We read all kinds of stuff considered weird by today’s standards.
Ivanhoe was like a romance novel, I recall.
Such strong feelings of love, duty, honor. Hard to imagine today.[/quote]
47 is getting kind of up there. that’s actually old.
Participant[quote=poorgradstudent][quote=sdsurfer] One consideration is that some people have vision and their own particular style so they would appreciate the credit, but many other people do not have vision and you need to do it for them to see the potential.
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We definitely had our own vision when we were looking. There were a few properties where it would note “brand new carpets and paint” and our response was “but they’re ugly!” and we’d pass; as a buyer you feel like you’re paying for it, especially if it’s done “wrong”. Paint is less of a big deal, but a lot of people seem to want to go too dark on carpets.
We also definitely skipped homes where there had been a quick kitchen/bath remodel. You can kinda tell when someone updates the kitchen as their “home” vs. trying to sell it. Again, it was frustrating to walk into a home and see that it had been remodeled sloppily.
Of course a lot of people want “turnkey” homes, and we did see quite a few places that were redone very nicely. Of course those places often wanted to get compensated for the money they sunk into it, which put those places out of our preferred price range.[/quote]
i’m plannign to spend a lot of money on some wood floors for part of the house that has icky carpet. is that considered a loser or does the floor retain some value? i want really expensive salvaged barn wood floors from old barns where happy animals lived productive lives.
Participant[quote=CA renter][quote=spdrun]How about counterfeit money coated in a slow acting contact poison? Or a potent hallucinogenic drug?[/quote]
My guess would be that they get rid of a lot of the money right away. Could be used for weapons, in which case the poison might be useful, but they might also be using the money to buy non-weapon goods and services in the open market. It wouldn’t be nice to poison the poor person who’s selling cucumbers and tomatoes at the market.[/quote]
wait. maybe we could just pay them in shrooms.
Participant[quote=poorgradstudent][quote=scaredyclassic]My wife has wrongly predicted a recession of my hairline for over 15 years in a row now.[/quote]
Mine is in a slow recession, but the rate is slow enough my liver will almost certainly crap out before I’m forced to shave my head bald.[/quote]
your hair is a metaphor for the solvency of the USA>
Participant[quote=moneymaker]Spent the day in the jury lounge, so took a book, “Three Cups of Tea”. It was the most boring day I have spent in a while, not because of the book, but because after 3.5 hours no panel was called. Got off easy I guess. The book is by Greg Mortenson and chronicles how an ordinary person can effect change halfway around the globe. Haven’t finished the book but my civic duty is complete.[/quote]
“They also serve, who only stand and wait” …milton.
Thank you for your service.
Participant[quote=zk][quote=CA renter]Most men would probably do well by reading a romance novel or two, just to get a better understanding of how many women think about romance (or hope for it).[/quote]
Most women would probably do well by watching “The Man Show” just to get a get a better understanding of how many men think about life.[/quote]
i dont believe there is any real desire to understand the opposite sex.
ParticipantMy wife has wrongly predicted a recession of my hairline for over 15 years in a row now.
ParticipantIf you don’t “FEEL GOOD” about your decision it’s probably a bad decision.
Except investing in which case if you feel good about it it’s the wrong decision.
Participant[quote=flyer]Many women, like my wife, started writing what they consider “love stories,” not “porn” as a hobby, and, amazingly, they are still selling millions of copies around the world. Granted, their numbers are not in the same category as the 100 million the “50 Shades” series has sold, but that’s just not their style.
Everyone has different opinions about why Romance novels are so popular, and below, are excerpts from an article my wife shared with me that, in her opinion, touches upon the “real” reasons women are buying them in such huge numbers…
“It’s no secret that romance novels have appealed to women for decades. According to research conducted by the Romance Writers of America, 91 percent of the genre’s readers are female.
Romantic fiction remains the top-selling sector of the book market. Last year, the genre brought in a whopping $1.8 billion in the U.S. alone.
So what is the appeal of these fantastical stories? It might have something to do with women feeling underappreciated in their own lives. The heroines of romance novels often enjoy the lavish attention of male suitors, who cater to their every whim, and who often represent a stark contrast to the prototypical ’emotionally unavailable’ man. Not only do the men and women in these books connect on a sexual level, they become immersed in each other’s emotional yearnings.
In an age where staying ‘connected’ means following someone on Twitter or communicating via text message, these stories of deep physical and emotional intimacy offer a welcomed retreat from reality.
Much of the thrill of a romance novel is the care and devotion the hero lavishes on his beloved, maintains New York-based sex therapist Stephen Snyder.
Snyder, who has written extensively on the mystique of female sexuality, believes these novels capture the thrill of completely engrossing a man — without having to compete with the television, the iPhone or any of the myriad distractions that exist in the real world.
Foreplay often represents the one time when a woman can get a man’s full and undivided attention, says Snyder. One might interpret much of the text of a good romance novel as foreplay.
Mistina Picciano, President of Market It Write, concurs. As an avid reader of so-called ‘bodice rippers,’ she understands why these stories of male persistence appeal to readers.
Who doesn’t want to feel as if she’s the only woman in the world? That sense of power that comes from holding a man in thrall? said Picciano.
And for women with a demanding schedule and countless obligations, the genre offers an escape.
Most of us go through our daily lives on autopilot. We’re assailed from every direction with so much garbage (telemarketers, family demands, tedious chores, etc.) that we become numb out of self-defense, said Picciano. Reading romance gives us a chance to feel, to remind us that we’re human and that there is a beautiful, exciting world out there, waiting to be discovered under the piles of clean laundry that command our attention.
Popular romance author Sylvain Reynard believes that expanding fan base reflects a more optimistic, hopeful outlook. The fact that readers still read love stories shows me that the world is far less cynical than one might think, Reynard said. Cynics don’t cheer for a pair of lovers to overcome obstacles in order to find their happy ending.
Others believe the romance novels offer women what they can’t get in the real world. Couples therapist Niloo Darashti feels that male emotional neglect, a chronic problem in relationships, contributes to the appeal of the romance genre. In the real world, women often struggle for the kind of emotional support offered by romance novel heroes.
There’s typically a lack of presence and attention from men when it comes to women’s emotional needs, says Dardashti.
It’s exciting to experience that sort of breathtaking romance vicariously, whether you’re a sixteen-year-old who’s dying to experience it firsthand or a forty-year-old who dreams of seducing her husband away from the television set, adds Picciano.
Freelance writer and stay-at-home mom Emily Guy Birken believes the genre offers a reprieve from the daily tension of trying to ‘have it all’ — maintaining a successful relationship while holding down a steady career, with the added pressure of staying on top of domestic responsibilities.
I find that romance novels offer a great deal of emotional release when you are stressed or overwhelmed, as well as provide you with great platforms for thinking about what makes for good relationships, Birken said.
Sara Wendell, who runs a romance blog, offers another perspective. She doesn’t believe that romance novels are necessarily filling a void for women.
The stereotype that we’re all desperately lonely and unsatisfied is completely untrue: we like reading romances simply because the books can be amazing reads, Wendell said. It’s one of the few genres that reflect the varying experiences of being a woman, and it does so in a positive manner. No romance novel features a plot wherein the characters are told, If you’re thinner, more elegant, better dressed and smarter, you’ll find happiness,’ she continued.
The driving message of most romances is, ‘Everyone deserves to find happiness exactly for who they are.'”
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interesting. If porn is bad for men maybe romance novels are bad for women. Maybe both create unrealistic expectations …
ParticipantIt’s the old Hollywood formula …boy meets girl
Boy lose girl boy gets girl boy spends remainder of his existence on earth trying to hold it all together…Participanti must be the most sentimental dumbshit in the world because i’m weeping salty tears listening to this version by barbra streisand and i dont even like barbra streisand and im stuffing my face with a hamburger with my kids.
ParticipantYou’ve been a fool and so have i
But come I’ll be your wife
And let us try before we die
To make some sense of life
We’re neither pure nor wise nor good
We’ll do the best we know
We’ll build our house and chop our wood
And make our garden grow
And make our garden growI thought the world was sugar cake
For so our master said
But now I’ll teach my hands to bake
Our loaf of daily bread
We’re neither pure nor wise nor good
We’ll do the best we know
We’ll build our house and chop our wood
And make our garden grow
And make our garden growLet dreamers dream what worlds they please
Those edens can’t be found
The sweetest flowers
The fairest trees
Are grown in solid ground
We’re neither pure nor wise nor good
We’ll do the best we know
We’ll build our house and chop our wood
And make our garden grow
And make our garden growleonard bernstein. Candide. bway musical lyrics. makes me cry when i hear it.
Participant[quote=zk][quote=CA renter][quote=Rich Toscano]For me it’s the inside letters that dictate compatibility. I have friends of all kinds, but the ones I most easily fit in with are *NT*.
**F* people, if they are opinionated, tend to drive me nuts.[/quote]
I’m INTJ, and could not agree more with your last sentence! Hadn’t thought about it before, but when thinking about the people who truly drive me up the wall…you’ve hit the nail on the head. Thanks! 🙂
edited to add: But not scaredy. He doesn’t come across as an “F” to me.[/quote]
Interesting. In a previous thread on this subject, scaredy mentioned he’d scored ENTP.
http://piggington.com/ot_myers_briggs_personality_profile?page=1
I’m still an INTP.[/quote]
I think I was drunk during that test.
Participant“A successful marriage is an edifice which must be rebuilt every day.” Andre maurois.
Jeez what a drama queen!
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