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For 51 years, ive seen myself as a cluttered, kind of sloppy person.  It bugs my wife, but she lives with it, I guess.  The story I’ve told myself is that’s just how I am, I don’t mind it, it generates creativity, other stuff.  One concrete problem I had for many many years was not being able to find my wallet or keys, primarily because I would just drop things randomly and unthinkingly, mindlessly.

 

Reading that book made me want to try something else, and I can tell you, without judging one mode as better than another, that it is very interesting to try something new.  And I love this.  I love getting rid of things.  I love having space around stuff.  I like thinking about where im going to put things and having a place for stuff.  I love pitching tons of crap.  I just like it.  Is this the rest of my life, progressively neater and more orderly?  Well, maybe,  I don’t know.  Im a bingey kinda guy.  It doesn’t seem like a horrible outcome to me.  There’s worse things than being neat and organized.  I think I’ll still be internally kinda messy, but as Im thinking now, it’s like a light went on.  This is how I want to lvie from now on.  I want things very orderly.  I just do.  I remember not caring, but now I care.  I don’t think ic an go back!  If you are cluttery and messy, I’d say that’s fine, but I’d encourage anyone thinking about the issue to take a looka t the book and give it a go.  It might surprise you how pleasureable it is.  For instance, I now take out and put away my coffee grinder each morning.  I used to just leave it out.  It takes a few more seconds, nothing really.  And the counter looks nice!   There’s so many little things like this.  Maybe I’m slowly trying to wind up my affairs, over a few decades, but it is downright intoxicating to pitch old crap!

 

My mother is a very very orderly neat and organizaed person, and I am beginning to suspect all my self-proclaimed clutteriness is just rebellion against what she would want…

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[quote=flyer]scaredy, here’s an excellent performance by Morgan Freeman. . .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziXqEX6AwKA%5B/quote%5D

not bad but I think I can go deeper.

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no. no rewrites. i’ll just say it like normal, nothing dramatic. just plainspoken.

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i intend to memorize this and perform it now and then. perhaps to bring the mood down at parties.

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[quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]I am not going there. Good Japanese movie though, “Departures” really cool , The main guy becomes an undertaker after losing his job with an orchestra. He learns to make deceased people beautiful and dignified for their coffins against the wishes of his wife and friends who want him to get a real job. Very nice movie.[/quote]

wife gave it 5 stars. However she felt the rock in hand at end was too much. I didnt. I was weeping. I will send stone letters.

my favorite line:

“My husband is a professional”[/quote]

The stone was crucial to tying the situation between the father and the son through time up unto the present where the father lay there dead . It was very important to somehow know that although the father was absentee he had tried to hold on to a part of his time with his son, or a part of his son, during his entire life and cherished him on some level until the end.

Stone messages seem great to me but are more powerful used sparingly , not like hallmark cards.

I think The elements of “fate” in the young man’s life were done very well. His connection to the bath house people. Just that the job actually fit him so perfectly like a replacement for playing the cello. Awesome.

I think everyone would find some flaw in the movie. My wife didn’t like how dishonest the young man was to his wife , lying about buying the cello and about his job.
It made perfect sense to me. I didn’t like the fake trout , the trout bit could have been good , but I could tell that the actual fish weren’t real. I thought the washing the transgender persons “thing” went a little too far into absurd. Acknowledging the transgender fact and the families emotions around it were great but not the exaggerated genital emphasis. It was like we were too stupid to get it unless it was over visually portrayed.

I loved the part where the young undertaker played the cello from his childhood out in the open fields. That was glorious.

How about the cremation furnace? It sounded like a metal foundry when they turned it on.[/quote]

i think the rock couldve been in the box of stuff the dad left for the same meaning.

one of the things I love about this movie is how messed up his life is when he “follows his dreams”, and how proound it becomes when he connects with other humans…

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[quote=Blogstar]I am not going there. Good Japanese movie though, “Departures” really cool , The main guy becomes an undertaker after losing his job with an orchestra. He learns to make deceased people beautiful and dignified for their coffins against the wishes of his wife and friends who want him to get a real job. Very nice movie.[/quote]

wife gave it 5 stars. However she felt the rock in hand at end was too much. I didnt. I was weeping. I will send stone letters.

my favorite line:

“My husband is a professional”

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[quote=FlyerInHi]zk, if your wife can notice an out-of-place paper clip, and she married you, then you can’t be that bad.

Trust me, you’re lucky to have married your wife. I bet she keeps a nice fresh home where you’re proud to invite people over. If you had married a messy woman, your life would have gone downhill quickly.

I’ve seen bad situations in my peers, friends and acquaintances. One guy owns 2 houses and both of them are clusterf–k!

Messy people know that there’s something wrong with them that’s why they are too embarrassed to have people over. They only meet people outside the home. That’s a telltale sign of a messy person.

I’ve read that hoarding is a disease that gets progressively worse. A friend is dating a women whose mom is a hoarder. Since they moved in together, the apartment has become more cluttered. They keep on buying cabinets to put useless things in. I wonder if hoarding is hereditary but, either nature or nurture, I don’t think the nuts fall too far from the tree.

My own brother’s house is not that bad, but it’s getting progressively worse. Wife is a SAHP with 1 child, but the house is far from tidy. There’s a room filled with laundry. His wife is the daughter of a hoarder who has a garage sale addiction. The inlaws’ 5000sf house is filled just useless junk!

Also, interestingly, it’s a good thing that Americans move 5 to 7 years on average. That forces them to clean up. American’s also live in large houses where they can spread the junk.[/quote]

It is weird. I wonder if it’s getting worse. I kinda remember tidy being the norm when I was little at others houses…

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I walked over a dead possum in the yard without notic8ng

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[quote=flyer]You are correct. . . temporality personified. . .

Shakespeare’s All the World’s a Stage monologue (Also called “The Seven Ages of Man.” from “As You LIke It”)

All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players.
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages.

At first the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms.

Then, the whining school-boy with his satchel
And shining morning face, creeping like a snail
Unwillingly to school.

And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress’ eyebrow.

Then, a soldier,
Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden, and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon’s mouth.

And then, the justice,
In fair round belly, with a good capon lined,
With eyes severe, and beard of formal cut,
Full of wise saws, and modern instances,
And so he plays his part.

The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slippered pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side,
His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide
For his shrunk shank, and his big manly voice,
Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound.

Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.”[/quote]

thats good stuff!

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[quote=njtosd][quote=scaredyclassic]I want to be me but more real.[/quote]

Wait – didn’t you say you wanted to color your hair? Would the color be the color it was when you were 18 – or is it not real for any time in your life?[/quote]

i never said that!

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[quote=svelte]Not good to be dead set on anything.

Each day brings new data points. In a perfect world viewpoints should be adjusted accordingly.

I think it’s a sign of intelligence.[/quote]

I get tiny bits of data mostly noise.

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I guess open carry is fine too then probably?. Should be interesting to see everyone strapped and ready.

suckered punches to steal nice looking weapons?

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I am positive we will. My wife has an entire shelf of books just on death related topics. Death is kind of her thing.

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home, for the oldest, may be where the national geographics are.

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DEPARTURES is instant view on netflix. maybe tonight…

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