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Participant[quote=CA renter]That’s very impressive for such a young boy (or an adult)! What a great and healthy way to bond with your son. Good for you. :)[/quote]
I m very lucky! He can do this just from his normal play and does not feel a thing the morning after. I wouldn’t have him run to the extent that he needed recovery the next day or something like that. Keeping it light. He doesn’t have to stick with it either , I’d rather he keep doing lots of other things. Great kid though.
Participant[quote=CA renter]Happy Father’s Day to all the Pigg dads out there!
Enjoyed your stories, scaredy and Russ. :)[/quote]
Thanks CAR.
We jogged 40 minutes without stopping. I can tell him he has run about 10 minutes longer non-stop then the 5k will take. That should help. Not going to push pace at all but he can jog 9-10 minute miles easily. This is one of the more social of my boys, so he will get a kick out of the crowd and have a good time.ParticipantAverage american has access to the best life a pawn in this world actually can. Enjoy it . No matter who is in charge there isn’t any real power sharing. Pawns essentially have no moral influence outside of their very local situation…revolution can change rank within the system it but it won’t change the way power works much. The bosses, as the saying goes, are all pretty much the same.
ParticipantCool beans,
Lots of hugs and smiles, Nice homemade cards and breakfast here. I get to drag them all out to the track to run this evening and they have to like it. I don’t get away with the liking it part always. 10 yo kid is going to do a 5k with me next weekend…he wrote about how much he likes me sharing this experience with him and teaching him to run.
One minecraft electronic happy birthday card with a huge garden in it , I have almost an acre vegetables, melons, berries, grapes, tomatoes, etc and the kids do that with me sometimes…did extra good work yesterday in honor of FD I am sure…not making them work today.
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=FlyerInHi][quote=scaredyclassic]children are such tender sprouts. they vibrate with emotion and long for acceptance. to know someone is there and fighting for you. so important.
i made some pad thai ina box for my boys who are very large last night. put a big steaming plate of it infront of the 18 year old.
“my pa loves me” he said, reflexively.
elliot couldnt even walk into his da’ds house without getting a big pile of shit from his stepmother. bullshit.[/quote]
Some kids need more love than others, sure.
Did anyone consider that too much love can be detrimental and cause needy, dysfunctional kids?
Some kids get sent to boarding academy and become very strong adults ready to conquer the world.
Maybe Elliot didn’t need more love and coddling but needed to learn how to handle life, despite his mental weaknesses. We all have weaknesses and neurosis to overcome in order to thrive. The people who have fewer weaknesses are just luckier.
Elliot seemed to tie his well-being to possessing luxury products and having a hot girlfriend. The problem is that he wasn’t equipped to go out and get what he wanted.[/quote]
Perhaps for some but no boarding school, not even hogwarts would’ve worked for elliot.[/quote]
I don’t know about other people…but love and coddling isn’t what it’s all about all the time. That’s crazy talk. They may be tender shoots but all plants need to be hardened off before they get set out into the elements. The skill is to do it without sun scalding them.
Then again, this “conquering the world” stuff I am not sure that is a great main goal for every kid.
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=bearishgurl][quote=Blogstar]I wouldn’t want to take any money for foster care. That would ruin it. Then again it would be expensive. It seems like mostly single mothers who need money do it? Is that right BG? When I was in foster care it was a single black woman and she was doing a good job. Just helping a refugee or two , perhaps orphaned or a kid who needed a stable environment to finish high school that seems doable. But yeah, it’s scary…[/quote]
Well, I suppose a single parent could do it for extra income but the applicant needs to have at least one available bedroom for every two children of the same sex. HHSA DOES inspect foster-parent applicants’ homes and I don’t think they would place foster children in homes where they had to sleep on a futon on the living room floor or where 3-4 kids would have to sleep in a <= 10x12' bdrm. Most single parents can barely afford rent or mortgage for a home big enough for the kids they already have. I know a retired lady (widow) residing in Otay Mesa who has a license to foster children but she has a 5 bdrm home that is all her own on a big lot and her kids are grown. However, two out of her available four bedrooms with beds and dressers in them have been perpetually empty in recent years because she has been picky about the kids she will foster. She's had too many problems in the past with kids (mostly teenagers) disappearing for days at a time and being truant after she sends them off to school and also getting suspended from school. She was tired of dealing with all that because life can be short. I think she has actually had to send several kids back to DSS (now HHSA) for another placement in her foster-parent "career." I forgot to add that foster kids are also eligible for free bus transportation from their school district if they need it.[/quote] Even if I'm not accused the kids could easily be out and about having sex using drugs etc and I'm at risk of felony child endangerment. There's just no way I can imagine anyone really pondering reality and it's risks who can do this unless they are truly fearless or driven by spiritual forces.[/quote] There is some element of irrationality going on here. If they started to run out of the house and stuff wouldn't you tell the case workers immediately? You're covered, I would think.
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=bearishgurl][quote=Blogstar]I wouldn’t want to take any money for foster care. That would ruin it. Then again it would be expensive. It seems like mostly single mothers who need money do it? Is that right BG? When I was in foster care it was a single black woman and she was doing a good job. Just helping a refugee or two , perhaps orphaned or a kid who needed a stable environment to finish high school that seems doable. But yeah, it’s scary…[/quote]
Well, I suppose a single parent could do it for extra income but the applicant needs to have at least one available bedroom for every two children of the same sex. HHSA DOES inspect foster-parent applicants’ homes and I don’t think they would place foster children in homes where they had to sleep on a futon on the living room floor or where 3-4 kids would have to sleep in a <= 10x12' bdrm. Most single parents can barely afford rent or mortgage for a home big enough for the kids they already have. I know a retired lady (widow) residing in Otay Mesa who has a license to foster children but she has a 5 bdrm home that is all her own on a big lot and her kids are grown. However, two out of her available four bedrooms with beds and dressers in them have been perpetually empty in recent years because she has been picky about the kids she will foster. She's had too many problems in the past with kids (mostly teenagers) disappearing for days at a time and being truant after she sends them off to school and also getting suspended from school. She was tired of dealing with all that because life can be short. I think she has actually had to send several kids back to DSS (now HHSA) for another placement in her foster-parent "career." I forgot to add that foster kids are also eligible for free bus transportation from their school district if they need it.[/quote] Even if I'm not accused the kids could easily be out and about having sex using drugs etc and I'm at risk of felony child endangerment. There's just no way I can imagine anyone really pondering reality and it's risks who can do this unless they are truly fearless or driven by spiritual forces.[/quote] There is some element of irrationality going on here. If they started to run out of the house and stuff wouldn't you tell the case workers immediately? Your covered, I would think.
ParticipantI wouldn’t want to take any money for foster care. That would ruin it. Then again it would be expensive. It seems like mostly single mothers who need money do it? Is that right BG? When I was in foster care it was a single black woman and she was doing a good job. Just helping a refugee or two , perhaps orphaned or a kid who needed a stable environment to finish high school that seems doable. But yeah, it’s scary.
I am proud of my boy for being there for this kid from a broken home. Most of the kids in the school are from pretty stable homes , both single parent and two parent homes but apparently stable., so he is a bit of an oddity with his sad stories and shyness, headaches and whatnot, and many kids would shun him.
Participant[quote=bearishgurl][quote=scaredyclassic]Further than that I have never and would never be alone at any time with anyone else’s kid ever, under age 16. I once gave a ride alone to my kids 16 year old male friend but only because I knew him many years and absolutely trusted him, his truthfulness and psychological stability. Basically I would assume any kid is a tremendous risk of false allegation unless I know the opposite is true. Unless I’ve known you personally in excess of five years, I will assume I don’t really know you at all.[/quote]
I don’t blame you, scaredy. You, too, have seen a lot in your day.[/quote]
I do believe, that you and your wife, as perceived through the internet anyway, would have raised Elliot Rodgers to have average or less than average problems.
ParticipantI don’t believe “tough males” can help just by being teachers. The best teacher would not be much more effective than the average teacher when placed in the inner city, so why would anyone want to suffer for nothing? They would not have broad support of administrations and parents. If they did , then there wouldn’t be these seriously terrible schools to work at. The classroom is just a symptom. A woman or average man could do the job better at normal pay, if she/he didn’t have to take care of juvenile delinquents who were just doing time and have to have seriously offensive students with no hope of correcting or removing them.
So , tenure is not helping or failing inner city schools because teachers are not G-d.
ParticipantYes, interesting and terrifying ,BG. So many disaster scenarios.
A few months ago my 5th grader befriended a boy who, along with many siblings, is clearly being emotionally battered by his parents relationship and personal problems for all of his life.
We talk about it when he brings it up(my son). It seems like my kid is the confidant and shoulder to lean on. He talks about court battles going on and the divorce happened when he was 1!
So many kids could use some help. Scaredy, do you ever think of helping some kids out by raising foster kids? You have a lot to offer as far as I can tell . I think about it from time to time, the Central American refugee kid situation pushes me a bit. We are a bilingual household. I am afraid though. How would it affect my kids is the biggest concern. I think it would be fine for me….seems like very important work. My wife is very caring but also worried about changing the home front. By the time we are empty nesters we will be pretty old and probably have more excuses.
ParticipantNow we have games for kids with “suicide mode” in them. WTF?
Participant[quote=Jazzman]Barack Obama on the latest shooting in Oregon. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urOupuUKPNI
“The United States does not have a monopoly on crazy people [laughter]… so what’s the difference?” Misplaced laughter, a President struggling to balance his tenor, a forum discussing parental shortcomings. The truth is sometimes like a wall up close; it’s so big we don’t realize it’s obstructing our view.[/quote]
For decades I have wondered how our capricious attitudes about killing or helping people for the sake of “our interests”
and the phony politics around it would play out in valuing life domestically. Specifically how does it affect youth. This guy was exposed to the worst of it the justifications when he was that tender sprout scaredy mentioned. Death of of other was basically mocked in the mainstream for years. Add that to the love of violence in entertainment and toys. Filters could easily get broken.What ever the answer to Mr. Obama’s question is ….I don’t think he is anything but capricious about dealing with it. Effectively capricious that is. Some many conflicting interests that everything effectively gets treated like a joke.
Treating the nurturing of children and killing people like they are joking matters is not good.
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