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More people are under-confident than overconfident.

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[quote=SD Realtor]lol CE… well not the adjective I would use but you gave me a good laugh… I have already seen the blatant mischaracterization of neighborhoods with the long rants…. the I know everything and will argue about it just because… I am just waiting for the final shoe to drop and I will then know I am home again.[/quote]

I believe he is right about grounding the neutral on branch circuits. For safety and to avoid excessive PD at various outlets. In power distribution the neutral can be grounded.

You’re an electrical engineer too , right Adam, what do you say?

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That’s good, scaredy.

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[quote=Allan from Fallbrook][quote=Blogstar]Participation trophy is probably the response to the jock ego trip, not the right response, but still. We are not very good at keep sports outcomes in perspective.[/quote]

Russ: Actually, it’s a result of these Helicopter Parents getting miffed that Little Johnny and Suzy aren’t being recognized as God’s precious and unique and talented snowflakes and demanding their according due.

Thus, everyone now gets a trophy, presumably for their ability to breathe air without assistance, whilst standing on a sideline.[/quote]
Yeah, but I have analyzed this. The reason they are miffed comes from their own childhood life experience where they found the jocks obnoxious and spoiled in general and like they were bag holders. The right way to deal with spoiled and obnoxious jock or course is to just blow it off like most people do. But some want trophies for everyone and we are a keep everybody happy kind of place.

When I coached U6 I tried to skip the trophy emphasize that the reward was actually Learning and playing the game. Not win or lose. Because it was U fricking 6. One parent wouldn’t have the trophy-less experience and she was clearly the least athletic person in our parent group, connection made.

On the other hand, the league was supposed to be non-competitive in U-fricken-6, that is 4-6 year olds.

I kind of bought into that in coaches training. But the helicopter competition freak parents and other coaches who were parents , couldn’t deal with that. Bunch of desperate vicious obnoxious people. The ultra nice , U-6 coordinator helicopter super achievement dad was as bad as any of them . I suspect there are a lot more wackos on this side then the trophy for everybody side, because it’s VERY broadly seen as normal. Don’t stop me from teaching my kid to be a killer win at all cost athlete he will need that so he grows up tough and competitive in life …maybe get a scholarship. I think these people are compensating too.Almost none of them seem all the amazing and yet there kids athletic outcome is this huge priority in life. How can a dad who coaches his kid from diapers not be called a helicopter parent?

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Participation trophy is probably the response to the jock ego trip, not the right response, but still. We are not very good at keep sports outcomes in perspective.

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Squat250 was a genuine motivator, my multifudus muscles thank you.

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This impostor syndrome, do you experience it only as scaredyclassic or as other
online personas?

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There is nothing wrong with , not striving in sports. It just doesn’t work well when you are on a team because most of your teammates and their parents , do want to win. That’s not a good environment to just be in it for socializing and exercising.

I am not too worried about competitive sports success being necessary for life. There are lots of things kids can grow up on. I just don’t want my kids wishing I had helped them more. We do talk about it , I more or less think is is balancing itself out. I don’t truly think it makes or breaks people and it may harm as many as it truly helps. There are a lot of kids who do value sports more than academics even in grade school and few of them will ever go very far. Most won’t go any farther than leagues that they essentially buy their way into. With large high schools a lot fewer will play so most city kids are done early as far as being any kind of a big shot. Lucky kids who have a senior class of 40 and get to do 5 sports, I guess. Like SDRealtor said there are a lot of great ways to exercise if the positives of competitive sports can’t compete in your child’s eyes.

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It’s gonna be painful either way. I was good at sports and still am. Now I see my kids growing beyond some important years in sports , two of them have as much natural ability for hand eye coordination sports as I did and are plenty strong and I haven’t taught them in any serious manner.

We never watch sports on TV or have much sports culture at all in the family other than a few half assed seasons of soccer fro each kid and I took up running again last year. I feel remiss.

On the other hand, I never have seen the two older ones have a ton of natural desire to achieve in team sports I never wanted to force that. One of them rides his BMX bike a lot and loves that so we will try to get him in some races for which he has shown interest. I think BMX is really good as a hobby or team sport. He also runs with me sometimes and is good for what he has put into it.

So now, I feel like if I put a lot into my youngest son’s athletic ability It’s unfair to his brothers! He is the strongest of all of them. Some dads would kill to have a strong, fast and fearless boy like him to push into sports. I am not sure that’s cool. His personality is great for team sports….ugggggh!

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[quote=scaredyclassic]Like dividers on the freeway. Why pay for that.

It’s reasonable to pay for those.

I don’t know if this is a decent case. But it seems like it might have some value.

Once you build the pier you have a duty to maintain it maybe regulate crazy shit going on on it.[/quote]

I could go with the buoy thing. If I saw them I wouldn’t think they were out of place anyway, as crowded as things get nowadays. But I hope there is no decent case against the municipality in this instance.

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[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]Come to think of it I bet there are laws about how close to the pier one can swim. Maybe a couple hundred yards?[/quote]

City should put out buoys to make restricted area.[/quote]
Tax payers you mean. Am I my brothers keeper? If you want to play where everything is roped off go to Disneyland.

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dupe

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Come to think of it I bet there are laws about how close to the pier one can swim. Maybe a couple hundred yards?

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I agree the fisherman was an ass but in general swimming near piers and especially fishing piers is unwise. Dumb and Dumber…not city liability unless it was a sanctioned swim event. Should the law be responsible for the damage law breakers cause If the fisherman broke laws? It’s easy to fish for sharks unless someone is sitting there watching your every move.

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One should have the good sense not to swim next to piers. Even as a kid I thought it didn’t make sense . Just from the idea that people are casting dangerous hooks and lures and that It would be wrong to get in their way or scare the fish. I have sympathies to fisher people too I guess.

Probably some history between the fishermen and the other water users. Too crowded.

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