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[quote=scaredyclassic]I never participated in sports and frankly I think I might be less fucked up in some ways if I had.[/quote]

I participated in sports and was good at several, but quit before I matured because I wasn’t raised right and things were getting worse. Fights and stuff like that. It wasn’t my DNA because I didn’t start like that and my kids are not like that. i was the best pitcher in my city league in middle school only maybe two position players in the league at my level, but eventually I was embarrassed to show up and thought my reputation for all that stuff wouldn’t work in high school. From what Allan says, I might have been fine. I think they would have run me off. I was a good middle distance runner but A little bit later I was half stoner half serious student. My confidence and willingess to be in the limelight was shattered.

My 7 year old has a good arm and a sense for ball placement too. I think sometimes my past dominates my feelings about competition. I started off keeping my kids pretty passive, but as time goes on have encouraged them to play for real if they play. The fun is in playing for real but with a good balanced outlook. Last year one of my kids kept a star opponent scoreless in soccer, He knocked him on his butt several times , cleanly, that’s new for us. He helped the kid up at least on one occasion. His confidence is a lot better and he is still a great kid…not a great soccer player, but he knows other kids are not entitled to go for it and him not.

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I wonder how Cardiff Baseball’s family is doing. Nice person very into baseball with his kids.

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[quote=FlyerInHi]Did Tiger Mom address sports in her book?[/quote]

Did you mean to be funny with that one. Strikes me as very funny!

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Actually, I think I am a better dad than you are , Scaredy.

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THis is a good story,

I love teachable moments, especially if it will help keep the kids close to one another and me. I am needy.

The other day I had to drop the oldest off in front of a group of new kids at a video game making class. He tried to get rid of me but really he’s 11 and it was my responsibility to make a handoff to the teacher. So I told him, “hey your real friends see us together all the time, so if I am good enough for your real friends I am good enough for these punks”. We are working on it.

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[quote=scaredyclassic]heres a marital tip; dont call your menopausal wife THE FLASH.[/quote]
Not even “HOT FLASH”?

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[quote=scaredyclassic]i dont remember my dad ever apologizing to me. i remember thinking he was wrong about some stuff. can’t remember what.

there is something amazingly powerful about apologizing to a child. i can still remember their tiny serious faces listening intently, me wringing my hands in front of this tiny human, sweating, them forgiving me…

in sum, id say a good theory of parenting is not “love your child”, but instead to demonstrate in some way every day a deep respect and interest in the autonomy, individuality and thoughts of each child, even when little. also you have to feed them.

in this way, perhaps, they wont be fucked up int he head…

a persons a person no matter how small.. ..[/quote]

I apologize to my kids, We sit down and talk about “misunderstandings” too, “Was I an idiot or was there a possible misunderstanding?” ” Oh, I am sorry you feel that way”.

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They are very sensitive about their pets, if you call their pet a name it better be positive. I call the pets rotten stuff but only in front of my wife. I laugh about it and she always says, “come on now”, Rustico.

LIke Crusty ass mutt. or Stupid fucking cat. I never say that stuff in front of the kids.

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[quote=scaredyclassic]You need to be able to talk to your kids. I have pet names for each one. Like “special one”, “specialty product” etc… I keep coming up with new names. But i ask first. For ibstance I ran loin fruit by its intended target before calling him that and he said no that won’t work. So I respected that. If I had just kept calling him loin fruit or his brother fruit of the loin, that would’ve not been respectful.

Listening… Key…[/quote]

We do this name thing all the time! Big fun! I also ask if it is O.K.

So many names I can’t remember, French Toast , Bacon, Catfish, Super Kid, Smart Kid, Big stuff, “The Stuff” , Stuffilufigus. Runner Kid , Soccer Kid, etc.

Now they call me “Flabby Dabby : G-d of Snacks” because I am so tight with sweets and stuff and I had a tiny bit of fat once.

Yesterday , the whole family was cutting tree branches,
I was Rough Cut, Mom was Smooth Cut, then there were the three boys Tough Cut, Buff Cut, Slick cut, then we all took turns calling each other” Butt Cut”, that really got them laughing, mom was never Butt Cut. Mom never gets insulting names , ever. Best Working together day ever, no whining , no apologies from the ass needed.

What shall what we will be today?

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[quote=ucodegen][quote=Blogstar]With some older houses, grounding to a water pipe was code. after pvc repairs became common that changed. Now the ground rod is used and the water pipes are grounded to that , cold near the house main and the hot water pipe is bonded to cold at the water heater. Thats with copper pipe , with plastic different story.[/quote]That must be really old code. It is probably during the time when everything was galvanized and the watermain was cast iron.. metal connecting everything. I think that when the pipes became copper, things change. You can cause current based copper erosion from galvanic action.

[quote=Blogstar]I believe now, that two ground rods sunk or buried 5′-6′ apart , connected to a continuous solid wire, or a stranded wire in conduit, are required for service mains. Some jurisdictions allow one rod with special testing.[/quote]One house I built, it was 15 feet deep (about 1976). The 5 feet apart sounds familiar. It depends upon how much soil moisture exists. A company I worked in had a hole in the foundation where the grounding rods were driven, more than 5 of them, oriented outwards from center. The hole was to allow inspection of the electrical connections.[/quote]

I never had to do anything too complicated, one , or later on, two standard ground rods with wire sized to the service , it was legal to bend a piece of rebar up through the foundation and into the wall cavity with an inspection hole. Also a shallow trench with bare copper wire I think 20 feet of wire buried only 18 or 24 inches nothing crazy. Nobody I know did it that last way though. Good with rock below I guess.

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With some older houses, grounding to a water pipe was code. after pvc repairs became common that changed. Now the ground rod is used and the water pipes are grounded to that , cold near the house main and the hot water pipe is bonded to cold at the water heater. Thats with copper pipe , with plastic different story.

I believe now, that two ground rods sunk or buried 5′-6′ apart , connected to a continuous solid wire, or a stranded wire in conduit, are required for service mains. Some jurisdictions allow one rod with special testing.

I am possibly a little rusty on the code but that’s what I went through last time I installed a main, about 5 years ago.

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You are never an ass to you kids , Scaredy? So why are you not a 10?

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[quote=SD Realtor]Visiting here has become analogous to picking blackberries. Some juicy stuff but you have to watch out and not get tangled up in the thorns. Then you spend all your time getting untangled and the berries are not worth it.

So I am just trying to keep my eyes on the berries and snipping the thorns.[/quote]

I think thing have kind of improved around here. It’s not a big as it was. There is less dog piling and other pack behavior going on, even a less of a trend of misogyny in the forums.

Oh yeah, Clairemont should be good.

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[quote=SD Realtor]Russ I say that I abstain from posting a comment on the subject directly due to some of the participants.[/quote]
So is your buddy being wrong headed too or just the guy you scolded?

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When I am being a ass, I tell my kids I shouldn’t be such an ass, but also that they will be good at dealing with difficult people which is a huge plus in life.

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