[NotCranky]

No, you are conflating cleanliness habits with individual inferiority/superiority. You can’t know who is better than whom unless you go back and somehow swap them at birth and see how they compared. In any case taking one item of life , which can easily be viewed as superficial and measuring human worth by it is a big fail to most people. You do that a lot.

[NotCranky]

People who had pesto on toast for lunch today are superior.

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic]i intend to memorize this and perform it now and then. perhaps to bring the mood down at parties.[/quote]

I would like to see it modernized a bit too. That might be better for your party delivery.” And the soldier with his cluster bombs”.

[NotCranky]

You can wonder about anyone , that’s just true. Your wondering is guided by who you are, where you stand, but it doesn’t make you superior, just selective.

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar][quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]I am not going there. Good Japanese movie though, “Departures” really cool , The main guy becomes an undertaker after losing his job with an orchestra. He learns to make deceased people beautiful and dignified for their coffins against the wishes of his wife and friends who want him to get a real job. Very nice movie.[/quote]

wife gave it 5 stars. However she felt the rock in hand at end was too much. I didnt. I was weeping. I will send stone letters.

my favorite line:

“My husband is a professional”[/quote]

The stone was crucial to tying the situation between the father and the son through time up unto the present where the father lay there dead . It was very important to somehow know that although the father was absentee he had tried to hold on to a part of his time with his son, or a part of his son, during his entire life and cherished him on some level until the end.

Stone messages seem great to me but are more powerful used sparingly , not like hallmark cards.

I think The elements of “fate” in the young man’s life were done very well. His connection to the bath house people. Just that the job actually fit him so perfectly like a replacement for playing the cello. Awesome.

I think everyone would find some flaw in the movie. My wife didn’t like how dishonest the young man was to his wife , lying about buying the cello and about his job.
It made perfect sense to me. I didn’t like the fake trout , the trout bit could have been good , but I could tell that the actual fish weren’t real. I thought the washing the transgender persons “thing” went a little too far into absurd. Acknowledging the transgender fact and the families emotions around it were great but not the exaggerated genital emphasis. It was like we were too stupid to get it unless it was over visually portrayed.

I loved the part where the young undertaker played the cello from his childhood out in the open fields. That was glorious.

How about the cremation furnace? It sounded like a metal foundry when they turned it on.[/quote]

i think the rock couldve been in the box of stuff the dad left for the same meaning.

one of the things I love about this movie is how messed up his life is when he “follows his dreams”, and how proound it becomes when he connects with other humans…[/quote]
I don’t think the rock was necessarily for the young man to find, nor the box. I think the father was taking the stone to the grave with him, which is also profound. It was good for the movie that his son found it though.

Still, I agree that parents who leave their kids and never give them any feedback like his father did are irresponsible, must be sick. But the son was heroic nonetheless. Got some positive closure with the rock.

[NotCranky]

[quote=flyer]It’s been interesting to read all of these comments on neatness vs. clutter, since I’ve never really thought much about this topic before. I can imagine either extreme might indicate something more than the obvious might lie beneath the surface.

A friend (actually a TV star my wife knows) who used to run excessively–almost to the point of physical destruction–finally decided to go into therapy, and uncovered the “real reasons” he was pushing himself past the point of no return.

He admitted he really didn’t know why he was doing what he was doing with regard to running, but mentioned terms like “mental clutter” when referring to his situation. It’s been very clear that the revelations he gained from the therapy changed his life for the better, and that’s always a good thing.[/quote]

Exercise addiction is interesting, lots of overlap with food addiction/ eating disorder/body image/self image problems and all that lurks below that. None of us are completely immune from some aspects of this combination of things. It’s great that your running friend sought help.

I agree about the extremes, There area as many miserable neurotic tidy people as there are people who are so messy that they are embarrassed to have people over. Good point.

I look at some of these perfect houses , perfect inside and out and I would be embarrassed if I lived in one of them. They look like a boat load of energy went into staging them even when people live in them. We are not our houses our family is not our house.

Sometimes disorder is bliss. I can recall times when the bed was piled with clothes from the dryer and I was super tired and just jumping in it and sleeping for as long as i wanted waking up super relaxed in this pile of clothes it was awesome. Get a cup of coffee and jump back in and turn on the TV! Luxury!

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=Blogstar]I am not going there. Good Japanese movie though, “Departures” really cool , The main guy becomes an undertaker after losing his job with an orchestra. He learns to make deceased people beautiful and dignified for their coffins against the wishes of his wife and friends who want him to get a real job. Very nice movie.[/quote]

wife gave it 5 stars. However she felt the rock in hand at end was too much. I didnt. I was weeping. I will send stone letters.

my favorite line:

“My husband is a professional”[/quote]

The stone was crucial to tying the situation between the father and the son through time up unto the present where the father lay there dead . It was very important to somehow know that although the father was absentee he had tried to hold on to a part of his time with his son, or a part of his son, during his entire life and cherished him on some level until the end.

Stone messages seem great to me but are more powerful used sparingly , not like hallmark cards.

I think The elements of “fate” in the young man’s life were done very well. His connection to the bath house people. Just that the job actually fit him so perfectly like a replacement for playing the cello. Awesome.

I think everyone would find some flaw in the movie. My wife didn’t like how dishonest the young man was to his wife , lying about buying the cello and about his job.
It made perfect sense to me. I didn’t like the fake trout , the trout bit could have been good , but I could tell that the actual fish weren’t real. I thought the washing the transgender persons “thing” went a little too far into absurd. Acknowledging the transgender fact and the families emotions around it were great but not the exaggerated genital emphasis. It was like we were too stupid to get it unless it was over visually portrayed.

I loved the part where the young undertaker played the cello from his childhood out in the open fields. That was glorious.

How about the cremation furnace? It sounded like a metal foundry when they turned it on.

[NotCranky]

I said that, I was just joking. I got a perm once though , very out of character for me, women just loved to run their fingers through my hair and get close. That was fucking real! If it were a wig it probably would have been less real.

Nothing wrong with recreating yourself, physically , occupationally, socially, whatever, it might be more real than what you are today. Could be a big fricken improvement.

All the World is a Stage. and we are merely players.
Performers and portrayers,
each another’s audience upon the gilded stage.

That’s the band Rush but it seems like Shakespeare wrote it?

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic]DEPARTURES is instant view on netflix. maybe tonight…[/quote]
I hope you like it.

[NotCranky]

I am not going there. Good Japanese movie though, “Departures” really cool , The main guy becomes an undertaker after losing his job with an orchestra. He learns to make deceased people beautiful and dignified for their coffins against the wishes of his wife and friends who want him to get a real job. Very nice movie.

[NotCranky]

Probably not.

[NotCranky]

[quote=scaredyclassic]I want to be me but more real.[/quote]
The new guidelines for LDL cholesterol are <100. I think getting there would be likely a personal growth experience of some kind, Like squatting 250. I am trying to get my LDL below 100, it's 113 now. Also thinking about coloring my hair.

[NotCranky]

Watched the infomercial. I don’t trust fat guys as gurus(if you are a guru you could at least learn how to eat) or people who got into psychology because of traumatic early lives.

I did a personal growth type retreat when I was 20 listen to all kinds of emotion provoking songs and had group meetings to discuss all kinds of past or present traumas, insecurities, talk about loneliness. There was some roll playing like someone was my mom who died suddenly when I was 10 and I got to talk to her and get angry and allegedly take my power back from her then forgive her for whatever. Lots of hugs, I think it was the first time I had a hug in my life. I thought it was good. life saving maybe. People who had been to the retreat could take classes to be facilitators at different levels but it was led by a Navy Chaplain of all people.

There was not too much bullshit there. This thing you are looking at might be good. Maybe you could graduate to facilitator pretty quickly.

I went to a church retreat for men with the Unitarian Universalist Church but it was pretty uppity and personal agendaish and pecking orderish. Not good, I was embarrassed all the time because I was low on the pecking order and really didn’t buy into the church too much anyway even though agnostics were welcome. It sucked. More good for camaraderie and networking to the extent you were connected, than personal growth . The stars of the church selling books and seminars. Whole different thing..not radical at all.

[NotCranky]

If it’s not in writing you are not entitled to anything out of escrow.

You could try arbitration, but I don’t think you have much ground to stand on.
You or your real estate agent should at least make a cursory check into title before you go to escrow. Maybe you did that?

If you wanted the property despite the defect the seller would have to perform or breach the contract.

What is the specific problem with the title anyway?

[NotCranky]

[quote=spdrun]Do you get stoned to death if you win?[/quote]
The winner wasn’t stoned. The star was one of the surviving twins and he was supposed to be killed in case he was cursed. it was a secret between the grandma and mother until the grandma caved into all the bad luck the corporations had gotten the family into and in a fit of public hysteria blamed it all on the boy. She blurted out the fact that he was an evil twin and curse, his rocket won the contest and everyone actually forgave him and gave him the money prize. He was a hero. Made the rocket fuel out of bat shit and his own piss.

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