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ParticipantThis isn’t something I like to think about. I do support my mother somewhat and have for as long as I can remember. To say my mom is bad with money is the understatement of a lifetime. I have paid for various things for her throughout the years. It’s better to pay some of her bills vs. have her inevitably screw up and ask for $.
She’s only in her 60’s but isn’t the picture of health and has zero savings. BUT, my feeling is I will only help her up to a point. I won’t sacrifice the life I’ve built with my husband and children because she has failed to be responsible her entire life. To make matters worse, she takes care of my brother who is handicapped so if anything happens to either one if them it’s a big, big issue.
Basically, my husband and I have run through various scenarios and what we’re willing to give via $ or actual help for each one and for how long. I expect little to no help from my siblings so I’m not counting on them. So we will have to see what the future brings and I plan to stick to the plans we’ve set forth. That may sound cold but when it comes down to it, this is a very emotional issue and I don’t want my emotions to cause me to make an irrational decision that would jeopardize my immediate family. So for example, someone said a nursing home for 18 years at 5K a month? Kudos to you but that ain’t happening with me.
ParticipantThis isn’t something I like to think about. I do support my mother somewhat and have for as long as I can remember. To say my mom is bad with money is the understatement of a lifetime. I have paid for various things for her throughout the years. It’s better to pay some of her bills vs. have her inevitably screw up and ask for $.
She’s only in her 60’s but isn’t the picture of health and has zero savings. BUT, my feeling is I will only help her up to a point. I won’t sacrifice the life I’ve built with my husband and children because she has failed to be responsible her entire life. To make matters worse, she takes care of my brother who is handicapped so if anything happens to either one if them it’s a big, big issue.
Basically, my husband and I have run through various scenarios and what we’re willing to give via $ or actual help for each one and for how long. I expect little to no help from my siblings so I’m not counting on them. So we will have to see what the future brings and I plan to stick to the plans we’ve set forth. That may sound cold but when it comes down to it, this is a very emotional issue and I don’t want my emotions to cause me to make an irrational decision that would jeopardize my immediate family. So for example, someone said a nursing home for 18 years at 5K a month? Kudos to you but that ain’t happening with me.
ParticipantThis isn’t something I like to think about. I do support my mother somewhat and have for as long as I can remember. To say my mom is bad with money is the understatement of a lifetime. I have paid for various things for her throughout the years. It’s better to pay some of her bills vs. have her inevitably screw up and ask for $.
She’s only in her 60’s but isn’t the picture of health and has zero savings. BUT, my feeling is I will only help her up to a point. I won’t sacrifice the life I’ve built with my husband and children because she has failed to be responsible her entire life. To make matters worse, she takes care of my brother who is handicapped so if anything happens to either one if them it’s a big, big issue.
Basically, my husband and I have run through various scenarios and what we’re willing to give via $ or actual help for each one and for how long. I expect little to no help from my siblings so I’m not counting on them. So we will have to see what the future brings and I plan to stick to the plans we’ve set forth. That may sound cold but when it comes down to it, this is a very emotional issue and I don’t want my emotions to cause me to make an irrational decision that would jeopardize my immediate family. So for example, someone said a nursing home for 18 years at 5K a month? Kudos to you but that ain’t happening with me.
ParticipantThis isn’t something I like to think about. I do support my mother somewhat and have for as long as I can remember. To say my mom is bad with money is the understatement of a lifetime. I have paid for various things for her throughout the years. It’s better to pay some of her bills vs. have her inevitably screw up and ask for $.
She’s only in her 60’s but isn’t the picture of health and has zero savings. BUT, my feeling is I will only help her up to a point. I won’t sacrifice the life I’ve built with my husband and children because she has failed to be responsible her entire life. To make matters worse, she takes care of my brother who is handicapped so if anything happens to either one if them it’s a big, big issue.
Basically, my husband and I have run through various scenarios and what we’re willing to give via $ or actual help for each one and for how long. I expect little to no help from my siblings so I’m not counting on them. So we will have to see what the future brings and I plan to stick to the plans we’ve set forth. That may sound cold but when it comes down to it, this is a very emotional issue and I don’t want my emotions to cause me to make an irrational decision that would jeopardize my immediate family. So for example, someone said a nursing home for 18 years at 5K a month? Kudos to you but that ain’t happening with me.
ParticipantThis isn’t something I like to think about. I do support my mother somewhat and have for as long as I can remember. To say my mom is bad with money is the understatement of a lifetime. I have paid for various things for her throughout the years. It’s better to pay some of her bills vs. have her inevitably screw up and ask for $.
She’s only in her 60’s but isn’t the picture of health and has zero savings. BUT, my feeling is I will only help her up to a point. I won’t sacrifice the life I’ve built with my husband and children because she has failed to be responsible her entire life. To make matters worse, she takes care of my brother who is handicapped so if anything happens to either one if them it’s a big, big issue.
Basically, my husband and I have run through various scenarios and what we’re willing to give via $ or actual help for each one and for how long. I expect little to no help from my siblings so I’m not counting on them. So we will have to see what the future brings and I plan to stick to the plans we’ve set forth. That may sound cold but when it comes down to it, this is a very emotional issue and I don’t want my emotions to cause me to make an irrational decision that would jeopardize my immediate family. So for example, someone said a nursing home for 18 years at 5K a month? Kudos to you but that ain’t happening with me.
Participant[quote=briansd1]
Give me a break, it’s only a figure of speech… Of course, people know that San Diego is in California somewhere near Mexico.[/quote]
Settle down…just trying to reconcile the obvious contradictions between saying there is elite intellectualism and the fact that one doesn’t know where these places are located and the vast open-mindedness yet making negative comments about a place one has never visited. I’m not arguing just pointing out the irony and humor but maybe it’s just me. 🙂
Participant[quote=briansd1]
Give me a break, it’s only a figure of speech… Of course, people know that San Diego is in California somewhere near Mexico.[/quote]
Settle down…just trying to reconcile the obvious contradictions between saying there is elite intellectualism and the fact that one doesn’t know where these places are located and the vast open-mindedness yet making negative comments about a place one has never visited. I’m not arguing just pointing out the irony and humor but maybe it’s just me. 🙂
Participant[quote=briansd1]
Give me a break, it’s only a figure of speech… Of course, people know that San Diego is in California somewhere near Mexico.[/quote]
Settle down…just trying to reconcile the obvious contradictions between saying there is elite intellectualism and the fact that one doesn’t know where these places are located and the vast open-mindedness yet making negative comments about a place one has never visited. I’m not arguing just pointing out the irony and humor but maybe it’s just me. 🙂
Participant[quote=briansd1]
Give me a break, it’s only a figure of speech… Of course, people know that San Diego is in California somewhere near Mexico.[/quote]
Settle down…just trying to reconcile the obvious contradictions between saying there is elite intellectualism and the fact that one doesn’t know where these places are located and the vast open-mindedness yet making negative comments about a place one has never visited. I’m not arguing just pointing out the irony and humor but maybe it’s just me. 🙂
Participant[quote=briansd1]
Give me a break, it’s only a figure of speech… Of course, people know that San Diego is in California somewhere near Mexico.[/quote]
Settle down…just trying to reconcile the obvious contradictions between saying there is elite intellectualism and the fact that one doesn’t know where these places are located and the vast open-mindedness yet making negative comments about a place one has never visited. I’m not arguing just pointing out the irony and humor but maybe it’s just me. 🙂
Participant[quote=UCGal]
All this talk about intellectual elitism cracks me up. There are ignorant bozos back east, too. In fact they’re more common than the elite intellectuals touted by other posters here. San Diego doesn’t have a lock on ignorant bozos. If you think San Diego doesn’t have intellectuals, perhaps you should look at the people you’re hangin’ with. There are plenty of PhD types around. Perhaps they’re just less snobby here. Talk to the other parents at your kids school – I am always surprised to see how many parents, even SAHMs, have advanced degrees among the parents of my kids’ peers.Maybe we’re just less snooty here.[/quote]
Sheesh, no doubt. Thanks for saying it UCGal. I have lived on both coasts including these metropolitan areas people here are touting and I couldn’t agree more. I’d also argue that people back East are hardly more open-minded in general either.
Participant[quote=UCGal]
All this talk about intellectual elitism cracks me up. There are ignorant bozos back east, too. In fact they’re more common than the elite intellectuals touted by other posters here. San Diego doesn’t have a lock on ignorant bozos. If you think San Diego doesn’t have intellectuals, perhaps you should look at the people you’re hangin’ with. There are plenty of PhD types around. Perhaps they’re just less snobby here. Talk to the other parents at your kids school – I am always surprised to see how many parents, even SAHMs, have advanced degrees among the parents of my kids’ peers.Maybe we’re just less snooty here.[/quote]
Sheesh, no doubt. Thanks for saying it UCGal. I have lived on both coasts including these metropolitan areas people here are touting and I couldn’t agree more. I’d also argue that people back East are hardly more open-minded in general either.
Participant[quote=UCGal]
All this talk about intellectual elitism cracks me up. There are ignorant bozos back east, too. In fact they’re more common than the elite intellectuals touted by other posters here. San Diego doesn’t have a lock on ignorant bozos. If you think San Diego doesn’t have intellectuals, perhaps you should look at the people you’re hangin’ with. There are plenty of PhD types around. Perhaps they’re just less snobby here. Talk to the other parents at your kids school – I am always surprised to see how many parents, even SAHMs, have advanced degrees among the parents of my kids’ peers.Maybe we’re just less snooty here.[/quote]
Sheesh, no doubt. Thanks for saying it UCGal. I have lived on both coasts including these metropolitan areas people here are touting and I couldn’t agree more. I’d also argue that people back East are hardly more open-minded in general either.
Participant[quote=UCGal]
All this talk about intellectual elitism cracks me up. There are ignorant bozos back east, too. In fact they’re more common than the elite intellectuals touted by other posters here. San Diego doesn’t have a lock on ignorant bozos. If you think San Diego doesn’t have intellectuals, perhaps you should look at the people you’re hangin’ with. There are plenty of PhD types around. Perhaps they’re just less snobby here. Talk to the other parents at your kids school – I am always surprised to see how many parents, even SAHMs, have advanced degrees among the parents of my kids’ peers.Maybe we’re just less snooty here.[/quote]
Sheesh, no doubt. Thanks for saying it UCGal. I have lived on both coasts including these metropolitan areas people here are touting and I couldn’t agree more. I’d also argue that people back East are hardly more open-minded in general either.
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