The Sadowski’s

[njtosd]

[quote=6packscaredy]As secrets go it may be the tip of the iceberg. But if it’s not it doesn’t seem that crazy since they were s pending loosely[/quote]

It’s not the money, it’s the secret. This guy is a whack job. He has a personal website, which is bizarre (the headings that you would think would link to additional info about him are actually just words).
http://timsadowski.com/

The central picture looks more like “kidnapper/victim” rather than “father/son”. There’s also a stomach turning picture of his foot, and random pictures of sun umbrellas, etc. I’m not sure what the point is.

[Anonymous]

The Marilyn Monroe on the fridge looks like a dude.

[all]

[quote=njtosd] There’s also a stomach turning picture of his foot, and random pictures of sun umbrellas, etc. I’m not sure what the point is.[/quote]

The caption says “Created stadium seat umbrella holders.”

Those are the things he built or restored.

[spdrun]

Actually, looks like a decent craftsman. Sort of sad, with a smart wife or child to support him emotionally and balance the books, instead of pushing him away, he could be quite successful.

(Though is that a gap in the weld of the stadium seat umbrella holder?)

[no_such_reality]

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[NotCranky]

I don’t think the answer about relationships is complicated , scaredy.
We can be cognizant of the material , social support, etc that comes from/with our loved ones, and even know that we don’t want to lose those things and still love them completely. It doesn’t have to look good looking at it all the time, you just have to know the balance is there and accept that is as good as it gets.

It’s actually pretty strange to think that your son doesn’t love you…that’s just how things work, unless you actually abuse the hell out of them. …and even then they probably still do. I doubt there ever has been a kid, who had reasonable premise to think their parents did the best they could, who didn’t love them.

Same with wives…anyone who married in a reasonable state of emotional health could never not love the mother of his children….even if the couple divorced.

Just PM me if you want to pay for this therapy session.

[njtosd]

[quote=all][quote=njtosd] There’s also a stomach turning picture of his foot, and random pictures of sun umbrellas, etc. I’m not sure what the point is.[/quote]

The caption says “Created stadium seat umbrella holders.”

Those are the things he built or restored.[/quote]

You’re right; I hadn’t clicked on the picture. I guess that makes him handy but I don’t know how creative – the idea is pretty old (disclosed but not claimed here: http://www.google.ca/patents/US4086931).

He’s definitely the kind of person who likes to build/make things – but that doesn’t change my view that he’s odd.

[njtosd]

[quote=spdrun]Actually, looks like a decent craftsman. Sort of sad, with a smart wife or child to support him emotionally and balance the books, instead of pushing him away, he could be quite successful.

(Though is that a gap in the weld of the stadium seat umbrella holder?)[/quote]

Or maybe if he weren’t such a unreliable guy she would not have lost her feelings for him . . . For example, he doesn’t seem to have had a contractors license since 2000, long before he had financial problems:
https://www2.cslb.ca.gov/OnlineServices/CheckLicenseII/PersonnelLicenseList.aspx?SeqNumber=201697&PersName=SADOWSKI%2c+TIMOTHY+ALLAN

Seems to have been willing to take risks with a business that his family was relying on.

[spdrun]

Wrong, Drywall Pros (his firm) had a license till 2010 – he just added “Inc” after 2000 so the name changed…
https://www2.cslb.ca.gov/OnlineServices/CheckLicenseII/LicenseDetail.aspx?LicNum=777758

Seems to have been a decent guy who was good at what he did, though lacking in some measure of financial planning.

[NotCranky]

Very small risk with not having a contractors license. In fact ….the government , at least in California, makes sure there are more risks if you have one if you are a small scale operation. Clients have very little reasonable recourse against an unlicensed contractor and not much against a licensed person either, unless there is and escrow or something like that. I believe these are called holding accounts out here, and escrow companies can do them. Dixieline hardware used to do them but I don’t know if they do anymore.

There is the contractors bond and that can help, but not always, and not always sufficiently. Usually the guy who screws up your job did it to enough people before you that the bonding is rendered meaningless.

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=Blogstar]I don’t think the answer about relationships is complicated , scaredy.
We can be cognizant of the material , social support, etc that comes from/with our loved ones, and even know that we don’t want to lose those things and still love them completely. It doesn’t have to look good looking at it all the time, you just have to know the balance is there and accept that is as good as it gets.

It’s actually pretty strange to think that your son doesn’t love you…that’s just how things work, unless you actually abuse the hell out of them. …and even then they probably still do. I doubt there ever has been a kid, who had reasonable premise to think their parents did the best they could, who didn’t love them.

Same with wives…anyone who married in a reasonable state of emotional health could never not love the mother of his children….even if the couple divorced.

Just PM me if you want to pay for this therapy session.[/quote]

Do you take insurance?

[NotCranky]

[quote=6packscaredy][quote=Blogstar]I don’t think the answer about relationships is complicated , scaredy.
We can be cognizant of the material , social support, etc that comes from/with our loved ones, and even know that we don’t want to lose those things and still love them completely. It doesn’t have to look good looking at it all the time, you just have to know the balance is there and accept that is as good as it gets.

It’s actually pretty strange to think that your son doesn’t love you…that’s just how things work, unless you actually abuse the hell out of them. …and even then they probably still do. I doubt there ever has been a kid, who had reasonable premise to think their parents did the best they could, who didn’t love them.

Same with wives…anyone who married in a reasonable state of emotional health could never not love the mother of his children….even if the couple divorced.

Just PM me if you want to pay for this therapy session.[/quote]

Do you take insurance?[/quote]

Is that something to make sure I don’t go potty at an inopportune moment?
Maybe

[NotCranky]

I get the gist of the Sadowski thing without looking at it from the comments.
Don’t want to bother…since it’s all reruns of what we saw before. Closest case was my neighbor, pretty extreme by normal folks standards …in the end I was sad for that family….life goes on, but it was like seeing a person who was handicapped pretty badly in a profound way….no schadenfreude for me.
THe banks gave them money like a bartender gives drunks alcohol.

[no_such_reality]

[quote=spdrun]Wrong, Drywall Pros (his firm) had a license till 2010 – he just added “Inc” after 2000 so the name changed…
https://www2.cslb.ca.gov/OnlineServices/CheckLicenseII/LicenseDetail.aspx?LicNum=777758

Seems to have been a decent guy who was good at what he did, though lacking in some measure of financial planning.[/quote]

You know how people, okay me, can use “Hipster” in a derogatory way when referring to the ‘hipsters’ that are caricature of an anti-establishment non-mainstream bohemian in a completely mainstream interpretation of bohemian?

They struck me as the mainstream equivalent of that. Man-cave, Marilyn on the fridge, restored car, Harley, the trendy mega-church beard, etc. Just trying too hard on the ‘supposed’ to wants and not knowing what they really want.

Just IMO, I have my own short comings, but that particular affliction is really common in SoCal.

[scaredyclassic]

I’m a hipster in a clichéd way.

My phone put that accent mark on not me.

If I were on a documentary like this I think the Internet comments would be equally scathing.

I wonder how the experience looks from sadowskis’ eyes…

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