Sticky sellers in RSF and Santaluz

[XBoxBoy]

SD Realtor wrote: Let me know of any secrets you come across with to help keep your wife patient as I am running out of tricks.

To all those with this problem let me say that the solution I found that worked the best was to go rent a really nice place. (With a big emphasis on the word nice!) My wife was really after me to buy, putting on daily pressure, but I was reluctant for all the reasons that people write about here. (We have a good bit of money saved so we could afford to buy, I just didn’t think it was a good idea.) We were living in an apartment that was okay, but just okay, certainly not as nice as we could afford. But we were saving money. But I realized that living in the less than ideal situation was making things all the more difficult. So, I went out and found a really nice house to rent. Yes, we are spending a lot in rent, but still less than we would be losing if we had bought. Now my wife’s concern is that we are living in a house that is nicer than we will be able to afford. This seems to be much easier for her to deal with, and lately she has not put any pressure on me to buy a place. (Probably because she realizes that buying will mean a step down in living conditions.)

Anyway, bottom line, if your wife is after you to buy, go rent the nicest place you can find/afford. You might not be able to bank as much money, but then again you are living well, not watching your equity shrink, and rents are still half what a mortgage payment would be. Overall a much better deal. I highly recommend this strategy.

XBoxBoy

[SD Realtor]

Good posts –

Navydoc I had presupposed west LA because of a conversation we had awhile back about hitting the boardwalk in Venice and being able to get to LAX via “the back way” taking Lincoln up the hill, through Westechester, etc… Looks like some choices for you when you relocate as you have a few interesting opportunities.

Breeze – Well worded. If it is a purely economic choice then there really is no reason to even CONSIDER buying for at least a few years out. That said from a pure economic standpoint those that wait the longest stand to do the best from a purely dollars and cents point of view. Couldn’t agree more.

Raptor and XBox, I know I have gone over this ad nauseum but my wife is not pining for upgrades or anything like that. Her motivation is mostly due to not having to answer to a landlord and to be able to do our own thing no matter what or where we live. Also to find a place where we KNOW we will not have to relocate ever again. We will not worry about the landlord wanting to sell, we will not worry about it if the kids bust out the crayons and draw all over the fireplace mantle. We will be able to not worry about patching the walls when hanging pictures… When my dog chews apart the sprinklers I will still be stressed but maybe not as stressed… It is more about alot of little thinks and such stability. In the end when they are written here on the post they all seem pretty miniscule but to my wife they are not. Moving 3 times in 3 years has been a bitch.

XBOX you kind of see what I mean about the situation? We are in a nice place with a huge yard and lots of space. For what I need as a guy with kids and pets and grandma it does work out well. At 2500 a month it is a decent rent rate for Scripps, 2500 sf on a 10k lot, 4/3. However as nice at it is there are no warrants that this landlord may want to up and sell like my last one did… and bless the last ones heart he tried to sell but was to greedy so he now is renting the place out again.

I do see your point though as I think that IS indeed a solution for some… not me but for some…the aspects of home ownership my wife wants are (how shall I say it) the less tangible and materialistic ones verses wanting the more secure/stability aspects of owning. I am not ready to pay the premium for those aspects just yet however I will not put her through waiting for the bottom to purchase them.

SD Realtor

[SD Realtor]

Good posts –

Navydoc I had presupposed west LA because of a conversation we had awhile back about hitting the boardwalk in Venice and being able to get to LAX via “the back way” taking Lincoln up the hill, through Westechester, etc… Looks like some choices for you when you relocate as you have a few interesting opportunities.

Breeze – Well worded. If it is a purely economic choice then there really is no reason to even CONSIDER buying for at least a few years out. That said from a pure economic standpoint those that wait the longest stand to do the best from a purely dollars and cents point of view. Couldn’t agree more.

Raptor and XBox, I know I have gone over this ad nauseum but my wife is not pining for upgrades or anything like that. Her motivation is mostly due to not having to answer to a landlord and to be able to do our own thing no matter what or where we live. Also to find a place where we KNOW we will not have to relocate ever again. We will not worry about the landlord wanting to sell, we will not worry about it if the kids bust out the crayons and draw all over the fireplace mantle. We will be able to not worry about patching the walls when hanging pictures… When my dog chews apart the sprinklers I will still be stressed but maybe not as stressed… It is more about alot of little thinks and such stability. In the end when they are written here on the post they all seem pretty miniscule but to my wife they are not. Moving 3 times in 3 years has been a bitch.

XBOX you kind of see what I mean about the situation? We are in a nice place with a huge yard and lots of space. For what I need as a guy with kids and pets and grandma it does work out well. At 2500 a month it is a decent rent rate for Scripps, 2500 sf on a 10k lot, 4/3. However as nice at it is there are no warrants that this landlord may want to up and sell like my last one did… and bless the last ones heart he tried to sell but was to greedy so he now is renting the place out again.

I do see your point though as I think that IS indeed a solution for some… not me but for some…the aspects of home ownership my wife wants are (how shall I say it) the less tangible and materialistic ones verses wanting the more secure/stability aspects of owning. I am not ready to pay the premium for those aspects just yet however I will not put her through waiting for the bottom to purchase them.

SD Realtor

[SD Realtor]

Good posts –

Navydoc I had presupposed west LA because of a conversation we had awhile back about hitting the boardwalk in Venice and being able to get to LAX via “the back way” taking Lincoln up the hill, through Westechester, etc… Looks like some choices for you when you relocate as you have a few interesting opportunities.

Breeze – Well worded. If it is a purely economic choice then there really is no reason to even CONSIDER buying for at least a few years out. That said from a pure economic standpoint those that wait the longest stand to do the best from a purely dollars and cents point of view. Couldn’t agree more.

Raptor and XBox, I know I have gone over this ad nauseum but my wife is not pining for upgrades or anything like that. Her motivation is mostly due to not having to answer to a landlord and to be able to do our own thing no matter what or where we live. Also to find a place where we KNOW we will not have to relocate ever again. We will not worry about the landlord wanting to sell, we will not worry about it if the kids bust out the crayons and draw all over the fireplace mantle. We will be able to not worry about patching the walls when hanging pictures… When my dog chews apart the sprinklers I will still be stressed but maybe not as stressed… It is more about alot of little thinks and such stability. In the end when they are written here on the post they all seem pretty miniscule but to my wife they are not. Moving 3 times in 3 years has been a bitch.

XBOX you kind of see what I mean about the situation? We are in a nice place with a huge yard and lots of space. For what I need as a guy with kids and pets and grandma it does work out well. At 2500 a month it is a decent rent rate for Scripps, 2500 sf on a 10k lot, 4/3. However as nice at it is there are no warrants that this landlord may want to up and sell like my last one did… and bless the last ones heart he tried to sell but was to greedy so he now is renting the place out again.

I do see your point though as I think that IS indeed a solution for some… not me but for some…the aspects of home ownership my wife wants are (how shall I say it) the less tangible and materialistic ones verses wanting the more secure/stability aspects of owning. I am not ready to pay the premium for those aspects just yet however I will not put her through waiting for the bottom to purchase them.

SD Realtor

[SD Realtor]

Good posts –

Navydoc I had presupposed west LA because of a conversation we had awhile back about hitting the boardwalk in Venice and being able to get to LAX via “the back way” taking Lincoln up the hill, through Westechester, etc… Looks like some choices for you when you relocate as you have a few interesting opportunities.

Breeze – Well worded. If it is a purely economic choice then there really is no reason to even CONSIDER buying for at least a few years out. That said from a pure economic standpoint those that wait the longest stand to do the best from a purely dollars and cents point of view. Couldn’t agree more.

Raptor and XBox, I know I have gone over this ad nauseum but my wife is not pining for upgrades or anything like that. Her motivation is mostly due to not having to answer to a landlord and to be able to do our own thing no matter what or where we live. Also to find a place where we KNOW we will not have to relocate ever again. We will not worry about the landlord wanting to sell, we will not worry about it if the kids bust out the crayons and draw all over the fireplace mantle. We will be able to not worry about patching the walls when hanging pictures… When my dog chews apart the sprinklers I will still be stressed but maybe not as stressed… It is more about alot of little thinks and such stability. In the end when they are written here on the post they all seem pretty miniscule but to my wife they are not. Moving 3 times in 3 years has been a bitch.

XBOX you kind of see what I mean about the situation? We are in a nice place with a huge yard and lots of space. For what I need as a guy with kids and pets and grandma it does work out well. At 2500 a month it is a decent rent rate for Scripps, 2500 sf on a 10k lot, 4/3. However as nice at it is there are no warrants that this landlord may want to up and sell like my last one did… and bless the last ones heart he tried to sell but was to greedy so he now is renting the place out again.

I do see your point though as I think that IS indeed a solution for some… not me but for some…the aspects of home ownership my wife wants are (how shall I say it) the less tangible and materialistic ones verses wanting the more secure/stability aspects of owning. I am not ready to pay the premium for those aspects just yet however I will not put her through waiting for the bottom to purchase them.

SD Realtor

[SD Realtor]

Good posts –

Navydoc I had presupposed west LA because of a conversation we had awhile back about hitting the boardwalk in Venice and being able to get to LAX via “the back way” taking Lincoln up the hill, through Westechester, etc… Looks like some choices for you when you relocate as you have a few interesting opportunities.

Breeze – Well worded. If it is a purely economic choice then there really is no reason to even CONSIDER buying for at least a few years out. That said from a pure economic standpoint those that wait the longest stand to do the best from a purely dollars and cents point of view. Couldn’t agree more.

Raptor and XBox, I know I have gone over this ad nauseum but my wife is not pining for upgrades or anything like that. Her motivation is mostly due to not having to answer to a landlord and to be able to do our own thing no matter what or where we live. Also to find a place where we KNOW we will not have to relocate ever again. We will not worry about the landlord wanting to sell, we will not worry about it if the kids bust out the crayons and draw all over the fireplace mantle. We will be able to not worry about patching the walls when hanging pictures… When my dog chews apart the sprinklers I will still be stressed but maybe not as stressed… It is more about alot of little thinks and such stability. In the end when they are written here on the post they all seem pretty miniscule but to my wife they are not. Moving 3 times in 3 years has been a bitch.

XBOX you kind of see what I mean about the situation? We are in a nice place with a huge yard and lots of space. For what I need as a guy with kids and pets and grandma it does work out well. At 2500 a month it is a decent rent rate for Scripps, 2500 sf on a 10k lot, 4/3. However as nice at it is there are no warrants that this landlord may want to up and sell like my last one did… and bless the last ones heart he tried to sell but was to greedy so he now is renting the place out again.

I do see your point though as I think that IS indeed a solution for some… not me but for some…the aspects of home ownership my wife wants are (how shall I say it) the less tangible and materialistic ones verses wanting the more secure/stability aspects of owning. I am not ready to pay the premium for those aspects just yet however I will not put her through waiting for the bottom to purchase them.

SD Realtor

[scaredyclassic]

i concur with the rent a nice place plan. we rent a house that sold for $650k for $1700/mo. Much nicer than our last place. Still able to save money. And we wouldn’t be buying a “nicer” place. If you were guaranteed to lose money on a place, you’d probably rent it. So really, ultimately, buying is an investment for people,whether they care to admit it or not.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

i concur with the rent a nice place plan. we rent a house that sold for $650k for $1700/mo. Much nicer than our last place. Still able to save money. And we wouldn’t be buying a “nicer” place. If you were guaranteed to lose money on a place, you’d probably rent it. So really, ultimately, buying is an investment for people,whether they care to admit it or not.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

i concur with the rent a nice place plan. we rent a house that sold for $650k for $1700/mo. Much nicer than our last place. Still able to save money. And we wouldn’t be buying a “nicer” place. If you were guaranteed to lose money on a place, you’d probably rent it. So really, ultimately, buying is an investment for people,whether they care to admit it or not.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

i concur with the rent a nice place plan. we rent a house that sold for $650k for $1700/mo. Much nicer than our last place. Still able to save money. And we wouldn’t be buying a “nicer” place. If you were guaranteed to lose money on a place, you’d probably rent it. So really, ultimately, buying is an investment for people,whether they care to admit it or not.

Drink Heavily.

[scaredyclassic]

i concur with the rent a nice place plan. we rent a house that sold for $650k for $1700/mo. Much nicer than our last place. Still able to save money. And we wouldn’t be buying a “nicer” place. If you were guaranteed to lose money on a place, you’d probably rent it. So really, ultimately, buying is an investment for people,whether they care to admit it or not.

Drink Heavily.

[pfflyer]

Raptorduck or others- What is the story with the Bridges? Did you see/like it? I visited last year because I want a nice golf club when I pull the trigger. The homes were about 3.5M and membership in the club 350k to join and $1500/mo dues. There may be more in terms of HOA. I left loving the place but thinking it was the biggest rip off in terms of price. Any opinions??

[pfflyer]

Raptorduck or others- What is the story with the Bridges? Did you see/like it? I visited last year because I want a nice golf club when I pull the trigger. The homes were about 3.5M and membership in the club 350k to join and $1500/mo dues. There may be more in terms of HOA. I left loving the place but thinking it was the biggest rip off in terms of price. Any opinions??

[pfflyer]

Raptorduck or others- What is the story with the Bridges? Did you see/like it? I visited last year because I want a nice golf club when I pull the trigger. The homes were about 3.5M and membership in the club 350k to join and $1500/mo dues. There may be more in terms of HOA. I left loving the place but thinking it was the biggest rip off in terms of price. Any opinions??

[pfflyer]

Raptorduck or others- What is the story with the Bridges? Did you see/like it? I visited last year because I want a nice golf club when I pull the trigger. The homes were about 3.5M and membership in the club 350k to join and $1500/mo dues. There may be more in terms of HOA. I left loving the place but thinking it was the biggest rip off in terms of price. Any opinions??

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