So we know we screwed up…

[trying2balance]

Thanks guys – will definitely call sheldon.

Boy talk about when it rains it pours, my husband just called to tell me that his firm is being pulled off the project he has been on for the past 5 years. Doesn’t mean he is out of a job, but this is not good news as there may not be another project to put him on. And we may be asked to move to another city or something so this makes it DEFINITE that we cannot buy a house right now with his job more up in the air than ever…

Guess Baby #3 is also definitely on hold, I’ll let you all know what happens and will likely ask for more advice as we start getting into the bad, worse and “worser” options that are in front of us I guess.

[Aecetia]

None of my business about the children issue, but I happen to agree with TG. I have one and not because on any environmental sense of not over populating, it was just a timing thing. He is not spoiled and he has a lot of friends with sibs who wish they were him. I am not nostalgic about large families because I agree with a poster here that said, someone gets left out. Large families existed when children died young and when we were an agricultural nation.

One more thought to ponder, could you find someone to lease the condo with an option to buy? That is an avenue you might want to explore because it buys you more time. I would also really consider the commute from Ramona. If you are working out of the home it is not that bad, but if you want to drive down the hill every day, then you will grow tired of the traffic and there are many serious accidents on 67. Good luck to you and the family.

[Aecetia]

None of my business about the children issue, but I happen to agree with TG. I have one and not because on any environmental sense of not over populating, it was just a timing thing. He is not spoiled and he has a lot of friends with sibs who wish they were him. I am not nostalgic about large families because I agree with a poster here that said, someone gets left out. Large families existed when children died young and when we were an agricultural nation.

One more thought to ponder, could you find someone to lease the condo with an option to buy? That is an avenue you might want to explore because it buys you more time. I would also really consider the commute from Ramona. If you are working out of the home it is not that bad, but if you want to drive down the hill every day, then you will grow tired of the traffic and there are many serious accidents on 67. Good luck to you and the family.

[Aecetia]

None of my business about the children issue, but I happen to agree with TG. I have one and not because on any environmental sense of not over populating, it was just a timing thing. He is not spoiled and he has a lot of friends with sibs who wish they were him. I am not nostalgic about large families because I agree with a poster here that said, someone gets left out. Large families existed when children died young and when we were an agricultural nation.

One more thought to ponder, could you find someone to lease the condo with an option to buy? That is an avenue you might want to explore because it buys you more time. I would also really consider the commute from Ramona. If you are working out of the home it is not that bad, but if you want to drive down the hill every day, then you will grow tired of the traffic and there are many serious accidents on 67. Good luck to you and the family.

[Aecetia]

None of my business about the children issue, but I happen to agree with TG. I have one and not because on any environmental sense of not over populating, it was just a timing thing. He is not spoiled and he has a lot of friends with sibs who wish they were him. I am not nostalgic about large families because I agree with a poster here that said, someone gets left out. Large families existed when children died young and when we were an agricultural nation.

One more thought to ponder, could you find someone to lease the condo with an option to buy? That is an avenue you might want to explore because it buys you more time. I would also really consider the commute from Ramona. If you are working out of the home it is not that bad, but if you want to drive down the hill every day, then you will grow tired of the traffic and there are many serious accidents on 67. Good luck to you and the family.

[Aecetia]

None of my business about the children issue, but I happen to agree with TG. I have one and not because on any environmental sense of not over populating, it was just a timing thing. He is not spoiled and he has a lot of friends with sibs who wish they were him. I am not nostalgic about large families because I agree with a poster here that said, someone gets left out. Large families existed when children died young and when we were an agricultural nation.

One more thought to ponder, could you find someone to lease the condo with an option to buy? That is an avenue you might want to explore because it buys you more time. I would also really consider the commute from Ramona. If you are working out of the home it is not that bad, but if you want to drive down the hill every day, then you will grow tired of the traffic and there are many serious accidents on 67. Good luck to you and the family.

[trying2balance]

Thanks Aecetia — you’re right about the drive down the 67, its amazing how its really only 15 minutes down to Poway once your on the West End of Ramona, but it seems like an ocean away, especially for our friends who are primarily in) 4S Ranch and can’t believe we are WAY out there!

As for the kid issue, some really interesting feedback from everyone. When I gave the granny analogy I wasn’t thinking so much about the kids that would be at my side but moreso about what I did with my life. Somehow raising a family (and it seems strange to me that 3 kids would qualify as a “large” family — maybe 4 on…) But raising a family is what I think I would like to look back on, of people that are good and giving back.

I met with a couple that was married over 50 yrs and asked what they thought of this generation and they both agreed that kids are more spoiled than ever and they thought it was mainly bc as she put it “you cannot split a pie exactly even 5 ways” referring to the 5 kids they raised, but all of our kids only had 2 of their own and it is a very different child that develops with everything split exactly in half versus the children that have to pitch in, help the family struggle and learn early on that the world does not dole out fairly shared slices… So my view is more about the type of family dynamic we would have as a larger unit, nothing religious really (we’re catholic but everyone in our family is saying for god’s sake stop now and keep working to enjoy life more…)

Well, we’re certainly learning about life not being fair with this experience and now my husband possibly having to look for a new job. But we’ll still be one happy family and when all is said and done I do hope one large family crammed into a too-small house bonding to fight our way in this world together and caring for each other 🙂

[trying2balance]

Thanks Aecetia — you’re right about the drive down the 67, its amazing how its really only 15 minutes down to Poway once your on the West End of Ramona, but it seems like an ocean away, especially for our friends who are primarily in) 4S Ranch and can’t believe we are WAY out there!

As for the kid issue, some really interesting feedback from everyone. When I gave the granny analogy I wasn’t thinking so much about the kids that would be at my side but moreso about what I did with my life. Somehow raising a family (and it seems strange to me that 3 kids would qualify as a “large” family — maybe 4 on…) But raising a family is what I think I would like to look back on, of people that are good and giving back.

I met with a couple that was married over 50 yrs and asked what they thought of this generation and they both agreed that kids are more spoiled than ever and they thought it was mainly bc as she put it “you cannot split a pie exactly even 5 ways” referring to the 5 kids they raised, but all of our kids only had 2 of their own and it is a very different child that develops with everything split exactly in half versus the children that have to pitch in, help the family struggle and learn early on that the world does not dole out fairly shared slices… So my view is more about the type of family dynamic we would have as a larger unit, nothing religious really (we’re catholic but everyone in our family is saying for god’s sake stop now and keep working to enjoy life more…)

Well, we’re certainly learning about life not being fair with this experience and now my husband possibly having to look for a new job. But we’ll still be one happy family and when all is said and done I do hope one large family crammed into a too-small house bonding to fight our way in this world together and caring for each other 🙂

[trying2balance]

Thanks Aecetia — you’re right about the drive down the 67, its amazing how its really only 15 minutes down to Poway once your on the West End of Ramona, but it seems like an ocean away, especially for our friends who are primarily in) 4S Ranch and can’t believe we are WAY out there!

As for the kid issue, some really interesting feedback from everyone. When I gave the granny analogy I wasn’t thinking so much about the kids that would be at my side but moreso about what I did with my life. Somehow raising a family (and it seems strange to me that 3 kids would qualify as a “large” family — maybe 4 on…) But raising a family is what I think I would like to look back on, of people that are good and giving back.

I met with a couple that was married over 50 yrs and asked what they thought of this generation and they both agreed that kids are more spoiled than ever and they thought it was mainly bc as she put it “you cannot split a pie exactly even 5 ways” referring to the 5 kids they raised, but all of our kids only had 2 of their own and it is a very different child that develops with everything split exactly in half versus the children that have to pitch in, help the family struggle and learn early on that the world does not dole out fairly shared slices… So my view is more about the type of family dynamic we would have as a larger unit, nothing religious really (we’re catholic but everyone in our family is saying for god’s sake stop now and keep working to enjoy life more…)

Well, we’re certainly learning about life not being fair with this experience and now my husband possibly having to look for a new job. But we’ll still be one happy family and when all is said and done I do hope one large family crammed into a too-small house bonding to fight our way in this world together and caring for each other 🙂

[trying2balance]

Thanks Aecetia — you’re right about the drive down the 67, its amazing how its really only 15 minutes down to Poway once your on the West End of Ramona, but it seems like an ocean away, especially for our friends who are primarily in) 4S Ranch and can’t believe we are WAY out there!

As for the kid issue, some really interesting feedback from everyone. When I gave the granny analogy I wasn’t thinking so much about the kids that would be at my side but moreso about what I did with my life. Somehow raising a family (and it seems strange to me that 3 kids would qualify as a “large” family — maybe 4 on…) But raising a family is what I think I would like to look back on, of people that are good and giving back.

I met with a couple that was married over 50 yrs and asked what they thought of this generation and they both agreed that kids are more spoiled than ever and they thought it was mainly bc as she put it “you cannot split a pie exactly even 5 ways” referring to the 5 kids they raised, but all of our kids only had 2 of their own and it is a very different child that develops with everything split exactly in half versus the children that have to pitch in, help the family struggle and learn early on that the world does not dole out fairly shared slices… So my view is more about the type of family dynamic we would have as a larger unit, nothing religious really (we’re catholic but everyone in our family is saying for god’s sake stop now and keep working to enjoy life more…)

Well, we’re certainly learning about life not being fair with this experience and now my husband possibly having to look for a new job. But we’ll still be one happy family and when all is said and done I do hope one large family crammed into a too-small house bonding to fight our way in this world together and caring for each other 🙂

[trying2balance]

Thanks Aecetia — you’re right about the drive down the 67, its amazing how its really only 15 minutes down to Poway once your on the West End of Ramona, but it seems like an ocean away, especially for our friends who are primarily in) 4S Ranch and can’t believe we are WAY out there!

As for the kid issue, some really interesting feedback from everyone. When I gave the granny analogy I wasn’t thinking so much about the kids that would be at my side but moreso about what I did with my life. Somehow raising a family (and it seems strange to me that 3 kids would qualify as a “large” family — maybe 4 on…) But raising a family is what I think I would like to look back on, of people that are good and giving back.

I met with a couple that was married over 50 yrs and asked what they thought of this generation and they both agreed that kids are more spoiled than ever and they thought it was mainly bc as she put it “you cannot split a pie exactly even 5 ways” referring to the 5 kids they raised, but all of our kids only had 2 of their own and it is a very different child that develops with everything split exactly in half versus the children that have to pitch in, help the family struggle and learn early on that the world does not dole out fairly shared slices… So my view is more about the type of family dynamic we would have as a larger unit, nothing religious really (we’re catholic but everyone in our family is saying for god’s sake stop now and keep working to enjoy life more…)

Well, we’re certainly learning about life not being fair with this experience and now my husband possibly having to look for a new job. But we’ll still be one happy family and when all is said and done I do hope one large family crammed into a too-small house bonding to fight our way in this world together and caring for each other 🙂

[Aecetia]

My son goes to a private Catholic school and they do a great job of teaching ethics including requiring service hours after a certain age. I think having to give back from an early age teaches children to share. Between your example and school training I think your children will have a good life. I grew up as part of a large family in a small house, so I know that influenced how I wanted to live. I have great memories for the most part about growing up in the same house for many years. My parents only bought one house and remained in it until they died. You do not find that much any more, especially in California. Look for the kind of neighborhood where you want to spend the rest of your life.

[Aecetia]

My son goes to a private Catholic school and they do a great job of teaching ethics including requiring service hours after a certain age. I think having to give back from an early age teaches children to share. Between your example and school training I think your children will have a good life. I grew up as part of a large family in a small house, so I know that influenced how I wanted to live. I have great memories for the most part about growing up in the same house for many years. My parents only bought one house and remained in it until they died. You do not find that much any more, especially in California. Look for the kind of neighborhood where you want to spend the rest of your life.

[Aecetia]

My son goes to a private Catholic school and they do a great job of teaching ethics including requiring service hours after a certain age. I think having to give back from an early age teaches children to share. Between your example and school training I think your children will have a good life. I grew up as part of a large family in a small house, so I know that influenced how I wanted to live. I have great memories for the most part about growing up in the same house for many years. My parents only bought one house and remained in it until they died. You do not find that much any more, especially in California. Look for the kind of neighborhood where you want to spend the rest of your life.

[Aecetia]

My son goes to a private Catholic school and they do a great job of teaching ethics including requiring service hours after a certain age. I think having to give back from an early age teaches children to share. Between your example and school training I think your children will have a good life. I grew up as part of a large family in a small house, so I know that influenced how I wanted to live. I have great memories for the most part about growing up in the same house for many years. My parents only bought one house and remained in it until they died. You do not find that much any more, especially in California. Look for the kind of neighborhood where you want to spend the rest of your life.

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