Semi-Retire in Temecula in 2012

[scaredyclassic]

It’s probably best to marry before one knows too much.

[UCGal]

Don’t give up on true love, Kev – it can happen. I was in my late 30’s when I met my hubster. He was in his late 40’s. Now, 14 years and 2 kids later, we’re looking at early retirement, etc. Neither of us had been married before.

The key is to keep working your plan regardless of marital status. (Save, work your career, etc.) When the right person comes along you’ll wonder why you wasted time with the others.

[Anonymous]

[quote=kev374]II need to find a woman who at least makes a decent income and the risk of divorce is low but I have yet to find such a woman. Most people these days, even those in their mid 30s, are saddled with ridiculous levels of debt and have negative net worths. To add to the mix they don’t even have a good income! [/quote]

Just wondering, do you ask a woman to show you her balance sheet on the first date, or do you wait a while?

[paramount]

If you can physically work, that’s the right thing to do IMO. why would anyone want to leave the rat race?

[temeculaguy]

There is a solution, it’s called a pre-nup. Unless of course you haven’t already had your kids, then I can’t help you. But avoiding romantic entanglements for fear of financial loss is no way to go about enjoying your limited time on this planet. Find a woman you enjoy being with, who treats you like a king, you are attracted to and who is grounded in a similar way to yourself, perfection is overrated. A woman with a great education, career, credit report and investment portfolio is just as likely if not more likely to leave you than a poor one with bad credit. She’s also probably more adept at skewering you when things go south. There are millions of loyal, sexy and loving women out there, unfortunately most men are chasing the same 10% of the female population who do not fall into that category for whatever singular attribute they have. Believe me, I’ve dated some seemingly perfect women, but try to look beyond the exterior and the pedigree.

Make sure she turns you on, will fulfill any fantasies you have or will have and when you see her in a crowded room, she’s the one you would want to take home. I have never been aroused by a balance sheet, in fact any woman that can be described as “perfect” is probably shit in bed. Be smart, but don’t be afraid of a little imperfection. There are plenty of good ones out there, especially the curvy ones (sorry, personal preference), don’t let your filters play tricks on you.

[Zeitgeist]

“I am a family law attorney, also known a a divorce lawyer, in the Auburn Hills area of Oakland County, Michigan. I read every case decided by our Supreme Court and Court of Appeals in my area of the law. On September 11, 2012, the Court of Appeals issued an interesting opinion with regards to how comingling of assets can defeat the intention of an otherwise valid prenuptial agreement.”

http://www.northoaklandmichigandivorcelawyer.com/comingling-assets-can-defeat-prenuptial-agreements-in-michigan.html

Oh what a tangled web we weave.

[scaredyclassic]

No commingling!

[scaredyclassic]

[quote=temeculaguy]There is a solution, it’s called a pre-nup. Unless of course you haven’t already had your kids, then I can’t help you. But avoiding romantic entanglements for fear of financial loss is no way to go about enjoying your limited time on this planet. Find a woman you enjoy being with, who treats you like a king, you are attracted to and who is grounded in a similar way to yourself, perfection is overrated. A woman with a great education, career, credit report and investment portfolio is just as likely if not more likely to leave you than a poor one with bad credit. She’s also probably more adept at skewering you when things go south. There are millions of loyal, sexy and loving women out there, unfortunately most men are chasing the same 10% of the female population who do not fall into that category for whatever singular attribute they have. Believe me, I’ve dated some seemingly perfect women, but try to look beyond the exterior and the pedigree.

Make sure she turns you on, will fulfill any fantasies you have or will have and when you see her in a crowded room, she’s the one you would want to take home. I have never been aroused by a balance sheet, in fact any woman that can be described as “perfect” is probably shit in bed. Be smart, but don’t be afraid of a little imperfection. There are plenty of good ones out there, especially the curvy ones (sorry, personal preference), don’t let your filters play tricks on you.[/quote]

Fear of financial loss ultimately may be a fear of death. I think That He May Need To Do Some Deep Reflection On What Exactly It Is He’s Afraid Of.

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=harvey]
Just wondering, do you ask a woman to show you her balance sheet on the first date, or do you wait a while?[/quote]

The thing is if women gauge men on their jobs and ability to provide, then why don’t we turn the tables and do the same thing?

That’s equality, no?

[FlyerInHi]

[quote=scaredyclassic]It’s probably best to marry before one knows too much.[/quote]

Very true.

It’s better to fall in love and get married when you’re still innocent and have nothing.

[an]

[quote=paramount]If you can physically work, that’s the right thing to do IMO. why would anyone want to leave the rat race?[/quote]
Because some of us don’t want to be in the rat race if we don’t have to.

[spdrun]

[quote=paramount]If you can physically work, that’s the right thing to do IMO. why would anyone want to leave the rat race?[/quote]

Retirement isn’t necessarily the state of not working. It’s the state of not HAVING to work, and being able to choose your work — doing things that you actually enjoy, aren’t against your principles, and hopefully help others or make them happy.

[joec]

Sad to say, but this is a perfect example of what I meant in another thread that as people get older, it seems like the financial issue is going to keep certain people from getting married. It’s a good concern since no once wants to be played with a gold digger, but having seen various older men (40+) who has never been married, you sorta see the same pattern that the “fear” of losing out financially is almost preventing them from meeting someone.

That said, maybe it’s just no one you see/know is “worth” taking the leap/risk to even see/date (not like you need to get married right away or at all), but once you’re over a certain age (35+ I’d guess), the pool of people starts to shrink so for people who are serious to meet someone to share experiences/life with, you need to do some soul searching and see what you really want out of life.

The population of available non-married men and women are much lower I’d guess at 40+ and a lot of people may have “baggage” from a previous marriage. People who have divorced once are also about 75% or a really high number to get divorced again so the stats are pretty lousy.

Try the online thing, but my guess nowadays is that marriage just isn’t as needed anymore (people live together already vs. 50 years ago) and more people will just stay single vs. before and I believe it’s the largest/or fastest growing demographic group.

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