OT: Engagement Rings

[davelj]

[quote=jpinpb] But the notion of wearing a ring to advise others you’re not available, well, that practice is much more amusing to me.

Perhaps a band, once married, I can understand the symbolism.[/quote]

Agree completely.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that all your potential future fiancée’s friends and acquaintances will all want to see a ring upon hearing the news. This is as hard wired in people’s heads as the idea of owning a home.

In my own case, I didn’t propose with ring in hand. My then fiancée didn’t want an engagement ring. I felt like I wanted get her something. She thought 99.98% of them were ugly and overpriced. The idea of spending a large chunk of change while we were in school seemed silly to her. But, people would actually grab her hand and expect to see a ring there. “I don’t want one” didn’t seem to be a good enough answer. Explaining became really annoying, but it was our money and not theirs.

On a whim one day, we went in a jewelry store. We actually found a tasteful, inexpensive custom ring that we liked and decided to buy it. Paid cash for it. No payment plan or 2 months salary required. I had fun buying something pretty for her. She found that she liked the ‘go away’ side benefit of wearing it too.

In short, it would depend a great deal on the girl in question. There are practical ones out there along with the ones who expect an expensive piece of jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that all your potential future fiancée’s friends and acquaintances will all want to see a ring upon hearing the news. This is as hard wired in people’s heads as the idea of owning a home.

In my own case, I didn’t propose with ring in hand. My then fiancée didn’t want an engagement ring. I felt like I wanted get her something. She thought 99.98% of them were ugly and overpriced. The idea of spending a large chunk of change while we were in school seemed silly to her. But, people would actually grab her hand and expect to see a ring there. “I don’t want one” didn’t seem to be a good enough answer. Explaining became really annoying, but it was our money and not theirs.

On a whim one day, we went in a jewelry store. We actually found a tasteful, inexpensive custom ring that we liked and decided to buy it. Paid cash for it. No payment plan or 2 months salary required. I had fun buying something pretty for her. She found that she liked the ‘go away’ side benefit of wearing it too.

In short, it would depend a great deal on the girl in question. There are practical ones out there along with the ones who expect an expensive piece of jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that all your potential future fiancée’s friends and acquaintances will all want to see a ring upon hearing the news. This is as hard wired in people’s heads as the idea of owning a home.

In my own case, I didn’t propose with ring in hand. My then fiancée didn’t want an engagement ring. I felt like I wanted get her something. She thought 99.98% of them were ugly and overpriced. The idea of spending a large chunk of change while we were in school seemed silly to her. But, people would actually grab her hand and expect to see a ring there. “I don’t want one” didn’t seem to be a good enough answer. Explaining became really annoying, but it was our money and not theirs.

On a whim one day, we went in a jewelry store. We actually found a tasteful, inexpensive custom ring that we liked and decided to buy it. Paid cash for it. No payment plan or 2 months salary required. I had fun buying something pretty for her. She found that she liked the ‘go away’ side benefit of wearing it too.

In short, it would depend a great deal on the girl in question. There are practical ones out there along with the ones who expect an expensive piece of jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that all your potential future fiancée’s friends and acquaintances will all want to see a ring upon hearing the news. This is as hard wired in people’s heads as the idea of owning a home.

In my own case, I didn’t propose with ring in hand. My then fiancée didn’t want an engagement ring. I felt like I wanted get her something. She thought 99.98% of them were ugly and overpriced. The idea of spending a large chunk of change while we were in school seemed silly to her. But, people would actually grab her hand and expect to see a ring there. “I don’t want one” didn’t seem to be a good enough answer. Explaining became really annoying, but it was our money and not theirs.

On a whim one day, we went in a jewelry store. We actually found a tasteful, inexpensive custom ring that we liked and decided to buy it. Paid cash for it. No payment plan or 2 months salary required. I had fun buying something pretty for her. She found that she liked the ‘go away’ side benefit of wearing it too.

In short, it would depend a great deal on the girl in question. There are practical ones out there along with the ones who expect an expensive piece of jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that all your potential future fiancée’s friends and acquaintances will all want to see a ring upon hearing the news. This is as hard wired in people’s heads as the idea of owning a home.

In my own case, I didn’t propose with ring in hand. My then fiancée didn’t want an engagement ring. I felt like I wanted get her something. She thought 99.98% of them were ugly and overpriced. The idea of spending a large chunk of change while we were in school seemed silly to her. But, people would actually grab her hand and expect to see a ring there. “I don’t want one” didn’t seem to be a good enough answer. Explaining became really annoying, but it was our money and not theirs.

On a whim one day, we went in a jewelry store. We actually found a tasteful, inexpensive custom ring that we liked and decided to buy it. Paid cash for it. No payment plan or 2 months salary required. I had fun buying something pretty for her. She found that she liked the ‘go away’ side benefit of wearing it too.

In short, it would depend a great deal on the girl in question. There are practical ones out there along with the ones who expect an expensive piece of jewelry.

[Hobie]

No engagement ring and a plain gold band for the wedding. The only reason was I wanted it to symbolize us starting from a very humble beginning.

—Dave are you sure you really care about this or did one of your ‘hot’ prospects insist on a ring before you get any? 😉 .

.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. 🙂

[Hobie]

No engagement ring and a plain gold band for the wedding. The only reason was I wanted it to symbolize us starting from a very humble beginning.

—Dave are you sure you really care about this or did one of your ‘hot’ prospects insist on a ring before you get any? 😉 .

.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. 🙂

[Hobie]

No engagement ring and a plain gold band for the wedding. The only reason was I wanted it to symbolize us starting from a very humble beginning.

—Dave are you sure you really care about this or did one of your ‘hot’ prospects insist on a ring before you get any? 😉 .

.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. 🙂

[Hobie]

No engagement ring and a plain gold band for the wedding. The only reason was I wanted it to symbolize us starting from a very humble beginning.

—Dave are you sure you really care about this or did one of your ‘hot’ prospects insist on a ring before you get any? 😉 .

.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. 🙂

[Hobie]

No engagement ring and a plain gold band for the wedding. The only reason was I wanted it to symbolize us starting from a very humble beginning.

—Dave are you sure you really care about this or did one of your ‘hot’ prospects insist on a ring before you get any? 😉 .

.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. 🙂

[davelj]

[quote=Hobie]
.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. :)[/quote]

I could argue that holding onto the fantasy of widespread marital bliss (I’ll allow that there is some bliss out there) is a sign of not “growing up.” I also don’t gamble hoping to hit a Big One. Your suggestion that buying into The Lie is a sign of maturity tells me everything I need to know about the level of cultural brainwashing to which you’ve been subjected.

[davelj]

[quote=Hobie]
.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. :)[/quote]

I could argue that holding onto the fantasy of widespread marital bliss (I’ll allow that there is some bliss out there) is a sign of not “growing up.” I also don’t gamble hoping to hit a Big One. Your suggestion that buying into The Lie is a sign of maturity tells me everything I need to know about the level of cultural brainwashing to which you’ve been subjected.

[davelj]

[quote=Hobie]
.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. :)[/quote]

I could argue that holding onto the fantasy of widespread marital bliss (I’ll allow that there is some bliss out there) is a sign of not “growing up.” I also don’t gamble hoping to hit a Big One. Your suggestion that buying into The Lie is a sign of maturity tells me everything I need to know about the level of cultural brainwashing to which you’ve been subjected.

[davelj]

[quote=Hobie]
.. or are you cracking (or growing up!) and really considering getting married. :)[/quote]

I could argue that holding onto the fantasy of widespread marital bliss (I’ll allow that there is some bliss out there) is a sign of not “growing up.” I also don’t gamble hoping to hit a Big One. Your suggestion that buying into The Lie is a sign of maturity tells me everything I need to know about the level of cultural brainwashing to which you’ve been subjected.

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