How many of you support your parents financially?

[CA renter]

One more thing…

For those who are elderly or who have elderly parents, it’s a VERY good idea to have a “Vial of Life” on your refrigerator. When first responders come to a house, they will want to know if there is a DNR (do not resuscitate) order, medical history, medications used, family contact information, etc. They know to look for a Vial of Life, and it can be immensely helpful for all concerned. Technically, anyone can have one, but it’s very important for seniors to have one.

http://www.vialoflife.com/

[dbapig]

[quote=ucodegen]
Unfortunately he decided to do ‘holistic’ tooth care instead of proper care. The result was gingivitis progressing to tooth loss. The bacteria ended up getting into his bloodstream and attacking the heart, resulting in CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).[/quote]

Kinda totally unrelated but I was watching a PBS special about an archaeological dig done at Jamestown recently. What they found out from the graves dug up was that many of the settlers died from the exact cause. They would get a tooth ache, it gets infected and than the infection spreads to brain.

Sorry about your dad though.

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.

[dbapig]

[quote=ucodegen]
Unfortunately he decided to do ‘holistic’ tooth care instead of proper care. The result was gingivitis progressing to tooth loss. The bacteria ended up getting into his bloodstream and attacking the heart, resulting in CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).[/quote]

Kinda totally unrelated but I was watching a PBS special about an archaeological dig done at Jamestown recently. What they found out from the graves dug up was that many of the settlers died from the exact cause. They would get a tooth ache, it gets infected and than the infection spreads to brain.

Sorry about your dad though.

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.

[dbapig]

[quote=ucodegen]
Unfortunately he decided to do ‘holistic’ tooth care instead of proper care. The result was gingivitis progressing to tooth loss. The bacteria ended up getting into his bloodstream and attacking the heart, resulting in CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).[/quote]

Kinda totally unrelated but I was watching a PBS special about an archaeological dig done at Jamestown recently. What they found out from the graves dug up was that many of the settlers died from the exact cause. They would get a tooth ache, it gets infected and than the infection spreads to brain.

Sorry about your dad though.

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.

[dbapig]

[quote=ucodegen]
Unfortunately he decided to do ‘holistic’ tooth care instead of proper care. The result was gingivitis progressing to tooth loss. The bacteria ended up getting into his bloodstream and attacking the heart, resulting in CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).[/quote]

Kinda totally unrelated but I was watching a PBS special about an archaeological dig done at Jamestown recently. What they found out from the graves dug up was that many of the settlers died from the exact cause. They would get a tooth ache, it gets infected and than the infection spreads to brain.

Sorry about your dad though.

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.

[dbapig]

[quote=ucodegen]
Unfortunately he decided to do ‘holistic’ tooth care instead of proper care. The result was gingivitis progressing to tooth loss. The bacteria ended up getting into his bloodstream and attacking the heart, resulting in CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).[/quote]

Kinda totally unrelated but I was watching a PBS special about an archaeological dig done at Jamestown recently. What they found out from the graves dug up was that many of the settlers died from the exact cause. They would get a tooth ache, it gets infected and than the infection spreads to brain.

Sorry about your dad though.

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.

[zzz]

[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]

Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.

Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?

I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?

[zzz]

[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]

Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.

Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?

I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?

[zzz]

[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]

Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.

Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?

I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?

[zzz]

[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]

Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.

Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?

I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?

[zzz]

[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]

Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.

Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?

I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?

[zzz]

[quote=dbapig]

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.[/quote]

Dba, what other sacrifices have you had to make and how has supporting your parents altered your life and decisions beyond owning a home?

I’m starting to realize I may have to take care of my parents for the remainder of their lives and that makes me wonder if I can handle having children as well. Tough decisions

[zzz]

[quote=dbapig]

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.[/quote]

Dba, what other sacrifices have you had to make and how has supporting your parents altered your life and decisions beyond owning a home?

I’m starting to realize I may have to take care of my parents for the remainder of their lives and that makes me wonder if I can handle having children as well. Tough decisions

[zzz]

[quote=dbapig]

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.[/quote]

Dba, what other sacrifices have you had to make and how has supporting your parents altered your life and decisions beyond owning a home?

I’m starting to realize I may have to take care of my parents for the remainder of their lives and that makes me wonder if I can handle having children as well. Tough decisions

[zzz]

[quote=dbapig]

I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.[/quote]

Dba, what other sacrifices have you had to make and how has supporting your parents altered your life and decisions beyond owning a home?

I’m starting to realize I may have to take care of my parents for the remainder of their lives and that makes me wonder if I can handle having children as well. Tough decisions

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