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  • August 17, 2009 at 7:53 AM #446247
    scaredyclassic
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    not sure exactly what i mean; i see that she’s in over her head, but somehow im not pissed at her. it’s like a death or something. she never pictured herself getting divorced because of her parents. rationality doesn’t enter into it. she’s not really living extravagantly other than the house part. and the house part is highly psychological, in terms of her kids, etc. yeah she shouldve been 100% cold and calculating on divorce, but she wasn’t and somehow, in this case, im not offended by her mindset. i’d be concerned for her financially, but , not , like angry. might be irraitonal on my part too

    August 17, 2009 at 8:58 AM #445491
    CBad
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    [quote=patb]
    The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

    [/quote]

    Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

    August 17, 2009 at 8:58 AM #445684
    CBad
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    [quote=patb]
    The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

    [/quote]

    Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

    August 17, 2009 at 8:58 AM #446024
    CBad
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    [quote=patb]
    The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

    [/quote]

    Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

    August 17, 2009 at 8:58 AM #446095
    CBad
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    [quote=patb]
    The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

    [/quote]

    Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

    August 17, 2009 at 8:58 AM #446275
    CBad
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    [quote=patb]
    The magical thinking that life will be better after the recession. She has a job, I don’t know how the recession ending will help her out.

    [/quote]

    Don’t you see her getting remarried and falling back into the cushy double income lifestyle again? And I bet this time she goes for someone with more money. This lady is never going to do the right thing for herself and her kids. I think it’s sick that she would risk everything for this facade. The problem is that she has raised her kids to be materialistic junkies and is afraid to disappoint them (but mostly herself) by selling the house and adjusting their lifestyle to fit her current income. Seriously, cry me a river about how you are just hanging on yet you just have to buy new clothes for your party in the Hamptons and just have to buy those earrings. Why not assign the kids chores like cleaning the pool, shoveling snow, mowing the lawn, etc. which is all outsourced? Oh that’s right, they are overscheduled with activities that you won’t compromise. How about rent out a room or two in the house you won’t sell? Oops, forgot, it’s busy being repainted. How about selling one of the cars? No, you need one SUV for shuffling the kids around and the convertible the drive to parties to meet your next paycheck…I mean husband.

    August 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM #445558
    UCGal
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    It says in the article that her housing expenses (outside of property taxes) are 8k-10k/month.

    In reading it – the mom works hard at her career, but is struggling to live in that house and live at her former standard of living. (Where she could spend without thinking.) Lots of stress ot keep up appearances.

    On the other hand – her Nanny lives in the same house, has the food/lodging/utilities paid, and makes 50k or so… She’s doing pretty well, even without medical benefits.

    The kids would actually do better with the life lesson that chores are good, stuff and things don’t buy happiness, etc.

    August 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM #445749
    UCGal
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    It says in the article that her housing expenses (outside of property taxes) are 8k-10k/month.

    In reading it – the mom works hard at her career, but is struggling to live in that house and live at her former standard of living. (Where she could spend without thinking.) Lots of stress ot keep up appearances.

    On the other hand – her Nanny lives in the same house, has the food/lodging/utilities paid, and makes 50k or so… She’s doing pretty well, even without medical benefits.

    The kids would actually do better with the life lesson that chores are good, stuff and things don’t buy happiness, etc.

    August 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM #446089
    UCGal
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    It says in the article that her housing expenses (outside of property taxes) are 8k-10k/month.

    In reading it – the mom works hard at her career, but is struggling to live in that house and live at her former standard of living. (Where she could spend without thinking.) Lots of stress ot keep up appearances.

    On the other hand – her Nanny lives in the same house, has the food/lodging/utilities paid, and makes 50k or so… She’s doing pretty well, even without medical benefits.

    The kids would actually do better with the life lesson that chores are good, stuff and things don’t buy happiness, etc.

    August 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM #446160
    UCGal
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    It says in the article that her housing expenses (outside of property taxes) are 8k-10k/month.

    In reading it – the mom works hard at her career, but is struggling to live in that house and live at her former standard of living. (Where she could spend without thinking.) Lots of stress ot keep up appearances.

    On the other hand – her Nanny lives in the same house, has the food/lodging/utilities paid, and makes 50k or so… She’s doing pretty well, even without medical benefits.

    The kids would actually do better with the life lesson that chores are good, stuff and things don’t buy happiness, etc.

    August 17, 2009 at 10:40 AM #446341
    UCGal
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    It says in the article that her housing expenses (outside of property taxes) are 8k-10k/month.

    In reading it – the mom works hard at her career, but is struggling to live in that house and live at her former standard of living. (Where she could spend without thinking.) Lots of stress ot keep up appearances.

    On the other hand – her Nanny lives in the same house, has the food/lodging/utilities paid, and makes 50k or so… She’s doing pretty well, even without medical benefits.

    The kids would actually do better with the life lesson that chores are good, stuff and things don’t buy happiness, etc.

    August 17, 2009 at 4:16 PM #445693
    CardiffBaseball
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    I can think of a lot of guys who be ok with that. Not sure how NY market is for ladies her age.

    I’d prefer a fiscally responsible gal to help me fix my first marriage (not getting divorce just saying, if I were)….

    August 17, 2009 at 4:16 PM #445884
    CardiffBaseball
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    I can think of a lot of guys who be ok with that. Not sure how NY market is for ladies her age.

    I’d prefer a fiscally responsible gal to help me fix my first marriage (not getting divorce just saying, if I were)….

    August 17, 2009 at 4:16 PM #446224
    CardiffBaseball
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    I can think of a lot of guys who be ok with that. Not sure how NY market is for ladies her age.

    I’d prefer a fiscally responsible gal to help me fix my first marriage (not getting divorce just saying, if I were)….

    August 17, 2009 at 4:16 PM #446296
    CardiffBaseball
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    I can think of a lot of guys who be ok with that. Not sure how NY market is for ladies her age.

    I’d prefer a fiscally responsible gal to help me fix my first marriage (not getting divorce just saying, if I were)….

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