A close friend/relative wants to borrow money. What do you do?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Tell them to go to the bank for a loan. Or to a pawn shop

[carlsbadworker]

[quote=marion]It’s not that difficult. If you love or care about the person, they need it for a legitimate reason, and you have it to give, then give it. It’s only money. But, make sure you can afford to part with it knowing that you may not get it back.[/quote]

Wow. An old thread with marion’s comment.

I strongly voted against it as well, even if you know you may not get it back. I am OK with parting the money already. But everytime I buy/do cheap stuffs (just because I am a relatively cheap person, that’s all), that relative will become angry with me, saying that “are you intentionally doing this to force me to return the money?” And then she will make all kinds of excuses for not paying back the money even though we told her repeatedly to forget it. It is a real annoyance to the relationship.

[carlsbadworker]

[quote=marion]It’s not that difficult. If you love or care about the person, they need it for a legitimate reason, and you have it to give, then give it. It’s only money. But, make sure you can afford to part with it knowing that you may not get it back.[/quote]

Wow. An old thread with marion’s comment.

I strongly voted against it as well, even if you know you may not get it back. I am OK with parting the money already. But everytime I buy/do cheap stuffs (just because I am a relatively cheap person, that’s all), that relative will become angry with me, saying that “are you intentionally doing this to force me to return the money?” And then she will make all kinds of excuses for not paying back the money even though we told her repeatedly to forget it. It is a real annoyance to the relationship.

[carlsbadworker]

[quote=marion]It’s not that difficult. If you love or care about the person, they need it for a legitimate reason, and you have it to give, then give it. It’s only money. But, make sure you can afford to part with it knowing that you may not get it back.[/quote]

Wow. An old thread with marion’s comment.

I strongly voted against it as well, even if you know you may not get it back. I am OK with parting the money already. But everytime I buy/do cheap stuffs (just because I am a relatively cheap person, that’s all), that relative will become angry with me, saying that “are you intentionally doing this to force me to return the money?” And then she will make all kinds of excuses for not paying back the money even though we told her repeatedly to forget it. It is a real annoyance to the relationship.

[carlsbadworker]

[quote=marion]It’s not that difficult. If you love or care about the person, they need it for a legitimate reason, and you have it to give, then give it. It’s only money. But, make sure you can afford to part with it knowing that you may not get it back.[/quote]

Wow. An old thread with marion’s comment.

I strongly voted against it as well, even if you know you may not get it back. I am OK with parting the money already. But everytime I buy/do cheap stuffs (just because I am a relatively cheap person, that’s all), that relative will become angry with me, saying that “are you intentionally doing this to force me to return the money?” And then she will make all kinds of excuses for not paying back the money even though we told her repeatedly to forget it. It is a real annoyance to the relationship.

[carlsbadworker]

[quote=marion]It’s not that difficult. If you love or care about the person, they need it for a legitimate reason, and you have it to give, then give it. It’s only money. But, make sure you can afford to part with it knowing that you may not get it back.[/quote]

Wow. An old thread with marion’s comment.

I strongly voted against it as well, even if you know you may not get it back. I am OK with parting the money already. But everytime I buy/do cheap stuffs (just because I am a relatively cheap person, that’s all), that relative will become angry with me, saying that “are you intentionally doing this to force me to return the money?” And then she will make all kinds of excuses for not paying back the money even though we told her repeatedly to forget it. It is a real annoyance to the relationship.

[meadandale]

This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.

[meadandale]

This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.

[meadandale]

This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.

[meadandale]

This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.

[meadandale]

This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.

[Coronita]

[quote=meadandale]This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.[/quote]

Time for your to get new friends…. like me… I think I prequaliy…I’m not demanding…And won’t ever ask you to borrow money…Just occasional use of your F150…And no need to give me the keys if you’re willing to shuttle my crap around… Lol…I’ll throw in a free synthetic oil change for you too (though I don’t think you need to run synthetic)…

I dig the F150 Harley Davidson truck btw…

[Coronita]

[quote=meadandale]This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.[/quote]

Time for your to get new friends…. like me… I think I prequaliy…I’m not demanding…And won’t ever ask you to borrow money…Just occasional use of your F150…And no need to give me the keys if you’re willing to shuttle my crap around… Lol…I’ll throw in a free synthetic oil change for you too (though I don’t think you need to run synthetic)…

I dig the F150 Harley Davidson truck btw…

[Coronita]

[quote=meadandale]This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.[/quote]

Time for your to get new friends…. like me… I think I prequaliy…I’m not demanding…And won’t ever ask you to borrow money…Just occasional use of your F150…And no need to give me the keys if you’re willing to shuttle my crap around… Lol…I’ll throw in a free synthetic oil change for you too (though I don’t think you need to run synthetic)…

I dig the F150 Harley Davidson truck btw…

[Coronita]

[quote=meadandale]This thread is timely. A friend recently hit me up for cash because he was two months behind on rent and his internet was about to get turned off. No car, no job and not a penny in the bank.

He hadn’t worked in several months and hadn’t even been looking for work. Yet he still managed to find the money to go out and eat and go out for drinks.

I ‘loaned’ him almost $500 last year to help him pay for a DUI lawyer–with the full expectation that I wouldn’t ever see a penny of it again.

This time I just couldn’t do it. He needed several large to get current on his rent and even though I could afford to lend him some money I knew I’d never see it again and I wasn’t ok with that this time. I also thought that he needed to learn a lesson in personal responsibility and money management (he’s 50 YO fer chrissakes).

He doesn’t talk to me much since then…oh well. I prefer to surround myself with non fuck ups anyways.[/quote]

Time for your to get new friends…. like me… I think I prequaliy…I’m not demanding…And won’t ever ask you to borrow money…Just occasional use of your F150…And no need to give me the keys if you’re willing to shuttle my crap around… Lol…I’ll throw in a free synthetic oil change for you too (though I don’t think you need to run synthetic)…

I dig the F150 Harley Davidson truck btw…

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