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Participant[quote=dbapig]
I’ve been supporting my parents for a long time. Hence I don’t own house yet.[/quote]
Dba, what other sacrifices have you had to make and how has supporting your parents altered your life and decisions beyond owning a home?
I’m starting to realize I may have to take care of my parents for the remainder of their lives and that makes me wonder if I can handle having children as well. Tough decisions
Participant[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]
Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.
Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?
I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?
Participant[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]
Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.
Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?
I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?
Participant[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]
Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.
Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?
I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?
Participant[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]
Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.
Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?
I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?
Participant[quote=jamsvet]My MIL suffered from Alzheimers and we had to put her in a nursing home. She lasted 18 YEARS. We were private pay and it averaged 5k a month. That was for a nice place nothing spectacular, which we visited frequently at all hours to check on conditions. Hardest thing we ever did. Damn near destroyed my wife.[/quote]
Kudos to you for paying for her care. Did you have to give up a lot personally to make the 5k in payments? I don’t know too many people who can sustain 60k a year over, much less for 18 years.
Thats the problem, how many of us can really afford to take care of our parents LONG TERM and at what cost not only in dollars, but in all the personal sacrifice. If you can’t afford the nursing home, taking care of someone with Alzheimers has to be incredibly difficult. If you’re single, how do you manage to work and take care of that parent unless you can afford a nanny for your sick parent?
I’m curious if anyone has good suggestions on how to overcome these dilemma’s?
Participant[quote=justme]My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.
[/quote]I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
You and I might as well be on different planets because your analogy makes no sense.
Participant[quote=justme]My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.
[/quote]I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
You and I might as well be on different planets because your analogy makes no sense.
Participant[quote=justme]My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.
[/quote]I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
You and I might as well be on different planets because your analogy makes no sense.
Participant[quote=justme]My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.
[/quote]I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
You and I might as well be on different planets because your analogy makes no sense.
Participant[quote=justme]My comment essentially said “insecurity as a validation or excuse for bad behavior is allowed only for women”, and pointing out the inequity of the situation.
[/quote]I certainly am not validating or excusing insecurity as a basis for cheating and I NEVER said its only allowed for woman, nor am I saying its the reason why cheating occurs. Simply that I see a correlation. Umm, I think you are mad libbing here because those things were never stated.
You and I might as well be on different planets because your analogy makes no sense.
ParticipantI have no idea why you’re offended by this comment. Do you disagree that some woman are insecure? I never said men weren’t insecure. I simply observed that a large number of woman I know are insecure and this seems to be a huge factor in cheating for the woman I KNOW. I never suggested its a good excuse. Your logic is way off, just because something applies to woman does not mean it applies or does not apply to men. This isn’t about how opposite women or men are. And your Hitler comment really has no basis in this conversation.
ParticipantI have no idea why you’re offended by this comment. Do you disagree that some woman are insecure? I never said men weren’t insecure. I simply observed that a large number of woman I know are insecure and this seems to be a huge factor in cheating for the woman I KNOW. I never suggested its a good excuse. Your logic is way off, just because something applies to woman does not mean it applies or does not apply to men. This isn’t about how opposite women or men are. And your Hitler comment really has no basis in this conversation.
ParticipantI have no idea why you’re offended by this comment. Do you disagree that some woman are insecure? I never said men weren’t insecure. I simply observed that a large number of woman I know are insecure and this seems to be a huge factor in cheating for the woman I KNOW. I never suggested its a good excuse. Your logic is way off, just because something applies to woman does not mean it applies or does not apply to men. This isn’t about how opposite women or men are. And your Hitler comment really has no basis in this conversation.
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