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That makes sense… it probably was the 2nd.

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That makes sense… it probably was the 2nd.

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That makes sense… it probably was the 2nd.

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[quote=SkyRanchOwner]. . . Good point flu, but really, the Board of Supervisors needs to listen to the people of Santee. This is an old building/comlex left over from the 60s. There are many places to put this jail, and there has been a lot of redevelopment in Santee to support not plopping the new expansion jail in the middle of it all.[/quote]

Technically – only the 2nd district supervisor has to listen to the people of Santee. She did, and that’s why Jacobs was the dissenting vote.

But – if you want to campaign against the other 4, feel free. I’m not a fan of any of them.

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[quote=SkyRanchOwner]. . . Good point flu, but really, the Board of Supervisors needs to listen to the people of Santee. This is an old building/comlex left over from the 60s. There are many places to put this jail, and there has been a lot of redevelopment in Santee to support not plopping the new expansion jail in the middle of it all.[/quote]

Technically – only the 2nd district supervisor has to listen to the people of Santee. She did, and that’s why Jacobs was the dissenting vote.

But – if you want to campaign against the other 4, feel free. I’m not a fan of any of them.

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[quote=SkyRanchOwner]. . . Good point flu, but really, the Board of Supervisors needs to listen to the people of Santee. This is an old building/comlex left over from the 60s. There are many places to put this jail, and there has been a lot of redevelopment in Santee to support not plopping the new expansion jail in the middle of it all.[/quote]

Technically – only the 2nd district supervisor has to listen to the people of Santee. She did, and that’s why Jacobs was the dissenting vote.

But – if you want to campaign against the other 4, feel free. I’m not a fan of any of them.

[UCGal]

[quote=SkyRanchOwner]. . . Good point flu, but really, the Board of Supervisors needs to listen to the people of Santee. This is an old building/comlex left over from the 60s. There are many places to put this jail, and there has been a lot of redevelopment in Santee to support not plopping the new expansion jail in the middle of it all.[/quote]

Technically – only the 2nd district supervisor has to listen to the people of Santee. She did, and that’s why Jacobs was the dissenting vote.

But – if you want to campaign against the other 4, feel free. I’m not a fan of any of them.

[UCGal]

[quote=SkyRanchOwner]. . . Good point flu, but really, the Board of Supervisors needs to listen to the people of Santee. This is an old building/comlex left over from the 60s. There are many places to put this jail, and there has been a lot of redevelopment in Santee to support not plopping the new expansion jail in the middle of it all.[/quote]

Technically – only the 2nd district supervisor has to listen to the people of Santee. She did, and that’s why Jacobs was the dissenting vote.

But – if you want to campaign against the other 4, feel free. I’m not a fan of any of them.

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[quote=davelj][quote=UCGal]

I will agree that 50% of married men who DON’T step outside the marriage probably face temptation at one point or another – probably even multiple times a day.

Lets face it – the thought “I’d tap that if given a chance” probably goes through men’s brains every time they see an attractive person. But the key is – they don’t all act on it.

Does this correlate to them “trying to convince their family they’re in the 5%”…

I don’t think so. I think most wives know their husbands DO look at other women and sometimes think “Hmmm, I’d like to sleep with her”.
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Perhaps. I could give you the benefit of the doubt here in a lot of cases.

Let me ask you this, because I’m curious – I’m assuming you’re married, right? I can’t recall from the threads, but I think so – assuming your husband occasionally wants to sleep with some other woman, but doesn’t want to leave the marriage, why not just let him? If you care about his happiness – which I assume you do – why not let him screw around occasionally if he’s discreet about it? Likewise, why not ask him to let you do the same (again, using discretion)?

I’ve never understood what the big deal was about sex. As long as no one brings a disease back to the house or ends up with another child… it’s just another physical activity at the end of the day. Not unlike playing tennis. I’m not saying folks should join “the Lifestyle” (as folks I know who are in call it), but discreet, safe sex outside a marriage… why is it such a big deal? Well, but for the fact that our culture has deemed it so…[/quote]

I’m married. Hubby hasn’t asked. Hubby doesn’t seem unhappy. Why fix it if it isn’t broken? If he were miserable, and or if he asked… I’d take your suggestion.

I don’t know that the risk/reward is worth it. What we have works. For both of us (not just me.)

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[quote=davelj][quote=UCGal]

I will agree that 50% of married men who DON’T step outside the marriage probably face temptation at one point or another – probably even multiple times a day.

Lets face it – the thought “I’d tap that if given a chance” probably goes through men’s brains every time they see an attractive person. But the key is – they don’t all act on it.

Does this correlate to them “trying to convince their family they’re in the 5%”…

I don’t think so. I think most wives know their husbands DO look at other women and sometimes think “Hmmm, I’d like to sleep with her”.
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Perhaps. I could give you the benefit of the doubt here in a lot of cases.

Let me ask you this, because I’m curious – I’m assuming you’re married, right? I can’t recall from the threads, but I think so – assuming your husband occasionally wants to sleep with some other woman, but doesn’t want to leave the marriage, why not just let him? If you care about his happiness – which I assume you do – why not let him screw around occasionally if he’s discreet about it? Likewise, why not ask him to let you do the same (again, using discretion)?

I’ve never understood what the big deal was about sex. As long as no one brings a disease back to the house or ends up with another child… it’s just another physical activity at the end of the day. Not unlike playing tennis. I’m not saying folks should join “the Lifestyle” (as folks I know who are in call it), but discreet, safe sex outside a marriage… why is it such a big deal? Well, but for the fact that our culture has deemed it so…[/quote]

I’m married. Hubby hasn’t asked. Hubby doesn’t seem unhappy. Why fix it if it isn’t broken? If he were miserable, and or if he asked… I’d take your suggestion.

I don’t know that the risk/reward is worth it. What we have works. For both of us (not just me.)

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[quote=davelj][quote=UCGal]

I will agree that 50% of married men who DON’T step outside the marriage probably face temptation at one point or another – probably even multiple times a day.

Lets face it – the thought “I’d tap that if given a chance” probably goes through men’s brains every time they see an attractive person. But the key is – they don’t all act on it.

Does this correlate to them “trying to convince their family they’re in the 5%”…

I don’t think so. I think most wives know their husbands DO look at other women and sometimes think “Hmmm, I’d like to sleep with her”.
[/quote]

Perhaps. I could give you the benefit of the doubt here in a lot of cases.

Let me ask you this, because I’m curious – I’m assuming you’re married, right? I can’t recall from the threads, but I think so – assuming your husband occasionally wants to sleep with some other woman, but doesn’t want to leave the marriage, why not just let him? If you care about his happiness – which I assume you do – why not let him screw around occasionally if he’s discreet about it? Likewise, why not ask him to let you do the same (again, using discretion)?

I’ve never understood what the big deal was about sex. As long as no one brings a disease back to the house or ends up with another child… it’s just another physical activity at the end of the day. Not unlike playing tennis. I’m not saying folks should join “the Lifestyle” (as folks I know who are in call it), but discreet, safe sex outside a marriage… why is it such a big deal? Well, but for the fact that our culture has deemed it so…[/quote]

I’m married. Hubby hasn’t asked. Hubby doesn’t seem unhappy. Why fix it if it isn’t broken? If he were miserable, and or if he asked… I’d take your suggestion.

I don’t know that the risk/reward is worth it. What we have works. For both of us (not just me.)

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[quote=davelj][quote=UCGal]

I will agree that 50% of married men who DON’T step outside the marriage probably face temptation at one point or another – probably even multiple times a day.

Lets face it – the thought “I’d tap that if given a chance” probably goes through men’s brains every time they see an attractive person. But the key is – they don’t all act on it.

Does this correlate to them “trying to convince their family they’re in the 5%”…

I don’t think so. I think most wives know their husbands DO look at other women and sometimes think “Hmmm, I’d like to sleep with her”.
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Perhaps. I could give you the benefit of the doubt here in a lot of cases.

Let me ask you this, because I’m curious – I’m assuming you’re married, right? I can’t recall from the threads, but I think so – assuming your husband occasionally wants to sleep with some other woman, but doesn’t want to leave the marriage, why not just let him? If you care about his happiness – which I assume you do – why not let him screw around occasionally if he’s discreet about it? Likewise, why not ask him to let you do the same (again, using discretion)?

I’ve never understood what the big deal was about sex. As long as no one brings a disease back to the house or ends up with another child… it’s just another physical activity at the end of the day. Not unlike playing tennis. I’m not saying folks should join “the Lifestyle” (as folks I know who are in call it), but discreet, safe sex outside a marriage… why is it such a big deal? Well, but for the fact that our culture has deemed it so…[/quote]

I’m married. Hubby hasn’t asked. Hubby doesn’t seem unhappy. Why fix it if it isn’t broken? If he were miserable, and or if he asked… I’d take your suggestion.

I don’t know that the risk/reward is worth it. What we have works. For both of us (not just me.)

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[quote=davelj][quote=UCGal]

I will agree that 50% of married men who DON’T step outside the marriage probably face temptation at one point or another – probably even multiple times a day.

Lets face it – the thought “I’d tap that if given a chance” probably goes through men’s brains every time they see an attractive person. But the key is – they don’t all act on it.

Does this correlate to them “trying to convince their family they’re in the 5%”…

I don’t think so. I think most wives know their husbands DO look at other women and sometimes think “Hmmm, I’d like to sleep with her”.
[/quote]

Perhaps. I could give you the benefit of the doubt here in a lot of cases.

Let me ask you this, because I’m curious – I’m assuming you’re married, right? I can’t recall from the threads, but I think so – assuming your husband occasionally wants to sleep with some other woman, but doesn’t want to leave the marriage, why not just let him? If you care about his happiness – which I assume you do – why not let him screw around occasionally if he’s discreet about it? Likewise, why not ask him to let you do the same (again, using discretion)?

I’ve never understood what the big deal was about sex. As long as no one brings a disease back to the house or ends up with another child… it’s just another physical activity at the end of the day. Not unlike playing tennis. I’m not saying folks should join “the Lifestyle” (as folks I know who are in call it), but discreet, safe sex outside a marriage… why is it such a big deal? Well, but for the fact that our culture has deemed it so…[/quote]

I’m married. Hubby hasn’t asked. Hubby doesn’t seem unhappy. Why fix it if it isn’t broken? If he were miserable, and or if he asked… I’d take your suggestion.

I don’t know that the risk/reward is worth it. What we have works. For both of us (not just me.)

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I would want to see docs regarding HOA. Since it’s 4 units total – 2 commercial, 2 residential – how the maintenance is handled is important.

I would want to know the status of the other 3 units. Are they already sold? Are you the first buyer? Financing might be challenging if you’re the first one. Not sure if that owner occupied rates apply to 2-4 unit developments.

Has the builder obtained occupancy permits yet? The big clue there is whether the gas meters are installed. (At least in the city of San Diego – sdg&e is not allowed to install the gas meters till occupancy permit is issued.)

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I would want to see docs regarding HOA. Since it’s 4 units total – 2 commercial, 2 residential – how the maintenance is handled is important.

I would want to know the status of the other 3 units. Are they already sold? Are you the first buyer? Financing might be challenging if you’re the first one. Not sure if that owner occupied rates apply to 2-4 unit developments.

Has the builder obtained occupancy permits yet? The big clue there is whether the gas meters are installed. (At least in the city of San Diego – sdg&e is not allowed to install the gas meters till occupancy permit is issued.)

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