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[quote=bearishgurl][quote=frenchlambda]The problem is that at the time of divorce, there was only $10K of equity in the house (appraised value: $340K; balance on the loans: $330K). In other words, pretty much my entire contribution to the down-payment disappeared in the loss of value of the property after 5 years.
All that I got was the right to keep the little of equity in the condo.[/quote]

In essence, what you did here was agree to pay back the $200K (half of which was your ex’s debt) for $10K in “equity.” This is not even enough to pay a RE commission to a broker to sell it![/quote]

That’s how it seemed to me and doesn’t make any sense at all.

I say, let the condo go to foreclosure. Stop paying them. MUCH better to have a clean slate.

The child is very young, she will adapt easily and she will forget about it.

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[quote=jpinpb]But I must emphasize that for me, the infidelity sexually is not as bad as the years of lying.

Right now, to me, the guy is just bad. Bad actor. Bad governor. Bad husband. Bad father. Just bad.[/quote]

Exactly, totally agree. Scum. I can understand, especially for famous guys for whom the opportunities and temptations abund, sexual infidelity. Everybody makes mistakes and power is a tremendous afrodisiac. But this huge lie for SO MANY YEARS, how could he look himself in the mirror day after day? how could he then look at his wife, and at the maid, and the children he had from them? Worse than scum. I wonder why he didn’t make a clean break and why didn’t the maid leave – with a lot of child support of course. Let’s say he didn’t want to leave his family for a lot of reasons. Why he kept the maid there with the child? I am sure he could have found her a stable nice job, or hell, no job, just give her plenty of money to support herself and her kids somewhere else in a nice place. We don’t know all the details, but I wonder about her character too. Or maybe she was too naive or ignorant about what she could do and didn’t want any legal trouble.

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[quote=jpinpb]But I must emphasize that for me, the infidelity sexually is not as bad as the years of lying.

Right now, to me, the guy is just bad. Bad actor. Bad governor. Bad husband. Bad father. Just bad.[/quote]

Exactly, totally agree. Scum. I can understand, especially for famous guys for whom the opportunities and temptations abund, sexual infidelity. Everybody makes mistakes and power is a tremendous afrodisiac. But this huge lie for SO MANY YEARS, how could he look himself in the mirror day after day? how could he then look at his wife, and at the maid, and the children he had from them? Worse than scum. I wonder why he didn’t make a clean break and why didn’t the maid leave – with a lot of child support of course. Let’s say he didn’t want to leave his family for a lot of reasons. Why he kept the maid there with the child? I am sure he could have found her a stable nice job, or hell, no job, just give her plenty of money to support herself and her kids somewhere else in a nice place. We don’t know all the details, but I wonder about her character too. Or maybe she was too naive or ignorant about what she could do and didn’t want any legal trouble.

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[quote=jpinpb]But I must emphasize that for me, the infidelity sexually is not as bad as the years of lying.

Right now, to me, the guy is just bad. Bad actor. Bad governor. Bad husband. Bad father. Just bad.[/quote]

Exactly, totally agree. Scum. I can understand, especially for famous guys for whom the opportunities and temptations abund, sexual infidelity. Everybody makes mistakes and power is a tremendous afrodisiac. But this huge lie for SO MANY YEARS, how could he look himself in the mirror day after day? how could he then look at his wife, and at the maid, and the children he had from them? Worse than scum. I wonder why he didn’t make a clean break and why didn’t the maid leave – with a lot of child support of course. Let’s say he didn’t want to leave his family for a lot of reasons. Why he kept the maid there with the child? I am sure he could have found her a stable nice job, or hell, no job, just give her plenty of money to support herself and her kids somewhere else in a nice place. We don’t know all the details, but I wonder about her character too. Or maybe she was too naive or ignorant about what she could do and didn’t want any legal trouble.

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[quote=jpinpb]But I must emphasize that for me, the infidelity sexually is not as bad as the years of lying.

Right now, to me, the guy is just bad. Bad actor. Bad governor. Bad husband. Bad father. Just bad.[/quote]

Exactly, totally agree. Scum. I can understand, especially for famous guys for whom the opportunities and temptations abund, sexual infidelity. Everybody makes mistakes and power is a tremendous afrodisiac. But this huge lie for SO MANY YEARS, how could he look himself in the mirror day after day? how could he then look at his wife, and at the maid, and the children he had from them? Worse than scum. I wonder why he didn’t make a clean break and why didn’t the maid leave – with a lot of child support of course. Let’s say he didn’t want to leave his family for a lot of reasons. Why he kept the maid there with the child? I am sure he could have found her a stable nice job, or hell, no job, just give her plenty of money to support herself and her kids somewhere else in a nice place. We don’t know all the details, but I wonder about her character too. Or maybe she was too naive or ignorant about what she could do and didn’t want any legal trouble.

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[quote=jpinpb]But I must emphasize that for me, the infidelity sexually is not as bad as the years of lying.

Right now, to me, the guy is just bad. Bad actor. Bad governor. Bad husband. Bad father. Just bad.[/quote]

Exactly, totally agree. Scum. I can understand, especially for famous guys for whom the opportunities and temptations abund, sexual infidelity. Everybody makes mistakes and power is a tremendous afrodisiac. But this huge lie for SO MANY YEARS, how could he look himself in the mirror day after day? how could he then look at his wife, and at the maid, and the children he had from them? Worse than scum. I wonder why he didn’t make a clean break and why didn’t the maid leave – with a lot of child support of course. Let’s say he didn’t want to leave his family for a lot of reasons. Why he kept the maid there with the child? I am sure he could have found her a stable nice job, or hell, no job, just give her plenty of money to support herself and her kids somewhere else in a nice place. We don’t know all the details, but I wonder about her character too. Or maybe she was too naive or ignorant about what she could do and didn’t want any legal trouble.

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Yes, DSK case is much more interesting. It’s deserving its own thread, even though Arnold’s affair is more disgusting in the circumstances (what happened, or didn’t, after sex) and closer to home.

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Yes, DSK case is much more interesting. It’s deserving its own thread, even though Arnold’s affair is more disgusting in the circumstances (what happened, or didn’t, after sex) and closer to home.

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Yes, DSK case is much more interesting. It’s deserving its own thread, even though Arnold’s affair is more disgusting in the circumstances (what happened, or didn’t, after sex) and closer to home.

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Yes, DSK case is much more interesting. It’s deserving its own thread, even though Arnold’s affair is more disgusting in the circumstances (what happened, or didn’t, after sex) and closer to home.

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Yes, DSK case is much more interesting. It’s deserving its own thread, even though Arnold’s affair is more disgusting in the circumstances (what happened, or didn’t, after sex) and closer to home.

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I am ALL for it!!!

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I am ALL for it!!!

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I am ALL for it!!!

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I am ALL for it!!!

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