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Participant[quote=Blogstar]Can’t wait until one of my kids comes home with some bat shit crazy ragamuffin.
Won’t that be interesting?It will be like pot meeting kettle all over again.[/quote]
Best not to offer any opinion.
Participant[quote=svelte]OK.
I need to go out and buy my wife some flowers.
She brought no baggage to our marriage, doesn’t have any traits that bother me, and actually still excites me every time I see her after decades of marriage. It sounds like I may be the only one in this electronic room that can say that.
She had zero debt, zero prior marriages, no kids, no diseases, and no old boyfriends that came back to pester her.
She doesn’t crochet, like frilly house decorations, wear too much perfume, spend a fortune on anything, pick her nose, laugh like a hyena in heat, or have any addictions.
On top of that, she is still an extremely attractive woman – even moreso than when we met. I enjoy very much watching eyes track her as we walk through a room (she’s oblivious to it)- I should also mention she’s humble and certainly not full of herself.
Yessirree, I knew a fine specimen when I saw one and wasted no time in making her mine. You all are making me realize all over again what a brilliant move that was…[/quote]
my woman, unlike yours, does actually laugh a bit like a hyena. I couldn’t be with someone who I couldn’t actually make convulsed with laughter sometimes. I might put the hyena laughter above appearance, debts, or ability to orgasm.
Participant[quote=svelte]OK.
I need to go out and buy my wife some flowers.
She brought no baggage to our marriage, doesn’t have any traits that bother me, and actually still excites me every time I see her after decades of marriage. It sounds like I may be the only one in this electronic room that can say that.
She had zero debt, zero prior marriages, no kids, no diseases, and no old boyfriends that came back to pester her.
She doesn’t crochet, like frilly house decorations, wear too much perfume, spend a fortune on anything, pick her nose, laugh like a hyena in heat, or have any addictions.
On top of that, she is still an extremely attractive woman – even moreso than when we met. I enjoy very much watching eyes track her as we walk through a room (she’s oblivious to it)- I should also mention she’s humble and certainly not full of herself.
Yessirree, I knew a fine specimen when I saw one and wasted no time in making her mine. You all are making me realize all over again what a brilliant move that was…[/quote]
“Lucky!” napoleon dynamite.
If she had children and they didn’t make her crazy you are very very lucky.
Participantso, back to herpes … if you ask a prospective mate whether they have herpes, they will answer yes or no. if they answer no, and they were willing to submit to a blood test, there would likely be some antibodies in their blood, which doesn’t necessarily mean they have the virus, i think, but that they were exposed at some point. the only definitive test would be a swab during an outbreak, which of course, would mean they have it.
so, someone who tells you they don’t have it, may be telling the truth. may be lying. or may be in denial. you’d have to review the data on prevalence in the san diego population, but the odds are some of your prosepctvie partners are either in denial or lying.
someone who tell you they have it is being honest and is probably far less likely to infect you.
a herpes disclosure, rather than a negative point, should probably be seen as a plus.
i think this analysis would apply to other “flaws” as well.
except for doilies. fuck that.
Participantalso, speaking of baggage, i bought some really nice travel bag and travelled with it. and it made travelling a little nicer. the right baggage is great…
Participantpoor billy joel, fighting with his woman…
“Honesty”
If you search for tenderness
It isn’t hard to find
You can have the love you need to live
But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to giveHonesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from youI can always find someone
To say they sympathize
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve
But I don’t want some pretty face
To tell me pretty lies
All I want is someone to believeHonesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from youI can find a lover
I can find a friend
I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I knowWhen I’m deep inside of me
Don’t be too concerned
I won’t ask for nothin’ while I’m gone
But when I want sincerity
Tell me where else can I turn
Cause you’re the one that I depend uponHonesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from youParticipant[quote=Blogstar][quote=FlyerInHi][quote=Blogstar]
The only choice, if you don’t want to exchange some baggage is to stay single (because you have plenty too). [/quote]Exchange baggage? I don’t get the concept.
Let’s not confuse baggage with being irritating at times or having some minor character flaws. Of course, in a relationship there is some compromising.
Baggage is criminal background, addiction, STDs, financial problems, family that make their problems your problems… the type of things you don’t want in your life.
There are also incompatibility issues that are not baggage. To relate back to real estate, I hate anything Victorian or old fashioned looking like quilts, frilly curtains or country stuff. I would be miserable forced to compromise to live in a house like that.[/quote]
Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.
I think other people covered pretty well that what’s forgivable could easily go beyond minor character flaws….depending on other factors. If the limit was minor character flaws but zero pretty questionable stuff in the past or maybe herpes, there wouldn’t be very many couples.
Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]
frilly stuff isn’t so bad but quilting itself, the hobby, is akin to mental illness…
Participant[quote=Blogstar][quote=FlyerInHi][quote=Blogstar]
The only choice, if you don’t want to exchange some baggage is to stay single (because you have plenty too). [/quote]Exchange baggage? I don’t get the concept.
Let’s not confuse baggage with being irritating at times or having some minor character flaws. Of course, in a relationship there is some compromising.
Baggage is criminal background, addiction, STDs, financial problems, family that make their problems your problems… the type of things you don’t want in your life.
There are also incompatibility issues that are not baggage. To relate back to real estate, I hate anything Victorian or old fashioned looking like quilts, frilly curtains or country stuff. I would be miserable forced to compromise to live in a house like that.[/quote]
Yeah you definitely don’t want to do major man woman battle over the curtains and quilts and other frilly stuff…that could be devastating.
I think other people covered pretty well that what’s forgivable could easily go beyond minor character flaws….depending on other factors. If the limit was minor character flaws but zero pretty questionable stuff in the past or maybe herpes, there wouldn’t be very many couples.
Is a previous divorce too much baggage? Having too little relationship experience for your age, Maybe that’s too much baggage to some people…maybe worse than a past addiction or crime or debt or herpes. If people having any of these issues is unloveable there isn’t much love around.[/quote]
funny you should mention herpes…
Participant[quote=Hobie]Suppose you go for it. You diligently are working off the debt and she is now pregnant. And she wants to fix up the place ( nesting) You say, I don’t have the $ for a while due to her debt. Tensions mount and you now have a kid with her. Bad plan.
+100 to scardy
especially how we become our fathers and daughters mimic their moms.And, I don’t think you mentioned it or I missed it, but it didn’t sound like she has the ability or job potential to make a dent in this 90k. Strike 3.[/quote]
yeah plus 100 to me. im collecting those points in a little box.. i am really starting to hate this wench. she’s upset that you don’t want a 90k bill for her moms felonious conduct whcih she claims she didn’t know about but which hasn’t caused an irrevocable rift in their relationship. I can almost guarantee with 100 % certainty that had you married her you would be raked over the divorce coals in perpetuity until you were just nothing, a burnt hollow ash of your former robust self.
i HATE HER!!!!
for the record i don’tt hink we exactly become our parents. there is change. but there are certain things that seem to often get passed on that may express themselves in different ways. like maybe her mom’s a crook because she feels entitled toa certain lifestyle. maybe her daughter isn’t an actual crook, but gets the same basic underlying message and instead gets the money not from stealing but by say screwing you over ina divorce…
i need more info, but really, in spite of that, im ready to pass jugdment on her right this minute…
Participant[quote=paramount]I don’t agree with what Sterling apparently said and he’s probably an a hole, but based on the media frenzy and the equally frenzied reaction from the clueless masses/O voters, I’d say the O administration has deployed:
SCORCHED EARTH POLICY
Because they would rather have the world talking about Sterling rather than:
1. Using the IRS against political enemies
2. Benghazi
3. The VA/Administration Veterans Secret Death Listetc, etc….
Aren’t we all entitled to private thoughts and conversations?[/quote]
kind of. he cannot be prosecuted and jailed. but the NBA has its own rules he seems to have signed on to. i am not sure a motion to suppress his statements because they were illegally obtained works in NBA court or the court of public opinion. for these reasons, it is adviseable to behave one’s self when arguing with one’s prostitute/mistress…
he is kind of old and out of it. the whole thing just reeks of patheticness.
Participant[quote=scaredyclassic][quote=FlyerInHi]I can understand baggage, but don’t want it my own life. Marriage is supposed to make life more enjoyable. If not, then why do it?
Would you marry an alcoholic or drug addict?
Culture, ethnicity, economics are not baggage. But family full of drama and invective is baggage.
Oh, never marry a dirty person. My observations show that dirty people are of weak character and make bad partners.[/quote]
You don’t get married to enjoy life. You get married to experience The Full Catastrophe, as zorba the Greek calls it.[/quote]
Alexis Zorba: Am I not a man? And is a man not stupid? I’m a man, so I married. Wife, children, house,everything. The full catastrophe.
there is a lo ot of wisdom in that zorba book. and movie
ParticipantMeaning does not come from a string of enjoyable moments.
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]I can understand baggage, but don’t want it my own life. Marriage is supposed to make life more enjoyable. If not, then why do it?
Would you marry an alcoholic or drug addict?
Culture, ethnicity, economics are not baggage. But family full of drama and invective is baggage.
Oh, never marry a dirty person. My observations show that dirty people are of weak character and make bad partners.[/quote]
You don’t get married to enjoy life. You get married to experience The Full Catastrophe, as zorba the Greek calls it.
ParticipantAll people are irritating. Your spouse is way way more irritating than the average person.
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