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scaredyclassic
ParticipantUnnatural, in the most basic sense of the word.
But people are odd. There’s all kinds of permutations.
In general this isn’t how we are wired.
I need more facts. But this isn’t a marker of strong psychological or physical health.
ParticipantI am off kilter
Participant[quote=CA renter][quote=scaredyclassic]
there is a number that is calculable and is calculated every day by our supercomputer brains which tells us the likelihood of successful reproduction with this other. some brains are better able to calculate contingencies and advanced future planning and needs. no other number ultimately matters. we are genetic calculators and we thereofre often act against what seems to be our best interests. nothing about us or our design cares about us.
this ultimately is who we are. it’s not about happiness or compatibiility. it’s about our selfish, selfish genes…
this site is primitive, really kind of dubmb, but may st least show that reaity exists independently of our fantasies.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/dating-market-value-test-for-men/%5B/quote%5D
A few tweaks, and your site is ready! :)[/quote]
my appraisal is far more indepth and onsite, and real. more like getting your fortune told by someone who is scary good. my number will be your real number.
Participanti suppose some might say, then why stick around once the kids are up and about.
reasonable question: i think it comes down to whetehr youa re someone who keeps your word and enjoys the person’s company.
you need to have both conditions met to stick around.
ther eis a ot to be said for loyalty and people keeping their word.
also, you shoudln’t leave your kids to deal with your spouse alone. you should take care of her.
also, layers of time make interaction much more interesting.
Participantthe opposite of romance.
Participant[quote=CA renter][quote=svelte][quote=flyer]Not all beautiful women are vacuous gold diggers, just as not all handsome men are shallow trophy wife collectors, and I have to agree, to each his/her own when choosing a partner for all of the right
reasons–love, happiness, achieving life goals, etc., etc.The wedding, the ring, the fabulous honeymoon, the great house, and all of the “stuff” are nice, and we’ve all been there, but, IMO, what makes the relationship lasting and beautiful is the deeper bond that’s been forged by things that money can’t buy.[/quote]
Agree with every word.
That’s why alarm bells would go off if I even caught a whiff of a potential spouse that was marrying me for the money. To those who are together for the $$, that’s A-OK with me as long as it works for them. But that’s not what I want my relationships built upon.[/quote]
Should alarm bells go off when a woman catches a whiff of a potential suitor/spouse wanting her for her beauty? (I would say yes.)
It goes both ways.[/quote]
there is a number that is calculable and is calculated every day by our supercomputer brains which tells us the likelihood of successful reproduction with this other. some brains are better able to calculate contingencies and advanced future planning and needs. no other number ultimately matters. we are genetic calculators and we thereofre often act against what seems to be our best interests. nothing about us or our design cares about us.
this ultimately is who we are. it’s not about happiness or compatibiility. it’s about our selfish, selfish genes…
this site is primitive, really kind of dubmb, but may st least show that reaity exists independently of our fantasies.
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/dating-market-value-test-for-men/
ParticipantNo. The really rich dudes get to keep the hottest ones.
ParticipantFrankly I am amazed at how pretty and smart my kids girlfriend is…
Participant[quote=flyer]Not all beautiful women are vacuous gold diggers, just as not all handsome men are shallow trophy wife collectors, and I have to agree, to each his/her own when choosing a partner for all of the right
reasons–love, happiness, achieving life goals, etc., etc.The wedding, the ring, the fabulous honeymoon, the great house, and all of the “stuff” are nice, and we’ve all been there, but, IMO, what makes the relationship lasting and beautiful is the deeper bond that’s been forged by things that money can’t buy.[/quote]
We choose in part on an irrational level. The numbers lie deep in our DNA: a certain curve …A certain expression. A man’s knees. A tone. A certain beard and we are off to the races.
We are all songbirds in the spring…
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
In the old days matchmakers sorted through the numbers …now we have delusional buyers and sellers
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
Reality actually chooses us in regard to mating.
Participant[quote=FlyerInHi]We all choose our reality. That’s why there’s always someone for everyone.[/quote]
Oh there’s a number all right.
In the same way we actually cannot just be whatever we want, we cannot have whoever we want.
Participant[quote=njtosd][quote=Blogstar]
You don’t get it, Brian. I knew you wouldn’t. NO 4 EVER MARRIES AN 8….EVER. No 8 EVER MARRIES A 4.
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None of you get it. There is no absolute scale – to each his own. Hopefully you’ve all found people who’ve made you happy (and hopefully kev374 will as well, although he needs to mentally cut this one loose and move on). You guys (and from what I’ve seen of this discussion, it’s mostly guys) should skip the ego trip and spend more time figuring out what makes you happy. Hopefully you don’t discover that happiness is having a vacuous but well turned out wife on your arm, but I guess “to each his own is beautiful” – thanks to scaredy for that full quote – hadn’t ever heard it before. Life’s too short to spend it trying to impress others.[/quote]
I don’t think I said that. I do think some people are much better at spotting value in the gene pool than others. I’d say my wife is a much better reproduce than she might seem. Dogged, smart, good birther, loyal.
ParticipantNow that I ponder it I’m thinking maybe there is an absolute scale.
We just get desperate and sometimes mismatch.
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